I'm fine with second-base and third-base, but my girlfriend says it's repulsive and I shouldn't do it!
Q. Hello! Me and my girlfriend have been with each other over 2 months, but she has a bit of an issue that she doesn't think she can get over. And that's that she doesn't want to have 2nd or 3rd base done to her, for the reason that she thinks it's ...
A. 28 January 2006: I know t it hard when you are so fine with something and your girl can't seem to get on board, but you will earn huge points by respecting her wishes. As she grows more comfortable with you, you will probably find that she will be more open to try ... (read in full...)
I shouldn't have broken up with her...is there a chance for us now?
Q. I broke up with my ex girlfriend of 3 years towards the end of October last year(complicated reasons). After we broke up she stated that she still thought I was the one. A month or so after we broke up, she admitted that everytime we speak, she ...
A. 27 January 2006: It really is a shame that some times we don't realize what we really have until we screw it all up. There is always hope when communication is still there, because she still talks to you that mens that there are some kinds of feelings present, so ... (read in full...)
We are back together and my life is a living hell! Not sure how much longer I can take this..help
Q. My husband and I were separated because I cheated on him but now we're back together. My life is a living hell, he has talked to other people and we have no trust in each other. We have 2 children and I don't want to hurt them, but I don't know ...
A. 27 January 2006: It is so hard when the trust has been broken in a relationship, while you both have the best of intentions as far as working it out it can be difficult, if not impossible, to do it on your own. I would suggest marriage counseling if you are both ... (read in full...)
Do I ask my abusive ex partner (my son's father) to help me out with our boy's illness?
Q. me and my ex have been living together again and spent xmas together. we have a 21month old son. my ex is emotionally and physically abusive. i have chucked him out for the 2nd time, just over 2 weeks ago. last week our son became very ill ...
A. 24 January 2006: I think his visiting with someone else present is a good idea, since you say he is abusive. He is the boys father, he should take some responsability for him during his illness, he should provide atleast 50% support financially and emotionally for ... (read in full...)
Desperate to correct the bad habits of our relationship. But he says the only way to fix it is to break it off!
Q. How do you fix a poisoned relationship? My bf and I have been together for a year. I love this guy with all my heart - more than I ever knew was possible, and he loves me, too. We're both in our mid-20s, so we're old enough to know when we've ...
A. 23 January 2006: If you guys really want to make it work then you should definitely seek out some couples counseling. They can help you to get over the old hurt and communicate in ways that will eliminate or reduce the amount of future hurt you will cause each ... (read in full...)
How do I get over my significant other's sexual past?
Q. I'd like some advice from anyone who has a boyfriend/girlfriend who has slept with lots of other people before them. I can't seem to get past it and it's causing problems between me and the person of my dreams. Please help, thanks....
A. 23 January 2006: If you trully want to be with someone, you will look at who they are now, not who they were in the past. It is unfair for you to judge them on things they did (there are exceptions to this such as murder, rape, and other horrendous crimes ofcourse) ... (read in full...)
I'm insecure, and it makes me push guys' buttons! How do I trust my man more so that I don't lose him?
Q. I am a 23 year old women who just recently got a divorce from my ex that i was with for 4 years. Now i am seeing a man who brings his son to the daycare center that i work at. I admit that i have been treating him like crap for a few months and he ...
A. 23 January 2006: It is only natural to be a little insecure after being in bad relationships, the trick is not transferring all of the bad things done to you in the past onto your current boyfriend. If you a recently divorced, you may have gotten into this ... (read in full...)
I've lost my sex drive, and it's affecting my relationship. Help!
Q. i have seem to have lost my sex drive and it has now effected my relationship with my boyfriend why would this be?...
A. 23 January 2006: People can "lose" their sex drives for many reasons both physical and emotional. You should probably seek the advice of a doctor first, this way you can get a complete check up and make sure you don't have a physical reason for not wanting sex. ... (read in full...)
The relationship could have come out of a soap-opera storyline... Am I a lovefool?
