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writes:my bf told me he doesnt love me the way i love him but then he explained and said to me that he meant to say he doesnt like me the way i like him. so whats the difference? doesnt that mean the same thing... like or love me. im confuse please help.. Reply to this Question
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reader, PatientlyWaiting1 +, writes (24 January 2011):
Okay...this is what you do if you want to keep him. It is time to focus on other things. That does not mean you love him less. Start trying to read a book a week. Go into a private area away from him everyday for 1 1.5 hours or so. You will have more to talk to him about if you are reading. Also, a few times a week go out with your friends. You live together so you made a huge step. Do not mess it up by being all over him.
My boyfriend told me that I was overwhelming. He said that a while ago, years, but that still didn't stop me. HE eventually left me for someone who "doesn't complain about every little thing." That devistated my life! My first broken heart. Just pull back now. That does not mean you ignore him just do not initiate any cuddling or kisses. But do be receptive of his advantages.
He definitely needs space right now so just give it to him. I know it hurts, but do it for your relationship and baby :) feel free to message me if you have other questions or need to vent! Good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes your very right about lot of things..no we dint break up we live togther and im pregnant by hem so i was just anting to know what he meant..i do show hem to much attentio and im always all over hem thats just the way i am i tryed hard to not do that but i just cant help to keep my hands off of hem...that happend last night and today i kinda feel diffrnt about hem because im hurt he sayed that but hes been very affectionate torwards me iv just been ignoring hem becauss idk what to think or do.
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reader, PatientlyWaiting1 +, writes (23 January 2011):
Did he say this as he was breaking up with you? It seems that he said love by a mistake. His feelings may not have grown into a true love for you. He changed it to like because he likes you but it seems you like him more.
If I had to guess, I would say that you show him too much attiention and you may revolve your life around him. Forgive me if I am wrong. It seems like he may feel overwhelmed by you. Are you clingy? Sometimes women easily become a bit of a smotherer without noticing. It seems like he does not want to hurt your feelings. I would suggest you pull back and let him contact you most of the time and move at his pace. You may be moving too fast. Hope that helps.
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