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I am a 26 year old working mum of two. I have been married for coming up two years, but was a single parent for three years before that.
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Pregnant , with my bf but why do I keep thinking of an ex bf who I was with for 9 years.
Q. Hi I am in my mid twenty's I have been with my b/f for little over a year and I am pregnant with his child but I still think a Lot about my ex which I was with for 9 years is it love or not? ...
A. 17 January 2008: HI there
I seemed to think about my first love a lot when I was pregnant with both of my children. I'm not sure why this was because I love my husband dearly. I think maybe because me and my first love talked about getting married and having k... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as too much sex in a relationship even if we both really enjoy it?
Q. Can too much sex in a relationship ever be bad? My boyfriend and I used to have sex an average amount but recently it has become more frequent. I'm scared our relationship will become merely based on sex... Is that a possibility? Can there ever be ...
A. 17 January 2008: Just think yourself lucky!! Whe I was first with my husband we were always at it. Now married with two kids we just about manage it twice a week!!
Make the most of it while you can. Your sex drives will damper eventually - until then just have fun,... (read in full...)
I'm feeling hurt and used after being rejected for a second time. How could he do this to me?
Q. Hi I’m 19 and I have liked this guy at work since August. He's really good looking and a bit full of himself. He looks good but his personality sucks. Let’s say his name is John. From the first day I saw him I liked him, I was really drawn to him. ...
A. 15 January 2008: From a womans point - since they are all men answers so far.
The man is obviously an arrogant arsehole!! Believe me there are plenty of them in this world and you will meet many more as you get older. Next time you meet one - try and recognis... (read in full...)
Ideas for 1-year relationship anniversary presents?
Q. Will you please make a suggestion of a present - appropriate for a 1 -year anniversary of a relationship? Not quite expensive, maybe rather symbolic? Would you also share your history of presents for anniversaries of your own relationships? ...
A. 15 January 2008: 1 year of marriage is paper - i made my husband a scrap book of pictures of us as a couple. It's not expensive to make - just time consuming!!... (read in full...)
What is the best way to put ON weight?
Q. Hello everyone! I would just like to ask what the best way to put on weight is? I'm a little skinny, and 17, and I have this one annoying 'dint' in the middle of my body, where my ribs end which I would like to get rid of. The only thing is......
A. 15 January 2008: Try weight gainer drinks - they have between 500-1500 cals per drink depending which ones you buy. Compine this with a little weight training at a gym and you should see your physique improve quite quickly.
They are also very good nutritionally - th... (read in full...)
Am I being used and being made a fool of? I love her but I can't cope with this, what shall I do?
Q. I am a 42 year old women who is in a relationship with a 26 year old woman. When we met she was in a relationship with a man for 3 years and they have a daughter and I was in a relationship with a woman for 3 years. Her relationship was very ...
A. 15 January 2008: It doesn't sound as if she knows what she wants really. I think she was more in love with her 'husband' than she let on but was keepng you as a sort of back up for when things went wrong.
It almost sounds like she was in the same position you are ... (read in full...)
I'm a married woman and had sex with a female colleague from work!
Q. I'm a married woman in my 30's and I had a healthy marriage till last month. I was out of town for work and I stayed at a hotel, my room mate was a pretty young girl I know from work. We were at a party after work talking and we really connected ...
A. 14 January 2008: What you did was only 'wrong' because you are married - it is still cheating even though it was with a woman. Would you class it as cheating if your husband slept with a man??
I don't think you can stop these feelings you have for this woman - ... (read in full...)
I feel like an adult trapped inside a little girl's body...
Q. I am really getting upset. I am a 15 year old girl, I feel trapped inside that number. I feel like an adult trapped inside a little girl's body, it is driving me insane, fighting between being a child, and being an adult. When I look at males my age ...
A. 14 January 2008: I read you letter and just wanted to give you a really big hug!! It sounds as if you are crying out for someone to love you and notice that you are there and hurting.
Counselling is not patronising honey - it really helps a lot of people who are ... (read in full...)
