I think about my social worker all the time...what do I do??
Q. I have been having problems at home relating to the relationnship between my son and his step-father (my partner who I am now about to split up with). Because I was so worried about my son so much, I went to the doctors, to cut a long story sh...
A. 10 January 2006: It is normal during difficult times to attatch ourselves emotionally to someone that seems stable to us. While your feelings for her are real feelings, I wonder if you are maybe misinterpreting them as something more than a deep appreciation and ... (read in full...)
He could be 'the one' and I can't stop thinking about him but I don't think he's interested anymore
Q. I met this guy a few weeks ago, we exchanged info and talked twice in the past couple of weeks. I have this feeling he is 'the one' and I barely know him. Im pretty sure he doesnt feel the same exact way, but I still think he likes me. The first ...
A. 10 January 2006: Unfortunately, there is no sure fire way to prevent from getting hurt in any relationship. After only a few weeks, your attraction to him may be very strong, but I would give it more time before deciding this is the one to spend the rest of your ... (read in full...)
I thought I'd been dumped by my BF, but I was determined to have a good time out anyway. Did I do wrong?
Q. Ok I guess I just need someone to tell me if I'm thinking completely crazy about this or if I'm just being made to think I'm crazy. I was on holiday with my boyfriend for two weeks with his parents and his best friend and his family. While on holid...
A. 10 January 2006: I would avoid that family. Your bf eas obviously playing head games with you in the beginning, probably trying to get you to break up with him to make him seem like the good guy. Whatever you did after he broke up with you can't really be used at ... (read in full...)
It was a little lie about his age, but it's shaken my trust in him!
Q. My boyfriend lied to me about his age for 4 months. He told me he was 34 when he is really 36. A month before we were going to move in together he decided to tell me about his little white lie. I am only 23, so he said he was afraid if he told me ...
A. 10 January 2006: That is a hard one, my first thought was "well it was only two years it could have been a lot worse". What would worry me, is did he really think he would lose you over two years. This guy of yours may have some issues with himself, the situation ... (read in full...)
My wife is bi and wants to be with women..alone and without me! I'm upset so what should I tell her?
Q. Just to give you an idea of who I am. I am 30 years old and married to my high school sweetheart. We have been together for 13 years. She is bisexual, I have known this since we have been together and we have had a threesome when we were young. Now, ...
A. 10 January 2006: Whether it is same sex or different sex it is still cheating. The fact that she is bi does not give her a license to cheat "as long as it is with the same sex." If you are uncomfortable with her doing this you need to let her know. The most ... (read in full...)
Help..he wants to spend more time with his mates and it's making me feel insecure!
Q. Help me i have become an insecure possessive girlfriend. In the last few weeks my boyfriend has admitted he wants to spend more time with his mates as he has fun with them and he loves going to his footie matches and watching his local team play ...
A. 10 January 2006: It is very healthy in a relationship to have time away from each other. If you pressure him to never spend time with his friends, then he will feel trapped and you risk losing him. The ideal situation would be to reach a happy middle ground, where ... (read in full...)
We slept together, but now I have stronger feelings for him. What should I do?
Q. I just broke up with my boyfriend of 6 years because I wanted to sleep with my good friend who i used to work with and have had strong feelings for years. My friend told me he felt the same way so one thing lead to another and we slept together. ...
A. 9 January 2006: If you are hoping for a real relationship with him, then you should tell him. If he does not feel the same way then it is better to know now. But you just got out of a long relationship so you may not want to get back into one right away, either ... (read in full...)
Feel like I'm nothing more than a pay cheque to my wife! Is an affair the answer?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a man in my early forties. What shall I do? I am told I am still attractive, but my wife has lost interest in me. I feel like a pay cheque! Should I wine and dine her, or buy her flowers everytime I want affection? I'd soon be ban...
A. 8 January 2006: I honestly don't think an affair is the solution to any marital problem. If you have tried to talk to her about this and failed maybe you need to try with the help of a marital counselor. I understand that the children make the situation more ... (read in full...)
