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17 July 2009: Continuing the Harry Potter update thought I'd let you know I had a first date tonight with my bus girl. It went really well and she sent me a text saying as much too. Catch is, I look so much younger than I actually am she was pretty shocked w...
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Why all these emotions when I rub my nipples?
Q. Hey, I've discovered that when I rub my nipples for a while, I start to get really emotional, and even cry. Why do I get filled with these strange emotions when I rub my nipples? Like, at some points it almost feels like 'love' in the sense of a d...
A. 3 July 2009: I've not experienced similar sensations (it just tickles!) but that doesn't mean you're odd. Hell I still cry at 'Breakfast at Tiffanys'.
Nothing wrong with guys feeling such emotions, unless there are underlying issues that should be dealt wi... (read in full...)
Bus girl blues...
Q. Here's one where I'd appreciate female advice. Been chatting to a woman on the bus-50 minute journey -seemed to go well so I asked her out for a drink or two after work sometime. she said definitely yes but not til the next week. because I work a...
A. 3 July 2009: cheers em! sounds easier than it is but you're right of course...... (read in full...)
I need opinions here, I don't know what's going on...
Q. I've been dating this guy now for over 3 months, not exclusively. sunday he told me I was "growing on him" I asked him what he meant and he said that in the begining it didnt really mean anything to him, cos he wasnt looking for anything (he'd just ...
A. 3 July 2009: As he's been in a relatively long term relationship before, he may just want to take it slow and not show or admit to you how he feels right now. I'd certainly be more cautious and have been in the past in such situations. Good thing is he seems to ... (read in full...)
Unhappy in my marriage: I feel I shouldn't give in to sex if he disrespectful, even abusive in return. Any help?
Q. My husband and I have been married for 3 years, before that we dated for 4. I was raised in a good CHristian home and in a good church and I was always taught about the importance of abstinence and saving yourself for marriage. About 2 or 3 years ...
A. 28 October 2008: It's important that you speak to somenone you trust about how you are feeng right now-perhaps a church elder or best friend?
It seems to me that you are the victim of emotional, verbal and physical abuse from you husband and have been for a long t... (read in full...)
Both married but infatuated with each other.
Q. I have a friend (guy) was working with me. Both he and I are married, he likes me a lot and once over the phone he kissed me and said he loves me. I kept silent. We both know that we like each other so much. I changed my job and went to another ...
A. 28 October 2008: I've been in a similar situation and to some extent, still am as I'm still trying to get over her. I can only agree with what's been said before-who's to say that what you have for this guy will and can actually be better than your marriage? Falling ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend always seems to make a mountain out of a molehill. Any suggestions?
Q. My girlfriend makes a big issue out of the slightest thing! I think? It's like the rhyme, There once was girl, who had a little curl, right in the middle of her forehead, When she was good, she was very very good, But when she was bad she was horr...
A. 10 October 2008: Sounds familiar! In the relationship I was in where this happened, there were issues in the background around previous bad relationships that affected her self worth/esteem. If you really care for her, don't just dismiss her feelings as being a ... (read in full...)
I am a Virgo male and I'm in love with an Aries female. Are we compatible?
Q. Hi , I am a boy who believes in zodiac signs. I am born under Virgo in 1989. I love someone, she likes me too. She is Aries born in 1994. How is our internal compatibility on signs. Will we be happy or not? Please help. Thanks...
A. 10 October 2008: If you like each other, why worry about starsigns?-you won't know if you don't try...!... (read in full...)
I just lost my nana, but haven't cried as I feel as if she's still alive. What's wrong with me?
Q. I previously asked for help in dealing with the news of my nana having cancer, through which I helped nurse her. She died yesterday and now I need to ask something and see if anyone can help. I cried when I was told and when I went in to see her. ...
A. 10 October 2008: Hey there-I'm truly sorry to hear about your loss. My granny died a few years ago now and it didn't hit me until a good few days later. The thing is - everyone deals with loss differently and at different times. What you're going through is normal ... (read in full...)
I don't want to ask him if he likes me as I don't want to ruin our friendship.
