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anonymous
writes:I dated John while I was in college about 10 years ago. He was gorgeous, intelligent, creative, ambitious.... everything you could ask for. The only problem was the size of his penis. Everything leading up to sex was mind blowing,but I was always left wanting more. The boyfriend I had right before I started dating John was blessed in that area, and not having had too much experience at the time, I didn't have much else to compare John's penis to. A few years later I end our relationship. I gave some fake excuse because I didn't want to hurt his ego.Fast forward 10 years. I run into John by chance. He's more gorgeous, more intelligent, more creative and now his ambition has brought him great success. We go out to dinner, have an amazing time and then the let down. One thing hasn't improved. My question is, should I continue our realtionship or force it to fizzle? I happen to be a highly sexual person, and even though John posesses EVERY characteristic on my "Perfect Man" list, except one, I wonder if that one trait is too much to overlook.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2008): Drop him, you'll only be frustrated because you will never really feel his penis inside. I have found a well endowed man and couldn't be happier in bed, of course, there are other reasons why I love him. I do know however, after being with a guy who has 8 inches, it doesn't feel good going to a man with 6 inches.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2008): You sound like a shallow person. You broke up with him because his penis was too small. Now you run into him years later and he looks better and has money and success and you wonder if you should overlook his penis size? Come on. He should overlook you. You're obviously not into him. If you truly cared about him, his status, nor his penis size would be of primary concern. Who he is as a person would be. There are ways to work around penis size, or lack of great success for that matter, but ignorance is forever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2008): It's obvious you prefer a well-endowed man, but it also seems like this guy is perfect in every way except below the belt. Why not stay with this guy and get yourself a nice big dildo for the vaginal stimulation you crave? Or I suppose you could find yourself a well-hung lover and keep this very discreet. This may be more difficult than you might think, however, as only about five percent of the male population are in this category. The average size is around five inches, and very few men are larger than seven inches. There are many ways to please a woman without having intercourse, but it's also true that nothing beats an earth-shattering vaginal orgasm, and usually it takes an extra-large penis to achieve the deep penetration required. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2007): Well, thank goodness you're the perfect female to stake such a claim.I suppose your breasts are perfect? You never get moody during menstruation? You are the perfect companion?What goes around comes around. Remember that when you're suddenly cut adrift by someone you'd hoped to be close with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2007): Here's a thought for you women:You all get gleeful over the BRUTAL procedure of penile enlargement, which actually severs the tendon maintaining a bona fide erection. Isn't it far better that you have your vaginas SHRUNKEN? Aren't there surgeries pushing the G-spot forward? I like how you clowns think we should have organs become larger - when having organs made smaller is easier and more logical. So, ladies...
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reader, imnotcircumsized +, writes (6 December 2007):
 If you can get off clitorally, then make sure he's orally fixated. I can only get of on top... maybe you should try that. I'm pretty sure that if his penis is a normal size, you should be able to get off in that position... or maybe another... you should try a few things out. or, if that doesn't work, and you really like him... be blunt and try to get the problem fixed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007): Two words.Karma Sutra.I can tell you there are some possies in there that will cure the small penis thing of yours.Because if he's small it will come down to technique and position. You just gotta keep experimenting until you find one that works.Of course he could always get surgically enlarged. But those are risky and quite often leave a man peeing out of a plastic tube.It's that you are willing to dump a guy for his penis size that really has me concerned. So get stuck into as many sex help books as you can and make sure he can find the clitoris.Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007): Well, my vote is to let him go. I am also very sexual and think that sex in a marriage is very important. It is a bonding that you share and making love in a marriage needs to be fulfilling. It should never be taboo and if you already know that he does not please you, the education, financial, success, etc. will not be enough. Usually when you meet your soul mate, you are so madly, sexually, crazy for them, that you cannot get enough. Don't settle...
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007): I'm a little bit curious as to what his "too small" numbers are. Most women I've known might have opinions but few like this. I'm surprised that you're so totally thrilled about this guy in every single other way and yet this one thing is a deal-breaker every time. Is he just totally tiny or something? Or are you really heart-set on getting a huge one? Is it both of those things adding together that rule him out?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007): I wonder what's on his "perfect woman" list and how you score.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2007): well..i guess i'd ask, if the penis thing weren't a problem, how serious would you want to be with this person, like...would you want to stay with him the rest of your life, or would you just want to casually date or what. i ask this because...there are these toys that a man can put on himself to like make him bigger, sort of like a condom/sheath that extends the penis length/girth but that would take A LOT to bring up, and it would not be something that one would bring up to someone you're having casual sex with i don't think. of course, hurting his pride/ego is a huge issue too here...but i feel like you know, it's not just him, not to say 'oh it's probably your vaginal canal's fault' but some people's bodies just dont' really work together for sex, so if you frame it like that maybe he'd be more willing to get one of these toys. let me know if you want more info on them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2007): Well it sounds like it is a very big deal to you so that is definitely something that you shouldn't overlook. I mean I think sex is very important. I don't think that you should sacrifice your tastes and wants, especially if they are that important to you, simply because you want to be practical.Alot of people in this world settle into relationships probably just to be practical. And I DON'T agree with that at all. But you sound a little more picky than the average person and I think that is great. Look if you are capable of meeting someone as great as john, then you are surrounding yourself with cool people so you are bound to meet someone else just as great. I say don't settle. But of course it is up to you. Maybe now that it has been ten years it is something that you can overlook?? But if it's not then by all means just let it fizzle out.
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reader, Luvmawife  +, writes (1 December 2007):
I would give you the correct advice on this matter, the only trouble is your rather young to be talking about mens penis
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reader, Samutsen  +, writes (1 December 2007):
 First of all you are not appearently 10-12:). So correct your post accordingly. second of all...The size doesnt matter but the function does, as the saying goes...But in fact no, the fact is yeah..women love big penis. whatever the function is...The function in my book is how much time, how long the erect penis in the vagina, doing the movement, can last until ejaculation. It is more than anything else the function.Lets get to the point...Life unfortunately is not perfect. Not perfect for him not perfect for you. But he is seemingly taking his small problem quiete well and not making a big issue of it. I am poretty sure he has fucked already many girls and has confidence in himself.But you...You already made this big penis an issue, and in fact you left him in the first place just for this reason. (And you were kind enaough not to tell the reason, although he wouldnt, I think, mind it, since he is a strong man).So you made it a problem, you are a highly sexy person so, the answer is clear. You will never be fully happy with him and always your eyes will catch the the tight jeans and pants hiding the big penises...It is not good. So give it up. And ...Dont feel sorry and dont regret when you get old, and see him happy, with a cute wife at a cosy home with pretty children...
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reader, vodka-tearz +, writes (1 December 2007):
 You sound like you like this man very much. May I suggest, being highly sexual, you should try a sex toy to satisfy yourself? As I'm sure you know there are other ways of satisfying sexually, not just intercourse. My personal opinion is to keep this man. You sound like a great match and I hope you take my advice. At least try it, again, it could turn into something incredible.
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