Slept with a lad but now he's acting all stoopid...
Q. I had sex with a lad and afterwards he was ok. he told one person and he changed. he became horrible as if he was in denial, then when no ones looking or watching, he flirts with me and starts touching me up. i don't understand. straight after when ...
A. 8 January 2006: I am so sorry to hear that you are going through all of this. Unfortunately, some guys just act like idiots after they get what they want. I honestly believe that you need to try to stay away from this guy. He is going to continue to treat you ... (read in full...)
Don't wanna be the "psycho paranoid girlfriend" to my long distance online boy but on the same token, don't wanna be naive!
Q. About four years ago my friend Nadine introduced me to this guy she met on this online game named Nate. He's from Canada. I am from the States. We play flirted from the git-go, and would joke about messing around some day and what not. We never ...
A. 7 January 2006: This is where the online relationship gets hard. You are very far away from each other and the only contact you have is through the computer, however life like it may seem the physical aspect of the relationship is very important. He can't put his ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for her to get over him or let it go??
Q. hi ive known this girl for a long time, and she just broke up with some guy after a long term relationship who i know too. we have done everythng together so she must have feelings for me but still likes her ex too... should i be patient and wait...
A. 7 January 2006: You should probably talk to her to find out where she stands on having a relationship after this break up. Ofcourse she is still healing and will probably have feelings for her ex for a long time, the point of the talk would not be to pressure her ... (read in full...)
We always had a marriage with no secrets...now he's out all night and not telling me where he's going! Please help.
Q. my husband and I had a very bad year and were recovering from our problems until he began his new job where apparently someone is very pushy and he considered having an affair. He is now asking for lots of space in lay mans terms he is going out ...
A. 7 January 2006: I don't think that sounds normal at all. You guys really need to sit down and re-evaluate what you both expect from this relationship. If he wants out rather than going out all night and not telling you where he has been he should be fair and tell ... (read in full...)
He's too busy selling drugs and hasn't time for me.I love him..I miss him-so what should I do?
Q. im 17 and have a boyfrend of 19....he told me he loves me but he isnt showin it to me..i fink i love him too..i av a lot of strong feelings for him..we have been together 4 months now but things r slippin downhill..he isnt answerin my fone calls or ...
A. 7 January 2006: Oh honey, please respect yourself enough to know that this relationship will do nothing but bring you down. The first clue should be the fact that he is too busy for you because he is a drug dealer. You need to get out of that relationship and ... (read in full...)
Could I bring back a lost love with a love spell... or is that just a scam?
Q. I have a question about somehting a Lil bit different. I was doing a search for love advice and came across this one and another one that I have a question about. It was bring back a lost love by ordering a spell .Do you think these really work or ...
A. 5 January 2006: While I have no experience with spells, I would think this is just another way for someone to make money off of people. I think I would try giving this person a call rather than spending my money on something like that. Good luck.... (read in full...)
She always has an excuse not to see me. Is it because there's someone else?
Q. Hey, The problem is I havent seen my girlfriend for around 2-3 weeks now. I've asked her to come over to my house lots of times; she seems to always have an excuse not to! I'll explain the situation: I usually see my girlfriend every Saturday w...
A. 5 January 2006: I am sorry to say that it sounds as if it is almost over. Most of the time a girl will want to spend time with her boyfriend. You should probably ask her what is going on and be ready for the worst.... (read in full...)
My partner wants to remain friends after our split, but I can't stand the stress and pain!
Q. I have recently split with my partner (his decision), and he has already found someone else. He wants to remain good friends, but the jealousy and pain is eating me up. I loath his new person without ever speaking to him or meeting him. My ex ...
A. 5 January 2006: This soon after a break up, it is just too traumatic for you to be dealing with this. You need to distance yourself from this guy so that your heart will have time to heal. Even if he promises not to talk about his new relationship, you are not ... (read in full...)
He touched me inappropriately, while I slept.I've told friends but they don't seem to care. Am I over-reacting?