Q. There is this guy I really like and I don't know how to tell if he likes me. He is always trying to hang with me every chance he gets and stares at me a lot (he tries to hold eye contact with me). He playfully pokes me and touches me when talking. ...
A. 9 October 2008: Well from what you say it seems obvious that he likes you but maybe he's a bit unsure of himself and how you feel about him. Someone either makes a move or you'll never know. If he is just a friend and you've picked up the signals wrong (which I ... (read in full...)
If my boyfriend fell asleep while I was giving him head, do I have the right to be pissed?
Q. If my boyfriend fell asleep while I was giving him head, do I have the right to be pissed?...
A. 9 October 2008: Yep, just about dropped off whilst 'getting down' I must admit!! And my ex actually did fall asleep once so it's not only the guys :-)
Maybe you can see the funny side? I think you should tease him mercilessly about it (in a fun way) for at least... (read in full...)
Can you fix a marriage when your heart is not in it?
Q. I'm married with 2 young kids and I'm feeling like leaving my husband for a guy I knew when I was 15-20 (I'm now 36). My husband and I have been together 7 years, having gotten pregnant in the first 6 months of knowing one another. We have had many ...
A. 9 October 2008: Hey there-I can't answer your question directly but I have been somewhere similar, having fallen for someone and realising that my marriage simply wasn't what it was supposed to be. Upshot is that, as a previous poster says, if you are thinking of ... (read in full...)
Am I a sociopath???
Q. I have a problem, I love relationships, I love being in love but I have issues staying faithful and lying... am I a sociopath. I have been with this guy for 8 months and in this time we spent 6 months apart as he was working and I cheated on him ...
A. 5 October 2008: Babe, u gotta get help - going it alone only works for as long as you can handke it-and it's not enough. I wouldn't spk to your b/f about it-only a proffesional can help and it wouldn't be fair to put that pressure on him. We all need to sort out ... (read in full...)
My wife and I are separated, and I'm in love with her 34 year old daughter.
Q. My wife and I are separated, and I'm in love with her 34 year old daughter. I have not said anything to her daughter about the way I feel, except to tell her that I love her and respect her. Is this wrong if she loves me and we become a couple?...
A. 5 October 2008: I have to say no. Chances are even if you do tell her how you feel, there won't be any given back. Plus the repercussions are too messy. Think of others more than youself...you simply have to sometimes...... (read in full...)
My new neighbour is drop dead gorgeous! Should I ask him out???
Q. Hello there Dear Cupid's....I'm 40 have been divorced for 11 years, have had a few relationships since but nothing I consider special. My children are now late teens, so I'm pretty much a free agent. Well...about 6 months ago a new neighbour moved ...
A. 5 October 2008: I think you should ask him out before you kill him with your car lol!! Seriously tho'-not all guys will make the first move-I know I usually don't! Have you had ny signs that he's interested in you at all? Eye contact, a smile etc? Maybe take ... (read in full...)
His ex has muscled in and spoiled the surprise I had for my husband's birthday. What should I do? I feel really upset about this.
Q. Hi.. I don't know what to do...I am married with a man which I love..But he have his ex wife and 3 kids..We are happy, kids are coming to us he is going to see them everything is good.. Next week is his birthday... ex wife call him and she says the...
A. 5 October 2008: Why is he spending time with his ex & friends and not with you? Tell him you wanted to go for a meal or something then spring the surprise. Sorry, but you and him need to stand up to the ex and make sure she doesn't bully him or you. You should come ... (read in full...)
How do MALE teachers feel when female students develop crushes on them and it becomes obvious and apparent?
Q. Hey!! How do MALE teachers feel when female students develop crushes on them and it becomes obvious and apparent? Do they find it frustrating, time consuming etc. I'm asking this because i have fallen in love with a teacher who taught me...
A. 5 October 2008: Hun they probably feel scared for their job, embarrased and a little annoyed. As part of their training teachers are advised how to handle such situations. But if it goes on for long enough, and it isn't resolved, they may haave no choice but to ... (read in full...)