25 year old virgin who's never been in a relationship
Q. I'm a 25 yr old English bloke who is a virgin and has never been in a relationship with a girl. As I get older, I suffer bouts of anxiety and depression, whereby I fixate on a girl and fantasize about asking her out. Then a voice in my head laugh...
A. 14 January 2008: I think it's really nice that you are still a virgin at your age, and I don't think many women find that a turn off.
I know that it sounds really dodgy - but have you tried dating websites? People always think it's wierdos on there etc but I have... (read in full...)
Can someone just tell me what to do as it's bugging me!
Q. I'm stuck. I like his guy that's in my gym class. I wanted to tell him so a couple of days ago I walked up to him and said"Hey I GOT to tell you something" BUT that day he left early before gym. Then the next day when we had gym I said "Hey oka...
A. 14 January 2008: He already knows that you like him, and he hasn't done anything about it so i'd leave it if I were you honey. If he wanted to go out with you he would ask, and if you ask him how he feels then it could be really embarrasing for you if he says that ... (read in full...)
Will any boy ever like me, as I am overweight? Also, can you suggest ways to lose weight?
Q. im 15 and im heavely overweight and i no i am the docters have told me as well im trying 2 lose weight atm but i still im very annoyed cos ive never had a bf and never evern kissed some1 im 16 in aug and it feels really stupid that at nearly 16...
A. 11 January 2008: It unlikely that being overweight is the reason that you haven't had a boyfriend, take a look around next time you're at the mall and I guarantee you that not all couples look like brad and angelina!!People like all sorts of shapes and sizes.
T... (read in full...)
I want someone who treats me lovingly. I'm not sure if this guy's the one! Advice?
Q. I am at an impass... I really don't know if I should try to work through things with my rather new bf. We're really different in a few crucial ways, but we also get along better than I've gotten along with most other people. I really love him, but ...
A. 7 January 2008: I would say that if you are looking a couple counselling this soon into a relationship it is doomed. This should be the best part of a relationship, before all of the hardships set in!!
Perhaps you should get some individual counselling to get o... (read in full...)
How can he be gay and have feelings for me? I'm really confused.
Q. Iam a 20 heterosexual female. Ive had the same best friend since I was seven years old. He happens to be a gay man. He has always been my best friend. I love him and he means more to me than anything or anyone. He came out of the closet to to me ...
A. 7 January 2008: I'm not entirely convinced that people are 100% gay or 100% straight. I think it is possible to fall in love with a person for who they are not their gender. He probably can't understand why he feels this way anymore then you can, but that's love ... (read in full...)
Is sex with an ex so wrong when you are both still in love or is this doomed from the start?
Q. I dumped my boyf 4 months ago after a 5 year relationship, things werent going well and he was going through a bad time emotionaly and was pushing me away through lies, so I thought it was best to get out of the relatinship then and there. It was ...
A. 7 January 2008: I would say do what feels right for you and don't worry so much about what others think, they don't have to live your life or deal with regretting something forever, which I'm sure from your question you would.
If you feel that you can work thin... (read in full...)
Sacred for her because some of the girls are going to do bad stuff to her! What should I do?
Q. Hi, I'm 15 and I'm really into sports. I play netball for my county and last year, my school netball team did really well @ national schools, so my team was invited to rain with the senior girls @ our school, after school. We did well i guess, ...
A. 7 January 2008: I really don't think that you should ignore this. It is a blatent case of bullying and you should talk to your coach about it, if they are approachable. If not another teacher would be fine. They know what to do about bullying and will be able to ... (read in full...)
My mum is always telling me off, when I don't even do anything wrong. What can I do?
Q. Hi,i'm 13 and my mum is always telling me off, when i don't even do anything wrong. If i play a game on tele, computer,playstation, phone or any gadget i am told of, and everytime i do play a game she always says to me on purpose could you do this ...
A. 7 January 2008: I think that this is the worst time for mother/daughter relationships.
You're growing up and wanting some freedom and independence.
She knows that you are growing up and wants to keep you as her baby.
I haven't got a teenage child (yet) but my... (read in full...)
Do you think this girl likes me or what?