Q. no one seems to of taken what happened to me seriously, i was touched up while i was asleep , i woke up to find him looking and touching, he didnt know id woken up, thought i was just stirring so he covered me back up but carried on stroking my ...
A. 5 January 2006: No one has a right to touch you in that way if you do not want it, especially when you are sleeping and unable to say no. It is very disturbing to think that these people would all take this so lightly, especially your husband. If I were you I ... (read in full...)
Love my new boyfriend, but in bed, I can't help comparing him to my much-better ex boyfriend!
Q. I recently got a new boyfriend and I'm worried that our sex life wont keep me as satisfied as I was with my ex. Although my new guy is older, he can't last as long and doesn't have a very high sex drive compared to me at all. I love him so much...
A. 4 January 2006: In every relationship there will be a partner with a higher sex drive, it doesn't matter if it is the woman or the man. If you feel like you need more sex than you get you have the right to ask for it, in a healthy relationship, each partner feels ... (read in full...)
My fiancee cheated on me...so do I stay with her or leave this relationship?
Q. Hi ive been in my relationship with my fiance for 2 years now just recently i found out that she was cheating with another guy i know she loves me and i feel like she made a mistake the question i have is should i give it a go or should i get out ...
A. 4 January 2006: Once the trust has been broken it is very hard to earn it back. You have to decide if you can forgive her, enough that you don't throw it in her face everytime you get mad at her. If you feel like she is trully going to be faithful to you and you ... (read in full...)
My husband asked me if he can sleep with other people..I am horrified! But I'm wondering am I being a prude?
Q. my husband asked me this week if he can sleep with other people and would i mind as our sex life has gone flat. we have been married for six years and together for eight. i was horrified now i wonder if im just being a prude? am i?...
A. 4 January 2006: You are not being a prude by wanting to keep your marriage exclusive. Some people decide that an "open" marriage is the solution for their flat sex lives. Unfortunately, it is usually not too long before these people end up in divorce court. If ... (read in full...)
He's put our relationship on hold so he can pursue a past love who is getting divorced.Do I wait or move on?
Q. Ok, here it is. I met this guy 2 months ago and everything seemed perfect. We were CRAZY about each other. Then out of the blue, he stopped calling. He finally emailed me and told me that the one person in his life that he had always dreamed of ...
A. 4 January 2006: Oh my! am shocked that this guy is actually asking you to keep him in mind IF he calls you missing you. Ask yourself this, could you live with the thought that he picked you only after he was let down by his past love? Do you feel comfortable ... (read in full...)
He wants to give a new love interest a try at dating-but why doesn't he want to try with me?
Q. I've liked a guy friend of mine for quite some time. We've known each other for around 5 years now. I didn't really keep in touch with him after graduating, but he made an effort and we started meeting up again (more recently this year). He ...
A. 4 January 2006: I really believe that of you tell this guy how you feel you will probably see that he either has interest in you now or has in the past. If I were you I would just put it out there, it is not as if you are trying to force him into a serious ... (read in full...)
I want to trust her with her internet friend but I'm not sure I can...help!
Q. My wife has met a male friend on the internet. She says it is all very inoccent and they are just friends. In Jun05 when I found out she told me she had been chatting with him for 6 months. I asked her to stop all contact with him and she said she ...
A. 4 January 2006: As usual Irish49 has hit the nail on the head! She is having an emotional affair, you can do a search of that on the internet and come up with a huge number of sites with in depth explanations of what that is and examples of what it can do to ... (read in full...)
I want to register with an adult dating site. Are they a rip off?
Q. Am i asking for trouble if i register with a an 'adult' dating site? Are they a rip-off?...
A. 4 January 2006: Just make sure you go with a reputable site. Though some sites cost less they can notonly be a rip off but also dangerous. When you pick a site make sure they don't give out too much of your personal informaion, have seen some that give out ... (read in full...)
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Q. I just wanted to say a belated Happy New Year to all the people who visit this website, whether it's people asking for advice or the agony aunts who give it. The things being achieved on this site are amazing - I think it is the best site on the ...
