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Full time worker at ze 'ollywood Bowl.

20 years old

I've got a great passion for art i love it. always been interested in drawing but recently taken more of an interest in painting. My walls are now covered in them :)

I'm also into tattoo's and peircings. I like most tattoos but don't really like tribal ones....just because it's something people tend to get for the sake of it and tis a bit boring :S

Spend alot of my time with the boyfriend but always make time for my friends and family cos where would i be without them? :)

Shopping has become a big thing for me atm....which has led to me being quite skint :/ so i should probably cut down on that hobby...

Anyway must dash, Byeeee!


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Shouldnt he put a little bit more effort in now that we are together in a long distance relationship?

Q.   When I was 16 me and this guy dated for one year, we used to go the same school and he was my first love and I was his.. We really loved each other. We were too young and we ended up breaking with each other. However, we managed to stay best friends ...

A.   8 January 2010: Right....It's difficult because in every relationship you have to comprimise with each other but the thing is how much should you have to change in order to please someone? I believe that he should be making more effort to speak to you. because if ... (read in full...)

Oral sex, pregnancy, fingering ??

Q.   Can u get preganant thru fingering because we have had oral sex me n me bf but not sex and i am 15 days late on my period? Please tell me the truth I am so scared am 15I don't want to be pregnant spesh when my bf is 17 and I don't want him to be ...

A.   5 April 2009: no you can't. The only way that can happen is if he had cum on his hand.... (read in full...)

Met him by chance, liked him a lot, he was supposed to call, didn't, should I try to find him?

Q.   I recently visited a city where a friend lives about 100 miles away from where I live. we went out that night and while looking for another friend a guy began talking to me in friendly banter. I immediatley liked him (very much a first for me) and ...

A.   16 February 2009: I think you should go to the bar and accidently on purpose bump into him. what harm can it do? anything could of happened for him to not call. you can usually tell if they arent that intrested but from what you've said it seems like he was. he might ... (read in full...)

My b/f is so unromantic!

Q.   this is now getting 2 my nerves,my boyfriend is soo unromantic,like on valentines,he didnt get me anything,i feel so sad and jealousy when i see how other gals r treated special. what can i do to change him and upgrade him because this sometime...

A.   16 February 2009: I think you need to tell him how you feel because he's the one that has the best answer for you out of everyone especially as you see such a serious future with him. At the end of the day if hes not romantic... but you want that, then maybe it isnt ... (read in full...)

B/f can't focus beyond where his brain stops processing

Q.   My b/f is not very experienced in the sex department. Although he seems to know what he is doing, he is still very unsure of a lot. Especially for his age. :o( So here's the thing. I've told him a few times that my fav. thing is to be fingered. ...

A.   16 February 2009: just sounds like he's being a bit thick. i think its one of those things where after time of being told no! he will learn the times when you want it and when you dont. then it should be ok. maybe you should explain that its more something like ... (read in full...)

At what point in a relationship do you reveal your past?

Q.   At what point in a relationship do you reveal your past? I'm 20 yrs. old and this is really my first attempt at a serious relationship. I was a troubled teen. I used drugs and alcohol. I became sexually active at 14 and had literally dozens of ...

A.   20 November 2008: tell him briefly what ur past is like. just dont lie or anything and noone can argue. just ask urself would you like him to come clean if his past was like that? but theres nothing sayin you have to tell him....only if e asks... (read in full...)

Help! Sex questions need answered!

Q.   ok, heres the deal, my bf wants me to give him a handjob/blojob, but 1; i dont know how, im afraid i might not do it right nd 2; i dont know what cum tastes like. can someone help me out please?...

A.   29 October 2008: different blokes have different tastin come. i think it depends on their diet. but its not the best tastin thing lol! i recommend not swallowing it or anything. you dont have to let him come in ur mouth. u basically suck aswell as go bk and forth. ... (read in full...)

I told my girl cousin that I am in love with her...

Q.   I told my girl cousin that i am in love with her...and now i regret it. Let me tell a few things about myself: I am an 18 year old boy and i am love with my 19 year old cousin. This might be a long and confusing story, so i will apprecia...

A.   28 October 2008: AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW. I dont think it's wrong to fall in love with your cousin. but you are related and its likely you'l be close cos will be similar in ways. so it might feel like you have fallen for her. you never know she might of been feeling ... (read in full...)

My brother has so much porn on his PC I was shocked!

Q.   Hello, so I've just had the shock of my life, this is how it starts I'm 14 and my computer for some reason today started playing up saying stuff about antivirus and doing weird stuff, so i knew it needed to be fixed, i'm really good with compute...

A.   28 October 2008: i really do think your over reacting. its not that big of deal. many people go on the sites. maybe he's just tryin to find himself. i've been on porn sites before. and i know other people have aswell. its probably just curiosity and its likely he'l ... (read in full...)

