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| | *ichelleAKAmandi's profile:I find interest in so many subjects and have researched so many through out the past 21 yrs of my life. If there is ever a question I'm asked and I don't know the answer, I will find it. ~wink~ I love helping people no matter what way I do it.
I live in South Carolina right now, but have lived Virginia, Florida and North Carolina. I've met some wonderful people in all of these states and met many all over the world via internet and look forward to meeting more.
I'm a VERY blunt and outspoken person. I feel since I've found that way of "being" long years ago, it made more sense and never left anyone second guessing anything I said. Some people read me wrong, but I'm merely like anyone else with slight differences in opinions. I LOVE people! I love being a friend to someone who really is in need of help! (I'm one of those people that either you like or you don't. If you want honesty, ask me. If you want honesty, realize it may not be what you want to hear and if you don't like the truth when it may hurt, don't ask me...lol)
Hopefully I'll meet some new and interesting people here.
I do have to add this...
I love helping people BUT... if someone ask for help and are given advice and that person continues down a path that causes them hardships for months or longer, at some point I will ask why and find out if I should go any further with my advice, for I may feel nothing I or anyone else says makes a difference. Many people need help and advice, but when you seem to love the misery and stay in a bad situation then there may be nothing I can do after trying numerous times.
Also people that feel sorry for themselves instead of taking advice, picking themselves up and making things better after a long while, I will stand by you for as long as I can, but help me help you!!
I am here to help, BUT I can't help you if you're not willing to help yourself with the advice I and others give you! That's the number one thing you have to realize.
Oh yeah... LOL
I usually reply to a post before reading anyone else's answers/replies/comments so if I happen to repeat something someone else has already said to you, I apologize, but I respond right after reading a question so nothing clouds my thought process. (I've had to change up on this lately!)
Wonderful to meet you all!!
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Who's more likely to end up with the girl? - A hypothetical situation
Q. Hi internet fans! I'd like to cut to the chase once and for all in relation to the subject of attraction. Ladies: which man are you most likely to be attracted to: guy no.1 who is good looking, has a great body, has personality and charm, but you ...
A. 7 October 2008: This was pretty cool and I thought all along, "ok, which one is he?"
Then my next thought was...
He's interested in a married woman.
hmmmm... ok nothing on the part of why you added, "imagine you are a married woman". What was that twist for? ... (read in full...)
He snorts pills! Should I stay or should I leave him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 2 years. We both are so in love. He had a problem with snorting pills when we first got together. He's promised and sworn on my life that he has stopped for a year and a half. Recently his Mom ...
A. 2 October 2008: Good, I'm glad it helped. I know this can and will be hard on you, no matter your choice, but please keep in mind... this is a VERY VERY HARD habit to break. Make your choice wisely and know that you can only do so much for them. They have to do for ... (read in full...)
We can't break social customs - so is it wrong that I adore her?
Q. I am 54 with a cute wife, in spite of that i was allured to a cute widow co-worker with 3 kids who's 42. I feel happy to look at her and talk to her, i have not had an affair but have a sexual fantasy. She is aware i am fond of her, but we cant ...
A. 2 October 2008: It's definitely not a sickness. It happens to many people!!! Oh so many! However; you can be one of VERY VERY few to not let this interfere with your life, marriage, conscience and love. This would be so horrible for you. I'm sure it feels good to ... (read in full...)
He snorts pills! Should I stay or should I leave him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 2 years. We both are so in love. He had a problem with snorting pills when we first got together. He's promised and sworn on my life that he has stopped for a year and a half. Recently his Mom ...
A. 2 October 2008: If in fact you know that snorting pills is ALL he is doing, give him a chance by telling him that you will stay with him if he gets help. Tell him you will stand by him and help him get through it, but that you can't go through your life this way. ... (read in full...)
I feel like sex is a chore for him, is there a way to change this or lower my sex drive?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 years.. He was always so into me and wanted to do alot of sexual activities.. but now he never asks to have sex with me!! .. not only sex but anything sexual.. I'm so attracted to him that i want ...
A. 2 October 2008: Hey there...
Give him the chance to initiate sex. Since he's been getting it more than often, he's lost some interest. It will change over a little period of you not initiating sex and leaving him be. You don't have to lowers your sex drive, n... (read in full...)
Who's more likely to end up with the girl? - A hypothetical situation
Q. Hi internet fans! I'd like to cut to the chase once and for all in relation to the subject of attraction. Ladies: which man are you most likely to be attracted to: guy no.1 who is good looking, has a great body, has personality and charm, but you ...