A. 4 January 2006: Thank you for that, happy New Year to you. I really have to agree with you, I think this site helps a lot of people that may not know where else to turn.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend still chats with his exes
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a year now, I've been friends with him for 4 years, but i am a little worried. He has a lot of friends who are girls and most of them are his ex girlfriends they still come round and chat on the phone even flirt ...
A. 2 January 2006: Well, obviously you are not all that sure that he won't cheat on you or you wouldn't be worried. I think it is only natural to feel a little insecure when your boyfriend seems to be surrounded by ex girl friends all the time, but if you have been ... (read in full...)
Should I date this girl while she still has issues with her ex?
Q. I have been talking to this girl for a few months now. We get on fine and as friends and she has agreed to go out. The trouble is when i first met her she was in a relationship up to last year. I have never asked the question when she did split from ...
A. 2 January 2006: I think there is no harm in forming a friendship with this girl, the tricky part is not confusing that friendship with the relationship you may be looking for. She needs someone right now and by being there for her, you may be the first person she ... (read in full...)
My longtime boyfriend doesn't appreciate that I love him like no one else can!
Q. I have known this guy for 5 years. We dated throughout the 7th grade until now off and on. I am a freshman in college and he is still a senior in high school but we still talk. I need advice because I feel like he is losing interest in me now, lik...
A. 2 January 2006: Well, everyone in a relationship likes to believe that they love their partner like no one else can, unfortunately if he doesn't see it that way then there is not a whole lot you can do to change his mind. I would say that possibly finding a new ... (read in full...)
I slept with my ex-boyfriend and caught an STI. I had it treated, but I don't know if he did...
Q. Dear Cupid, I broke up with my boyfriend 6 months ago, but have since slept with him. I have recently found out that I have caught an STI. I can only have caught it off him as I haven't slept with anyone else since we first got together 3 years...
A. 2 January 2006: You need to ask him about it! It is very important that you know for a fact that he will not be transmitting anything to you during sex. If you feel that you can't talk about these things with him, then you should not be sleeping with him! You ... (read in full...)
Like the guy, don't like the pot
Q. i've liked this guy for about 6 years and things are just now getting hot.. i told him that the pot would have to go and he said that there was no problem because he quit on christmas.. and just last night he told me that he couldnt quit. and he w...
A. 1 January 2006: Unfortunately you can't make him stop, this is one of those situations where he has to decide that he would rather have you than pot. Because this is something you feel strongly about I think the easiest thing for you to do is get out of the ... (read in full...)
Is she really shy or not interested, what are the behavioural differences?
Q. Is she really shy or not interested, what are the behavioural differences? Hello potential saviours and helpers Every girl I’ve ever known has been from college and my part-time job and every girl I’ve ever taken an interest in has had a boyf...
A. 1 January 2006: The best way to find out if someone likes you is to ask them out. She does sound shy, the lack of eye contact is a big indicator, most of the time if you really don't like someone you will still make eye contact. She may just be waiting for you to ... (read in full...)
I'm jealous of my friend's success with guys. I'm much prettier than she is, so I've slept with 4 of her boyfriends!
Q. I was at a club with my best friend (Alice), we where having loads of fun. This guy came up to us and had a dance with Alice. They traded numbers. Although I danced with loads of boys I felt jealous. I feel like this a lot. Anyway about two week...
A. 31 December 2005: Do you really have to ask if you being a bad friend? There is never a time when sleeping with a friends boyfriend is okay. You are getting jealous and purposely ruining her relationships, this is wrong on so many levels. A good friend would be ... (read in full...)
How is my boyfriend going to know when he hits the right spot during sex?
Q. I have a great boyfriend that has been able to make me orgasm everytime manually. Now we're finally starting to have intercourse so how can he do it now? I know he has to find my spot, but how and when he does, how does he keep hitting it? He's ...