I'm worried I'm missing out on something huge this weekend.....or do I really wanna jsut bump into the ex?!

Q.   My prob sounds a bit silly but its getting me down!! Ok, theres a big event on saturday night which EVERYONE is going to except me. My ex, his new gf, my mates and basically everyone is going. I cant go cos tickets have sold out and couldnt go even ...

A.   23 October 2008: i think curiosity is gettin you want to see what will happen if you go and bump into ur ex and his gf. think we all do it. i still go to the pub and wonder if il bump into mine and in some way i feel like i want to bump into him. so ... (read in full...)

Sometimes I feel so unhappy with my boyfriend I just want to get out!

Q.   I'm really so confused is it normal. Me and my bf (22) are dating for a year and half now, but most of the time he do things that make me feel so awful, sad and just unhappy, that I just want to get out of this relationship during these difficult ...

A.   23 October 2008: Every relationship has its up and downs. The slightest thing can make a person change their mind on certain things. He may want to marry you but think its best to wait until he is older. But if its not what you want then maybe this relationship ... (read in full...)

Strange vagina!

Q.   Hi, I am a teen and I have had my fair share of boys, I have messed around like kissing etc and I'll do anything to him but as soon as he goes to touch me I hesitate and tell him to stop. There is a reason for this, I believe I have a weird vagina. ...

A.   21 October 2008: yeah dont worry about it. i think i know what long bits ur on about. but take that girls advice and look on the internet and u will see that everyone is different!x... (read in full...)

Why don't my parents like me...?

Q.   I'm 13 and the youngest in my family. Sometimes I feel forgotten or like my parents don't really care about me. Throughout my childhood I've always felt different and like I don't really belong. My parents get mad at me easily. I remember when I ...

A.   21 October 2008: awww hun! you really REALLY need to tell them how you feel. try and get your mum on her own and tell her. or ask her if she can take you out somewhere and talk to her about it. she might not relaise what they are acting like. being a parent is the ... (read in full...)

Why can he never "finish" when we have sex? Is it me?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for a few months, and have had sex 3 times. The first time was the day after he tried blow. The second time I asked him if there was anything I can do, if there was something wrong, etc. He said he didn't k...

A.   20 October 2008: why are you going on about drugs? is that what you mean by blow? :S my boyfriend had that same problem and i just asked him about it. And he said he's been like it with everyone. most of the time he finishes but some times he doesnt and like you ... (read in full...)

I'm a virgin and worried she has too high expectations of me, sexually! Any ideas?

Q.   ok well i think ive found the rite girl that i want to lose my virginity to...the only problem is she thinks im going 2 b real great durin our 1st time. Can u help me out? Ur advice could help me out alot...

A.   17 October 2008: just tell her how you feel. if she really is the right person then she will understand. the first timne is never really great. its awkward.... (read in full...)

I accidentally hit her with a ball in gym, and now there are rumors going around that I hit her!!

Q.   Me and my girlfriend have the same gym class. We ended up partners for volley ball. We were just passing the ball to each other. I already throw the ball when one of her friends said hi to her which lost her attention for a moment. The ball hit her ...

A.   9 October 2008: lol does she know you didnt do it on purpose cos if so thats all tht matters. normally if u show a reaction to people sayin stuff they will carry on. so just tell them straight.... (read in full...)

What's the best thing to do when you get slagged off at school all the time?

Q.   What do you do when you get hurt by people slagging you a lot at school? xx...

A.   9 October 2008: its like that in school. but i bet you'll see them years after u leave school and they will have a proper coversation with you. its normally the way. i hated people in my school but now when i see people they're actually alright. just try and ... (read in full...)

Should I ask my best friend?

Q.   Me and my best friend have been really close, she makes me smile and help her when she's down. My little sister recently started to get to know her and they've become fast friends. But she started telling me that me and best friend seem like we ...

A.   8 October 2008: hmmmm. think about it carefully first. are you just wondering because of what ur sister said? are you just wishing there's something there? im only sayin cos me and my best mate thought we could be something more and it just fucked up completely and ... (read in full...)

Is it too early to tell him I love him?

Q.   ok i am 21 yrs old i know this sounds dumb, i am afriad to tell my boyfriend i love him. if i love him i should just tell him, but i am really scared. i am already crying. it was four months ago that he held my hand for the first time, and i guess ...

A.   8 October 2008: just say it! if you feel this strongly then its more than likely that he feels the same way. i said i love you to my ex after a week! its was scary but i just blurted it out but thankfully he said it back. it was that good that we even got engaged. ... (read in full...)

Do you think there is something wrong with him?

Q.   Hi guys I was just wondeing if you think this situation is normal. I have been dating a guy for 3 months who is 32. I just found out im his first girlfriend EVER. This explains why the sex was lousey at the start (he was a virgin but never told me, ...

