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writes:On sex and pleasure, Does it matter the size of a women down south? If she is taller or smaller her vagina will be better for him or not? How about the lenght/long/short of the vagina, does this matter to a guy? Does this only matter to EGO driven guys?How about the emotions a guy fells for a women and how sex feels?
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reader, Boyd  +, writes (16 November 2009):
I'm married to a woman with a very large stretchy vagina. I have actually had my whole fist inside her during foreplay (11 inches I'm circumference).She has openly told me that she loves big penis. She's told me all about her past and especially how she LOVED the large ones. We went shopping for some adult toys and she picked out thick 10inch ones. Now I'm honestly about 4 1/2 inches long and exactly 5 around. I Love her loose vagina, it is such a turn on for me to see it hang open when she is on her hands and knees. My Ex was much tighter and it did have more feeling during intercourse but, for some reason I just Love looser women! I think that's why I'm so attracted to tall women, I magine them having large genitalia. We play with the boys, as she affectionately calls her toy collection about every other time we make love and I love to slip in her with one of those monster dongs, she goes crazy!!! I love it when I pull the big one out and I stay in and barely touch the sides... Sweet!
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reader, Endy +, writes (31 October 2009):
And women lie when they say size doesn't matter, because you never hear hem say "he doesn't have a big dick but boy he is good in bed!" Do you?
XOXOXOXOXOXO
I know I have said that. Because, frankly, it's the oral sex that matters the most, not the vaginal.
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reader, NMAndre +, writes (29 September 2009):
It matters to me but there are lots of ways around a size incompatability. Somebody below said guys like all vaginas and that's so true (and we like its owner even more). It's just that each one presents its own unique situation, when matched up with our own "situation." :-)If you do have a size mismatch -- either way, too big or too small -- there is lots of advice on the Internet for how to still pleasure each other. I imagine the advice to couples when the man has a small/large penis is also helpful for when the woman has a large/small vagina. I have used this advice for my own size challenges and it is very helpful.If I had my druthers, I don't want it too tight or too loose. Too tight is overly stimulating and makes it hard to last very long. Too loose, especially if she lubricates a lot, makes it hard to get enough stimulation. But like I said, there are methods for dealing with either situation.I've read that the most challenging situation is when the guy is long and the woman is shallow. Apparently this can be painful for the woman and frustrating for the guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2008): I think that the size of a vagina and the entrance does indeed matter. I am a male of average length and slightly above average girth and have had sex with many different women. Some are tight, some are not. Sex can be great with both, but the girl that I am with now has a XXXL vajayjay. This was not really a problem at first, but now, I lose my erection unless I'm in the zone and/or throw it into pneumatic jack hammer mode.This is frustrating for both of us. She has had two children naturally and I don't know if that is the cause or if she is just a "big" girl down there. It feels torn up between her vagina and her anus pretty bad and I am wondering if her doctor did a botched sticth job... My previous partner was so tight ( one finger, maybe two if daring ) and to now be with a girl who is looser ( three meaty fingers easy ) if messing with me big time. I love her alot, but also know that sex is an important part of a relationship. She also had an interracial experience and that also messes with my head....right or wrong.Sex is both mental and physical and I am having a hell of a time coping with this problem. What can she do? Kegels seem to be overrated with her. Vaginoplasty??? What do I suggest?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2008): I'm sorry to pop any bubbles here - but the truth is that vaginal size definitely matters - no guy likes going with a girl who is big down there. A guide is that if you can't squeeze your index finger hard, then you can improve...The good news is that ALL women can make themselves tighter, by doing sets of kegel of pc muscle/pelvic floor exercises. Just contract the vaginal wall muscles, repeating 20 times, then hold for 20 seconds, repeat this 5 times. You should work up to doing this at least 20 times a day ( Ido it 100 and have an INCREDIBLE sex life with a guy who is a little on the slim side - but my soul mate - he says I am the tightest he has known - and when I was in my twenties this was DEFINITELY NOT THE CASE!!!) the sad truth is that most women are too lazy or indifferent about their sex lives to even bother with this simple exercise that can be done at work or doing the shopping, (or driving along, as I do!!)