A. 30 December 2005: Well, you may be a bit dissapointed but I do not know of any man that continually rubs the g-spot during intercurse. There are a few positions that make him hit it more often but I don't believe that sex is always about that one spot. There are ... (read in full...)
My married lover feels sorry for his wife and won't leave because of the kids. How do I break off this affair?
Q. I have been having an affair with a married man for ten years. I was twenty four then, and a student in his torts class. He says he loves his wife, but he loves me more. Because of their two children, he has to stay with her (he also feels sorry ...
A. 30 December 2005: You need to be straight and to the point. Tell him that it is over, and you are moving on with your life. Do not be fooled when he then promises to leave his wife and be with you, be assured that this is a way for him to keep you for a while ... (read in full...)
My parents want me married ASAP, but now my ex has returned, swearing commitment!
Q. Hi to all, I am 24 years girl who is engaged to a cousin. Before I got engaged I was madly in love with a guy. We had a nice relationship, but than things worsened up due to his familial issues. He simply adopted silence and did not contact me,altho...
A. 29 December 2005: I am not sure of where you are from so I am not positive of what is acceptable or not in your culture but I will tell you that in every part of America I know of 24 is an adult and can marry who and when they see fit. Also, a cousin would not be a ... (read in full...)
I get so jealous that I'm afraid of losing him
Q. ok i shall start with my relationship with my boyfriend.I don't know what really happen to me.Starting of our relationship is good.But for not long i started to get jealousy and hot-temper.My jealousy is really high.Is like when he never sms(phone ...
A. 29 December 2005: If you really love him, you are going to have to back off. You are going to drive him away by making him feel controled. This is not a healthy situation for you or him so you need to get it in check as soon as possible. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Does she like me in the way that I like her?
Q. hi, please can you answer my question. I went to a party and i was with a girl nearly all night. all we really did was cuddle alot (and i mean alot),sit next to each other with our arms around each other while she rests her head on my shoulder. and ...
A. 29 December 2005: It sounds to me like she has some interest in getting to know you better. The best way to know for sure is to ask her. Tell her how you feel and ask her if she feels the same way. Good luck.... (read in full...)
My husband, who I've known for 7 years, suddenly starts talking of drugs and orgies!
Q. I've known the man I married for the past 7 years. We got married last year and I thought we were doing just great. Suddenly, he's talking about having mutiple sex partners with me taking part in the orgy. He's suddenly become interested in taking ...
A. 29 December 2005: I would rush him to the doctor and have them figure out if this could be some sort of problem caused by the medication. Some medicines do affect some people in a weird way so that would be my first course of action. If he has never been interested ... (read in full...)
My wife tracked down an ex for 15 years, then had an affair! Now she says it's out of her system...
Q. My wife recently had an affair with a man she has been thinking and fantasizing about for the last 15 years. They were together as teens, never had sex and had a bad break-up that she felt guilty about. She has just told me that she had been ...
A. 29 December 2005: It is time for you to decide if all of this is worth it or not. If you decide you want to work on the marriage then the first step is to get more counseling for the both of you. You have to learn to forgive her and she has to earn your trust back. ... (read in full...)
I lied about my age to the woman of my dreams. She thinks I'm 20, but I'm actually 26!
Q. I have been dating the woman of my dreams for 10 months. Everything has been going great... but I've kept one big secret from her. I lied about my age. I told her I was 20 years old when in fact I am 26. She is 19 and I feared that if I told her ...
A. 29 December 2005: It sounds like you know what you have to do. As scary as it is you will have to tell her. Hopefully she will see that it was a small lie and be able to get over it, but there is a chance that she will use that as a basis for judging your character ... (read in full...)
He does not respond to me at all...what do I do?
Q. I am 30 and married for 3 years without children. My marriage was nothing I asked for as I did not love my husband initially but the love grew from his fondness and care for me. However now, he does not love me anymore. I say that because everytime ...
A. 28 December 2005: If you have exhausted all of your options then you have to decide if this relationship is something that can get better or if it is time to be done with it. If your husband does not love you and you are not happy in the relationship it does not ... (read in full...)
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