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writes:My BF's divorce will be final in a month - no kids. His is complaining that his ex is not accepting their divorce. She asked about Xmas eve and xmas being with him and his family and she got upset when he said he made other plans. She said it was tradition. Why doens't she get it? She is also treating their dog like their kid. Calling him about meeting for visitation etc.. saying he doesn't spend enough time with it. ITS A DOG!!! Is she looking for excuses to be with him? The divorce was mutual and she's never asked not to go thru with it. My concern is that he'll buy her something, i don't know if he will and probably wont' tell me so I wont' get upset, but if he does, she'll never think its over. Am I being unreasonable here?
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reader, SoftlyCaress  +, writes (18 December 2008):
 You are not being unreasonable at all ..Wow Im going through divorce after 25 well almost 26 yrs and Im so glad me and my ex and his g/f get along great we all do dinner together and spend time with the jkids as a family still but in your case no kids and just not wanting to except it i would have to say look chick you had it your threw it away i found it now step away from the man and let him have the life he wants and once and for all stop using the dog to hoist him into your web............
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reader, starfairy  +, writes (17 December 2008):
 I've been there, the new girlfriend with an ex lingering about. It's very frustrating, especially when you know the other woman is just not letting go of the relationship.
Try not to fall into the trap of the nagging/jealous girlfriend, it's easy to do. But also put yourself in your boyfriend's shoes, he's bouond to be feeling harassed and probaby guilty. Just make it clear that you would like him to put his past relationships behind him and concentrate on what you have now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2008): Just make sure he sends the dog a present!
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