A. 2 October 2008: Guy #1 because I wouldn't be suffocated, since we didn't talk every day and he does in fact fancy me and took the time to write it in a letter. (when do we see each other?...lol)
Guy #2 wouldn't be my choice because if he didn't fancy me, then why... (read in full...)
My ex will not leave my house! How do I get him out of here??
Q. my ex will not leave my house! im at my wits end with him.his girlfriend dumped him about a week ago,and right now he is basically homeless.he has tons of family members in the area that he could stay with.he came down a few nights ago and i didnt ...
A. 2 October 2008: Birdy gave you great advice and I was going to say the same. You will more than likely have to call the cops. Warn him first that you are going to do so if he doesn't leave "that day". Maybe he will get the hint, probably not, but it's worth a try ... (read in full...)
Is there a way to tell when a girl is cumming?
Q. Hey Cupid. I was just wondering if there is a way for a guy to tell whether a girl is cumming during sex? Because my girlfriend groans and gets wet but I want to know if she is just one of those girls who don't ever cum or whether I just can't te...
A. 30 September 2008: I think his point is, how can he tell for sure. I have to admit when I was really young I faked it with a guy because he just could NOT bring me to orgasm. Little did I know I was cheating myself. Anyway... there are definite signs like the ones I ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my boyfriend while drunk, the "other guy" agreed to forget but is dropping hints to people, I'ma fraid teh truth will come out?
Q. Hi. This might be long, sorry. I have been with my boyfriend on and off for 2 years. Last month i was extremely drunk when camping with some friends, and i cheated on him with a guy my friend (Lucy) knows. i can't even remember what happened, but i ...
A. 30 September 2008: Sweetie... how can you say:
i can't even remember what happened, but i know we didnt have sex.
If you don't remember, how can you know you didn't have sex?
Honesty is the best policy and the truth always comes out. Keep that in mind and do what... (read in full...)
My affair wants nothing to do with me since my pregnancy and is now only paying child support!
Q. I am distraught i have just given birth to a baby boy and the father has said he wants nothing to do with him.He is married and we had an affair for a few months when he found out i was pregnant he got caught at the same time. He wanted to stay with ...
A. 30 September 2008: Before reading anyone else's answer, the first thing that comes to my mind is:
YOU wrecked HIS life?!!!?!!! Give me a freagin break!!!!
It takes two to tango and you didn't make him shove his d@#k in you!! He did it by choice and a poor choic... (read in full...)
Is there a way to tell when a girl is cumming?
Q. Hey Cupid. I was just wondering if there is a way for a guy to tell whether a girl is cumming during sex? Because my girlfriend groans and gets wet but I want to know if she is just one of those girls who don't ever cum or whether I just can't te...
A. 30 September 2008: Hello...
If you are having intercourse with her, you should be able to tell. You may have to pay a little bit of attention to what's going on at the point she sounds as if she is having an orgasm. If you are inside her, you should be able to feel ... (read in full...)
Is my husband cheating on me?
Q. My husband has gone away once every month with a lady he works with. I found out and confronted him about 7 months ago and he told me he was truly sorry but since then he has continued to do so. He tells me he is going one place and then ends up ...
A. 30 September 2008: Correction:
You are a wife that loves HER husband and wants to give him the benefit of the doubt.
Sorry I didn't proofread before posting.
Off to bed with me...
Michelle... (read in full...)
Is my husband cheating on me?
Q. My husband has gone away once every month with a lady he works with. I found out and confronted him about 7 months ago and he told me he was truly sorry but since then he has continued to do so. He tells me he is going one place and then ends up ...
A. 30 September 2008: Hey there,
No, you shouldn't give up on an almost 15 yr marriage. Give it a go at trying to discuss your feelings and getting to the bottom of this. Also, telling him that you guys are expecting. You need to open up all options and go from the... (read in full...)
Should I abide by my wife's last wish?
Q. I came home from work this morning and found my wife unconscious then I had to take her to the hospital where she died. She committed suicide. In her note she specified that she did NOT want anyone to know that she took her life. It is the only main ...
A. 30 September 2008: It's been 4 days, I'm sure he's taken action with his choice of what to do. I merely hope he is doing well and standing strong.
I'm so sorry for your loss, please let us know how you are doing and if you need us again, we're here for you.
