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I am a 26 year old working mum of two. I have been married for coming up two years, but was a single parent for three years before that.
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My sister had sex with him. Is it wrong of me to be interested?
Q. I recently broke up with my boyfriend and am interested in an old flame. About 6 months ago he had sex with my sister. It was just a drunken night so is it okay for me to sleep with him also?? I have no bad feelings towards my sister or him for what ...
A. 12 February 2008: I have two sisters and the thought of sleeping with someone who had slept with either of them is not pleasant.
Someone who I dated for a while and then broke up with asked my sister for a date (about a year later) and she said no for the same rea... (read in full...)
He said he wanted to try again, but I've just found out he's been seeing other girls. What must I do?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been on a break for a month i have just come back to find out that he has been seeing two girls while i was way but the hole time i was on holiday he was telling me that he wanted to make another go of things. I had to find ...
A. 12 February 2008: He may genuinely want to try again, but didn't want to burn his bridges with the other girls as he wasn't sure if you would want him back. Some people think it's OK to do this as 'you are on a break' That's not something I agree with but have seen ... (read in full...)
I asked if he wanted a threesome, now I'm worried he wants to have sex with other girls.
Q. I asked my boyfriend if he'd like to have a threesome. He said it's one of his fantasies, but that he wouldn't try it, because I'd get too jealous and because he'd be too jealous if I asked for an MFM. I asked what would he do if I wasn't the jea...
A. 12 February 2008: I think that this is a common fantasy that men have. I don't think it necessarily means that physically he would like to sleep with other women it just seems a good thought in his head.
We all have fantasies and not all of mine feature my husba... (read in full...)
How do I know if my boyfriend's sexual behaviour is too affected by porn?
Q. How can I know if my boyfriend's sexual behaviour has been "brainwashed" by porn? We're both fairly young so porn was very available during our teenage years. We're also both inexperienced. So he must've learned everything he knows from porn....
A. 8 February 2008: I'm not sure if this is from porn or just a young man being a bit selfish about sex. You say he's inexperienced?? A lot of men want to try everything NOW, NOW, NOW and are a bit over eager.
I think you may you need to teach him a bit about ho... (read in full...)
I'm playing a "dangerous game" with a married man. Do I stop this BEFORE anyone gets hurt?
Q. Im playing a dangerous game, thats how he put it. Flirting (its both sided) with a married man. we talk about sex all the time and get on well generally. last night he text me saying "do you think we're playing a dangerous game?" i replied with...
A. 8 February 2008: My advice to you honey is to stop it now!! I know this might hurt but it doesn't sound like he cares about you at all - more about sex. He doesn't seem to give a damn about the hurt he will cause his wife either - do you REALLY want a man like ... (read in full...)
What are your thoughts on internet porn?
Q. I am asking all of you Agony Aunts how you feel about Men watching Porn on The Web. You men out there, Please, let the women have their say. Who knows,Together we may learn how they feel about Web Porn. And you Ladies, please, feel free to speak ...
A. 8 February 2008: I have no problem with internet porn - or porn of any kind really. As long as it isn't hurting anyone and the actors are all consenting adults. It does not bother me that my husband watches it and we have watched it together - it just doesn't do a ... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose my boyfriend. What can I do?
Q. i need help and fast. my b/f wants to break up but i dont think i can stand not having him... i love him soo much. we went on a break that lasted 3 days n now he wants to break up... hes the love of my life and i dont want to lose him how can i keep ...
A. 8 February 2008: What an awful situation to be in. I think most of us have been where you are at some point, and I'm hoping that I can at least help you to learn through a couple of my mistakes in life so that you don't have to make them yourself.
I'm afraid h... (read in full...)
Why would he tell me he still wants to be with me, but not show me?
Q. I recently reconnected with my ex and we ended up spending a really nice evening together. He said that he had been missing me and that he still cared. That was on Sunday and he hasn't called me yet. I can't understand why he would say those things ...
