He does not respond to me at all...what do I do?
Q. I am 30 and married for 3 years without children. My marriage was nothing I asked for as I did not love my husband initially but the love grew from his fondness and care for me. However now, he does not love me anymore. I say that because everytime ...
A. 28 December 2005: If you have exhausted all of your options then you have to decide if this relationship is something that can get better or if it is time to be done with it. If your husband does not love you and you are not happy in the relationship it does not ... (read in full...)
We have a great sex life but is it normal for him to watch his porn everyday?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years. About a month ago we decided he would move in with me. We have a great sex life. We have sex almost every night and we talk and always try new things. I see nothing wrong with it. Recently I ...
A. 27 December 2005: Well, I think pervert may be a bit harsh. Some people watch porn more than others, it becomes a problem if it starts to interfere with normal activities such as missing work for it, not wanting to go out because of it, or stopping the relationship ... (read in full...)
I'm 17, he's 37..I want him but he keeps pushing me away! What should I do?
Q. oh my gos i cant belive im doin this ...... ok iv bin best friends with this guy for ages well just over a year and i can tell him every thing you no all of my girly probs and every body at first thort something was goin on just coss hes a man a...
A. 27 December 2005: At 37 I think he is right to be pushing you away. I am not a huge fan of age differences like this, especially when the older male was once an instructor of yours. At no time would I want one of my daughters involved outside of the dance studio ... (read in full...)
I love her with all my heart..but is she worth getting hurt over ...a third time?
Q. my ex-girlfriend broke up with me and i still love her with all my heart and soul! she hurt me many times and that never changed how i felt about her like, when she got high with her ex (nothing happend) and she lied to me about being good, i ...
A. 27 December 2005: Please stay away from this girl. She is taking advantage of you in the worst way. She is stringing you along. I know it is hard to accept, but she is no good for you. I honestly feel that she will take everything you have and when you have ... (read in full...)
My fiancee cheated on me. How do I gain back the trust and intimacy with him again?
Q. I just found out that my fiance cheated on me. I don't know how to trust him again and I don't know how to be intimate again. He says that it was her first time but I'm afraid of catching something, I'm not in the best of health. I want to be with ...
A. 27 December 2005: I am sorry to hear that you have to go through this, it is certainly a difficult time for you. If you are uncertain of his sexual health you have the right to ask him to be tested for std's before you resume any sexual activity with him. This is ... (read in full...)
I want her back...so how do I show her how much I love her?
Q. my girlfriend has just ended our relationship because she says she dosn't love me like she should. how can i show her how much i love her and that we belong together. i want her back but dont know what to do. ...
A. 27 December 2005: I am so sorry to hear that you are going through so much pain. It is hard when a break up happens, especially if you don't really understand how it could have happened when you seem so perfect together. The problem here lies with her and her own ... (read in full...)
There are too many people in my love relationship!
Q. I am having some relationship trouble. A couple of months ago I broke up with my girlfriend of nine months, as she cheated on me twice. What she doesn't know is that a couple of days before I broke up with her I cheated on her with someone else. ...
A. 27 December 2005: So this girl was with you when you were with someone else now she likes you and someone else, do you see a pattern? it sounds like she does not have a lot of respect for relationships, are you sure you would even want to be in one with her? I ... (read in full...)
Slept with my boss at a Xmas do. I'm not sorry, but I think he might be...
Q. Hi merry xmas! Here's another question you have probo heard before. Basically I'm 21, had my works xmas do and slept with one of my bosses. There was pure chemistry there. He's a lot lot older than me but now I'm really worried about going back...
A. 26 December 2005: his guy sounds like a real jerk, but not for the reasons that you think. He cheated on his wife with you, and how long he has been married makes no difference in how wrong both of your actions were. He should regret what he did with you, just as ... (read in full...)
Still worried about my banana-shaped penis. Will I be able to satisfy a woman?
Q. I wrote a problem but didn't got a satisfactory answer, so I am hoping this time somebody will help me. I just wanna know. I've got banana type of erection. While erecting it bends towards downward, like a banana, so I wanna know will this kind of ...