... (read in full...)
Does anybody have any creative ideas on how I should word this email to her?
Q. Hello, I got a girl's email (it's all she gave me) a while ago, and would like to ask her out, but I'm not sure how I can word it. I'd ask her out in person but I don't see her anymore, and email is the only way I have of reaching her. Does a...
A. 30 September 2008: Why don't you just email her to say Hello and ask how she is doing and what she's been up to?
This is an ice breaker and then you can ask her out.
Merely ask her if should would like to get together sometime soon to hang out. If she agrees then ... (read in full...)
Anyone ever heard of these WTF US sex laws?
Q. Crazy US Sex Laws... Ever heard of them or any others that are crazy like these. I find it hilarious!! 1. Oral sex is illegal in 18 states, including Arizona. 2. In Virginia, it is illegal to have sex with the lights on. 3. It is illegal ...
A. 30 September 2008: As I stated, I so don't believe all of these to be true and know some NOT to be, I merely posted them for a laugh because some of them are funny. Actually some of them are just stupid!!!
Agree with ya about the bunkum Uncle Phil!
Michelle... (read in full...)
I'm wondering what walks of life the aunts and uncles come from?
Q. Dear posters, I think its wonderful to have people from different walks of life, to be able to come here and look at others situations with a different set of eyes. its great! On to my question, I was left wondering what each and every one of you...
A. 30 September 2008: Well...
I'm 40, going on 27. I refuse to grow up!! It fit well saying that for a long while because I was the HR Manager of 2 of the Toys R Us stores.
Graduated with a CNA/Computer Network Administration degree and planned on putting it to use w... (read in full...)
My soulmate is a gay male who's sending mixed signals. I fear I'm going crazy
Q. Four months ago I connected with a co-worker. We began hanging out profusely shortly thereafter, with an unexplainable urge to be together every night. We would find ourselves talking until 3 am in parking lots in deep discussions that we never ...
A. 30 September 2008: You did clarify it and thank you. It's going to end up with one of you being hurt. Either you or he will fall in love and the person you or he falls in love with, will more than likely not tolerate the relationship between the two of you. Boy did ... (read in full...)
My friend from myspace is obsessed! How do I let him down easy?
Q. ok i have a problem.a friend of mine who i first met through myspace is obsessed with me.the only times weve met is when he came to my work a couple times,and that was a long time ago.we still chat sometimes but i dont talk to him much becuz ...
A. 29 September 2008: Unfortunately there is no gentle way to let someone like this down easy.
They seem to be too persistent and no matter how sweet or kind you try to be it doesn't work. They take your kindness as you are interested and it gives them a glimpse ... (read in full...)
Anyone ever heard of these WTF US sex laws?
Q. Crazy US Sex Laws... Ever heard of them or any others that are crazy like these. I find it hilarious!! 1. Oral sex is illegal in 18 states, including Arizona. 2. In Virginia, it is illegal to have sex with the lights on. 3. It is illegal ...
A. 29 September 2008: Oh yeah, not like I believe all of these are enforceable laws. I know a couple of them are, however; they are hilarious and that is why I posted them and here are a few more....
1. No man is allowed to make love to his wife with the smell of garli... (read in full...)
My soulmate is a gay male who's sending mixed signals. I fear I'm going crazy
Q. Four months ago I connected with a co-worker. We began hanging out profusely shortly thereafter, with an unexplainable urge to be together every night. We would find ourselves talking until 3 am in parking lots in deep discussions that we never ...
A. 29 September 2008: I'm trying to grasp the "QUESTION" here.
You are in love with a gay man.
The two of you love each other and want a future together.
He wants to have sexual encounters with men while being "involved" with you
You two have NOT had sex.
So w... (read in full...)
Should I get my ex a birthday present?
Q. we were goin for 2 months we broke up 3 months ago i want to get him a birthday present coz his b-day's in 2 weeks but im not sure i shud we still talk but we aren't as close as we used 2 be i appreciate all the help given thanks x ...
A. 29 September 2008: You are more than welcome sweetie.
You could always follow giving him the gift with a comment that you just thought it would be nice to get him a gift, and since you do still have feelings for him, it will be fine if it makes your feelings... (read in full...)
Why exactly do people have anal sex when it's so disgusting?!
Q. Here's the thing, all these people brag about anal sex, the porn industry claims that women love anal sex. We tried anal sex and all I can say about it is that it felt like i was taking a big crap. It was discusting and the thought of it made me ...