For the boys: What would you do if you found out your male room mate wore a thong???
Q. This is for the boys If You a male, shared a room with your best male mate and he was wearing a thong how would you react? Would you say something immediately or wait until the morning to say something to him, and would you make a reaction if yo...
A. 5 October 2008: I would relentlessly make fun of him, 24/7! Well at least to start! Seriously though, not sure why you have a problem with it? Live and let live-and don't knock it 'till you've tried it! Would I still sleep in the same bed? I wouldn't give a damn, ... (read in full...)
How do I get over this? I am so angry at him! Should I believe him? How do I move on?
Q. Three years a go my husband and I lost our daughter to a life long illness. When she was dying (the last year of her life) he could not handle it so he spent a lot of time in the bars. I have recently found out that he was acting very much like a ...
A. 5 October 2008: Hey there-sorry to her your story. It sounds like your husband is trying to come to terms with his grief by trying to shut it out and looking for some sort of solace. But you and I both probably know that he won't find what he's looking for in the ... (read in full...)
Love confusion? What do I start to do to get him out of my mind?
Q. So, i have liked this guy since the 8th grade. i was'nt allowed to date until i was 16, so we just had to wait. well 22 days after my 16th birthday we started datind and it lasted for about a month. i broke up with him for no apparent reason. (this ...
A. 5 October 2008: Gotta forget him - as you say, he's an a******. Dude, get out with your friends, have a great (and safe) time-pretty soon you'll be over him, after all, he's doing exactly that! There's plenty more decent guys out there who will treat you right-one ... (read in full...)
Is he stringing me along, or does he just find it hard to talk about emotions?
Q. I would love some views on my relationship situation. I have been seeing my boyfriend for just over a year. We are both late thirties/easrly forties, both divorced, and I have two children. He is very loving and affectionate when we are together, ...
A. 5 October 2008: Hey there! To me, from what you say, it seems like this guy likes you a lot. In my opinion, the 3 words aren't really the panacea - it's what he does rather than what he says. 'I love you' is so easy to say but so hard to show and make real. Sounds ... (read in full...)
Will he leave her and come back to me - even though I've filed for divorce?
Q. my husband an i after 4 years of marriage we getting devorce,i fall for my devorce papers 6months ago,we have 2 years old daughter,now we're separated,it all happend before 2 years when i discover that he was with another woman,anyway that story is ...
A. 5 October 2008: I'm afraid the answer is probably 'no'. It sounds likely that all you guys have now is sex now and again. This isn't unusual-certainly happened to me. Sooner or later, you'll have to stop sleeping with him and let him go-he'll probably continue to ... (read in full...)
How can I make him cum quicker?
Q. Hi, when I give my boyfriend a hand job I usually swap hands because my arm gets sore after a while... but recently I broke my arm, so I can't do this. Is there a way I can get my boyfriend to cum before my arm gets sore when I give him a ...
A. 5 October 2008: Hey there! I must admit your question made me smile! My ex-girlfriend also got sore arms! One way is to lubricate with massage/baby oil and concentrate on the tip, now and again, use the palm of your hand on top of the tip-but be gentle-it gets very ... (read in full...)
I'm in my own private hell over a married man I never let into my life. Why does doing the right thing hurt so bad?
Q. I am married. I began to have feelings for another man who is also married. He approached me for a relationship but I said nothing, not wanting to hurt him but also not wanting him to know about my feelings. I just could not bring myself to betray ...
A. 10 April 2008: Hey there! Well I posted a very similar question here a good few months ago now. So I guess I can comment from a position of some experience.
How and when you can move on from this depends on you-everyonee's different and will deal with stuff li... (read in full...)
Will only one emergency contraceptive pill have the right effect, as I've lost the second one?!
Q. I am 15 I have a urgent question about the emergency contraceptive pill. 3 nights ago I had unprotected sex and I don't think the guy came/ ejaculated. Just to be safe the next morning approx. 8 hours later I bought an emergency contraceptive ...
