Should I tell him I slept with someone else when we broke up?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years. He as always had a jealousy problem as well as a bad temper. HE has called me every name in the book. He is very spoiled but he also has a lot of issues with his family. I know that he loves ...
A. 19 May 2009: I wouldn't volunteer the information to him since you two were broken up at the time, but don't lie to him if he asks.
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To cheat? Or not to cheat?
Q. I'm happily married but have been texting this friend for the last couple of months. The texts have been very intimate and very flirty! We have both established this turns us both on and subsequently are finding that our sex lives with our parnters ...
A. 19 May 2009: Would it be okay with you if your loving husband slept with another woman?
I mean he probably really loves you just as much as you love him, if not more, but he really has all of this sexual chemistry with a fantastic looking girl at the office a... (read in full...)
Why does it seem like certain people get all the sex in the world?
Q. Well I am getting older and I am still a virgin. I am about to go to college, so hopefully I will meet someone at some point in the next few years. I was just wondering why it seems like there are a few people who get a TON of sex, and others ...
A. 18 May 2009: That answer from the last male anon is right on the money.
Up until I was twenty-five I looked for love before sex.
I found neither. Once I decided to just go after sex I found both.
Hell, I even turned down a few sexual offers in high schoo... (read in full...)
A poll regarding virginity
Q. I am wondering at what age most people lost their virginity? This is a really interesting subject to me and I am just curious, I googled it and it says the average age is 16, but thats seems a little old to me. It also said like only half of the ...
A. 18 May 2009: 25... (read in full...)
Why does it seem like certain people get all the sex in the world?
Q. Well I am getting older and I am still a virgin. I am about to go to college, so hopefully I will meet someone at some point in the next few years. I was just wondering why it seems like there are a few people who get a TON of sex, and others ...
A. 18 May 2009: That answer from the last male anon is right on the money. Up until I was twenty-five I looked for love before sex. I found neither. Once I decided to just go after sex I found both. Hell, I even turned down a few sexual offers in high ... (read in full...)
Fiancee says we are never going to have sex!
Q. Me and my fiancee have been together for about 7 months, and we love either other very much, but she told me that we are never going to have sex. I love her and i would never cheat on her. but it is getting to me. We used to fool around but lately ...
A. 18 May 2009: You mean no sex before marraige, or no sex ever?
Does she want children? How does she expect to have any if she never has sex?... (read in full...)
Get over the issue? Or get over the girl?
Q. I have been in a relationship for 1 year and 5 months. I feel at this point that i was in over my head when i got together with my current girlfriend. I fell in love early in the relationship before i really got to know her. Before the rel...
A. 18 May 2009: This girl sounds like she's playing you for the fool. Any self-respecting girl would go through the roof if their boyfriend was sending sexual texts to another girl. She knows what she is doing is wrong. She just thinks she can snow you and do ... (read in full...)
Would sex be better for him if I acted more like a porn star?
Q. Would sex be better for him if I acted more like a porn star? We usually have great sex and I can tell he loves it, but I've noticed how in porn, women always moan quite noticeably. I understand this is all fake because there's no way that a woman ...
A. 15 May 2009: Satindesire,
Once again you nailed it. I couldn't agree with you more.
Nothing turns me on more than watching my partner going after what she wants in bed and truly enjoying sex.
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I love my wife but hate being married
Q. i have been mairred for about two years and have a kid on the way i love my wife but at the same time i hate being mairred we are not on the same page when it comes to sex i love it and want to try anything and i want it all the time and she is not ...
A. 13 May 2009: What was the sex like before you got married? Did you know she was like this before you proposed?... (read in full...)
When is an appropriate time to take it to the next level?
Q. Ok, so i've been seeing a guy for about 3 weeks. Last week, I went to his house and things got a bit steamy. We were kissing and our hands were all over each other and he went 'down there' with his hand and I was literally soaking. Is this a turn ...
A. 12 May 2009: I would find it a huge turn on. Knowing I got a girl that worked up for me would put me on top of the world. There isn't such a thing as "too wet" in my book.
Would you ever be worried about a guy getting too hard for you? I don't think so. ... (read in full...)
She cheated, and I left but now she will not leave me alone!!
Q. I just recently broke up with my girfriend of 5 years. She had an affair with a co-worker last year, and I almost left her then. But I confronted her about it, and she begged me not to leave her. Well we worked things out, and I thought things were ...
A. 27 April 2009: Holy God! That's insane! Run from this girl as fast as you can. I guess she's just trying to see how much of a doormat you are. Don't let her manipulate you. Get a restraining order if she keeps stalking you.
I'm sorry this happened to you, but... (read in full...)