Q. im an 18 yr old who's been seeing a guy 16yrs my senior for almost 3yrs. i love him with all my heart but our relationship is begining to take its toll on me for many reasons and i don't know if i should stay or go? i know it sounds like a st...
A. 23 January 2006: This situation doesn't sound right at all, and the age difference is not what concerns me. An adult male with 4 kids but no way to contact him? Something is going on there. You are young and if it was over with him for good, you would hurt but ... (read in full...)
How best to break-up so I don't get screwed, money-wise?
Q. hi, what is the best way to break up with a person? iv been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 2 years and i am very unhappy and i also beleave he has been having a relationship with another women, i have confronted him about this yet i dont ...
A. 23 January 2006: That is a tough one, it is hard to predict how someone will react in this type of situation. He may go out of his way to make sure you get screwed. I am hoping that the things in your name are the things you hold near and dear to you. If you are ... (read in full...)
My GF likes to give -- but not receive -- oral. I just want to please her like she does me!
Q. My girlfriend who I've been with for six months acts a little strange about oral sex. She has no problem giving it to me, but she won't let me go down on her. She says it's just nasty. I would like to be able to please her the way she does me. What ...
A. 20 January 2006: I agree with the first answer, there is not much you can do to persuade her to let you go there. Just knowing that you would do it for her if she wanted it is probably enough for her, there are plenty of ways to please a woman with out oral. Good ... (read in full...)
Always felt that I should have been born male. Now I find myself in love with another girl...
Q. Growing up, I was always a real "tom-boy", which is normal, but ever since I was little, and even to this day, I wish I were a male. I always find myself becoming attracted to girls, but lately it's been getting more serious: I'm falling madly in ...
A. 20 January 2006: Feeling like this must be so hard on you, I wish there was something I could say to ease your pain. In my opinion, surpressing the person you are is only going to get harder, you will at some point have to learn to love yourself if you really want ... (read in full...)
I think that my friend has feelings for me, but that she doesn't want anyone to find out because she has a boyfriend...
Q. yeah i know that friends come and go but we were realy close like she is realy lovey and stuff when we are alone then when we in front of people sees dffrent and she realy crys when we are alone could she have feeling for me and dont want me to ...
A. 19 January 2006: That could be the case. You did not go into detail of anything particular that she does to make you feel that she has feelings but it is possible. If she has a boyfriend then it makes sense that if she did have feelings she may not want to make it ... (read in full...)
I think my friend is just being used by her younger, gay friend. Am I the only one who thinks the relationship is weird?
Q. A close (intimate) female friend-53- has a relationship with a younger gay male- 40- which upsets me. She is in the US, he in Europe.They met on a trip a year ago at a resort and seem to have developed a relationship where they communicate almost ...
A. 19 January 2006: First of all she is an adult and has the right to choose who she wants to be friends with. Your theory that they are depandent on one another could very well be a valid theory. Because they are not in relationships right now they are turning to ... (read in full...)
We get on so well... Could this be love? I don't want to scare him off or get hurt.
Q. I'm have a difficult situation... About 3 months ago a friend that I have known for over 8 years got in touch with me and we started hanging out again, here is the catch...the friend was a mutual friend throughout my past relationship (wh...
A. 19 January 2006: From everything you said here it sounds like he is pretty in to you. If you want to know for sure it is time for you and your man to have a really serious talk. A good way to start these things is to reassure them that you are not trying to ... (read in full...)
Does he genuinely like and want me?
Q. Hey there. i met this guy about 2 years ago and we dated for a while, but then it didnt work out cos we were just too young i think. anyway he lives really close to me so iv seen him round quite a bit. Occassionaly out of the blue he'l text me sayin ...
A. 19 January 2006: am sure he is a charmer, after all he keeps getting you into bed. Since, you are wanting to have sex with him as much as he wants you, I don't think he is going to fall into the slime ball category though. If you were to hold off on sex do you ... (read in full...)
How can I make my breasts look better??
Q. hey there.ifeelso selfish writing this because i have alovley face and body.its just my boobs.all of the girlsin my b/fs mags have got gorgeous tits thatare full with massive nipples.mine are just so small. i feel so concious about them.i dont want ...
