Flirting with my best friend's wife...should I go further?
Q. My best friend started dating this girl years ago. My gf at the time and her were bffs. My friends gf and i had this chemistry that is so lustful and exciting. We would mess around a bit and eventually it came out in the open. We admitted guilt and ...
A. 15 January 2015: That's the link I was going to post, Honeypie.
Really, OP. How could you be so selfish and cruel to do this to your best friend of all people?... (read in full...)
Flirting with my best friend's wife...should I go further?
Q. My best friend started dating this girl years ago. My gf at the time and her were bffs. My friends gf and i had this chemistry that is so lustful and exciting. We would mess around a bit and eventually it came out in the open. We admitted guilt and ...
A. 15 January 2015: What you should do here is have some respect for your friend and you should be acting like one. No decent person flirts with their friend's spouse and considers taking it further.
Either drop all contact with the woman, drop all contact with bot... (read in full...)
Update: I Verbally Abuse My Boyfriend so He Will Pay Attention to Me
Q. Here's an update. After verbally abusing my boyfriend he broke up with me. But we hung out last week, and everything seemed to be back to normal. Should I ask him if we can get back together? Or should I just let it flow?...
A. 15 January 2015: I think that, if you stick with what you've just replied, that will be a wise decision that should benefit you both :)... (read in full...)
Is it weird for my husband to lay on his little sister'a lap and stroke her face?
Q. Is it just me, or am I normal in thinking that it is very wrong for my husband who is 27 years old to lie on a sofa with his head in his 10 year old sisters lap and start stroking her face because I personally find it weird. My friends also said it ...
A. 15 January 2015: Weird, yes (to me), but not in a perverted way, if that's what you were implying.... Is there another reason that has put doubt in your mind as to his intentions?... (read in full...)
I need to go to college but I don't have the self confidence to do it
Q. hi, not a relationship question but a self confidence one; i have a steady job as a glazier, in two years my boss is retiring and and in February and march this year three people are leaving, wich may prompt my boss to retire early , so i am hoping ...
A. 14 January 2015: By facing it head on and maybe getting a few sessions of counselling to help you prepare to deal with what you may come up against....... (read in full...)
Nine year affair and the woman I love decides to have another child with her husband.
Q. I am a married man with 2 kids who fell in love with a married woman 9 years ago. She was in a "loveless" marriage with 1 child and I was getting bored in mine. She recently "broke" it off with me without any explanation a few months ago and would't ...
A. 14 January 2015: You need to get a divorce. Your wife doesn't deserve this. If you are unhappy, man up and act on it properly and morally: file for divorce. Do you want to set the example for your children that it's okay if one of their partners cheats on them?! ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is pressuring me into a threesome!
Q. Me and my fiance are very close but I feel like as many times as I talk to him about this he just wont understand we were at a party and I was the only sober one well him and his friend pressured me into some stuff the next morning he did not talk ...
A. 14 January 2015: This isn't how someone who loves you acts. Please leave him; he's controlling, resents you, holds a grudge, etc.... (read in full...)
Update: I Verbally Abuse My Boyfriend so He Will Pay Attention to Me
Q. Here's an update. After verbally abusing my boyfriend he broke up with me. But we hung out last week, and everything seemed to be back to normal. Should I ask him if we can get back together? Or should I just let it flow?...
A. 14 January 2015: Have you been to anger management or counselling? Are you still going? If yes, what did they say? If not, why not?
Personally, I think that there's too much bad energy and history with this pairing.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend doesn't touch me! How do I tell her this without upsetting her?
Q. Im in a lesbian relationship and I have been with my girlfriend for about 6 months we have alot of sex, but she dosnt touch me. Its always me touching her. How can I bring up to her that it bothers me a lot that I'm always giving to her and she ...
A. 14 January 2015: She's not mature enough to be having sex if she's unwilling to openly talk about it.
Is it possible she's uncomfortable being a lesbian, so doesn't like being the one doing the sexual intimacy with a woman?
Just sit down with her and be hones... (read in full...)