A. 28 September 2008: I'm not sure about the porn industry, however; I do know that many men like anal sex and there are A LOT of women that don't.
I had a friend that absolutely loved it. I asked the same question you did and she said it's a total different feeling of p... (read in full...)
I don't know if it's healthy, I'm only 13. I feel supid, it started when I was using the bathroom at home!
Q. i know its stupid neither not good, but i usually get horny a lot. and i jock on my self. i dont know what to do to controlled my self but its hard. i need help with that, i cant stop watching porn and . sometimes it hurt my feeling. i dont know...
A. 28 September 2008: You shouldn't feel stupid at all. What you are doing is perfectly normal.
How does this hurt your feelings? Do you mean it bothers you that you masturbate? and how often is it that you are doing so?
Really don't be so hard on yourself, yo... (read in full...)
Please help me on how to deal with family and my ex.
Q. I left my husband, he sent divorse papers to me. He has a girl friend, i don't have a boy friend. Before he gave my family member the divorse papers he told me on the phone he need to meet me to give me my belongings back. he will stay silent then...
A. 28 September 2008: By the way Lipstick, can I ask what you left him for? Was it the girlfriend?
Michelle... (read in full...)
Please help me on how to deal with family and my ex.
Q. I left my husband, he sent divorse papers to me. He has a girl friend, i don't have a boy friend. Before he gave my family member the divorse papers he told me on the phone he need to meet me to give me my belongings back. he will stay silent then...
A. 28 September 2008: How is he using people as tools? and you're not giving enough information about what the issue with your family and what you mean by dealing with them. Are you saying he's using your family to get to you?
If so, you could ask that your family p... (read in full...)
Am I a chump? Why am I even thinking this stuff?
Q. Here's my story. I did have sex until I was 25 with a girl who I had pined over for a LONG time. We then had a 2 year relationship which started off great- both in love, it wasn't just physical I think we clicked quite well. Going into the second y...
A. 28 September 2008: Do you think maybe that you are merely wanting closure more so than getting back together with her, or even wanting her back to get revenge?
Just a couple of thoughts there, I know you could actually still want to be with her and/or miss her, but... (read in full...)
What could all these symptoms mean? I'm so worried and confused!!
Q. Alright, so I posted a couple of days back to get peoples opinions of whether or not I was pregnant. So a quick summary of that was - "I had sex with a boy, he had a condom, but I told him that he didn't have to wear it, and he said he would, b...
A. 28 September 2008: You CAN'T talk to the man you had sex with or just don't want to?
If in fact you are pregnant, you should make him aware of the fact, merely because it's the right thing to do and he NEEDS to be a responsible party in this. Not saying he will, bu... (read in full...)
I dislike girlfriend going out clubbing until 4 am with her male friends, is this unreasonable?
Q. hi, hope someone will help, been with my gf nearly 2 years and we both left long term partners to get together.she's 22 i'm 28. where as i have stopped going out much without her except mainly cos i dont want to, but she still goes out clubbin...
A. 28 September 2008: Hey there JJ,
No you are not being unreasonable at all. What you want from her as far as not going out like that is to be expected and should be something she feels in return. I can understand maybe she likes the attention she is getting, but she ... (read in full...)
Should I get my ex a birthday present?
Q. we were goin for 2 months we broke up 3 months ago i want to get him a birthday present coz his b-day's in 2 weeks but im not sure i shud we still talk but we aren't as close as we used 2 be i appreciate all the help given thanks x ...
A. 28 September 2008: Hello,
I don't see the harm in giving him a birthday present if you are doing out of kindness.
Are you expecting it to bring you closer? If so, be ready to accept the fact that it may not. If you are still friends with him, I would think it i... (read in full...)
Do I tell my best friend that I am a lesbian and in love with her?
Q. I'm not sure whether to risk the best friendship I've ever had. I'm pretty sure she's straight, but it's eating me up the idea of her with a man (or anyone else)! She is very confusing, and a lot of people have said to us that we are pretty much in ...
A. 28 September 2008: Hey there!
I can't agree more with AskOlderSister! and to think I never thought of trying the wine scenario... he he
That is a sure way to find out without causing major shock if in case that would happen.
If you guys are already cuddly a... (read in full...)
We break up when we fight but get back together, then the cycle continues. Opinions?
