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writes:Okay, well heres the deal.. Im an 18 year old guy.. and I recently made friends with an 13 year old girl.. but theres more to it than that. Basically I saw this girl on MySpace, and it said her age was 19.. she looked abit younger but i thought maybe shes 17, 16 at a push so i messaged her and we became friends, then after afew messages i found out she was actually 13 :S the thing is I had already been speaking to her on MSN, and its really actually quite fun to speak to her, so I dont want to stop. She seems quite mature, and its nothing serious, but I havnt told any of my friends cause Im worried that Im really wierd for speaking to a 13 year old. Would people get the wrong idea and think im a perv or pedo or watever? We spoke, and like, apprently she likes me, but i know thats just infatuation for an older guy, and told her nothing can happen. but i am rele fond of her, she a rele nice person to talk to. so please, help me out. am i wierd n is it wrong? :SThank you..
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone for your thoughts on the situation.. It has helped me make a really big descision in my life. I know to most people the answear is really obvious, but not everyone has had a life that has allowed them to mature normally or develop there way of thinking normally. Im not saying Im some kind of retard lol but I guess maybe my way of thinking isnt quite that of an 18 year old yet, so with things like this I know I need to ask help and advice, or risk doing something that I believe is fine, but that society or maybe even the law frowns upon. Sorry for jabbering on, I just thought Id give a little account as to why I asked the question in the first place as well as giving my thanks to the answears that helped :) Anyways, Iv decided not to totally ignore her, but keep quite a big distance. Im hoping that this is the most mature decision, as I dont want to totally kick her out my life but I dont want to be seen as a wierd or nasty person. There is, of corse, alot more I could write, but I dont really want to borse you all with an essay about my life and whats lead me to being unable to make such obvious decisions. I hope that this corse of action is abit more acceptable and Im sorry for bothering you all with such an obvious, and to some people, disturbing question. Thanks you all xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2007): I'll be honest. Yes, I do think it is weird. Cause I tried to put myself in your shoes and if I were talking to a guy that I found out was 13, when I was 18, just knowing that, would completely change my perspective on how I felt about him. I would automatically lose all interest in that person.
And it has everything to do with her age. I just think it is weird that you knowing her age has had no effect on how you feel about her. I am sure alot if not most guys would automatically be turned off and would feel weird. She is a little girl.
I have even had guy friends say they feel weird about thinking the olsen twins are hot since they used to watch them as little babies on full house. It's weird, man.
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reader, Samutsen  +, writes (6 December 2007):
 I don't think you are weird. There is nothing wrong if you like her. Unless and until you do something with her or talk about sex or try to seduce her.
But to be on the safe side, and in order that you are not carried away by any wrong feeling it is better to stay away.
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reader, maggie1987 +, writes (6 December 2007):
 well your right there nothing can happen she is under 16. maybe you could still chat to her as long as its about everyday things but dont flirt as shes only 13 she will maybe take it a bit too seriously but for the best thing would be not to chat to her but its your call
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (6 December 2007):
 Be responsible, do what's right and split wit this girl. You are 18, you're an adult - so it's time to act like one. She is only 13 years old! Tell her to find someone her own age and that maybe when she's legal you can think about a relationship. I know it sucks, and I know you like her, but try to realize that it's just not fair to her and not fair to you. Her parents will probably flip out.
There are tons of great ladies your own age... find someone who you can be with - legally and responsibly.
xxIndia
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reader, rockelle +, writes (6 December 2007):
 I think that you should think long and hard about getting involved with this youg girl. You are an adult and you can get into loads of trouble if this were to go any further than just chatting. So if I were you I would keep a safe distance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2007): 'i' before 'e' except after 'c'.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2007): im sorry to say this but yes, most people wud. for now, stay as friends and dont initiate anything. fight urself back, dont let ur desire take over and DONT meet her until shes at least 16 for obvious reasons. im sure ur a great guy but people may thing u r a pervo.
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reader, Variety +, writes (6 December 2007):
 Talking to her and being friends with her is not wrong. You seem to be acting maturely in regards to her liking you. You realise nothing can happen between the two of you while she is under 16 and even then people may have objections because of your age gap. However, if you just want to be friends this is fine. Message me if you want to chat xxx
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