Q. Alright just wondering here, do you think this girl likes me or what? She's in one of my classes, we've hooked up like 5 times now, we flirt all the time, and she always gets me to call her, but lately, the last two weeks now, she'll say we wa...
A. 7 January 2008: I had the same type of thing with a male friend, who was always too busy to see me (there were so many bizarre excuses as to why he didn't turn up)so I started dating someone else thinking he was giving me a really strange brush off and he got ... (read in full...)
I'm scared the condom may break, what should I do?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 4 months. We are completly in love with each other. I lost my verginity to his friend 5 months ago. it wasnt as special as it should have been. I love my current boyfriend and want to have sex with ...
A. 28 December 2007: It is illegal for you both to be having sex when he is 18 and you are only 15. Try to see if you can wait until you are 16. Then you won't have to be worried about him getting into trouble.
That's my lecture done with (sorry). Condoms are pret... (read in full...)
I did all the embarrassing/annoying ex things and now I'm a mess. How do you move on from someone that doesn't love you anymore?
Q. The first person that I've ever had real feelings for finished with me just over a month ago and I'm still having a hard time trying to stop thinking about him. We were only together for 5 months and I can understand why it didn't work out. We hit a ...
A. 28 December 2007: My answer is slowly!! I think you have to get through the embarrasing begging stage to finally get it that they aren't interested anymore. I understand that you now feel embarrassed that you did this but most people have - at least once. Try ... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to my colleague, what can I do to stop the feelings that I have towards him and keep our relationship strictly professional?
Q. I am currently a young, free and single female. I work in a job where I am paired up with one person at a time for long periods, ie 6 moths or often longer at a time. I have always had good relationships with my colleagues but for the past four ...
A. 28 December 2007: I agree entirely with 'anonymous' I just wanted to add that if you had an affair with this man that your colleagues may lose their respect you for taking another woman's man. People always find out no matter how secretive you are. You say that y... (read in full...)
I'm intrigued by my female teacher but I'm not gay, so what is going on?
Q. So heres the deal im 15 and my teachers 40. I dont know if its infatuation or developing into love but sometimes the way she looks at me or approaches me I could really have a chance with herbut then other times I know its impossible. Im thinking ...
A. 28 December 2007: This is quite normal at your age - I had a crush on my female english teacher ( i'm now married with two children). It's because your hormones are all over the place and you admire this teacher. I'm sure these feelings will dwindle over time ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my girlfriend and now she doesn't want much to do with me, should I keep trying to win her back or leave her alone and let her do what she wants?
Q. I was dating a girl 11 months. I cheated on her with a girl it was my fault I went to her house but i left after a minute because I felt terrible. I told my girlfriend and its been over since. We hung out everyday we did everything together pretty m...
A. 28 December 2007: I'm a bit confused about this - did you actually do anything with this other girl? If you have actually cheated on your ex girlfriend the best thing you can do is tell her that you still love her and how sorry you are. You could try writing your... (read in full...)
I'm 17 and he is 15, would it be wrong for us to be together considering this age gap?
Q. I am 17 and a senior in high school..and i have this friend that i think i am starting to like but the problem is he is only 15 and a freshman in high school...we go to school and church together and stuff and i am wondering could it be possible for ...
A. 28 December 2007: A relationship with him would not be wrong - as long as it is not a sexual one as he is too young for consent. He will not be old enough to give legal consent for sex until he is 16. I don't see why two years would make much of a difference as lo... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin but my girlfriend is not. I hear that it would be wrong if she took my virginity, but I don't think it is. What is your opinion?
Q. me and my girl friend are both 14, we love echother a lot. even at this age. we have been told it's real, a few time's so we think it is....... but she is not a vergin and i am.......would it be wrong if she took my verginity? i wont do eny...
A. 28 December 2007: It's not wrong for a woman to take a mans virginity society just makes us feel that it should be the other way round. That said I think you are both too young to be making decisions like this. Sex at 14 is illegal for good reason. You may end up r... (read in full...)
He's not ready to get married but that's all I want. What should I do to get him to that commitment level?
