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writes:My fiance has been hiding his cell phone from me but picks mine and reads my messages frequently. I recently read messages from his cell phone and realised that he was stil communicating with his ex girlfriend who is already married. This really disturbed me and when I told him I had read his messages, He was really upset with me. He told me that he would never trust me because I am spying on him. My friend also told me that the guy was once married with one child 5 yrs ago but the wife ran away because he used to beat her. The guy has completely hidden this from me and tells me that he has never been married. What is wrong with him?Is this guy really in love with me, confused, or is he just playing around with me? should I leave him alone and move on with my life?
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reader, Samutsen  +, writes (4 December 2007):
 leave him alone and move on with your life. He shows every sign of irresponsible jerk whose definition of love at best is quite loose I believe. he will bring nothing but depression, sadness and nervous breakdowns to you.
Run away.
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (4 December 2007):
 Hi
Hes possibly just a really secretive guy. I cant get my head round those sort of personalities. Ive experienced them myself. I am like an open book me. Maybe too open, but i prefer it that way and couldnt be any different if i wanted to anyway!
Whats the purpose of him being in touch with his ex? Not that ive got anything against staying mates with exes but on a regular basis isnt really essential is it. A txt now n then asking how someone is isnt so bad. But i would be concerned about the keeping things from you side of it. I would be asking myself why. But thats just me.
Its not totally right looking at his phone, but if he freely picks yours up, i would be inclined to be as brazen as him and do the same. Instead of doing it in secret. Only trouble is, if people want to hide things like calls and txt there is the option to delete on mobiles and they always will do if they are hiding things (unless they are daft!) so you're in a tricky situation. I know i couldnt be with somoeone thats secretive. I wouldnt be able to trust them.
Good luck.
C xxxxx
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reader, bqagirl2692  +, writes (4 December 2007):
 He must be hiding something from you considering he got angry because you looked through his phone. It isnt fair that he can look through your privacy but when you do the same, its unacceptable for him. You should investigate more on his past sweetie. You really need to know who you marry before its too late and the person you once thought you knew, ends up being a total stranger. I really dont know what this guy is feeling but my opinion is, if he really loved you, he wouldnt hide things from you no matter how much you may get upset about it. Be careful with this one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2007): It does all sound a bit dodgy, to be honest. For starters, if he is goin to be upset about you reading his messages, make it clear that if you can't read his, he shouldn't be allowed to read yours. I can't judge on his ex as i don't know what was said, but if it really upset you then you should tell him. There are ways you can find out if your man has been married before, but if you don't think you can trust him, you might want to consider your relationship thoroughly.
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