A.   8 October 2008: maybe he didnt see the point if he didnt think they were right for him.... (read in full...)

Will the first time hurt?

Q.   Me and my boyfriend are planning on having sex for the first time, since im a virgin im scared to know whether i will bleed or it will hurt as ive heard from my friends, im totally ready for sex just have my worries that it will hurt, does your ...

A.   8 October 2008: just go slowly. and use lube. u prob will bleed. i didnt cos i was already broken...but it did hurt a bit.... (read in full...)

I don't know if it's right for me to always ask my boyfriend for sex, as I am always in the mood, could he lose interest in me?

Q.   I have a sexual problem: i dont know if its right to always ask my boyfriend to have sex with me and i want him to do it everyday how can i stop this before he loses intrest in me?...

A.   8 October 2008: i had that with my ex. but ye i agree just do other things aswell. my mate who is a bloke said that sometimes he feels like girls use him for sex...and he actually seemed pretty upset about it.x ... (read in full...)

Did my ex return to me because I paid someone to do spells??

Q.   this is a bit of a random question but, i broke up with my ex last year and even after having no contact from all that time i couldnt move on, although he had, so i decided casting a few spells would bring him back to me, i payed someone to do it, ...

A.   8 October 2008: be careful. stuff like that makes you believe things that arent really there. but in this case it sounds all good :) be happy... (read in full...)

Is there a way to share your sadness with a girl without looking like a wimp?

Q.   I went out with my girlfriend the other week and I was really depressed about some stuff going on at home. But instead of telling her about it I just pretended I was having fun. I'm really scared to tell her when I'm sad cause she might judge me ...

A.   8 October 2008: she will probably like you more if you tell her. and feel important that you've chosen her to tell about it! it will bring you closer together if u share something personal. and you will feel better about it. its not pathetic if its something thats ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend always acts goofy, how can I motivate her to be more reasonable?

Q.   I like my girlfriend but she can get pretty goofy sometimes! Like one night we were making out and I though she was going to give me a hickie but instead she blew rasberries on my neck. And then another time we were having sex and she karate chopped ...

A.   8 October 2008: Just tell her straight. cos eventually it will get too annoying and you will go off her anyway so you might as well save it and say to her about it. Every now and then it's ok to be goofy but ye ....not all the time.... (read in full...)

I saw my ex's girlfriend naked on some other guy's mobile phone! Do I tell my ex?

Q.   I'm a 25 year old woman and am totally stumped on this one so please give your opinion, my ex boyfriend who I really care about and still love has moved on with his life and got himself a new girlfriend, I'm okay with that to a degree but I won't ...

A.   8 October 2008: you should tell him but tell him the full story so that its believable. make sure he knws that u dont mind him being ina realtionship and would be happy for him (even if its not true) but just think he should know the truth about this one! cos he ... (read in full...)

I feel he is having second thoughts about a relationship as he has become most distant and angry over nothing apparent.

Q.   I have recently split with my partner of one year. I am quite upset by this yes, however his best friend told me that he would be interested in starting a relationship with me. Having had strong feelings for him in the past I said I would be most ...

A.   8 October 2008: Just leave it. Doesn't sound worth it if he can't understand what you said. OR he might have realised how shitty it would be of him to get with you because of his mate. There's certain rules about that, so now he's decided to back off.... (read in full...)

What's the best thing to do when you get slagged off at school all the time?

Q.   What do you do when you get hurt by people slagging you a lot at school? xx...

A.   8 October 2008: why are they slagging you off? did you do something to cause it? ... (read in full...)

How often do women think of their previous lovers? I'm worried she will compare me to her ex'es!

Q.   I have been dating a girl and we had sex for the first time the other day but I came really quick and I don't think she was satisfied. I was a virgin before that but she had slept with other guys. I just want to know, will she be comparing me with...

A.   6 October 2008: yeah they do. but i wouldnt worry about it. if she knows you were a virgin she should understand. the more you do it the better it will get. try not to think about ex's. as you get older everyone u get with is likely to have an ex. you just have to ... (read in full...)

Could he tell I was a virgin?

Q.   I was too ashamed to tell this guy I was a virgin and we ended up in bed, he fingered me (which hurt!) then put on a condom and we went to have sex. Thing is he kept losing his erection (from coming quite a lot before and being on medication for a ...

A.   6 October 2008: there have been plenty of times ive wished i was a virgin! seriously a bloke that is worth being with will probably like the fact your a virgin. its something to be proud of not ashamed of. and anyway blokes like the thought of a girl who hasnt ha... (read in full...)

Why do I go soft at the critical moment?

