My-bf and his friend have seen escorts while we were broken up. I am determined to stop our relationship. Any advice?
Q. Well I feel unbelievably jaded right now. My boyfriend and I had broken up. I broke up with him for GOOD reason. And no he hadn't cheated on me. YET. Anyways we got back together about two and half months after breaking up. Two days later I found ...
A. 8 December 2007: Why would you tell your friends about what he did...
And yes what he did is is ugly (doing with a call girl, while telling you to stay clean in the break-up and spending on her 350 USD) and he seems to be a kind of person who is not fully up to your... (read in full...)
I'm getting married and worried about my figure
Q. i m 23 years old.my hight is 5'.3" n my weight is 45 kg.i m slim smart girl.i m going to get married but i m woorried about my figure...........acctually i hav small brest,my bra size is 32,i hav to use paded bra 34.i m worried will my husband like ...
A. 8 December 2007: I personally dislike big breasts. I like it smaller and I also like petite women. I am certain there millions out there whose tastes are like mine. And your future husband I am sure has already noticed everything about you even though you might not ... (read in full...)
Should I believe him when he says he can date??
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been asked out by a man who shares alot of my interests. We have become friends and he initially said he was seperated but now the date is drawing nearer he's told me he still lives with his wife under the same roof but both hav...
A. 7 December 2007: He seems to be a clumsy liar. He thinks you will not have questions. If the line is drawn between him and his wife, he should not be afraid to introduce you to his wife. Seperate lives means he can have his own relationship and she can also...
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I slept with my friends husband...and now I am pregant with his child!!
Q. I slept with my friend’s husband and I got pregnant and she thinks it is another man baby. I have and want to tell her because, I have to go for child support and the paper is going to get served. Should I just let her find out through him? And it ...
A. 7 December 2007: Why would you tell her. You already got your side of 'punishment' by becoming pregnant. Of course you screwed up also but it is the primary respnsibility of your 'friend's' husband to tell, if he dares to. In actual fact I am almost certain ... (read in full...)
He watches porn, should I be worried.
Q. My boyfriend and I are 30 years old.I am not sure if I should be worried about this or not.I have been with my him for 13 months now. I have known from the day one of the relationship that he watches porn on the computer and he a has several porn ...
A. 7 December 2007: He is not sick. he is bored a bit. There are millions of men out there whose situation is exactly like yours. I am almost certain, the fact that he makes love when YOU ask for it, is more stimulating for him. And after 13 months of having sex almost ... (read in full...)
I feel like I want to break up after I proposed.
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for nearly 2 1/2 years now and everything was great, couldnt ask for anything more so i decided to ask her to marry me (im 21), she said yes. My problem is that since i proposed about 1yr ago ive been feeling ...
A. 7 December 2007: Since you do love her, but you want to have a break, and try freedom and live your life, simply ask her for a pause and reflecttion. It will be less hurting.
Tell her you love her but need some distance and break.
Do not close the door to her ... (read in full...)
Am I wierd?
Q. Okay, well heres the deal.. Im an 18 year old guy.. and I recently made friends with an 13 year old girl.. but theres more to it than that. Basically I saw this girl on MySpace, and it said her age was 19.. she looked abit younger but i thought ...
A. 6 December 2007: I don't think you are weird. There is nothing wrong if you like her. Unless and until you do something with her or talk about sex or try to seduce her.
But to be on the safe side, and in order that you are not carried away by any wrong feeling ... (read in full...)
Should I keep my mouth shut and risk losing out?
Q. Hi... I'm a single lipstick lesbian and have recently started a new job which I absolutely love. The work is really fun and the people I work with are really lovely... I like one girl especially and I'm finding hard to read if she's gay or not? Sh...
A. 6 December 2007: I don't know what lipstick lesbian means but I see no reason why you are not able ask her out for a dinner and invite her to your flat for a cup of coffee, and see whether will actually make a coffee or not. No risk involved and in case of a no (no ... (read in full...)
My girls wants a threesome!
