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writes: I've liked a guy friend of mine for quite some time. We've known each other for around 5 years now. I didn't really keep in touch with him after graduating, but he made an effort and we started meeting up again (more recently this year). He recently told me someone set him up with a girl, but he's not sure if their personalities are compatible yet. He also mentioned that if you feel comfortable with someone, you should 'give them a try'. My question is why has he never 'gave it a try' with me? He asks me to do stuff with him (i.e. go to concerts, watch movies, eat lunch etc), but it's purely platonic. I think we're really compatible in terms of personality and interests, should I ask him why he's never considered me or 'gave me a try'? Or should I just let it go? I'm just irritated why he's willing to give it a shot with someone he doesn't know, but doesn't give it a shot with me. Reply to this Question
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reader, StarNews +, writes (4 January 2006):
 If you are interested in more than friendship with him, let him know and ask him if he feels the same. It may jeopardize the friendship, so it has to be a risk you are willing to take.
He may be surprised, yet flattered by your interest. Maybe he only saw you as a friend, and now this may open the door to something more, maybe not. The only way you are going to know is to try. Who knows, he might just feel the same and will be happy you brought up the subject. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2006): I would let it go, dear becuase it sounds like you have a big, one-sided crush on this guy and there really isn't much you can do to change it into a love relationship. You can not make somebody love you. He is not viewing you as a love interest and you need to be simply content to be his dearest, good friend. Friendship is a pretty in-depth relationship. Friendship is comfortable and relaxed. You know him like no other. But, dear, you really only have one choice. You have to honor his feelings and wishes. If he 's showing an interest in other girls, then accept it. Although it's hard to accept that this guy doesn't return your romantic feelings, it may help you to know that the pain you now feel will be erased from your heart when you find someone who does love you back. And it will happen, someday. For now, just swallow your feelings, move on and work on making this a great 'friendship' with him. Good luck, hun and take care.
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reader, mommyofthree +, writes (4 January 2006):
 I really believe that of you tell this guy how you feel you will probably see that he either has interest in you now or has in the past. If I were you I would just put it out there, it is not as if you are trying to force him into a serious relationship, you are just trying to see where it could go. Go for it, good luck!
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reader, Joe  +, writes (4 January 2006):
instead of waiting for him why don't you just take the bull by it's horns and just ask him out and see what happens?
if he says no then atleast you have a friend for life
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