Feeling insecure about my bf watching porn, would us watching it together help?
Q. I've been living with my boyfriend for almost 4 months now and we've been together for about a year. I had always assumed that he watched porn, and I've never had any issues with it because I know most people do (myself included). Although I've ...
A. 15 April 2009: I don't think watching porn together will help. You'll see him getting turned on by the girls on the screen and be even more insecure. I definitely don't think it has anything to do with him coming so quickly either. If he was watching a lot o... (read in full...)
She blames me for her lack of interest in sex but now she is meeting up with her ex!
Q. Hi I have been married now for 5 months and it all appears to be going wrong. we seem to have had 4 major arguments in the past 2 weeks, resulting in her telling me that shes had enough and it cant go on. we talked and managed to sort things o...
A. 15 April 2009: Your wife is giving you absolutely no respect here. She is acting completely inappropriate. You need to ask her why she married you in the first place. If she wanted to get drunk and snog her ex, she should have stayed single. You've given h... (read in full...)
Is my 36 year old boyfriend sexually retarded?
Q. Im 24, he is 35. We have been dating for 5 months and moved in together 2 months ago. The first few months we had sex just about every day; it was really good and lasted a while. We often tried different positions and kept it fun. For about a mo...
A. 15 April 2009: I just want to chime in again and say that Annalisa has given you a great answer here. You definitely need to get him to open up and talk to you straight about this. She also has a great point that he may just need a little more personal space t... (read in full...)
Is my 36 year old boyfriend sexually retarded?
Q. Im 24, he is 35. We have been dating for 5 months and moved in together 2 months ago. The first few months we had sex just about every day; it was really good and lasted a while. We often tried different positions and kept it fun. For about a mo...
A. 15 April 2009: He's definitely sending up some red flags here. Sometimes when guys throw their all into the beggining of a relationship, they let other things get pushed aside. This happens to me in my relationships. When we try to focus on those other thin... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has cheated 6 times and I don't know how to get him to stop
Q. I just found out that my boyfriend has cheated on me yet again. This is the 6th time that this has happened and I keep taking him back. The girl called me and said that he was with her on Valentines day when he told me that he had to work. I found ...
A. 14 April 2009: You don't get him to stop cheating on you, you dump him!
He's cheated on you 6 times and you've took him back each time. He won't stop cheating on you. Why would he? He knows if you find out he will just say he's sorry and you'll take him back.
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He still has porn in his computer. I feel like I cant trust him anymore
Q. i was looking through my husbands computer and i found some porn movies i was shocked because i thought he stopped watching long time ago what should i do ? i will talk to him about , but how can i make sure that he doesn't watch again ? i feel like ...
A. 10 April 2009: Hmmmm, I highly recommend going to see a marraige counselor together. By the way you are treating your husband, whether or not he deserves it, you are only increasing your chances that his eye will wander back to porn or worse a real human girl. ... (read in full...)
Chances of her being pregnant?
Q. My fiance and I had sex last night, we normally pull out but she was on top and we couldn't coordinate fast enough when I came so the first couple shots ended up getting inside her. It wasn't much and she went to the bathroom and washed out. Could ...
A. 9 April 2009: By the way, trying to wash it out will only push the sperm further into the vagina. This happened to a friend and nine months later he had a son. The pull out method is not very reliable at preventing pregnancy. ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin ... mind is willing but flesh isn't :-(
Q. i am a virgin.., and my girlfriend wants to have sex..., and so do i, i love her a lot.., and i don't have a problem with it...but every time that i am about to put it in... i just loose my erection.. its there another time i need it but, idk i just ...
A. 7 April 2009: Its most likely performance anxiety. The same thing happened to me when I lost my virginity. Once you stop worrying about it, you'll get the erection. Its just nerves. Trust me. If you couldn't get one at all, then it could be medical, but th... (read in full...)
I'm loose. Will my future husband be put off by this?
Q. Dear Angony Aunt, I am a 17 year-old high school senior. Last summer I lost my technical virginity. Since then I have had sex with six guys.I start college in the fall and I expect to bed a different guy every Friday and Saturday night.Do you thi...
A. 6 April 2009: Wow, It would hurt like hell for me.
My fiance' is a wonderful and loving person, but her promiscuity in the past is something that hurts me emotionally on a daily basis. I contemplate leaving on an almost daily basis.
This question really ... (read in full...)
How to tell my husband
Q. About 6 months ago me and my husband were having problems with money and we have a daughter 9 months old. He works long hours working, I was feeling lonley one night as my daughter woulnd't stop crying so I contacted my ex just for company he made ...
A. 6 April 2009: I trully can't beleive how many people on this site think its perfectly acceptable to cheat on a spouse and then hide it from them! How can people say as long as you feel "bad" about its fine! I guess that means you can commit whatever crime y... (read in full...)