A. 26 December 2005: While most of the erections I have seen have been bent more upward toward the stomach I will assure you that only a rare few have been perfectly straight! I do not see why it would not satisfy a woman. Honestly it is not as much the penis as the ... (read in full...)
I'm dating my best mate's ex, but he's still not over her. Do we tell him?
Q. My best friend Chad and I are very close. We are always there for each other. Chad met Lisa and the three of us all became close friends. Chad dated Lisa a couple months back and it was short and rocky. Chad remained in love with Lisa, while sh...
A. 26 December 2005: Sooner or later he is going to find out! If I were you I would tell him now, he will probably vow to never speak to either of you again, but atleast he will be able to start the healing process. The longer you wait to tell him the worse the ... (read in full...)
I need help to persuade my parents that my boyfriend and I won't have sex while we're alone for a week...
Q. I'm 16 and my boyfriend's parents are going away for a week. My boyfriend is staying at mine, but I'm on a mattress downstairs and he is in my room. It was a yes to him staying in my room but now they've changed their minds. I don't want to have ...
A. 26 December 2005: I think your parents are being very resonable letting him stay at your house in the first place. I doubt that there is any way to convince them that you won't do anything. I also feel that telling them you just want to cuddle will not make it much ... (read in full...)
I don't love my wife any more and now I'm interested in someone else...
Q. I am a married man of the age of 21, been married for about 2 years and have never cheated on my wife, or done anything ridculous. I haven't loved my wife for so long and just am fed up with her but I feel like I'm falling for someone else I have ...
A. 25 December 2005: If you don't love your wife, the best thing you can do for her is tell her. Don't string her along while you make up your mind, be fair. This woman has given you her life, to have and to hold ...... do the right thing. Fess up about how ever you ... (read in full...)
How do I strike a balance between playing "hard to get" and letting him know I'm interested?
Q. Hey, well first off, Merry Christmas everyone! My question is about playing heard to get. I mean, if you blow him off, then won't that make him think you're NOT interested and so go looking for someone else? If I was a guy, I'd think that a ...
A. 25 December 2005: I really think the balance lies somewhere between flirting and making out. To show him that you like him, you want to listen when he talks and make lots of eye contact! But you are not falling all over him. You want to peak his interests, make ... (read in full...)
I cheated on him four years ago and he can't forget what I did
Q. I am 22 years old. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 and a half years. We first started dating when I was going to be a freshmen in college. So we started dating a few weeks before I went away to college. Well,I went and he stayed home but we were ...
A. 23 December 2005: I am so sorry to hear the troubles you are going through. Yes, four years ago you messed up, because he chose to forgive you he loses the right to use it against you now. When you forgive someone you don't forget about it but you don't bring it up ... (read in full...)
Can I trust her or not??
Q. my and my girlfriend have been together for 8 months now. she is 20, i'm 26. from time to time, one of her ex's will be in or around town and try to contact her through a friend to talk or hang out. she seems quite eager to do these things and...
A. 23 December 2005: I think you are right to be suspicious of the email password thing! People do not usually change those things all of the sudden. If she normally shares passwords with you then see if she will share the new one with you, if not then there may be ... (read in full...)
Am I just another girl for her date or does my lover really care about me?
Q. I have been dating my girlfriend for 2 months now. This is my first lesbian relationship whereas she has been dating women for many yrs (she's 9 yrs older than me) and last year ended a 5 yr relationship. I am really happy in the relationship and ...
A. 23 December 2005: In most relationships think you will find that one person will do most of the initiating. I would suggest that you bring it up to your girlfriend, in a non confrontational way. Ask her how she feels about you, and tell her that sometimes it is ... (read in full...)
Which one likes me...or do they both like me??
Q. Hi I have liked a person who I will call person 1 for a long time , then and a couple of weeks ago when I was working with her and my best friend, she started to make atractive movments and well other stuff torads me when he looked away, but since ...