A. 8 April 2008: Hi there! I know things must be very scary for you right now. You really must see a Doctor or a clinic that you can go to in confidence-is there an older friend, aunt, teacher that you can speak to about this? Perhaps they can go with you? ... (read in full...)
I don't like public affection, but my boyfriend does. What should I do?
Q. I've never been one to like doing anything in public. Things that might make me look out of place. (Which is odd, because I am such a metalhead, wearing black band shirts, chains, spikes etc. [and just because I said that doesn't mean you get to ...
A. 8 April 2008: I had an ex like that, (not a metalhead, but the public affection bit!)...
Anyway, I'm not sure it should be something to worry about in particular-you're different people who like different things, even if you have lots in common! Just enjoy ea... (read in full...)
My ex cheated but he really, really loves me! I'm so confused....can it work?
Q. My ex cheated on me in september, and the girl he was with told me in december. he denied it.. i finaly got it out of him when i had solid evidence. i stayed with him, but broke up with him in january until march.... we were not really broken up, we ...
A. 8 April 2008: Hard as it may be, I'd say move on. There are (believe it or not) guys out there who would never do that to you and you deserve no less. You'll probably always have doubts if you stay with him-what kind of relationship would that be? Best of ... (read in full...)
How do I let him down gently without being too harsh?
Q. I used to date this guy (james) who, at the time i thought was wonderful - he treated me with respect and cared for me. Then he cheated, so i dumped him. I'd liked this other guy (steve) for a while when i was with james, and so i made a move on him ...
A. 8 April 2008: yeah, agree with the previous answer-tell him straight-don't even bother about the 'gently' thing-blokes tend not to 'get' that! don't be nasty tho' cos it can backfire-even if none of wot happened was down to you in the first place (blokes can be ... (read in full...)
How do I remind myself not to stare at other women?
Q. How do I remind myself not to stare at other women? My wife refuses to go in public with me because she feels so disrespected. It is an unconscious behavior for me that I always do even when she reminds me not to....
A. 8 April 2008: Easy-Just don't do it! Man, unless you have some 'issues' it really ain't that hard not to-or is it a symptom of something else? ... (read in full...)
We differ in our attitude to fidelity. What can I do here?
Q. I have been living with my girlfriend for 8 years now. She has 2 boys 10 and 12 years old that only really know me as their dad. We have had some rough times in the past, partly because she suffers from SAD (seasonal affective disorder) and partly ...
A. 8 April 2008: Maybe the very fact that you're asking the question answers the question you ask. I guess it comes down to how far you'll let it go. It seems obvious that she won't be faithful. Can you continue to handle that? And more to the point, even if y... (read in full...)
Why does it take days for a guy to call or text message you back?
Q. Why does it take days for a guy to call or text message you back? Does this often signify that he has a girlfriend? Or just super busy...or uninterested. ...
A. 8 April 2008: Hmmmm-good question! If it was me, being busy is no excuse. Not being interested is another matter! sometimes being seen to be too keen can be a hurdle for guys-ironically, especially if they really like you, they may take longer to respond! in f... (read in full...)
I work with a guy I really like, but now we can't even look at each other.
Q. Okay where to start, i met this lad around college and we also work together, was great we got chatting on myspace then he gave me msn was all going well, there was a college party there and it was also my birthday, i had a rather huge amount to ...
A. 8 April 2008: OK I know this probably sounds harsh but forget him. You don't want or need a guy like that-he's playing with your feelings and no decent guy would do that. Hold your head up high and put it down to experience. Why should you feel you can't wo... (read in full...)
What should I do about my exhusband who is lonely and very depressed...
Q. I ended a 20 year marriage over a year ago because my exhusband was often very difficult to talk to. He never really got on with our children either for the same reasons. I felt confused for many years being a very young mum and married too youn...
A. 8 April 2008: First of all, you shouldn't be feeling bad about what seems to me like the right decision. There's quite a lot going on here so I won't patronise you by attempting to answer all of it. What I will say is that I left my ex about six months ago ... (read in full...)
I discovered an e-mail my husband sent to a prostitute. He's agreed to a date in a hotel!!