Q. I have a boyfriend of 4 years. Have been living together for the last 2 years. He's not ready to get married but that's all I want. What should I do to get him to that commitment level?...
A. 28 December 2007: Have you asked yourself why it is so important for you to get married? If you two are really happy does it matter if you have a certificate? It sounds like you are already committed if you live together and obviously love each other as you've b... (read in full...)
What are the pros and cons of having separate bedrooms when living together?
Q. hi i am wondering what are the pros and cons of having separate bedrooms when living together. any views / perspectives etc. ? thanks J...
A. 28 December 2007: I wish I had enough money to buy a house big enough so me and my husband could have seperate rooms!! I love him but having my own bed and space would be lovely and I wouldn't have to watch all the boring films he loves at bedtime, or be woken by... (read in full...)
How can I get him to appreciate me and really understand how much I do care about him and how much he is hurting me deep down inside?
Q. My best guy friend and I are both 16.Have been friends for alittle over a year now.We're extremly close,and dont get me wrong,I love to spoil my friends.But everytime we go out I pay for the food,movies,everything! He always says how much he ...
A. 28 December 2007: It sounds like you are a very nice caring person, and this guy is a jerk who is taking advantage of that. My advice to you is to tell him that next time you two go out together tell him that he is going to have to pay for his share. And stop ... (read in full...)
Am I the only one that feels like this?
Q. i am 14 and i year10 which is 9 grade in america i feel old because i leave school like late 2009 which is not too far away now we are coming in 2008 next week! i feel old because i live school although i can always stop on for sixth form. i...
A. 28 December 2007: I don't think you are the only one at all. I left school ten years ago and still don't feel like a 'grown up' and I'm married with two kids!! I still see a lot of my friends from school and none of them feel mature yet either. I don't think you ever ... (read in full...)
Was I being ungrateful?
Q. This is quite strange but I will explain. For christmas this year my gf said that her brother would be purchasing me a leather jacket. She said it would make up for the past christmas's that he has missed out on buying me a present. She said it ...
A. 28 December 2007: I would be offended too!! The jacket sounds disgusting. I think uncle phil is right and the jacket was found at the back of a pub. I don't know of any charity shop that would sell something in that state. If I were you I would graciously say than... (read in full...)
To girls: Do you prefer a shaved chest or hairy chest? Shaved pubic hair or just trimmed?
Q. What do you girls like more, a Shaved chest or one with hair? And same question about pubic hair: Shaved completely or just trimed? ...
A. 27 December 2007: I think most women differ with this. I like a smooth chest whereas my sisters boyfriend is really (really really) hairy and she loves it. I think most women prefer trimmed pubic hair as it looks cleaner. I think shaved completely would look str... (read in full...)
Is it true that if you can't love yourself you can't love someone else?
Q. Is it true that if u can't love yourself then you cant love someone else? i thought i disagreed but now i cant get it out of my head....
A. 27 December 2007: I thought it was that if you can't love yourself then no-one else can love you. But either way it's true that if you don't love yourself then you don't get treated the way you should by anyone. You have to have self respect in order to be treated ... (read in full...)
I found out my bf has another gf since 2 years and now I'm all confused, what shall I do?
Q. i really dont know what to do.. i suppose you could call me a total bitch an slut for what i'm doing, and i am actually starting to feel like one...but im worried. I've been seeing a guy who already has a girlfriend. I have done for 3 months now...
A. 27 December 2007: You can't call yourself those names. You're not a bitch or a slut, but you are very confused. I hate the way us women always blame ourselves - or each other for thing like this when HE is the one in the wrong. He has lied to both of you. My advice... (read in full...)
I'm experimenting with my sexuality and my bf was first ok with me dating other men as well, but now he has changed his mind! Is it wrong of him to change the rules halfway through, or am I just being unreasonable?
Q. I'm bisexual and recently entered into a long distance relationship with a guy on the proviso that i be allowed to experiment with other guys because i have no sexual experience and am still in the middle of discovering who i am. At first he ag...