My new boyfriend wants me to get an abortion, should I marry my ex and tell him the baby is his?
Q. I am pregnant by my new boyfriend of three months. I we always used condoms except on one occassion. I have another child out of wedlock. When I told him, he told me to terminate it, but am not sure if I want to do that. I sugested we get married ...
A. 3 April 2009: Wow, if you are honestly capable of sleeping with your ex just to trick him into thinking he is the father, then I can certainly see why he didn't marry you in the first place.
I hope he gets a DNA test if you do decide to keep the baby.
I me... (read in full...)
Am I boring because I don't like to go clubbing?
Q. Hi, i don't really like going clubbing but i do socialize alot in different ways i go to house parties and like meet new people quite often but clubbing just isn't my scene. because i don't like clubbing does this mean i am boring? ...
A. 2 April 2009: No, not at all. It just means you have a mind of your own. Independent thinking can be very attractive. Don't ever worry about doing something just because everyone else does.
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What does "you are so sweet" mean?
Q. Can someone please give some input into this scenario? Especially can someone please advisie on what is meant by "sweet" I am from continental Europe and wondered what definition was meant by this? I've been chatting to this girl at the gym...
A. 1 April 2009: It means that you are firmly planted in the what we in the United States call the "friend zone".
Its a polite way of saying that she appreciates the flattery but she is looking for nothing more than a platonic friendship.
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Girlfriend plans to attend her ex-boyfriend's wedding (without me)! So upsetting!
Q. recently i found out something about my gf's sexual past with one of her ex's that was TMI and in my opinion, borderline deal-breaker. we've talked about it a couple times and was making good tracks on moving past it because i think she's worth it, ...
A. 31 March 2009: My question is how does this guy's fiance' feel about having someone that her future husband has slept with at her wedding?
I know my fiance' would not appreciate that at all. I wouldn't dream of having someone I was previously intimate with at ... (read in full...)
26 and I haven't been with anyone :-(
Q. I need some help/advice. I am 26 years of age and have never had a boyfriend or intimate with a guy if you catch my drift. I have kissed one guy recently and I kinda liked it but I ended up pulling away because he made me feel how excited he was, ...
A. 26 March 2009: Its your virginity to give up, but what if you meet the man of your dreams next month. Would you regret wasting it on this guy?
If the answers is no then go for it, but you've held out for this long, might as well make it special. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't like to be touched and doesn't talk to me
Q. are there guys out there that don't like to be touched snuggling? and what do you do when you have a boyfriend that is quiet and don't like to be touched and really does not talk to you...
A. 26 March 2009: Find another boyfriend. ... (read in full...)
Proper grammar please!!!
Q. this is not to do with relationships or anything like that but i just had to point it out: why doesn't anybody use grammar properly on this website or anywhere else! nobody seems to know the difference between to and too or between there, they're ...
A. 26 March 2009: I sometimes get annoyed with the poor use of grammar on this site too. But like kellyxxx said, this site is more about getting and giving advice than the proper use of language.
And I tend to make quite a few grammatical and spelling errors m... (read in full...)
The woman I get along great with has commitment issues.... Thoughts?
Q. So I 'reconnected' with a girl I knew a while back through friends of mine at a wedding last month. Had a great time with her at the wedding, asked my friend for her number, and for the last month we've been hanging out alot and just this weekend ...
A. 26 March 2009: It sounds like you are crazy about this girl. Unfortunately, it seems like she isn't that crazy about you.
This whole intamacy issue is a way to let you down easy. To her, you are a placeholder until new boyfriend material comes along.
The mor... (read in full...)
If you knew the girl you were dating had a few one night stands would it put you off her?
Q. Guys, if your dating someone, is it a turn off to know the girl has had a few one night stands? and a 'friends with benefits' relationship? or is it not that a big of a deal?...
A. 24 March 2009: Yes, its a big turn off for me.
I wouldn't want to be with someone who treated sex so cheaply and flippantly.
But that's only me. I've never pursued women for a one night stand. I've always wanted there to be a relationship first.
I wou... (read in full...)
Jealousy inducing wife
Q. I am a married man coming into my 1st anniversary with my wife. Even though we made it this far, we have issues. I am laidback when it comes to a lot of things, but I can be jealous. It takes quite a bit I think, to bring it out though. My wife ...
A. 20 March 2009: Yeah, your wife is totally out of line. If she chose to marry you over him, then she needs to cut him loose. I'm not saying you can't be "arm-length" friends with an ex after you get married, but I think she is taking it too far in this case. ... (read in full...)