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2008): Hi, I'm a pretty young girl (about twenty) but I've been blessed with the gift of game. I've been with men and women and if you ask me size really doesn't matter, just like looks don't matter that much (I mean you have to be attracted to the person obviously but still..) what matters the most is how good you are in bed. For example, one of the first guys I was with had an REALLY big penis but to be honest it was AWFUL! For one thing it hurt like hell and to make it worse, he didn't know how to use it... I'm telling you it must of take all of about five minute...ridiculous! On the flip side, I've never had any complaints about my being loose except from some guys who were a little below average but I eventually tightened up after a few weeks. Also, I found that sex with one of the below average guys was some of the best sex of my life. I'm sure having an eternally tight vagina is really nice for whoever your fucking but , honey, if your a lame fuck your a lame fuck and neither the tightest pussy or the biggest dick is going to fix that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2008): My boyfriend told me that there is a difference in having a tight vagina and good sex. You can have a tight vagina and have bap sex, but if your sex game is right then it doesnt matter how loose your vagina is. Your sex could actually be better than the girl with the tight vagina.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2008): i dont think it matters weather she has a tight or loose vagina i mean some could ask does it matter of the lenght an width of the penis? i reckon it all depends on the person weather or not they're comfortable they could be tense but tight vagina's could be more to a guys pleasure id say!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2008): Listen, there is a difference between a tight and lose vagina. that's why they feel different. I believe and scientifically understood that lack of exercise , especially after birth can leave you open like a door. A lot of women talk of how a man should be in shape and big , and this and that. Well if you ladies want length, you should do some kegels and exercise too... I'm not trying to be mean, I'm saying it like it is. You have to keep yourself as attractive, as much as you expect us to be a certain way. By the way I'm really well hung and thick, I'm speaking on behalf of a lot of guys. Because apparently women are so demanding in what they want, well you know what...How about you girls?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2008): Im a 33 year old guy and iv been with a lot of women, i didnt notice wether any of them where tight or loose i think it is just a thing that men like to say to look like theyr sexual and know everything about it Likee.. she had a nice tight pussy or her flapss where loosee BUT all of them felt the same to me but i enjoyed the sex more with the people who i was sexually drawn too or had strong feelings for.
Dont worry about it girls... MEN LOVE ANY TYPE OF PUSSY !!!
(UNLESS THEIR GAY)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2008): I think if woman answered honestly, they would admit to size mattering. My current love interest told me at one time, that her x husband was so large that once she was wearing a tampon an it just simply fell out...Of course by her saying this, it made me fill insecure about my size (never did before)...And of course she said she was so embarrased and never got over it...She was trying to explain why she was so stretched and big down there...Despite her trying to get me to feel sorry for her and crushing my ego at the same time..I realized that she probably had sex with him before marriage and realized his size before hand...Yet really dug sex with him...
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (10 January 2008):
 Hi,
I had a girl once who was very tight. I thought it would be like it normally is ( I am quite wide ) in that it squeezes in at first but after a while she would loosen up. Not in this case, we stopped after about an hour as I was starting to get very sore, then the bruising came up and it hurt like hell if I got wood over the next few days. So no thanks.
My current beau is very loose, and its just how I like it, you can enter in any position, no bruising, and I love the look of a nice wide pussy..yum yum.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2007): I had no clue this question was gonna be so visible. I have never been told I'm loose my husband and I enjoy each other very much. I was never told I'm loose. Why do men want it biger then, I enjoy my husband's size and he still wants it bigger to please me more. Thank You all for taking the time to continue the repplies Happy Holidays/ : - )
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2007): I am a thirty year old man. Been divorced for over five years now and have taken full advantage of my situation. I would say I am very experienced. I think complaining about it being too loose is a put down to any woman. I have had them in the early twenties to the fifties range. There is far more to sex than a just a tight vagina. Even if it was loose, afterwards I kiss her and sincerely tell her how wonderful the experince was, never mentioning looseness. The last thing any woman needs to hear, especially an older woman, is it's loose. That's really mean spirited. Personally, I have never experienced one too loose. I truly love a vagina whether tight or loose.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2007): I am like some of the previous posters. I like it a bit loose. I am one who likes a lot of time and playing around. If is too tight, I orgasm faster than I like. Like one mentioned, they all feel good, loose or tight. Unlike many, I am old school. I also enjoy a thick black bush on a woman who is very pale compected That contrast is a real turnon to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2007): Hell yes it matters! Ever notice that a woman who is a little tighter tends to moan and be more "into" it. A woman who is wider than your penis will have to work a little harder, normally she will have to be on top to achieve pleasure. And if she's been with "bigger" dudes she's used to being on top of them, and that means alot. And women lie when they say size doesn't matter, because you never hear hem say "he doesn't have a big dick but boy he is good in bed!" Do you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2007): Does not matter.. JUst like women say, it is not the size it is how you use it!
