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writes:My ex and I were together for over a year before he had to move back home for work. We were so in love and very happy. I knew though that him and hie ex were still in contact over the phone but thought nothing of it as I tried to deal with the fact that he had a life before me. But after he moved back home, he broke up with me claiming that he still had feelings for her and that he didn't want to hurt me. So I let it go. It hurt me so much but I accepted his decision. Now, a month later he can't stop ringing me. He says he has spent time with her and doesn't feel for her anymore and that he loves me and wants to marry me. I love this boy way too much but I am still rejecting him because I don't trust him. He seems genuine... Should I take him back?
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (31 October 2007):
Sometimes i feel for you women.How does a man dump you for sum1 else and expect you to keep your arms open waiting for him?It also seems he's not sure who he really loves and it would be dangerous to take him back.I really think you should have been more strict with him talkin wit his ex.I kno you deserve better so please don't get desperate and use your emotions to think.He may turn around and dump you again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou have no idea how grateful I am for the advice. Thank you all... xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the advice. It's driving me nuts and I don't pick up his calls but I am really scared to have this happen again.
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reader, angelblueeyes +, writes (31 October 2007):
 I say absolutely not you should tell him to go jump he made his choice when he finished with you & now he has to live with it,
But that is easy for me to say as i'm not the one that is in love with him, You cant help who your in love with and if he is really what you want then you will go back with him regardless of what anyone tells you,
But i think he really doesn't know what he wants he is happily bouncing back and forth & if you put up with it he will just keep doing it, But honestly if you dont trust him it's not a good start to a relationship.
Good luck x
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reader, Mistify  +, writes (31 October 2007):
 I've got two views on this subject: I'll give you both...
He left you for somebody else. Now, that the grass isn't really greener on the other side, he wants you back. So, first you are good enough, and then not, and then you are again. This guy cannot make up his mind. It must be hard because you still have feelings for him, but when will he reject you again? Until the next person comes along that might be prettier, or smarter, or funnier than you.
Please, don't do it. This guy is feeling lonely, because things are not working out with his ex, and he misses having someone "there" 24/7.
Everybody deserves a second chance though, so maybe grant it to him. This time - on your terms. Be very vigilant for any signs that things are funny (you should be able to recognize them this time round), and when they show their ugly faces, walk away in a different direction.
9 out of 10 times, we already know the answers. We just don't want to face it. If you don't trust him, Trust your gut. Hope things work out...
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (31 October 2007):
 Hi
Tricky one. On the one hand it screams of a guy that doesn't actually know what he wants, and on the other hand, he might well have come to a final decision and know he wants you finally.
Only you can decide whether its a wise move to take a gamble on him i'm afraid. I will be very surprised if anyone will be able to give you a different answer than that.
Good luck.
C xxxx
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