Miserable and a Newlywed...what can I do?
Q. I got married in October of 2008. We are both young—in our mid twenties. 2008 was a whirlwind year for us. We both switched jobs, bought a house, and were on very different schedules, limiting our time together. When we did get together, we would ...
A. 16 March 2009: I agree with Satindesire. You two need to get into counseling ASAP.
Do you attend a church?
Most churches have a counseling program or can get you plugged in with marraige and family counselor.
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5 year marriage and my love is fading
Q. Ok, here it goes. I have been married for almost five years. For those past five years, my attraction to my husband has faded. I have tried so many different things to spice up our relationship. Nothing has worked. During those five years, I have ...
A. 13 March 2009: Everyone gets bored in a relationship at one point or another.
That being said,please, please, please don't cheat on your husband. If you love him at all you wouldn't do that to him.
If your husband is a great as you say he is, and you stil... (read in full...)
Can a girl get back their virginity back?
Q. can a girl get back their virgin after she stop having sex for 3 yr? i had sex my ex bf, and i about to marry with other man after 3 yr. can he know that i am not virgin?...
A. 12 March 2009: Unfortunately, your virginity can be given away once and only once.
Personaly though, I would cherish the fact that my wife had only slept with one other person besides me.
Sure I'd be a little jealous, but it would be minor compared to what... (read in full...)
I worry my wife has gone back to her slutty ways, have I married the wrong person?
Q. I think my wife is a s___/w____ or whatever, I'm not trusting her at all. She was 'around' a lot before we dated. We're both only 23, we met when we were 21, but I know she's had sexual contact with at least 20 or more men before me. And that was...
A. 12 March 2009: I am sorry man.
If it were a mixed crowd she should have invited you along. She's being sneaky about this and that is a cause for concern.
However, Gina is right. Don't jump to conclusions. That being said, she lied to you about going to t... (read in full...)
Drunken one night stand? Or emotional affair without sex?
Q. Do you consider a drunken one night stand to be 'better' or worse than a longstanding emotional affair without sex?...
A. 12 March 2009: This is just my opinion as a guy, but I think I would be able to forgive a longstanding emotional affair with no sex much easier than a drunken one night stand. Once sex is involved, no matter how fleeting, it would probably end our marraige. ... (read in full...)
I think I might have caught my husband on a dating site?
Q. Dear cupid, I was looking though our computer last night and came across a site that should not have been on there when my husband asked me what i was looking at i asked him if he knew about this site he said no its a pop up i dont know alot abo...
A. 11 March 2009: A pop-up wouldn't be held in the history. However I wouldn't be super quick to jump to conclusions. He may have saw a pop up or advertisement and clicked on it out of curiosity.
Briefly looking at a dating site is probably not cause for concern,... (read in full...)
She did stuff with an ex before we were married... how do I cope?
Q. After my wife and I had been married for nine years, she revealed to me that she had done everything but intercourse with her high school boyfriend. I thought that our sexual experience was with just the two of us. I have had a hard time trying to ...
A. 9 March 2009: Trust me, it could be a lot worse. Read through some of the other posts about husbands having to come to terms with their wives pasts. You are extremely fornunate to have a wife who has had intercourse only with you.
I can understand the pain you... (read in full...)
Try to rekindle things with her? Or continue play the waiting game?
Q. I began dating my now ex-girlfriend in December of 2007. In June of 2008 we decided to move her in with me because we were very much in love and we were driving 40 miles 2 or 3 times a week to see one another. She was having a hard time finding a ...
A. 9 March 2009: You just need to let her go. You can't make someone love you.
I've been there man. The longer you pine after her, the stupider you'll feel about it later when you are over her and with someone else.
Chalk it up to experience and find someone... (read in full...)
Did she or didn't she
Q. my girlfriend confessed to having sex with another guy. she even gave some detail. after a couple of days she told me she made it all up! i dont know what to believe! my gut tells me that she did! what do i do?...
A. 24 February 2009: Yeah, I think she originally told you the truth and is now trying to get out of cheating on you. More importantly, why on earth would she lie and tell you she cheated when in fact she actually did NOT have sex with anyone else? Why would you wa... (read in full...)
I cheated on my husband, and then lied to him about how far I went with this man. How do we move on in our relationship?
Q. Hello, I have a huge dilema, I cheated on my husband and it all came out about 9 months ago,the affair stopped and my marriage is still intact, although it has taken a lot of trust and patience from my husband.I have been married a long time and ...
A. 24 February 2009: Well, I think telling him the truth is the only way you'll ever really feel connected to your husband again. I beleive deep down you feel that his love and forgiveness for you is false becuase it is based on false assumptions. I hate the idea of... (read in full...)
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