Q. My girlfriend wants us to have a threesome with another woman and I'm not sure if I want to. I think it would be fun, but I'm quite a jealous person when it comes to her, and I think I might even get jealous of her with another woman. She really ...
A. 6 December 2007: You dont know whether you will be able to find the third one. the second girl, who of course she must also like. Secondly, even if you get serious about it she might also get scared (it may happen...) or get jealous of you. And what is the action g... (read in full...)
I am at the end of my teather....how do I sort my life out??
Q. I'm at the end of my teather with everything and I don't know what to do any more. End of September my partner left me for a younger, fitter, healthier, more intelligant guy. I then left my job because I couldn't face seeing her at work. Then she...
A. 6 December 2007: All I can say I read your message and I am with you and truly feel sorry for your situation. I am pretty sure you can pull yourself up and make things work, as regards both the job and your home and kids. It is a heavy responsibility, you need to ... (read in full...)
Her Facebook messages seem to indicate more than she admitted...can I trust her again??
Q. My fiancee and I have been together for just over 3 years, but for the last 6 months I have been very depressed which has affected our relationship. She has to commute quite a long way for her job and so stays over at least once a week in a hotel. ...
A. 6 December 2007: First of all, given the evidence, you are not paranoid at all.
Second, seemingly by not admitting all she did behind your back, she has not given you a chance to refresh your relationship, open a new blank page and start anew. She still has the bagg... (read in full...)
Can a gay/bisexual man have a committed relationship with a women while still looking at gay porn??
Q. Ok this is a very big problem. I've been having. I moved in with my boyfriend 7 months ago. We've known each other for over a year now. We've not kissed yet, we're in seperate bedrooms and frankly I'm getting tired of it. He tells me he's scared b...
A. 5 December 2007: Baby...You are being sooo naive. Please. If he wasbisexual he would had sex with you on the first night after you moved in. We men do like this.
Come on. he ha sno interest in women at all. And appearently he is unable to have that. How come you ... (read in full...)
We never wanted this to happen...but now neither of us can bear to break it off.
Q. Hi, I am semi-happily married and have fallen for another girl. This girl is also happily married and she has fallen for me. Neither of us went looking for this since we were both in seemingly happy marriages. Now my marriage is under strain a...
A. 5 December 2007: No body no body could tell you to go and divorce your wife, who is the innocent party here. I don't know the reasons behind your semi-happiness or whether it is your semi-happiness that caused you to get closer to that lady.
If you remember alth... (read in full...)
Am I being impulsive or is only caring 'a little' after 8 months not enough??
Q. After 8 month, he said he only cares a little about me, is it time to move on? Me and this guy has been going out for 8 months. It is not an official relationship. Although we do everything a couple does (sex etc etc), I have never once referred...
A. 5 December 2007: Players may stop being players. It is too hard to tell whether he can start seeing you as his boyfriend because the information you have given is too little to guess.
But As far as I can see from where I sit, I do think that he might really r... (read in full...)
What do I do if he left without explanations, even if he promised he would not?...
Q. what should i do if someone whom i love dearly, just left me with out even saying goodbye, i just do not know where he is, no calls, no messages, nothing. i was left all alone and seems he doesnt care anymore and it hurts me that much. i love him so ...
A. 4 December 2007: he might simply be a sweet liar and having had a dream with you which he also must have have wanted to believe, he left he went back to his real world.
May be he is married, may he has kids, may be he has business. But i do not think he will com... (read in full...)
My bf is still communicating with his ex, and is upset about my spying. I've also heard he's been married once, which he denies. Do I leave him?
Q. My fiance has been hiding his cell phone from me but picks mine and reads my messages frequently. I recently read messages from his cell phone and realised that he was stil communicating with his ex girlfriend who is already married. This really ...
A. 4 December 2007: leave him alone and move on with your life. He shows every sign of irresponsible jerk whose definition of love at best is quite loose I believe. he will bring nothing but depression, sadness and nervous breakdowns to you.