Q.   Hi, my girlfriend and i have been together for about 2 years (on and off). Im 16 and she's 15. its a little concern of mine which could turn into a majour concern. We've done stuff other than sex and its all gone fine but when it comes to interco...

A.   6 October 2008: use some extra lubricant to get it in. and i find puttin on a condom ruins the mood cos its like hmmm yeah hold that thought while i do this. but i respect u for using them. why dont you get her to put it on then she can touch u at the same time. it ... (read in full...)

Am I being paranoid about my boyfriend?

Q.   Thanks for read my post, my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 8 months, he is a very good guy, he does everything to make me happy, we have strong feelings for each other, but my problem with him is his lack of planning our dates, we ...

A.   6 October 2008: i know how that feels when you seem like the one doing all the work. it seems liek if you dont arrange it nothign will happen and they wont actually bother? but i think maybe its just men! lol. like my bloke works with me and because of different ... (read in full...)

My husband never shows me any affection...

Q.   I had a beautiful love cum arranged marriage (my husband was engaged to other gal he didn't like, went against whole family took 3 to 4 years solid to convince all ..its so romantic and like movie story)...its been 2 years..Ive a baby even from ...

A.   6 October 2008: awwww thats really harsh! i feel sorry for you. have you told him how you feel? if you dont want to break up or anything then u have to be straight with him and tell him how you feel or you'll jsut be miserable. dont stick with it cos of what other ... (read in full...)

What can couples do under 16 without going on the wrong side of the law?

Q.   My girlfriend and I r both 14 and we both love eachothers company. But once we we were both at a sleep over at a friends house and we ended up sleeping in each others arms, with me wearing nothing but boxers. Neither of us minded excpt that one of ...

A.   5 October 2008: i was wrong. basically you cant do anything like that. but there's the link and it says the consequences so watch out!... (read in full...)

If a guy's fiancee makes out topless with another guy, is she cheater? Is she immoral?

Q.   If a guy's fiance makes out topless with another guy in his bed when her fiance lives in another part of the state, is she a cheater? A s__t??...

A.   5 October 2008: she might just be really confused!! i used to be with someone in the army and he went to iraq and i was a complete mess. i loved him so much but couldnt take it. i ended up actually tryin to fall for someone else. it was really wrong but i was bit ... (read in full...)

I can't decide between two guys...

Q.   i cant decide between two guys! one is 3 years older than me, a complete sweetheart, my potential soul mate BUT THERE ARE NO BUTTERFLIES!!! he has just appeared in my life after transferring up from down south. we went on this amazing spontane...

A.   5 October 2008: i would deff date the first one! if u dont want him send him my way ;) lol na but seriously. you dont have to have butterflies. i never get them. but i used to worry so much about the fact that i didnt. i used to when i was younger. i got them over ... (read in full...)

He displays all the signs of being gay, do you think he is?

Q.   I'm a girl. There's a guy in my class that's always hugging other guys and touching them awkwardly. Also, he talks like a girl (he has a guy voice but he talks like how a girl would talk) and sometimes he walks with his hand on his hip. He's never ...

A.   5 October 2008: blimey i swear all the blokes i work with act gay but theyre not. even today they were groping eachother and pretendin to have sex. so goes to show that sometimes it doesnt mean anything. maybe you should just ask him. if your that good mates with ... (read in full...)

For the boys: What would you do if you found out your male room mate wore a thong???

Q.   This is for the boys If You a male, shared a room with your best male mate and he was wearing a thong how would you react? Would you say something immediately or wait until the morning to say something to him, and would you make a reaction if yo...

A.   5 October 2008: haha sorry i know u said this is for boys but ah well.why does it matter if he wears a thong. my gosh my ex had a drawer full of them. just for a laugh. and i know he wore them!! he probably doesnt care. just say 'mate whats with the thong'... (read in full...)

Could there be something missing from my marriage?

Q.   Hi Let me start by saying I'm happily married. We've been together for over 11 years. My husband is the best man on Earth and the best thing that ever happend to me. We work hard, both travel a lot, made good careers and have had no time for kids...

A.   5 October 2008: your worrying too much. and seem like your wanting someone to tell you its ok. it is ok to have a crush! as long as it doesnt go any further. my mum used to facy my little sisters primary school head master! god knows why! he isnt even good looking ... (read in full...)

My new neighbour is drop dead gorgeous! Should I ask him out???

Q.   Hello there Dear Cupid's....I'm 40 have been divorced for 11 years, have had a few relationships since but nothing I consider special. My children are now late teens, so I'm pretty much a free agent. Well...about 6 months ago a new neighbour moved ...

A.   5 October 2008: wow wouldnt it of been cool if u did run him over but not badly then nursed him back to health ;) dont go tryin to run him over though mind.... just pretend to be really confident!!just ask him out what have you got to lose. if he pisses you off ... (read in full...)

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