Q. I have been married for 10 years. My husband has been loving and respectful. He has been working in the Middle east for the last 6 months, and I have seen him about once a month. But about a month ago, on the last visit home, something about his ...
A. 3 April 2008: I agree with the last 'aunt' - you've gotta confront him or it'll just tear you up more than it already has.
If he's a decent bloke, he should accept how you feel, take it on board and stop.
Truly sorry to hear that it's happening tho' - wish ... (read in full...)
Do you think you can fall in love that fast?
Q. I'm 15 and I have a awsome boyfriend he's all I could ever ask for . My friend has an awsome bf too. I swear to the good lord above that I fell in love with him in a week or two and My friend says she feels the same about her guy .... All of our ...
A. 3 April 2008: No, you can't always fall in love that fast...sometimes it's faster! It's staying in love that's the tricky bit!
Fingers crossed one day you friends will realise that too! ... (read in full...)
My unwanted boyfriend is literally in love with me....so how do I break it off?
Q. ok...well i have a new boyfriend everything was good at first...but now hes not attractive or anything to me anymore and i want to end it, but i dont know..and i like somebody alot. i kind of love them and they make me laugh, there sweet and just ...
A. 3 April 2008: do what my ex's did to me, just start ignoring him! he'll get the vibes and move on! oh and no mixed signals please (guys get really confused with that!)... (read in full...)
How do I get my equality and power back in this marriage, and how do I deal with his threats of divorce?
Q. Im in need of major advice: My hubby and I just got married last fall, and already he's been threatening with divorce. Begging of this year we have moved to the US due to his work and thus I am a housewife since I am unable to work since ...
A. 3 April 2008: I really, really feel for you.
OK, so I can't answer your question directly, I can only speak from my own experience. The fact that he's speaking about divorce and seems to be using that as a weapon, for whatever (it seems to me petty) reason, ... (read in full...)
Any advice on how to seduce her (the wife of my best friend) at the earliest?
Q. I am in love with wife of my best friend. She have two kids.I alwayes thinking about her.Ocasionally she touched me in normal maner.she hold my hand while she joking with me.Even she wanted to dance with me during valentine party in presence of her ...
A. 2 April 2008: hmmmm-seen a very similar 'question' a while ago.
you really don't have to ask-it's kinda obvious...... (read in full...)
Am I just kidding myself that we're good together?
Q. I have been with my bf for 3 years, I love him more then anything, but some times he really does talk down to me and I feel really low from this. If I spoke the same way to him, he seems to still be able to turn things around, and I still end up ...
A. 2 April 2008: Yes it does happen in other relationships but no, if he's not treating you as an equal, it doesn't sound quite right to me. I did the same thing to my ex until she made me realise what a pretentious git I was being and I know a female friend who had ... (read in full...)
Have I lost my lust for life?
Q. Please help.... I have been with my partner for 9 years and we can't stop fighting! We argue every day about sommthing - i am so bored in the relationship and i know he is too - we very quickly escalate into full hatred and he has called me so...
A. 3 November 2007: Having felt trapped too I can maybe understand how you're feeling. For me what it came down to was whether the love we had or didn't have was enough anymore. That's something you have to work out, head and heart. It ain't easy, That's for sure.... (read in full...)
How do I get a vibrator
Q. ive just turned 14. ive been masturbating for about a year and havent found my g-spot. i use the handle of a hairbrush, my fingers so massage my clit and the shower head. its fun and enjoyable but thats all. i cant seem to find my own way of doing ...
A. 3 November 2007: Apologies if I'm out of line here but isn't this question more than a little suspect? If not then I agree with previous advice (maybe overly cynical/cautious.)... (read in full...)
How do I get a vibrator
Q. ive just turned 14. ive been masturbating for about a year and havent found my g-spot. i use the handle of a hairbrush, my fingers so massage my clit and the shower head. its fun and enjoyable but thats all. i cant seem to find my own way of doing ...
A. 3 November 2007: Apologiesy if I'm out of line here but isn't this question more than a little suspect? If not then I agree with previous advice (maybe overly cynical/cautious.)... (read in full...)
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