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nicole12345678
writes:I have a boyfriend of 4 years. Have been living together for the last 2 years. He's not ready to get married but that's all I want. What should I do to get him to that commitment level? Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2007): I cant believe you have left it this long... i had this trouble and the only thing you can do is tell him you want a proper committment or its over. and mean it. dont contact him,walk away, tell him you have someone else interested in you. horrible i know. but it works. i guarantee he will be on your doorstep with a ring within a week begging for marriage. honest.
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reader, red1982  +, writes (28 December 2007):
Have you asked yourself why it is so important for you to get married? If you two are really happy does it matter if you have a certificate?It sounds like you are already committed if you live together and obviously love each other as you've been together for 4 years. I don't think that you can do anything to make someone want to get married. Does he have a reason for not wanting to get married? I know that a lot of men are scared because they think that it will change everything.Just try not to ruin your relationship by going on about marriage all the time as that's the last thing you want to do.
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (28 December 2007):
 You can't actually get him to that committed level, if he is not ready yet, then he is simply not ready. All you can do really is drop subtle hints, but don't come on to strong and risk pushing him away. Don't make him feel like he is being backed into a corner, let time teke its toll and im sure he will come round to that way of thinking eventually.
All the best x
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