A. 22 December 2005: I would say your best chances would be with person two if she asked you to dance. Person 1 may have just been having fun when she made movements toward you, but probably has more interest in your friend if she asked him to dance. If all else fails ... (read in full...)
After 7 years together-it struck me oddly, that she left me with no warning?
Q. I am 27. I have been with my girlfriend for seven years. We were in a long distance relationship for the last year. During our time apart I regularly hinted that we should get married once we were in the same city again. She had always wanted to ...
A. 22 December 2005: After a year in a long distance relationship, I don't think it is a little odd. I am wondering if your real question is does it sound like she left me for someone else? When two people are so far away it would not be unheard of for her to have met ... (read in full...)
She's in contact with ex-lovers-I no longer feel safe in this relationship. Any advice?
Q. i have been living with a 50 year old lady that i knew for the past 6 years. we believe we are soul mates and plan to get engaged and eventualy married. i have however over the past 6 months become aware that she is in touch with many of her ex ...
A. 22 December 2005: If she said no ex's only friends, then her calling them all friends sounds a bit convenient for her. While in some cases people remain great friends with some ex's I do not feel like keeping in touch with a lot of them is fair to the new ... (read in full...)
My friend copies everything I do...it's getting to me! Help
Q. I've got a big problem with one of my friends. She copies me with everything! I told her I wanted a dog, so did she. I told her a babysitted for my younger siblings, so did she, even though her younger siblings can take care of themselves. I to...
A. 22 December 2005: It is normal to feel troubled when you feel like someone is trying to be you. Like everyone else said it is a sign that she thinks highly of who you are as a person and is trying to be like that, a huge compliment. What really worries me is that ... (read in full...)
She claims to be a lesbian...so why does she flirt with me? what should I do?
Q. I've been on here before about this, but things have progressed and I have a few more things that I'm seeking advice on! Basically, I started going out with a girl and she then told me she was a lesbian. She said that she didn't want to lead me ...
A. 22 December 2005: It almost sounds like rather than losing a good friend sh is leading you on by making you think she could one day develop feelings. That is just my opinion ofcourse, and I have been known to read these things wrong on occasion, but after breaking ... (read in full...)
Is this thing I had with Mike during my breakup period anything more than just sex?
Q. Me and my boyfriend went on a break a few months ago and while we were "breaking" I hooked up with this guy I work with "Mike." I had always been attracted to Mike and have a blast with him. We bicker back and forth and he makes me laugh. Well ...
A. 22 December 2005: oh your poor boyfriend. Is doesn't sound fair that if you knew this guy liked you you would be willing to drop your man just like that. Instead, break up with him and tell him the reason why, let him get the info from you before he hears it from ... (read in full...)
Broke up with him because he got steaming drunk and rowed with my housemates... But now we're back together.
Q. I have a problem with my boyfriend. We have been together for 4 months. In that time we have gone out and had lots of good times together and he has treated me very well. He does not like my roommates. My roommates have been difficult for me to ...
A. 22 December 2005: Unfortunately this is one of the many ugly sides to drinking. You saw that maybe too much alchohol and staying up that late is not a good combination for him. If he has promised not to do it again and he was not physically violent you can probably ... (read in full...)
I like her very much but she won't date me! What should I do?
Q. I am 18 years old and completely fell for this girl I work with, she was 20. When I first met her she had a boyfriend but he ended up cheating on her and she broke up with him. Well after they split we started hanging out and I let her know how I ...
A. 22 December 2005: She had her heart broken and at 20 she is ready to play the field a while before she risks that kind of pain again. You are 18 and were a virgin, so of course you have gotten attatched, that is to be somewhat expected. I feel like there is no way ... (read in full...)
Broke up with my gf of 3 years..now I want to date a girl 4 years younger. Is the age gap a problem?
Q. I really need help! I'm 18 and i've fallen in love with a girl 4 years younger than me (A), i finished with my girlfriend (b) of 3 years about a month ago coz i realised i wasn't in love with her anymore. I kissed the girl (A) a couple days before ...
