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... Send *istify a private message | | | *istify's profile:I'm just a regular girl from South Africa with a lot of relationship experience, and a deeper understanding to problems. Currently in a very steady relationship (with the usual ups and downs) and i have a four and a half year old daughter.
My advice is not nearly professional but i try and help where i can. I'm open and honest and will tell you exactly what i think of a situation.
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When is enough, enough?
Q. I've had some bad luck in the past with boyfriends. Fell pregnant when i was 19, and my daughter is now almost 5. I met a guy 18 months ago, and fell in love. It was the same for him, but he just came out of a failed engagement, so things took a ...
A. 31 October 2007: Hello everybody
Thank you so much for your advice. I've decided my course of action. I love him, and i want to be with him. I read a book once, which quite frankly i forgot about.
It's called - The Five Love Languages - by Gary Chapman
Acc... (read in full...)
What seems to be happening in our relationship?
Q. I have a gal frend whom we have been moving out for a long tyme,we are planning to get married soon.She loves me so much aswel as her parents,they alwaz ask her abt me.Unfortunately she got transfered from her workplace to a place far away from ...
A. 31 October 2007: Hi there.
Sorry to hear about your problem. It seems to be only the sex, so that is what i'll talk about. Women in general have dryer days. This is not your fault. For women it is mostly a mental thing, but sometimes (not often) it may be beca... (read in full...)
Should I take him back?
Q. My ex and I were together for over a year before he had to move back home for work. We were so in love and very happy. I knew though that him and hie ex were still in contact over the phone but thought nothing of it as I tried to deal with the fact ...
A. 31 October 2007: I've got two views on this subject: I'll give you both...
He left you for somebody else. Now, that the grass isn't really greener on the other side, he wants you back. So, first you are good enough, and then not, and then you are again. This gu... (read in full...)
For guys: Does a woman's vagina size matter? Does it vary if she's tall or short?
Q. On sex and pleasure, Does it matter the size of a women down south? If she is taller or smaller her vagina will be better for him or not? How about the lenght/long/short of the vagina, does this matter to a guy? Does this only matter to EGO driven ...
A. 31 October 2007: Interesting question. As i've wondered about this myself a couple of months ago, i've done some research (with my boyfriend - and some of my male friends) The most general answer - or rather, the conclusion, is that is doesn't matter, as long as ... (read in full...)
I've given him £6000 in total which he spent on debts and drugs and now he has disappeared...
Q. i dont know what to do and am deepl upst. i will try shorten the story. i was with this wonderful guy, for a year was all perfect, then one day i heard nothing from him at all just stopped calling visiting nothing, i went through torment and ...
A. 31 October 2007: Hello there
Your situation sounds awful, and i know that you will not like what you hear next. This man does not love you.. If he loved you, he wouldn't be wasting your money on Anything, and wouldn't run away every time you give him money. He m... (read in full...)
Can he really mean those words after two years?
Q. My boyfriend of just over 2 years ended our relationship for good 1 week ago. The first year of our relationship was fantastic we were so in love and talked about living together, marriage etc. Things started to slow down April this year whe...
A. 30 October 2007: Dear Heartbroken. This is really horrible. I'm so sorry for the ordeal you are going through. I'm gonna start off with saying - Do not call him...
Never again.
When someone we love hurts us, we go through denial. How could this be - it cannot b... (read in full...)
We have just had a baby and now he wants to sleep with other women.
Q. We've been together 2 years. He's been fathering my 4 year old and we just had a baby in August. We bought a house in June. He just told me he wants to sleep with other women for new and different experiences?!?...
A. 30 October 2007: I'm sorry, he wants to what???
This behavior is totally unacceptable. He should be home being a father to his children. What kind of an example would he like to set to them. It is not okay for him to sleep with somebody else. Not even just once... (read in full...)
He went and told his friend.
Q. I gave my boyfriend head in the school bathroom and he went and told his friend and she asked me about it i told her no i didn't how do i tell him to not tell our business to anyone?...
A. 30 October 2007: Your sex life has absolutely nothing to do with the rest of the world. You are quite right! Tell him that the things you share has meaning to you, and that you would like to keep it between you. Tell him that how it makes you feel when he tells ... (read in full...)
Shall I tell him what I think?
Q. My son has started a relationship with a man 20years his senior. This is his first gay relationship. I want to support my son but cannot support the age difference. What can they have in common?- I'm bewildered. How can I give positive feedback ...
A. 30 October 2007: I have not been a mother for long enough to understand what you must be going through, but i will answer anyway. Many men - who have their first GAY relationships look up to older men. These older men are more experienced in Gay relationships and ... (read in full...)
26, gay, and friends with a 17 year old. He lets me do things to him... but he insists he's straight. What do you think?
Q. i am a 26 yr old gay, i met a 17 year old boy and we have a great friendship, he insists that he is straight, but when he visits me, he allows me to cuddle and hug him, kiss him on the neck, and even feel his legsand upper thighs. i feel he might be...
A. 30 October 2007: You need to take a step back, and let him figure it out for himself. Assure him that you will be there for him no matter what, and don't spoil a perfectly good friendship by applying pressure on him. The truth always comes out.... (read in full...)
25, about to get engaged... but still have feelings for me ex. What can I do?
Q. Im 25. Have been with my partner for 3 years. we met immediately after a messy breakup with my ex of 5 years - who was my first love but completely broke my heart. Im still in love with him but im also happy with my current partner. My ex called me ...
A. 30 October 2007: A broken cup is Never the same. It can be repaired but the scars will remain. Question is: Do you Really Love your soon to be Fiance? If the question is yes, then forget about this other guy. Tell him that it is time you both moved on. When ... (read in full...)
I feel guilty about having cheated, the relationship won't be the same if I tell her.
Q. ive been with my girlfriend for a year and a month now. last night i cheated on her, i dont know what came over me. i feel so ashamed and guilty since my girlfriend is so amazing. i do love my girlfriend and she loves me, ive been thinking i should ...
A. 30 October 2007: Hi there.
One of the most important things in a relationship is Honesty.
Firstly - look at yourself. Why did you cheat on her?
Take this from a former Cheater, Once you've reached the point where you cheat on someone, things are already brok... (read in full...)
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