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anonymous
writes:Why does it take days for a guy to call or text message you back? Does this often signify that he has a girlfriend? Or just super busy...or uninterested.
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reader, LazyGuy  + ♥, writes (10 April 2008):
 A simple reason might be that he doesn't have a clue what to reply.
He might not even realize a reply is needed. If he ain't into chit-chat normally, he won't be likely to send meaningless text messages either.
Just offering another possible reason besides the ones already mentioned.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): I would take it to mean he isn't interested. And the reason he isn't interested could be because he has a girlfriend. If a guy likes you he will text you or call you right back. So don't worry about it if he doesn't. It just means you are not meant to be.
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reader, Ask oldersister + ♥, writes (8 April 2008):
 If he didn't call when he said he would, I would let this one go- he's not interested enough to follow through on what he says.
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reader, cari  +, writes (8 April 2008):
 well i know its hard but wait and see if he txts ya or call u as he said he wud,i mean if u have only went on a date with this lad,he said he would txt u and he didnt u ar better off lettin him go now that the whole "u nd him" ting is only new,believ me it only gets worse,if he hasnt txted u he is proba not that interested coz if he is interested and hes jus playing hard to get hes gonna call u sooner or later,so just be patient,just remember not to chase after him,fellas love wat dey cant have and if he knows hes got u hes gonna go to the next one!i was abit harsh but its the truth i hope it helps.XxXxX lots of luv
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): If he said he'd call and he doesn't, maybe he is a space cadet. After an hour or two, call him (or text).
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwow thanks for the quick replies, basically, in this hyper connected world, im not used to going days and days with out a reply or phone call back. ive never worked this hard to get a guy! Never ever! he said hed call this afternoon but never did! argh! the insanity...and now my roommates tell me he must have a mrs. at home that he is sneaking behind...
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reader, quarky  + ♥, writes (8 April 2008):
Hmmmm-good question!If it was me, being busy is no excuse. Not being interested is another matter! sometimes being seen to be too keen can be a hurdle for guys-ironically, especially if they really like you, they may take longer to respond! in fact, being too keen to reply could mean that they're not interested in a meaningful relationship!That may sound confusing but in my opinion, the longer a guy takes to respond, the more thought they've given...probably a good thing. Not always true tho'-gotta watch for the players!You're female and we're simply not that complicated-you'll work it out I'm sure!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): Just my opinion, but I feel like if a guy doesn't call back fairly soon then he's just not that into you. Its been my personal experience that a guy who is really interested will not do this.
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reader, Ask oldersister + ♥, writes (8 April 2008):
I'm not a guy, but sometimes I don't text back at all or return phone calls for a few days unless I have plans with someone. With texting, it's not a primary means of communication so I wouldn't expect someone to reply back to you unless you ask them a direct question. Guys aren't attached to the phone like a lot of women are and if you've just met this guy or started dating him, I would hold off on all the texting and see him in person more.
This is a much better indicator of how interested he is or if his interests lie elsewhere.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): Could be all the above, or just a typical guy, absent minded. He could also be trying to avoid being needy, clinging, that he doesn't want to over whelm you, and end up turning you off.
Next time he calls, ask "for some reason I thought you would have called on xxx". Communication is important.
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