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anonymous
writes:Hello CupidsI met my boyfriend on an internet chat site just over a year ago. We chatted for a couple of months and somehow lost touch as he had logged out of the app we used to communicate on and forgotten his password. I wasn't too bothered as we barely knew each other back then but a month or two later, a message popped up from him....he had logged back in.This was eight months ago and now we are currently in a long distance relationship, meeting every weekend. Things are amazing. I've never felt love for anyone like I do for him and he says the same. He says we were meant to be and it was fate that brought us together. We've discussed moving in together. I live in the countryside and he lives in a city. He said he's always wanted to live in the countryside so I suggest he move in with me when he's ready....However, his dad owns the company that he works for and my boyfriend is the manager. He says he can't throw away the years of hard work as one day, he'll own the company and his wage is too good to just leave and find something else that doesn't pay as well. I completely understand his reasons and if I were in his position, I would have said the same. He has suggested that I move up with him, which makes more sense as I only work part time, but I also care for my elderly grandparents 5 days a week, to whom I am very close.I know I want to be with him and I know he wants to be with me, but I'm not sure if I want to move to his area. I won't know anybody apart from him and his family and friends. I'm so used to having all of my family around me and it'll be weird not seeing them..We're not a million miles away, we live around 120 miles apart so I know I can visit my family at weekends but the thought of moving to a different place that I'm not at all familiar of really scares me! Any advice please?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2015): OP, you've spent 48 days (4 weekends in 8 months) with this man and you want to stop caring for your family to move to a different city for him? To be dependent on him? Call me old fashioned but it sounds like you're rushing things.
I moved countries to be with my significant other but only when we were both ready for marriage and after a few holidays where we spent months with each other. I had a job lined up and I was not caring for family.
In your shoes, I don't think I'd move.
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reader, Midnight Shadow +, writes (6 January 2015):
 Why do you have to make a decision now? You haven't been together long and you could always meet in the middle-ish.
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