A. 27 December 2007: Why have you entered a relationship with someone when you are clearly not ready to be in one yet?? You are young and wanting to have fun and I don't blame you one bit. It's not unreasonable that you want to experience dating different men especial... (read in full...)
We do not have sexual intercorse that much anymore and whenever I talk to her about sex she complains about having it every day?
Q. Hello! Me and my Girlfriend have been dating for about 3 months now, we have already engaged in sexual intercorse. Everything seems like our relationship is going well but then I've noticed lately that I feel like im second hand meaning the side...
A. 20 November 2007: After a while it usually feels like sex is all a man is interested in and the only time he does something for you is for that reason only. Instead of focusing on sex, focus on making her feel special. Cook her dinner, take her out to somewhere you ... (read in full...)
She's near climax, then the feeling fades away. Is there something I do wrong?
Q. ok hi me an my girlfriend are having a big a of problem.. when im doing wat i have to do she says she feels like shes almost going to orgasm but then it just goes away although she gets wet... so wat is the deal is this wat a womens orgasm is or is ...
A. 20 November 2007: Hi there
It doesn't sound like your girlfriend is having an orgasm. If she's not sure if it was or not then it wasn't!!
You should have a heart to heart with your girlfriend. She will be able to tell you if it's something you are doing wrong ... (read in full...)
Our four year old doesn't listen to his teachers...
Q. our four year old son does not listen to us or his teachers at school and they are complaining, it is getting very frustrating...
A. 19 November 2007: My son doesn't listen to anyone either. He has ADHD. It may be worth you having a look on an ADHD website and seeing if he fits any of the other symptoms. If it sound like your child, go to your GP for a chat, and talk to the school about your ... (read in full...)
Why is she being like this suddenly?
Q. I'm a teen mom (17) and I have a 5 month old daughter, I left her alone with my mom and sister for only 4 hours for the first time since I've had her and now she doesn't want me to hold her or feed her at all. Is that normal?...
A. 19 November 2007: I hope that this has already sorted itself out. Most babies get a little resentful when you leave them, especially for the first time.
My husband looked after our daughter when she was sick for a week because i couldn't take anymore time off of w... (read in full...)
How do I explain it to my GP?
Q. I am a 28yr old female and I have been with my girlfriend for about 5 years and I love her very much but we don't have sex or make love because I don't have the urge. I really want to make love to my girlfriend but I don't have sexual feelings ...
A. 19 November 2007: Relate (marriage guidance people) have a psycho-sexual therapist who will work with both of you as a couple to resolve a sexual problem.
Have you talked to your girlfriend about this problem? If you haven't then please do as she will probably be f... (read in full...)
I'm depressed and hate to admit it.
Q. hi,i'm a 22 yr female,a medical student,just completed 4th yr,internship starts in march,totally free till then.i have 2 very close friends of mine, nisha and mohit.both r going around since 2nd yr.mohit belongs 2 some other city,while i n nisha r ...
A. 19 November 2007: I'm afraid that I'd be inclined to agree with your sister. This guy doesn't sound like he's trustworthy at all, and if I were you I'd stay well away from him.
Tell him that until he is single you cannot meet up with him. If he really were in love... (read in full...)
I'm still a virgin at 39, but how do I tell anyone that?
Q. Growing up shy, I have never been a girl magnet. I generally fall into the "Nice Guy" category. I have been in a few relationships in my life, but nothing serious. I am uncomfortable making small talk, I am bald and wear glasses, so needless to say ...
A. 19 November 2007: Personality is so much more important than looks to most women. We want a man who is going to be kind and considerate far more than a six foot tall football player, who is selfish and incosiderate!!
And who said that just because you are bald and ... (read in full...)
We still make love after the break up but he won't get back with me officially!
Q. My ex and I broke up a month ago we still say we love each other and make love and he says he doesn't want to get back together and that because he wants to see what else is out there and i am so lonely without him do u know what i should do??...
A. 16 November 2007: You poor thing. He sound like a pig! If he loved you sweetheart he wouldn't want to know "what else" is out there. You need to stop sleeping with him. At the moment he is having his cake and eating it. He doesn't need to be with you so is free t... (read in full...)
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