My girlfriend proposed me a threesome. What should I do?
Q. Me and my girlfriend (I'm 23 and she's 20) have been together for over two years. We're serious, Things are wonderful between us two, we really love each other, and we're living together since a couple of weeks ago. The other day we were talking ...
A. 14 January 2015: Personally, I think fantasies are usually best left as that; they rarely live up to the idea you have of them and can even cause break ups. I also wouldn't suggest ever introducing a friend either of you would like to keep into your sex life; it's ... (read in full...)
Her lack of sexual desire has me wondering if I should break up with her.
Q. So Ive been with this girl for over 2 years now and nearly everything is great with her. We moved in together 6 months ago and we still get on really well and I love her very much the problem is her lackof sexual desire. She has admitted she no ...
A. 13 January 2015: You wouldn't choose to have a relationship without sex because, like the OP, you aren't asexuals.
You couldn't happily be in a relationship without sex because, like the OP, you're physical makeup desires sex, asexuals' doesn't.
OP, I wish yo... (read in full...)
Nine years dating and still no marriage!
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 9 years now, he is 42 years old and I am 27. We have been discussing the issue of marriage for quite a long time now. He was married before and has two boys from his previous marriage. One is 21 and the ...
A. 13 January 2015: As long as you stick to your guns and don't accept his rushed proposal if you give him an ultimatum or just leave because there's a 99% chance it'll only be to keep you around, not because you have the same desires.... (read in full...)
Her lack of sexual desire has me wondering if I should break up with her.
Q. So Ive been with this girl for over 2 years now and nearly everything is great with her. We moved in together 6 months ago and we still get on really well and I love her very much the problem is her lackof sexual desire. She has admitted she no ...
A. 13 January 2015: So, asexuals can't have a proper relationship because you don't consider it one unless there is sex? There are ways to be intimate without sex, Female Anon - kissing, hugging, etc. Also, they aren't "missing out" because being asexual isn't a ... (read in full...)
Her lack of sexual desire has me wondering if I should break up with her.
Q. So Ive been with this girl for over 2 years now and nearly everything is great with her. We moved in together 6 months ago and we still get on really well and I love her very much the problem is her lackof sexual desire. She has admitted she no ...
A. 13 January 2015: I disagree with the anon female that sex is an integral part of any relationship and anyone who thinks otherwise is fooling themselves. In fact, it's an incorrect statement. There are people who no longer care about having sex and there are asexuals ... (read in full...)
I need to sneak out, just this once, to go to the movies with my boyfriend!
Q. Hi everyone :) So I've been having exams and been super busy.. And my boyfriend asked if I could go out for a movie date with him after our exams end. And here's the issue : I don't know how to not let my parents find out. Truth is I told my paren...
A. 13 January 2015: Unfortunately, it would be naive to think it's not common for boys at your age to only want to "get in your pants or smtg".
We can't tell you how to sneak around your parents because it goes against our morals for it. Your parents only want you... (read in full...)
Nine years dating and still no marriage!
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 9 years now, he is 42 years old and I am 27. We have been discussing the issue of marriage for quite a long time now. He was married before and has two boys from his previous marriage. One is 21 and the ...
A. 13 January 2015: Personally, after nine years of dating, it seems silly to wait on his youngest turning 18, like he can throw away parental responsibilities and start a new family? That's an odd situation.
Maybe he has put it off because you were 18/19 when you... (read in full...)
Can a single man genuinely love and accept a woman who has children?
Q. I am in the process of reconsidering my marriage due to a lot of mental abuse. I have told my husband about this. A few months ago I made an acquaintance with a man and he knew I was married and have 2 children. The fact that I have children did not ...
A. 13 January 2015: It's not unusual for a man/woman to accept that a man/woman has children from a previous relationship.
That said, I really don't think you should be considering a relationship with him because, if you do get a divorce (which sounds like a good ide... (read in full...)
Her lack of sexual desire has me wondering if I should break up with her.