A. 19 January 2006: Nicola- I assure you that trying to live up to the images in those magezines is not only going to drive you crazy, but it is also pointless. Men like boobs of all shapes and sizes. When you take your bra off rest assured that your b/f is ... (read in full...)
Is she a threat to our relationship??
Q. Here's my situation: There was this girl that my boyfriend talks to a lot lately and they both call each other. He always call me almost everyday and make me come over every Saturday night to sleep over. However, two Saturdays ago, he didn't. ...
A. 17 January 2006: I think your suspicians could be justified, something doesn't sound right. Any time someone in a relationship makes a sudden change there is room for alarm, especially a change like skipping a sleep over. I would investigate further, if he is ... (read in full...)
No money and another baby on the way! I just don't have the money to do things to feel good about myself!
Q. I have this problem that is really affecting me now. I just don't feel that I am good enough for the bloke that im with. We have just got back together after breaking up and now I just don't feel good enough. He says that I'm just being silly an...
A. 17 January 2006: I am a stay at home mom of three, and most other moms will agree that times are often tuff, but we get through it. I rarely have the money to do many of the things my single and childless friends do but I have something they don't have.....a family ... (read in full...)
He left because of my nagging... So should I nag him about whether he was seeing women while we were together?
Q. My husband has walked out on me reason does not love me anymore and sick of my nagging. The last few months he had been totally withdrawen from me could not stand coming home from work or facing me. He had been working shift work for years. Since ...
A. 17 January 2006: If the reason he left you was because of your nagging then I don't think that nagging him further will get you the answers you desire. I feel like it is maybe closure of some type you are seeking, but that has to come from within you, the answers ... (read in full...)
My partner is no longer interested in sex! Please help!
Q. I am 35 and my partner is 54 and she has become uninterested in sex, please can you help?...
A. 17 January 2006: Mant things can affect a womans sexual desire. If you have been in the relationship for a long time the need for that type of intimicay can decrease. Age could also play a role, if she has started menopause her ability to become aroused as her ... (read in full...)
She's a wonderful woman now... but when we go out, I worry about her slutty past!
Q. Hello all, as you can tell by my posts I am new to this board. I came across it while surfing trying to find some advice. Anyways, I thought I would post here. I see there is a lot of posts here in regards to accepting a girlfriend's past, but I am ...
A. 13 January 2006: Look, when she did these things you did not even know her, it is not right for you to judge her now for what she did on her past. You said yourself that she totally changed her life after her daughter, that should show you what a strong and ... (read in full...)
Did I do the best thing, cutting off contact when she went back to her ex?
Q. Hi. Need some positive reinforcement. I'm 30 years old (single, kinda good looking, some would say a catch) and was seeing a girl of 24. We live 150 miles apart, so only saw each other a few times but talked and txt every day, several times a day fo...
A. 13 January 2006: You are definitely doing the right thing! You need time to heal and if you were to resume contact with her it would be harder for you to do that. I am sorry that you are going through this pain, stay strong and it will lessen with time. Good ... (read in full...)
My husband tells me that he doesn't find me physically attractive. That hurts!
Q. Dear Cupid, My husband made a statement to me last night, he said if physical appearance was the reason for lovng me I would be long gone by now. It's not the first time he has hurt my feelings like that. However, he finds porn stars very attra...
A. 13 January 2006: I don't think you can stop yourself from being hurt by comments like that. That is a terrible thing to say to anyone, but especially your wife. I am hoping that somewhere behind that comment was a meaning more along the lines of he is attracted to ... (read in full...)
So I get friendly texts from a few women friends... I can't understand why my wife makes a big deal of it!
Q. My wife and I just separated and I can't make sense of it. We had the best relationship but a couple of years ago I got close (not sexual) with someone else, mainly lots of sexy texts/e mails and a couple of dates- when my wife was pregnant and ...
A. 13 January 2006: I honestly can't believe that you do not see any problems with the relationships that you are forming with these women. If you were a single guy, sure that would be okay, but you are asking your wife to sit by and do nothing while you create ... (read in full...)