A. 22 December 2005: I feel like you did the best thing by breaking up with your girlfriend. I don't think you could have done anything else since you knew you didn't love her anymore and had feelings for a new girl. The age difference between you and the new girl ... (read in full...)
Will my messed-up boyfriend *always* be negtive to my teen daughter?
Q. My bf (43) does not get along with my teen (17). He is very negative to and about her. We live in seperate homes and we been dating 3.5 years. He has no children or contact with other teens or children. My teen hates him for what I believe to be ...
A. 16 December 2005: Honestly I think you need to get rid of this guy. I don't know what messed up things he has done in front of her or to her but nothing in this sounds good. You have raised your daughter and you don't need some guy coming in messing things up for ... (read in full...)
I'm upset! My partner prefers to celebrate his 50th birthday with his friends...not me.
Q. My partner will be 50 in april. he wants to spend a weekend with his friends (male) either in prague, valencia, barcelona, etc. Mainly the evenings will be boozy, with sight seeing during the day. He went away recently on a stag weekend and did a ...
A. 16 December 2005: It can be hadr when a partner decides they want to spend a special day with friends rather than us their significant others. You say he has done these types of weekends before and you have no problem with the fact that he is leaving just the fact ... (read in full...)
He seems too busy to return my messages...should I just wait for him to contact me?
Q. hi i like this guy a loooot....i met him with my friends at a club...he made the move actually ...then he invited us over to his place...i didnt show much interest then ....now i want him badly he is a very busy guy ....really really busy ...i...
A. 16 December 2005: I ddon't think I would spend my nights sitting at home waiting for the phone to ring. In my opinion if a guy really likes you he will make time to give you a call. No matter how busy you are you always have atleast a couple of minutes a day that ... (read in full...)
The signs are all there...but do you think he really fancies me?
Q. Hello, i wonder if you can help me. I really, really like this guy who i have known for almost two years now, we both have the same group of friends whom we go out drinking with at the weekends and meet up with alot of the time but recently i have ...
A. 16 December 2005: It sounds as if he may be interested in you. A sure fire way to find out is to ask him. I assume since you travel in the same circle you would know if he was involved with anyone else, so provided he is not attatched why not give it a try. If it ... (read in full...)
We were seeing the same man and now she won't leave us alone!
Q. hi i hope someone can help. me and "shell" were friends in school, not major friends, just mixed with the same people. we both left school about 8 years ago, i left to go to uni and she got a local job. wed bump into eachother and have always b...
A. 16 December 2005: That is quite the nasty situation! First off, I would tell her that enough is enough, though her feelings are hurt the situation can not be changed by continuing the harrassment, if anything it is only being made worse. If she continues to contact ... (read in full...)
My bf doesn't trust me and tell his parents everything about us!
Q. the problem is that my bf does not trust me. he is always keeping secrets. in spite of that,he has a big mouth. he tells his folks every little thing about us. what am i to do?...
A. 16 December 2005: Trust is very important to a relationship, without it, you may find it very hard to move forward in the relationship. If he doesn't mind if you go out with friends, or go do things with out him then it could be that he has been hurt in the past by ... (read in full...)
He was seeing someone while I was sleeping with him. I'm devastated.
Q. I hope you are able to help. During this year i lost my virginity to my best friend. We slept together quite a lot over a period of a few months and although we weren't in an official 'relationship' we had mutually crossed over from being more tha...
A. 15 December 2005: I am sorry that you are going through this, unfortunately there is nothing anyone can do to change what he did to you but there is a really good lesson to be learned here. No matter how good of friends you are make sure your wants and needs are ... (read in full...)
My bf forced me to have sex and I'm confused..I was turned on by it!
Q. Last night, my boyfriend forced me to have sex with him. We just finished having a really bad fight and sex was the last thing on my mind. He ripped my clothes off and threatened me with a knife. I cried the entire time. He just kept telling me to ...
A. 15 December 2005: If you said no then it was rape, it doesn't matter if you were wet or not. Your body is designed in a way that stimulation to your genitals is going to make you wet, that does not mean that you wanted to have sex, that just means your body did what ... (read in full...)
