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writes: Would sex be better for him if I acted more like a porn star? We usually have great sex and I can tell he loves it, but I've noticed how in porn, women always moan quite noticeably. I understand this is all fake because there's no way that a woman can feel extreme pleasure the moment she's penetrated. However, I know he watches porn and has been watching it since he was 13 (he's 23 now), he hasn't got much experience with real women aside from me. The question is, when I'm feeling pleasure, should I moan more loudly? I am not silent, but I'm more of a heavy breather, and maybe some shy moans here and there. I'm wondering if I moan more it'll be better for him? I just want to blow his mind with sex! Considering I don't have the best body (small boobs and all), I have to make up for it with something else.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (15 May 2009):
 I agree with Satin. Take some time ( even if yo have t do this part alone) and figure out what gets you really going. Show him, teach him.
Faking ANYTHING is bed is detrimental to good sex. If you fake anything the guy is going to think he's a rockstar in bed and he won't be trying harder to rock your world.
Let go of any inhibitions in bed. Not everyone's loud in the bedroom. It doesn't mean they aren't enjoying themselves. Small boobs - big boobs, makes no difference, but worrying about their size or whatnot while having sex is going to ruin it for you.
Porn is porn. That is all. Don't forget most porn stars ( female) do drugs in order to "work" - so what you see is fake boobs, fake emotions, a fake setting, fake words, faked "moisture"........ get it? Forget the porn. Focus on the fun you can have with the combination of his and your body. Pure and simple.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2009): I gotta disagree with the poster i know i must be 1 in 10000 but from the moment im penetrated i feel pleasure-lucky me!-and iam noisy (but i dont fake it) but i do agree most porn is fake.
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reader, passionatelynumb +, writes (15 May 2009):
 Satindesire,
Once again you nailed it. I couldn't agree with you more.
Nothing turns me on more than watching my partner going after what she wants in bed and truly enjoying sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2009): I gotta disagree with the poster i know i must be 1 in 10000 but from the moment im penetrated i feel intense pleasure-lucky me!-and iam noisy (but i dont fake it) but i do agree most porn is fake.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2009): Well, from a male perspective, i would get turned off if i believed that my gf was faking it. Even though i watch porn, i do realise that its quite fake and don't have the same kind of expectations him real life. So, he i was the guy, i would be happy he you acted naturally coz that is a bigger turn any day.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2009): Sex would be better for him AND you, if you two communicated more. Rather than seek out answers here where no one knows the mind of your lover and the threshold of your own principles, you 'should' firstly search the web for ideas on sexual communication and experimentation, then secondly, communicate with your lover.
If the topic of sex is uncomfortable for you and/or him, then you may try to ease into it, in the intimate moments you spend with him. "Communication" is not just verbal speech. It is also touching, perception, sight and awareness of his reactions.
Remember that if there is something you are uncomfortable with, it will make the whole sexual experience not as enjoyable in the long run for you, even if it allows the heightened pleasure of one partner.
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