Q. So Ive been with this girl for over 2 years now and nearly everything is great with her. We moved in together 6 months ago and we still get on really well and I love her very much the problem is her lackof sexual desire. She has admitted she no ...
A. 13 January 2015: You will probably have to break up; if there isn't a medical issue here, she's likely to be asexual, so your sexual compatibility is going to cause resentment.
Talk to her calmly and ask her to be open about why this happens.... (read in full...)
When is it OK to have sex with your ex?
Q. When is it ok to have sex with your ex? I (25/f) dumped my ex (30/m) 6 weeks ago. He' s recently offered me a plane ticket to see him to catch up, check in on each other, and have a last time go in bed. Initially we were both excited, as I'd already ...
A. 13 January 2015: I do think that, sometimes, you can have sex with an ex and it won't be messy, but this sounds like a bad idea.
It's incredibly unlikely that you've already moved on in 6 weeks.
We know from your last post, the one I posted on my first comment... (read in full...)
When is it OK to have sex with your ex?
Q. When is it ok to have sex with your ex? I (25/f) dumped my ex (30/m) 6 weeks ago. He' s recently offered me a plane ticket to see him to catch up, check in on each other, and have a last time go in bed. Initially we were both excited, as I'd already ...
A. 13 January 2015: You said he was stingy: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-would-a-man-be-so-stingy.html
I think this is a bad idea and you should stay away.
I think you should never have sex with an ex because they are an ex for a reason and if you've re... (read in full...)
Stay renting where I am? Or move in with him? Do I pay him rent when he's the one buying the apartment?
Q. My boyfriend plans to buy an apartment, and asked me if I would like to move in with him when he's bought one. I have suggested we rent together instead, but he's very keen on buying his own place and not rent. He can not afford a big place, so it ...
A. 12 January 2015: This says it all: "I've been holding off on it because I would like the opportunity to live together with a boyfriend eventually" - you wrote "a boyfriend", not "my boyfriend". What you do about that is up to you, but it means you're definitely not ... (read in full...)
Confused and torn between loyalty to some long term friends versus the rest in my friend group. What to do?
Q. I am really confused and not sure what to do. In my friendship group at school, there is 7 of us. Two of my friends are obsessed with these celebrtites. Anyway, it is obvious my other friends are getting angry with them constantly talking about it, ...
A. 12 January 2015: YouWish is right. These friends are infatuated with this persona(s) that they see in the media and it's totally normal, but I can understands your other friends being tired of hearing about them because they are just celebrities that your friends ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my dad I am pregnant?
Q. This isn't a relationship question but I was hoping someone might be able to give me some advice. I'm 17 yrs. old and a senior in High school. Over the weekend I found out I was pregnant. I live with my father, my parents divorce was I was 9 and ...
A. 12 January 2015: Here are a couple of places to start:
http://www.babycenter.com/baby-cost-calculator
Also, I can't get the link right on my phone, but on "Canadian Living":
How much does it cost to raise kids in Canada?
By Krystal Yee
According to ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my dad I am pregnant?
Q. This isn't a relationship question but I was hoping someone might be able to give me some advice. I'm 17 yrs. old and a senior in High school. Over the weekend I found out I was pregnant. I live with my father, my parents divorce was I was 9 and ...
A. 12 January 2015: Personally, I still think you should seriously consider adoption, but I do understand why you don't feel able to have an abortion - none of these are easy to go through.
Until then, I really think you should sit down with your dad and your boy... (read in full...)
How do I tell my dad I am pregnant?
Q. This isn't a relationship question but I was hoping someone might be able to give me some advice. I'm 17 yrs. old and a senior in High school. Over the weekend I found out I was pregnant. I live with my father, my parents divorce was I was 9 and ...
A. 12 January 2015: Not surprising. His dad's right; you should have been on birth control. Your dad's right, your boyfriend shouldn't have encouraged you and should have worn condoms every time.
You don't seem to realise how important it is that you both accept t... (read in full...)
How do I tell my dad I am pregnant?
