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writes: My wife and I are separated, and I'm in love with her 34 year old daughter. I have not said anything to her daughter about the way I feel, except to tell her that I love her and respect her. Is this wrong if she loves me and we become a couple? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2008): My wife has hurt me badly; using drugs and other men and things I did not know; her daughter has been my support: I have grown to love her and feel that she is the woman for me. I know that people want understand, but these are real feelings not lust.
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reader, quarky  +, writes (5 October 2008):
 I have to say no. Chances are even if you do tell her how you feel, there won't be any given back. Plus the repercussions are too messy. Think of others more than youself...you simply have to sometimes...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2008): No strictly no no.U had physical as well as emotional bonding the time U married her MOM...WHY she married U...*agreed she needed a partner for sharing many things. & most imp one she needed a dad for daughter...U'r relation with her went kaput...it happens not in U'r hand but this NO MAN ...U'll breach from the law of GOD..Law of society...even if U find out some day that even U'r step daughter had same feelings...U have to take firm decision ..search a good hubby for U'r daughter believe U'll be a happy man after this act with no guilts....but if U do vice versa there will be life long guilt attached to U....U'll break many individuals............a single young lady with baby girl will never think abt remarriage....a step daughter'll never respect her dad..............so on
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2008): I am guessing you are her step-father? Well, if you want to know the "rightness" or "wrongness" of the situation, most people hearing of such a pairing would be appalled. However, take a look at Woody Allen, it happened and worked in his case.She is 34 and is an adult and therefore can make her own decisions. But you must put your own feelings aside for a moment and consider the situation you could put her in by admitting your feelings. If she has mutual feelings for you and you did become a couple, it would severely damage the relationship she has with her mother and probably the rest of the family. Her choice would be you in trade of her mother, the good opinions of the family and the disgust she would receive from most of society.She probably took your compliments of admiration for her as fatherly or friendly encouragement and reinforcement. She probably had no idea that the comments were suggestive of the different feelings you have.Either way, if you admit your feelings relationships will end and people will be embarrassed. Your choice, but I suggest looking for dating partners outside of the circle of family that you have been separated from.
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