Run away. ... (read in full...)
What do you think about my husband's leaving because I was not able to bear a pregnancy?
Q. i am 36, i am not capable of bearing a child anymore for a uterus problem. my husband had left me for another woman for a reason that he wants to have a child. do you think he didn't love me anymore because he exchange me for a reason to have a ...
A. 4 December 2007: I have many friends whose wifes or husbands would never leave their spouses.
No loving man, no serious responsible man would never ever think of leaving his wife alone because of a reason beyond her control.... (read in full...)
I want to make love more frequently, not only on the "established" days... How should I tell him?
Q. I am going out with is man 18 years older than me. We only sleep together on Wednesday nights and at weekends. I want to make love to him not just on the fixed day but I've never talked to him about it. Because he says our frequent lovemaking has ...
A. 4 December 2007: At his age 2-3 times a week is already too much for him and he is right in saying that he has been worn out of frequent sex.
So do not expect more sex from him. Actually he is already overperforming by 2-3 sex every week.
But you should alter... (read in full...)
We both have properties, if I move with her I'd have to sell what I own, is it not too big of a risk? What should I do?
Q. Been in a relationship for a year, and now, I need to decide whether I want to take it further by moving in with my partner. She's not interested in getting married, owns her own house. I also own a house, but if I move in, I will have to sell what ...
A. 4 December 2007: I would be suspicious of a woman who is not interested in marriage. Don't you think it is not a good sign. It shows her independence and his wish to have her freedom to get out of this relationship anytime.
She apparently does not like commitme... (read in full...)
My partner with whom I've been living for 15 yrs has asked me to leave his house (but I will not.) Does he truly love the other woman? What to do?
Q. I have been with my partner for 15 years and have lived with him for all this time. My partner has had several affairs over the last 12 years, these have always happened at time when we have been under severe pressure from other areas whether it...
A. 4 December 2007: I think the real question you are asking is whether it is a good idea to leave the house. The question you are asking is whether it is time to leave the HOME. As you said it is your home...In the sense that you and him in that house are a FAMILY and ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is mentally ill. How can I convince him to get help?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months now, we live together and are usually very happy. He's suffered from depression for most of his life which he is in control of most of the time as long as he is preoccupying himself with something e.g. ...
A. 3 December 2007: 'He also claims to say sentances in his head that don't make sense, they are just like words strung together.' this is one of the symptoms (but only one of them) as far as I can sense. Other symptoms include :uncontrollable thoughts, uncontrollable ... (read in full...)
How can I get my gf's sex drive back??
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 6 months, at the start of the relationship we had sex 3 or 4 times a week. After the first month 3 or 4 turned into 1 or 2 times a week, now 6 months into our relationship we have sex once or twice a month. When we ...
A. 3 December 2007: Are you making sure she is having fun, I mean is she getting orgasm.? I dont think she is having that. So you should start there and you have to find out in what way she might get it. It may be a medical problem though. ... (read in full...)
Does this just happen with age?
Q. What would make a man lose his erection during sex? My b/f, sometimes loses his erection halfway into our lovemaking. I wonder if he's losing interest in me? He seems to start out okay, he wakes up with an erection, we start messing around, we ...
A. 3 December 2007: My bets guess is your guy somehow loses interest, motivation, provocation and concentration. If it was a medical reason why would it get erect in the first place. Stress is a huge harm to the sex but you say he doesnt have that. It does not have... (read in full...)
I am deeply hurt. What should I do now?
Q. hi, having a difficult time, my girlfriend of 3 years says it is over and we have a 2 year old daughter - she said she got the vibe from me that i hated her 6 months ago but she is only telling me now. for a long time after the birth of our d...
A. 3 December 2007: She looks she has a messy life and she is not afraid of you or any respect towards you or your relationship. From where I sit it is clear she not only habitually cheats on you but it is her main ineterest to fuck around. As for you rightly or wrong... (read in full...)
Once you cheat will you cheat again??