Q. This isn't a relationship question but I was hoping someone might be able to give me some advice. I'm 17 yrs. old and a senior in High school. Over the weekend I found out I was pregnant. I live with my father, my parents divorce was I was 9 and ...
A. 12 January 2015: Try watching the English series "Pramface". It's a teenage girl who is pregnant whilst going to uni and, even though she's not in a relationship with the father, it doesn't glamourise teen parenting. The first few episodes are about her putting off ... (read in full...)
I don't think my teacher likes me
Q. Back in September, I began a beauty course at a community college. I do enjoy it, but it has become apparant that the teacher dislikes me. I thought perhaps I was being over sensitive, but my classmates have noticed the way she speaks to me with ...
A. 10 January 2015: I'd agree with Deirdre, but it's different to a class/group you can join and a college course. You don't want to cause trouble for yourself unless it's a last resort.... (read in full...)
I'm losing friends because I'm dating someone?
Q. All my friends just go out of their ways to avoid me now, simply because they think my boyfriend is "weird"( he's very sweet, but he's a little chubby and he has longer hair). None of them acted this way towards me until I started dating my ...
A. 10 January 2015: "I'm not willing to lose someone who I care deeply for in order to impress them" is your answer.
Do you have a female family member you can go out with?... (read in full...)
I don't think my teacher likes me
Q. Back in September, I began a beauty course at a community college. I do enjoy it, but it has become apparant that the teacher dislikes me. I thought perhaps I was being over sensitive, but my classmates have noticed the way she speaks to me with ...
A. 10 January 2015: Don't "confront" her, but you can try a bit of "kissing up" and ask what you can do to improve X, Y, Z.
If she gives you something to do and that doesn't change her attitude towards her after two weeks, you can calmly go up to her after class an... (read in full...)
Why would a man be so stingy?
Q. I (25/F) and Art (30/M)recently broke up from a 1 year relationship. The problem: he barely paid for our dates, even after I told him it bothered me. He wants to get back together, but I'm unsure. Art is a smart, sensual, and charismatic man....
A. 10 January 2015: Saving money isn't stingy - yet, I don't think that's what this guy is doing.
I think all dates should be 50/50 after the first few when it can be dating within your means, so that you can pay the bill comfortably.
If you don't think he can do ... (read in full...)
What can I do to make up for 13 years of not having sex with my ex how spicy can it get?
Q. Dear cupid ,I think I am going to get my wish seeing my ex/daughter's father I am so happy yet really nerves I haven't saw him in 13 years I haven't had sex either within these years I have been celibate.What can I do to make this a hot month for ...
A. 10 January 2015: Honeypie is dead on. You can't jump in the sack after 13 years and make it work. You put off your love life for THIRTEEN YEARS, presumably for this guy. That's mad. You need to spend time together in person.... with clothes on.... at arms length. ... (read in full...)
What can I do to make up for 13 years of not having sex with my ex how spicy can it get?
Q. Dear cupid ,I think I am going to get my wish seeing my ex/daughter's father I am so happy yet really nerves I haven't saw him in 13 years I haven't had sex either within these years I have been celibate.What can I do to make this a hot month for ...
A. 10 January 2015: Your children weren't the reason you both cheated.
You haven't answered my questions and I don't think we can help much if you don't.... (read in full...)
How do I tell my dad I am pregnant?
Q. This isn't a relationship question but I was hoping someone might be able to give me some advice. I'm 17 yrs. old and a senior in High school. Over the weekend I found out I was pregnant. I live with my father, my parents divorce was I was 9 and ...
A. 10 January 2015: I'm hoping your dad and your boyfriend's parents will bond over how disappointed they are in both of you - your dad is less likely to have a full-blown go at your boyfriend for encouraging you to be so irresponsible, IF your boyfriend's parents ... (read in full...)
Don't know if I can be life partners with some-one so soft, but I do love him
Q. I don't know how I feel about my boyfriend anymore. Though he is nice and everything any woman can wish for in a way he cares about me, but he has what we say soft bones. We went out yesterday, and the behavour of a server was unspeac...