My lover doesn't believe the depth of my feelings for her! What more can I do?
Q. I have been in a lesbian relationship for 4 years. I deeply love my partner but she still doesn't believe I love her. She suffers from depression and it'sstarting to really get me down, as I'm not sure what else I can do to prove I love her. We liv...
A. 15 December 2005: If she is suffering with depression, it may be hard for her to understand that anyone can love her. Is she in therapy or on medication? She may need to seek help, she may not be able to control the depression on her own, which will make it hard on ... (read in full...)
He's mad at me so why is he trying to get my attention? What should I do?
Q. Last year everyone knew we were in love and he would cry over me when i would break up with him or mad at him. He cried over me before we went out because he wanted to be with me so badly. His parents even heard him cry even his boys saw him cry but ...
A. 15 December 2005: First, you say he use to cry over you when you would break up with him, I am taking that to mean the relationship before he broke up with you had some problems in it, and it sounds like making him cry was important to you as you mentioned it a lot, ... (read in full...)
I am reserved but the gentleman I like has this certain "something"... help me understand it!
Q. There is this guy I like but he is extremely outgoing and I am reserved. He is very sweet and a gentleman. I am told that he likes me too, but I’m feeling confused about his feelings for me and about an aspect of his character. I have never met ...
A. 15 December 2005: This guy really does sound special. Going out every night is no big deal, especially if you are a people person and you live alone. Since he is relatively new in town he may feel like he needs to go out and meet people so if he gets invited he ... (read in full...)
My gf and I broke up. But she's dating another girl and I'm having a hard time moving on.
Q. Hello everyone, I am a lesbian who has been with my girl for five years. She broke up with me in May because she said I was too sprung. I didn't consider myself to be sprung, I was in love. I really love this girl and I believe she is my ...
A. 15 December 2005: Definitelt leave her alone, for now. You will only push her further away if you are all over her knowing she has someone else. I agree with the first answer in that you should take some time and meet other people. Give yourself the time you need ... (read in full...)
We've broken up and now...I've lost my confidence with other guys...Help me
Q. Dear cupid, im 15 and ive just broken up with my boyfriend after 8 months and i dont no what to do. we never talk anymore. its like a whole chunk of my life has just gone. i really do love him even tho we broke up 2 months ago i av totally lost my ...
A. 15 December 2005: I am so sorry that you are hurting right now. I feel like the best way to get your confidence back is to allow yourself time to heal. Two months may not be long enough to get over the loss of your relationship, even iif you were the one who ended ... (read in full...)
I'm a sex addict. How do I stop thinking about sex?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm a sex addict. How can I stop thinking about sex and just get on with my life? I'm 51 years old widower, I've looked after three children on my own for the best part of ten years. These children although they are still at home ...
A. 15 December 2005: If you trully think you are a sex addict, then I would suggest therapy, there are programs designed for people that sex and the thoughts of sex are disturbing their ability to function in normal life, but if you are like most men and the less you ... (read in full...)
Help...why am I fantasizing about my wife having sex with other people?
Q. I have fantasies about my wife having sex with other individuals, we have a healthy sex live and we enjoy each other but it's over 5 years that I been having this fantasies, why?...
A. 15 December 2005: Every body has fantasies, I wouldn't say yours is even all that different than a lot of people. You did not say but are they girl on girl fantasies? If so, then I think you have a lot of company on that. You could always talk to her about it, ... (read in full...)
I'm happily married but fell for a colleaque! What shall I do?
Q. I know this sounds crazy-I am truly happily married but fell for a colleague who's been dating someone else (not seriously) for a while. I've been trying to hide this feeling by being just a helpful friend to him. Not sure if he suspects anything. ...
A. 15 December 2005: If you are as happily married as you say, you avoid this colleague! You are responsible for your actions here and if you wish to stay in your marriage and keep your work as uncomplicated as possible it is up to you to stay away from this person ... (read in full...)
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