My bf likes to view anal/shemale porn..it bothers me alot. He says he's just curious-I think it's more. Help
Q. my b/f looks at porn alot. he sneaks around behind my back to do it and even though it bothers me that hes looking at other women it hurts more to know that hes not open and honest with me about what he wants. I have noticed from the sites he looks ...
A. 13 January 2006: Getting someone to open up about something like this can be very difficult. Main stream porn is hard enough for a lot of guys to talk about but an anal fetish and shemales has got to be something he would rather keep in his closet. I would think ... (read in full...)
How can we get my friend to join back in our gang?
Q. Please help me. I have a really old friend who I have known since the age of 3. We've been best friends from then up until now, and we are 14 now. When we first moved up to highschool, we drifted apart because she made new friends and so did I, but ...
A. 13 January 2006: Have you thought about inviting her and her new friend back? She may be avoiding the topic of your "gang" because she feeld her new friend will not be accepted. If she is going through all of these problems, she may just need time to sort through ... (read in full...)
Are we both being stubbon fools for not saying "I love you"?!
Q. Help! I am thinking about telling my boyfriend that I love him, but I'm afraid that he might not say it back, or that I'll scare him off! (He hasn't done anything in particular to make me think this; this is just my own paranoia setting in.) We...
A. 13 January 2006: It definietly sounds like he has been feeling you out on the "I love you" subject. He is probably just as afraid as you are to say it. If you trully feel it then I see no reason to keep from saying it, after all even if he didn't feel the same ... (read in full...)
Just broken up with my boyfriend but now I've fallen for his best mate! I feel terrible, but what can I do?
Q. I've just broken up with my boyfriend of two years in the past few days, but I have a problem. The past few weeks I've spent alot of time with his friend whilst I was spending time with my boyfriend, and over time I've started to fall for his ...
A. 13 January 2006: Well, it almost sounds like the crush on the friend may have contributed to the break up with the boyfriend. If that is the case I have got to give you points because you broke up with your man BEFORE anything happened, and that is almost unheard ... (read in full...)
I asked her out but she said it would ruin our friendship. Should I ask her out again?
Q. i asked this girl out, she said it would ruin our friendship but i really like her so how should i ask her out again....
A. 12 January 2006: Some of the best relationships have been built from very close friendships, so rather than worrying about how to ask her out again you should be worrying about how to be a better friend to her. If I were you I would start by not pressuring her to ... (read in full...)
I'm 38-he's 25..his family won't meet me..his mother thinks our relationship is 'disgusting"! Need advice
Q. Older Woman Younger Man I'm 38 and my bofriend is 25. We have been dating for 1 1/2 years. We love each other dearly. The problem is his family... they dont accept our relationship and refuse to meet me.. his mother said that our relationship is ...
A. 12 January 2006: First of all his family should not make or break your relationship, if you two are happy you should be able to be together, however it sounds like he is letting them get between you. Second, if he actually said that when he returns to NY you won't ... (read in full...)
I found naked pics of men on his computer! I'm shocked..what should I do?
Q. Mrs Confused.............. I have been with my partner for 4 years and we got married 2 years ago, i thought i knew him well, but just before christmas i found naked pictures of "men" on the computer so i started deleting them, but every time i d...
A. 12 January 2006: Hiding from the problem will not make it go away. I know it will be hard to confront an issue like this but, if he is interested in men it is something you should be aware of as his wife. The best thing for everyone is to have this all out in the ... (read in full...)
I'm 21 and my parents don't want me to leave and live my own life! I want out of here...help!
Q. Howdy, need some advice, I'm too nice for my own good, I cant say no, I do everything I'm told, my mother is way too emotionally dependant on me, and when I want freedom to go out and travel to another country I cant because they wont let me go, i'm ...
A. 12 January 2006: You are an adult and your mother is putting way too much on you. You are not responsable for her health and well being, though it is your mother and you don't want to abandon her at some point she has to face thather baby is all grown up. You need ... (read in full...)