If a women knows how to really please a man, move just right etc. it just does not matter..
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007): I am a 25 year old man. I met up with a 52 year old woman about 6 months ago. She was tall, a bit chunky and is the oldest I have ever been with. She was very loose. However, I didn't mind a bit. It was tight enough to feel very nice and I am not a big guy by any means. We both got off with no problem. In fact, it was so good we met several more times. Personally, I think tightness is overrated. I have never found one that didn't feel good.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2007): On several occasions, I had sex with this 32 year old female who had never bore children. I know she loved her sex and was far, far from a vigin. To be honest, my penis size is a bit below average as to length and girth. She had the tightest vagina I have ever encountered. So tight, I orgasmed in very short time. Not a pleasurable situation for her or me as we hadn't even really gotten started. I have had more than a few near virgins, girls who had intercourse only a couple of times before me. While tight, NONE were that tight. This must be some sort of a characteristic the 35 year old was born with. Believe me, tighter is not always better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2007): I don't think tall, short, thin or heavy have anything to do with the size of the vagina.
My wife is about 5'2" and 105 pounds and you could park a limo in her vagina, which is perfect for sex because it makes me last longer.
I have been with larger women that I could barely get my penis in. I don't think there is any relationship between body size and vaginal size.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question
Thank You I appreciate your anwers, specially the one from troubledtoomuch.
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reader, troubledtoomuch + ♥, writes (2 November 2007):
 There was another question a couple of days ago on the same subject. The vagina expands or contracts to accommodate a wide range of penis sizes, up to a point. The main problem seems to happen if the vagina will not expand enough to accommodate a large penis. Different women can accommodate different sizes. Even if the penis is too big for a certain woman, there will be no problem if the guy is considerate and careful. However, it is a little more fun for the guy if he does not have to worry about hurting the woman. My wife is not very big down there and neither am I. However, when I was younger, I could hurt her in some positions because I was just long enough to poke her cervix if not careful. Now that I am older and slightly shorter, I can just barely gently hit her cervix if not careful. After 28 years, our sizes match just about perfectly :)
On the penis size thing, if the guy is small then the vagina will not expand as much as if the guy is large. Therefore both sizes will fit fine. I've only had 5 partners, but both they and I enjoyed sex together. One woman was short and one was nearly as tall as me. It didn't matter.
Perhaps some men get their kicks by being able to poke the woman's cervix hard and hurt her. I think that is rare and I certainly got no joy from it when I would hurt someone on a rare occasion. I do, however, like the feeling of just being able to gently touch my wife's cervix now in certain positions. She likes that feeling also. The feeling to me now is that I am just the perfect size for her, and I guess it helps my ego a little. Hurting her did not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2007): I am interested in hearing from the guys on this subject too!
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reader, Mistify  +, writes (31 October 2007):
 Interesting question. As i've wondered about this myself a couple of months ago, i've done some research (with my boyfriend - and some of my male friends) The most general answer - or rather, the conclusion, is that is doesn't matter, as long as you know how to use it.
Vagina's vary in size pretty much the same way Penises do. Some have larger holes, some have tighter holes, some are shorter, longer, some have a protruding clitoris etc etc etc.
The main thing to remember, is position. This is the most important thing. I don't know about the rest of the girls out there, but the best sex i've ever had, was with a guy with a tiny penis. This was because he knew exactly how to optimise his manhood. He knew which positions would reach the correct spots, and although not all of them worked for me - it took trial and error to figure it out. The same counts for females. Yes, not all of us are tight, but if you know how to use it, you can drive him wild.
On the emotional side - i cannot help you on that. I didn't have the guts to do research on the emotional side of guys during sex. Only the physical...
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