Q. OK, a poll: Do you think once you cheat you will always cheat? Even if you found your soul-mate, married and are happy with each other and both agree that finding each other was the best thing that ever happened to you? I cheated and know it was w...
A. 2 December 2007: Is it your guilty conscious making you ask this question? Are you questioning your self why you cheated (on your boyfriend. with your present husband)?
I hope and wish you will be faithful to your husband always. But beware of the guilty cons... (read in full...)
Myself, my wife and her sister
Q. My wife wants her sister to sleep with us , she said she would love me to make love with her.... we have always been close with each other....
A. 1 December 2007: That means she is also agrees to this type of threesome. If you go for it and you should forget about the marriage we know or continue with an interesting polygamy.
Since you have not rejected it out of hand and kicked your wife's ass you are ... (read in full...)
Problems about the wedding night...
Q. I'm Muslim. You know muslims girls are very shy about sexual things so I can't ask anybody about sex. I'm 23 years old. I'm going to get married in January 2008. I'm virgin and my fiance is as well. I love my fiance but I'm a shy girl. I ...
A. 1 December 2007: I guess, as someone whos been to Pakistan and as a Muslim, I can tell that your husband would want to have a natural sexual intercourse. I mean he would not want to ejaculate outside vagine and he would not want to wear a condom either. So I dont ... (read in full...)
He is my perfect man...except his penis is too small...should I overlook this??
Q. I dated John while I was in college about 10 years ago. He was gorgeous, intelligent, creative, ambitious.... everything you could ask for. The only problem was the size of his penis. Everything leading up to sex was mind blowing,but I was always ...
A. 1 December 2007: First of all you are not appearently 10-12:). So correct your post accordingly. second of all...The size doesnt matter but the function does, as the saying goes...But in fact no, the fact is yeah..women love big penis. whatever the function is...The ... (read in full...)
Why cant I stop having sex with this married guy, I don't even like??
Q. I am having a affair with a married man at work. I see him at least once a week when he comes into work in the AM, which is when we have sex, before I go home to my boyfriend of 15 years, who I really do love. The man I am having the affair with ...
A. 1 December 2007: I have to stress also how wrong this behaviuor on moral grounds. And it is extremely risky in every respect to have sex at office. And his wife works at the same office which makes the situation even more risky and may be because of this more ... (read in full...)
So much advice from sites like this is confusing me. What is the alternative?
Q. In the past 3 or 4 weeks since my ex and I broke up, I have become addicted to sites like this offering me advice as to what I need to do to get back with my girlfriend. The advice I have read has been very useful but I also know that my particular ...
A. 30 November 2007: Believe me I read your whole post. And I feel for you. I do understand you and your 'crazy love'. I wish this love will end up with marriage. Since you anaylze everything so clearly and pin point your mistakes correctly, there is little i can add... (read in full...)
His double standards annoy me. Should I let him off?
Q. My ex husband has a very small penis and doesnt know how to pleasure me in bed. He only cares about himself. When he finishes he just snores away. This new man I've just met is much older than me. He knows every trick to please me in bed and ...
A. 30 November 2007: Your question needs to be more consistent and clear. What double standard? You seem to be enjoying his company whats the problem?... (read in full...)
How can I stop this male escort from blackmailing me?
Q. i had sex with another man..he was an escort..i paid him money..now he is blackmailing me for more money..which i gave him ..and now he wants more money from me..and he threatens to tell others about this experience if i dont pay him...it can ruin ...
A. 30 November 2007: Well you dont want to come out and you must have reasons for that. So I am not questioning your reasons. Let me tell you this: What is he going to do, if you yell him you will never see him again and you will never ever pay any more and he is free ... (read in full...)
Can anyone please help me to get out of this depression?
Q. Hi, I really need some advice right now. I am a complete mess. I have depression, have been on anti-depressants for several years. I have ups and downs, have had boyfriends who hurt me, but now i am with someone for 1 year that is truly fantastic. I ...