A. 8 February 2008: He may be thinking the exact same thing and is wanting to call you but is worried about your reaction. You could always try ringing him and ask him if he would like to meet up again. At least that way you have your answer. He either does want get ... (read in full...)
Why won't my partner be open about his fantasies?
Q. Recently I found out my partner has been looking at porn and signing up for online dating sites. I had confronted him about this and he said the only reason he is on the dating sites is to look at sexy photos of average women. I asked him why it is ...
A. 8 February 2008: It can be really embarrasing sharing your fantasies with your partner, he may feel that what he desires is somehow 'odd' and is worried about your reaction. It can be much easier to open up to a stranger especially one that you won't have to see in ... (read in full...)
Only 3 days ago I met a nice guy online, and I feel like risking my 3-year relationship for him! What should I do?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 3 and a half years but about three days ago I met a guy on a chat line, he has been very nice to me and I started to get feelings for him. I love my boyfriend very much and don't believe in cheating but I ...
A. 7 February 2008: Please don't meet up with someone you've only known three days through a chat site. You really don't know who they are - I mean like now I say that im a 26 year old married woman, but I could be anyone right?? You wouldn't know if I was male, ... (read in full...)
I'm 21 and she's 17... Is this okay?
Q. hi ppl i think im in love with a 17 yr old and im 21. do you reckon that its an ok thing or is it too much of a gap for anything to work. its been built on friendship and we've just got closer and closer. please help thanks...
A. 4 February 2008: I would say that this age gap is fine. As long as you are both on the same wavelength I dont see that it will cause a problem, and certainly shouldn't put you off a relationship with her. There are 6 years between myself and my husband and it ... (read in full...)
What do I do, get for my girlfriend for valentines day?
Q. hey, i wanted to do something/get something nice for my girlfriend on valentines day, but unfortunately im not sure what i could do/get her. Could you guys please help me come up with something??...
A. 1 February 2008: I think that would be amazing - go for it. She'll love it... (read in full...)
What do I do, get for my girlfriend for valentines day?
Q. hey, i wanted to do something/get something nice for my girlfriend on valentines day, but unfortunately im not sure what i could do/get her. Could you guys please help me come up with something??...
A. 1 February 2008: At your age an I love you teddy, card or a nicely framed photo of the two of you would probably go down well. If you were a bit older I would say send her flowers through the florist but that costs a fortune!!
As for doing something you could take... (read in full...)
Mood swings, doesn't trust me.
Q. I just dont know wht to do anymore. For the last year i've been trying to get this girls parents to allow us to date. well 6 months ago i got my wish and we've been dating ever since. my problem is that she constantly has mood swings, doesnt t...
A. 1 February 2008: Have you talked to your girlfriend about how her behaviour is affecting your relationship?
I know all of us women have mood swings, I can be really narky a few days before my period, and this is probably something that will die down for her once... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have an extra piece of skin on the lower vagina?
Q. On the woman's lower area, near the vagina, is it normal for there to be a little extra piece of skin kind of just 'hanging' there?...
A. 1 February 2008: It sounds like the female labia (lips of the vagina)and it's completely normal for them to be different sizes.
I wouldn't worry about it. ... (read in full...)
Why is my tampon no longer fitting??
Q. This is mostly directed towards the women, but if you're a guy and you know what's up don't hesitate to make a suggestion. A few months ago, maybe three, the tampons I use (regular tampax pearl) that usually glide right in stopped working for me. ...
A. 1 February 2008: I think it is probably psychological - if your nervous of the pain then your muscles will contract. But you may want to pop to your Dr just to be checked over in case it's physical.
I don't know if they sell them in US but here in UK you can buy ... (read in full...)
Scared I am pregnant!
Q. ok so i would appreciate any help. I had my period on the 12th of January (Saturday) and it lasted until the 17th (thursday) I had sex that next day, Friday, and my fiance and I started out without a condom, but after like 10 seconds he put one on. ...