I'm 15-he's 16. I'm pregnant and I feel badly, he wants to give up his dream of becoming a doctor, to work and support us. .
Q. I have just found out that i am pregnant and i don't know what to do. I have been going out with my bf for nearly a year and a half now things are going great between us and he has been very supportive about the pregnancy telling me it's my decision ...
A. 12 January 2006: If you decide to have the baby, there are things you can both do to make life work without him giving up his dream. He can be a full time student and have a part time job, believe me it is done all the time. This will leave some slack that will ... (read in full...)
We really love each other, but we can't marry because he and I are of different castes! What can I do?
Q. Hi! I really need your help. I am 26 and my boyfriend is 24. He says he can't marry me as our caste is different and he doesn't want to hurt his parents. We are into physical relationship. I really love him and can't stay away from him. I am really...
A. 11 January 2006: I am shocked that even though you know this guy will not give you anything more than sex, you are continuing to have sex with him. It sounds as though your differents castes are giving him an easy way out when it comes to committing to you. It is ... (read in full...)
His ex gf showed up at the hospital when I took him to emergency...are they still fooling around?
Q. Recently my boyfriend of eight years hurt his back and I took him to the emergency room Well I called his father to meet us there so he could help me get him out of the car. A girl he cheated on me with 5 years ago(and adored by his mother) and has ...
A. 11 January 2006: I doubt that her showing up at the emergency room is proof that they are fooling around. You said he didn't call her, so you know that it was not his wish for her to be there for him in his time of need. They have a child together, whether you ... (read in full...)
She loves someone else and I just can't forget her.. I want some advice before something terrible happens to me.
Q. Dear Friends, it's the first time i am feeling weak in my life, i don't say i am a superman, but till now i was controling everything in life. i thought initiatly perhaps naively that i would not fall in love simply because this special girl jus...
A. 11 January 2006: If by "something terrible" you mean suicide please call for help! There are suicide help lines in every state and they can help you through these difficult times. Though I feel uncomfortable giving any advice on your situation because I am worried ... (read in full...)
My gf of 2 years told me to leave because I'm not there for her..how do I deal with this?
Q. Been with my girlfriend for nearly 2 years now. both been in previous marriages with kids( 1 hers 2 mine). had few issues recently about future etc. at weekend a relative of hers died. i had all kids so she could be there with family, the 1st time i ...
A. 11 January 2006: The way I am understanding is that she started acting this after her relative died. If she was acting normal before the death, I would say she may be experiencing depression and she would benefit from seeking counseling. There is probably not much ... (read in full...)
Met a celebrity and slept with him. He said to call if I want to hook up again. Is he being sincere?
Q. i recently went out with my friend and got a little bit too drunk. I met this guy, and even though he is a little bit of a celebrity he seemed really nice. I ended up at his flat and one thing led to another and we slept together. In the morning ...
A. 10 January 2006: Well, this one seems hard to read whether he is a celebraty or not. If he said to call you if you want to hook up, then it sounds as if he is looking for a booty call type relationship. Most players are very smooth, they wouldn't get much tail if ... (read in full...)
He rubbed up against me and I orgasmed..did I lose my virginity?
Q. I am a 17yr. Christian girl, who's done a lot of things, I'm not proud of, with my boyfriend of a year. But I am now scared that I might have accidently lost my virginity by slowly slipping into things that "were'nt so bad". I have had orgasms ...
A. 10 January 2006: If he did not actually penetrate your vagina with his penis then your "virginity" is still intact. You are orgasming from what many women orgasm from and that is clitoral stimulation. What you are doing is still considered a form of sexual ... (read in full...)
I think about my social worker all the time...what do I do??
Q. I have been having problems at home relating to the relationnship between my son and his step-father (my partner who I am now about to split up with). Because I was so worried about my son so much, I went to the doctors, to cut a long story sh...
A. 10 January 2006: It is normal during difficult times to attatch ourselves emotionally to someone that seems stable to us. While your feelings for her are real feelings, I wonder if you are maybe misinterpreting them as something more than a deep appreciation and ... (read in full...)
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