A. 10 January 2015: He probably knows that you can handle yourself - you're not a damsel in distress, so he doesn't treat you like one. If you weren't able to deal with it yourself, then it would be a bigger problem.
That said, if you really can't have a more res... (read in full...)
How do I tell my dad I am pregnant?
Q. This isn't a relationship question but I was hoping someone might be able to give me some advice. I'm 17 yrs. old and a senior in High school. Over the weekend I found out I was pregnant. I live with my father, my parents divorce was I was 9 and ...
A. 10 January 2015: Quite frankly, your dad probably thought you were moving too fast by meeting your boyfriend's parents (or he'd have let you go for the day - 4 hour round trip is better than staying for the weekend with strangers) and figured that you'd probably end ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is becoming distant and cold!
Q. I know this sounds kind of common but my boyfriend is becoming very distant and cold fast. I'll tell him something that's important in my life right now, and he seems to ignore it and either try to talk about something unrelated or basically tell me ...
A. 10 January 2015: If you're 16/17, that's a young age to be talking about any future beyond the next few years, and even then, it should really be about education and job prospects. You're probably getting too "heavy" for him emotionally.
That said, if he won't ta... (read in full...)
What can I do to make up for 13 years of not having sex with my ex how spicy can it get?
Q. Dear cupid ,I think I am going to get my wish seeing my ex/daughter's father I am so happy yet really nerves I haven't saw him in 13 years I haven't had sex either within these years I have been celibate.What can I do to make this a hot month for ...
A. 10 January 2015: You need him to always use a condom.
That said, genuine question: have you been obsessed with him for these 13 years? Why have you been celibate and changing that as soon as he may come back into your life?
What has happened to make you think y... (read in full...)
How do I tell my dad I am pregnant?
Q. This isn't a relationship question but I was hoping someone might be able to give me some advice. I'm 17 yrs. old and a senior in High school. Over the weekend I found out I was pregnant. I live with my father, my parents divorce was I was 9 and ...
A. 9 January 2015: You aren't mature enough for sex if you won't be responsible and still think "I won't get pregnant" if you're not using contraception properly every time. Your boyfriend might not be a bad person, but he needs to man up and respect your dad... (read in full...)
I want to be with my LDR but I don't want to leave my family
Q. Hello Cupids I met my boyfriend on an internet chat site just over a year ago. We chatted for a couple of months and somehow lost touch as he had logged out of the app we used to communicate on and forgotten his password. I wasn't too bothered as ...
A. 6 January 2015: Why do you have to make a decision now? You haven't been together long and you could always meet in the middle-ish.... (read in full...)
How do I tell my dad I am pregnant?
Q. This isn't a relationship question but I was hoping someone might be able to give me some advice. I'm 17 yrs. old and a senior in High school. Over the weekend I found out I was pregnant. I live with my father, my parents divorce was I was 9 and ...
A. 6 January 2015: Whilst common to have sex this young, I think it was irresponsible of you and your boyfriend to not just stick to activities that couldn't create a baby. This is precisely what your dad wanted you to avoid because he knows how difficult it will be ... (read in full...)
Attracted to guys but afraid of anything sexual
Q. Single, never been in a relationship, never dated, no experience whatsoever. So why is my biggest stress worrying about sex? I don't know when it started, but since I can remember, I've always been extremely shy when it comes to sex and nudity....
A. 5 January 2015: It's probably just because you haven't met someone you want to do that with and haven't felt comfortable with it all.
Check out a sexuality, though, just in case you can relate :)... (read in full...)
Lesbian cousins on a blood vow... halp!
Q. So im a lesbian and i happen to be in love with my lesbian cousin. Our relationship is going fine, and neither of our parents are homophobic, but we're wondering how they will react to incest. where i live incest has certain rules: sisters or direct ...
A. 5 January 2015: Legal or not, there's another reason people don't date people who are consistent in their lives: the break up. It is VERY unlikely you will be with your cousin for the rest of your life and, if (or more likely when) you break up, it will be ... (read in full...)
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