A. 30 January 2008: I highly doubt that you are pregnant for the same reason as hlskitten.
But you can buy pregnancy tests from the chemists that work up to 4 days before your period is due so at least you will be saved from a few days of worry.
Your not crazy fo... (read in full...)
My older boyfriend is now in jail.
Q. Well I'm 15 and I have a 24 year old boyfriend. We love each other but when I told my mom she told a counceler and he was forced to report it, so now he's in jail, He still calls and writes and says he loves me and stuff but I'm not sure what to do, ...
A. 30 January 2008: I'm presuming he is in jail for statutory rape beacuse of your age. If this is the case then you need to also learn from this lesson, that you shouldn't be having sex at your age. It is illegal and any boyfriend you have may end up in prison for it. ... (read in full...)
My son is punished everytime my husband drinks.
Q. my husband is the greatest guy in the world until he starts drinking, he loves my son from a previous marraige, but when he drinks it seems like my son is the worst kid in the world and I am the worst mother. I was going to leave him a couple of ...
A. 30 January 2008: Hi there
I came to this site a few months ago with the same type of trouble with my husband. He was a lovely guy when sober but drunk he was verbally and physically abusive towards me and verbally abusive towards my son (his step son). I called t... (read in full...)
15 and wanting children
Q. hey guys im 15 years old and i really want children, i have a part time job in year 10. when im not working or going to school im watchen childrena and i have been since i was 8 years old id cook dinner clean the house. the ages i normaly whatch in ...
A. 25 January 2008: Things are very different when they are your own children. It's so much harder knowing that they rely on you for every little thing. Especially if you end up on your own with no money and no way of providing enough for basics food, clothes etc let ... (read in full...)
Concerned about people who sleep with those who they know are mairried.
Q. Why is it that advice given to a mistress is way off it seems that people do not want to hurt these people's feelings. Well as for my husband's affair there was no feelings pure anal sex is what she promised online and that turned out to be a ...
A. 25 January 2008: I agree with you - I think these women do suffer with low self esteem and see it as a boost if they manage to get a man away from someone else. But it's a vicious cycle as they end up feeling worse about themselves then they did in the first place. ... (read in full...)
Concerned about people who sleep with those who they know are mairried.
Q. Why is it that advice given to a mistress is way off it seems that people do not want to hurt these people's feelings. Well as for my husband's affair there was no feelings pure anal sex is what she promised online and that turned out to be a ...
A. 24 January 2008: Why is it that you are only angry with the mistress?? What is you husband thinking sleeping with a woman who advertises herself as no feelings, anal sex only??
I have never slept with a married man, nor would I but I know that some men do leave thei... (read in full...)
Help me! I've run out of ideas and hope!
Q. it is a long story but ill try to shorten it been with my boyfriend well ex now for 2 years he dumped me in january last year cos of things like mentionin his exs which i changed he got bak with me after 4days. he then dumped me in january t...
A. 24 January 2008: I agree with Laura on this one
When you go to London for your birthday be nice to him, but show him no interest in getting back together with him. Get your hair done, get a lovely outfit and have a great time with your friends, and if you get any ... (read in full...)
Why can't he let go of his ex??
Q. Hey there... I have been with my boyfriend for about a year now. we live together, and we always talk about getting married someday... i love him more than anything and want to spend my life with him, but i have some issues i kinda need help wit...
A. 24 January 2008: Hi There
It doesn't sound like your boyfriend is over his ex and must have some feelings for her if he can talk to her for hours and text all the time. What on earth do they talk about? I can't think of anything I could talk to an ex about fo... (read in full...)
She's got herpes. What are the risks to my health?
Q. My ex girlfriend just found out that she has Vaginal Herpes. She got it from her current,(soon to be ex) boyfriend. So i'm in a bit of a pickle. We have for a while now been talking about seeing each other again and since I split with my girl too it ...