A. 30 November 2007: I am sorry to hear your story. But your mental situation seems so complex that any comment would be superficial. But a guy who loves you even when you are almost constantly unstable should be kept in hight regard and you are better of by sticking ... (read in full...)
Does my new boss fancy me??
Q. I've been working in my new job now for a few weeks, and i think one of my managers may have a crush on me, over the last few weeks hes been getting steadily more and more friendly towards me and i catch him staring at me alot. He always asks how...
A. 30 November 2007: It seems so. there are millions out there who are dating their collegues bosses. And He is single.
Surely since you call him boss then there is a slight problem. If you are directly under him, you may not feel comfortable about it, since it would... (read in full...)
We're having our 1st anniversary and I want to give her something unique and romantic but won't freak her out?
Q. hey people just a general question..ive been with my gf for a year now can ne1 help me with any unique romantic ideas? and also is it weird to give an anniversary card because i thought that might be nice bt i thort that something married couples ...
A. 28 November 2007: Why not write a short, simple, sincere and original letter expressing what she means to you. And sweeten it with a nice Channel-like perfume. ... (read in full...)
How do I control my anger now I'm working with the girl my bf cheated with...?
Q. My boyfriend cheated with a girl I will now be working with she knows who I am and I know who she is.....what can I do to keep my cool....cause ill start thinking and wanna kick her ass!!! We new each other before she messed with him and she new he ...
A. 28 November 2007: Ignore her, and keep your contact to minimum without being openly rude.
If you get angry she will think she wins. If you ignore her and put on your face a smile it will give her pain and you will win. This is smarter. And it should make you feel... (read in full...)
Should I act less interested so she wakes up??
Q. Sorry to bother you all with such a petty situation but: i go to some social club and i recently found out that a girl likes me. She was really upset with the fact that she found it so hard to tell me, eventhough i liked her back (which i never to...
A. 28 November 2007: As a man, I would rather sparingly use, the 'like' word, the 'love' word, even though woman would love to insist on making you say it often. Then again, they dont like the men expressing emotions this much open.
Id rather show how I care about he... (read in full...)
Wife has affair with old man????
Q. My wife is a beautiful 39 year old woman and and she is a secretary in a State Social Services Office and a 65 year old superior who came to her office started an affair that lasted for 3 months before I found out. It has been 2 years and only now ...
A. 27 November 2007: I do not understand why you are not able to divorce her. you never mention any feelings towards her and you just say she is pretty. Ok. I am sure this is not the reason why you are not able to dump her.
She didnt tell you that she screwed a 65 yea... (read in full...)
Do you think I should ask him who this other woman is?
Q. Hi, So I'm a paranoid wreck at the moment. My boyfriend was working in England for the last 3 weeks. I missed him very much and I think he felt the same. He arrived back on Sunday and everything is fine. The thing is, this morning when I was getting ...
A. 27 November 2007: but is this lucy's number an english number (you can tell from internationl dialing code or the cell phone prefixes)
Hi is very suspicious but what about this radio 1 rocks, if these two are together it may even be an ad. But f it is from Lucy then... (read in full...)
We have been intimate for 4 yrs yet he is awful to me in public and denies we have a relation. Why?
Q. I have been sleepin with this boy for 4 years but hes awful to me infront of people and denies sleeping with me?...
A. 27 November 2007: As a man I can tell you with confidence that, he doesnt want to be seen as your boyfriend and equally he doesnt think you are fit to be his girl friend. Leave him.... (read in full...)
My husband posts dirty ads to get off... Will this pattern repeat?
Q. I met my 2nd husband a year ago and we have been married for 4 months now. 5 months into our relationship i found a recent an email on his laptop to a female colleague where he was prompting her for an answer if he would want sex with her again as ...
A. 27 November 2007: I know so many married guys that their whole life is dedicated to womanizing. They are otherwise normal, successful persons.
It is not a matter of threapy. Threapy for what? He wants it, he tries and and if he finds a chance he does it. He is us... (read in full...)
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