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26, gay, and friends with a 17 year old. He lets me do things to him... but he insists he's straight. What do you think?

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Question - (30 October 2007) 5 Answers - (Newest, 30 October 2007)
A male United Kingdom age 41-50, *lderlover writes:

i am a 26 yr old gay, i met a 17 year old boy and we have a great friendship, he insists that he is straight, but when he visits me, he allows me to cuddle and hug him, kiss him on the neck, and even feel his legsand upper thighs.

i feel he might be going through a period of not knowing what his sexuality is, but seems to be leaning towards being gay. anyone got an opinion on this please. i know i cannot make im gay, but worrfy about influencing him, althought he will always vist.

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A male reader, olderlover United Kingdom +, writes (30 October 2007):

olderlover is verified as being by the original poster of the question

answer to annonymous

the boy has had relalionships with girls he also have many gay male friends

for you to suggest that I am a pedofile is really disgusting, would fel very sorry for any children that are conne ted to you. althougfh you may very well be single, your views certainly are a bit wild.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2007):

I do believe my answer was sensible, I am not trying to judge but 26 and 17 come on. You are an adult who should be living alone, has a job/career, went to college etc. This kid probably still lives at home with his parents and maybe has a part-time job if that and is probably in college or on his way. That just doesn't sound like much of a match to me. Knowmatter what you say this kid has a long way to go. if he was 24 that would be different because he has some sort of life experience. Has he ever been in any relationship girl or guy? If he were my son you would be in jail or worst!

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A male reader, olderlover United Kingdom +, writes (30 October 2007):

olderlover is verified as being by the original poster of the question

The person who replied anonymously, I think it is entirely wrong, 9 years is a large age gap, and to suggest paedophilia to me suggests that he is depravedhimself, no wonder he does not publish a name. I hope others answer sensibly.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2007):

I find it hard to to understand how a 26 and 17 year old can be friends. At 26 what do you have in common with a kid. I think that you are influencing him, and that you should maybe hang out with guys your own age. If he is gay he needs to come to that conclusion on his own, not with the help of someone who obviously preying on him. In my opinion this is borderline pedophilia.

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A female reader, Mistify South Africa +, writes (30 October 2007):

Mistify agony auntYou need to take a step back, and let him figure it out for himself. Assure him that you will be there for him no matter what, and don't spoil a perfectly good friendship by applying pressure on him. The truth always comes out.

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