A. 17 January 2008: Herpes is a recurrent infection, which means that sometimes she will have blisters but other times it will be dormant (this could be years before she gets another case) The Drs will be able to treat the infection when it comes up, but not cure it ... (read in full...)
This 23 year-old guy gave me my first orgasm - I'm 38 and married. Should I move out to India to be with him?
Q. If anyone out there can help ME GET MY HEAD STRAIGHT please do. At the end of Dec 2007 I met the most lovely, handsome and charming Indian man - problem is he is 23yrs old - 15yrs younger than me and I am married,I have always been faithful to...
A. 17 January 2008: I think you should follow your head not your heart ( or other parts lol).
What other then sex do you have in common with this other man, and why is he better then your husband?? Is it just lust or do you really see yourself with this man for ever... (read in full...)
23, 6 weeks together and now I could be pregnant. Will it work?
Q. O.k...I have been dating a great guy for about 6 weeks, and after I didn't get my period (I haven't had one since we've been together) we realized that I am most likely pregnant. I am going to find out for sure this weekend. I am just having some ...
A. 17 January 2008: No-one can be sure whether things will work when you have a baby - and that's just as true for people who have been together for years!! Having a baby puts tremendous pressure on a relationship, both of you get no sleep, no time together and ... (read in full...)
Does it hurt a guy when he loses his virginity?
Q. ok something has been bothering me or annoying me for some time now my friend was asking me when guys loose the viginity does it hurt please tell me ...
A. 17 January 2008: Assuming that you are talking about a heterosexual male I have never heard of a man say that losing his virginity hurt him.
Hope that clears things up for you... (read in full...)
He wants to be friends but I'm confused
Q. My ex boyfriend said when we split lets just be friends, well that was nearly 2 months ago ive not heard from him since and only really seen him from driving around he doesnt even go to the place where i meet him.why did he say that to me if he ...
A. 17 January 2008: I agree with Annalisa entirely. Most people who say 'lets just be friends' after a relationship don't mean it. Usually they say it so that you are not too upset, but it rarely works that way.
You'd find it harder to get over him by being frie... (read in full...)
Did I make a mistake by not telling him I am a virgin?
Q. hi everyone, ive recently had my first kind of relationship but it only lasted 3 weeks the guy i was kind of seeing was a lot older then me and more exprienced he had 3 children,anyway i stayed round his house about 4 times and really wanted to have ...
A. 17 January 2008: I think you probably should have told him that you had not had sex before as that would have let him know that you were interested, just not sure what you were doing. But the fact that you thought he would laugh at you tells me that he wasn't that ... (read in full...)
Could I be bi sexual?
Q. I am 19 years old and i have a boyfriend. I find men attractive and i like having sex with them. My sex life is quite normal for my age and im only interested in dating men and pulling men and i always have been. The only thing is, i get off more on ...
A. 17 January 2008: If you don't fancy women or fantasise about making love with a woman then I would say that you are not bi sexual. If you were then you would get turned on by the pornography you are watching and want to do it yourself.
I think you are probably just... (read in full...)
Can getting a girlfriend make you bad at sports?
Q. I was wondering if it is true that sometimes when people get a girlfriend they start to get worse at sports? I was wondering because I really like this girl, but I'm not sure if I should ask her out because I've always heard that girl friends make ...
A. 17 January 2008: I dont' think it's getting a girlfriend that makes you bad at sports - just that you focus on her rather then training. As long as you can be disciplined enough to still do your training then I'm sure your sport will not suffer.
And if you get ... (read in full...)
My ex broke up with me today. What does she mean by what she said?
Q. right my ex split up with me today, by txt basically. saying shes not happy an needs to sort her head out, an needs to do this for herself. i dont know what she means by this. can u help?...
A. 17 January 2008: It sounds like the typical I don't know what else to say without hurting him break up message. She obviously doesn't want to talk things through with you else she wouldn't have dumped you by text - that's really harsh!!
If I was you I would forg... (read in full...)
My ex is moving in near me and coming to work where I do. What do I do?
Q. HELP ME. my ex bf is moving 3 doors down from me. not only have i not seen him for 4 years, everytime someone mentions his name, my heart flutters. the other thing is that he got a job the same place i work, now i have to deal with him everyday!!! i...
A. 17 January 2008: God how awful for you!!
It's bad enough having an ex live in the same area let alone 3 doors down and now at work too.
Am I assuming right that you still have feeling for him by you saying that your heart flutters when you hear his name.
Try to... (read in full...)
I've liked him for 11 months. Do I tell him or forget about him?
Q. Dear Cupid. i have the biggest crush on my best guy friend. well, im not sure if its a crush. im 15 going on 16. and i've liked him for 11 months! He's a really flirty guy and i'm too scared to tell him. Firstly, we used to be extremely close, b...
A. 17 January 2008: From my experience of school most boys that are that close to a girl friend fancy them. He is probably feeling bewildered that you are avoiding him and thinks that you are avoiding him.
I would tell him now before he thinks that you don't like him ... (read in full...)
Does this sound like love????
Q. Hey! So I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about 6 months. I know we're in love, but I just want some outside advice because I don't really have any other relationships to compare it to. We tell each other "I love you" about 20 ti...
A. 17 January 2008: You sound like you've found the perfect man!! It sounds like love to me so I'd stick with it and thank your lucky stars that you've got a boyfriend that is so considerate and loving (and not afraid of showing it).
Just make sure that you do nice... (read in full...)
My boyfriend puts his mates and alcohol before me. What can I do?
Q. I really love my boyfriend but he puts alcohol before everything else. I get treat differently infront of his friends but I can't live without him, I get so hurt and I don't know what to do....
A. 17 January 2008: I think a lot of guys put alcohol and friends in front of their partner - usually because we put up with it and allow them to.
Sit down and talk to him about how you are feeling - a lot of men aren't very sensitive and it takes you to shove thin... (read in full...)
Why does he keep talking about his exes?
Q. My boyfriend wont stop mentioning his ex girlfriends,he remembers the exact day he asked them out and the day he broke up with them,although he doesnt even remember our anniversaries, its making me feel unwanted,is it him with the problem or is just ...
A. 17 January 2008: I wouldn't class you as a jealous person just because you don't like to hear about his exes. I certainly don't like to hear about my husbands exes.
You need to explain to him that it makes you uncomfortable when he keeps bringing them up.
If... (read in full...)
Does my body sound normal for a 16 year old?
Q. dear cupid i am a 16 year old boy and have been looking at my self in the mirror and saw something, my left side of the stomach seems to be a bit inner than my right and also my left chest/man boob (have lost weight but still their) seems to ...
A. 17 January 2008: I would say that if your parent can't see anything then it's nothing much to worry about and that you are focussing on it far too much. No-ones body is symetrical
If you need to put your mind at rest you could go and see your GP. He will be able... (read in full...)
How do I tell my mate I don't want her to come with us to get std tests?
Q. Me and my mate are going to GUM clinic next friday to get cheked out as one of the lads has something! but my friend says she wants 2 go too not to get checked out just to tag along, and me and my mates that is getting checked out said we arnt ...
A. 17 January 2008: You could just explain that it's a very personal thing to have done and you don't really want a by stander there. You could arrange to meet up with her after you've had the tests done so that she doesn't feel left out.
That should keep her happ... (read in full...)
Pregnant , with my bf but why do I keep thinking of an ex bf who I was with for 9 years.
Q. Hi I am in my mid twenty's I have been with my b/f for little over a year and I am pregnant with his child but I still think a Lot about my ex which I was with for 9 years is it love or not? ...
A. 17 January 2008: HI there
I seemed to think about my first love a lot when I was pregnant with both of my children. I'm not sure why this was because I love my husband dearly. I think maybe because me and my first love talked about getting married and having k... (read in full...)
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