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been fighting a lot this week. We have been dating for about 4 months and we live together. In the beginning of the relationship we had a fight in which he called me a fucking bitch. I told him we needed to just be friends ...
A. 28 September 2008: Hello there,
He's turning the tables on you because he is guilty. My ex husband did this same thing. If an argument came about and he was either wrong or caught at something, the first thing he would say is, I'm outta here I want a divorce.... (read in full...)
I forgave my husband's cheating with my sister but I'm worried he will do it again.
Q. I caught my husband cheating me with my sister. We manage fix marriage but I'm still worried that he'll do it again. We two have kids (ages 1-4) and don't ruin their childhoods by getting a divorce. What I should do? I'm not talking to my sis....
A. 27 September 2008: All of the advice below is REALLY great, however; I have to bring up the point that you don't want to ruin your children's childhood, but children know more than you think. They can sense when you are hurt, worried, angry, sad, etc..., so this is ... (read in full...)
He went too far or maybe comes off too strong? I don't know what to do!
Q. Seriously stuck. There's this guy who's been talking to me alot lately, just like 'hi' and the occasional flirting, i think he fancies me as he always asks if i've got a boyfriend and has commented on me being 'fit' and 'saucy minx'. He's also got ...
A. 27 September 2008: Sweetie, chilling out can send the wrong signal to a disrespectful guy that merely wants in your pants. You should let him know where you stand the very next chance you get. You don't have to be cruel to him, however; I would if he attempted to ... (read in full...)
Am I mad to give up the chance of having a kid in the future by staying with him?
Q. Dear aunts, I am 30 years old and have no children. My boyfriend is in his 40s, has 2 kids and has had a vasectomy. Whilst I don't particularly want kids, am I mad to give up the chance of having a kid in the future by staying with him? You n...
A. 27 September 2008: You're very welcome, I'm glad we could help out some. It seems you have given it some thought and realize the different options so I think you should be just fine. You know all of the Aunt's are here if you need help again later. Again, good lu... (read in full...)
Do I give up this great girlfriend to make life easier with regard to seeing my son? Or should I stand my ground?
Q. Hi I asked for help about a month ago and appreciated everyone's answers but need some advice again. Since my last posting I approached T and asked her to be straight with me regarding how we were. She said she liked me and would like to see i...
A. 27 September 2008: Hey there Pete,
Don't throw away what you have with T. It's sounds as if she is good for you and will be as well for your son.
You are divorcing and your ex has no say so in what you do as long as it is not anything harmful to your son. You ha... (read in full...)
Am I mad to give up the chance of having a kid in the future by staying with him?
Q. Dear aunts, I am 30 years old and have no children. My boyfriend is in his 40s, has 2 kids and has had a vasectomy. Whilst I don't particularly want kids, am I mad to give up the chance of having a kid in the future by staying with him? You n...
A. 27 September 2008: Hey there Rummykub,
Think long and hard about this. Being a mother to your own flesh and blood is something that you should definitely do if you wish to do so. I don't want you to push these thoughts out of your head because it could cause yo... (read in full...)
I am afraid I will marry this guy and divorce to be with a woman!
Q. so, i am in a relationship with a man. and i always knew i was attracted to girls, but the more serious our relationship gets the more i really feel the lesbian inside of me coming out....Im afraid i am going to marry this guy just to divorce him ...
A. 27 September 2008: Hey there,
Open up and tell him exactly how you feel. You have to share this with him for 2 reasons. 1. Because he deserves to know your true feelings. 2 Because you're keeping emotions pent up that can only cause disaster later. You never kn... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is always putting me down & hitting and slapping at me, is this considered abuse?
Q. I need some help. My boyfriend has always been playful in you know some harmless teasing and hitting me playfully type thing. But a month ago it started changing. He is still like this, however his motives have changed. The teasing has turned i...
A. 27 September 2008: Hey there Lola,
Sweetie this is obviously bothering you to the point that you need to do something drastic to wake him up to your seriousness about what he is doing. I would consider what he's doing to be emotional abuse. It's not good for you ... (read in full...)
Has anyone had a good experience with a younger still coming out to herself and others lesbian? Help!
Q. So I am dating this woman(23) who has never been with a girl before let alone in any kind of long-term relationship..i am 9 years her senior and have been in several relationships, so knowing everything she is thinking about i am being uuuuber ...
A. 27 September 2008: Hey there...
I would suggest not going all out, however; spill a little of how you feel for her. You don't have to out and out say, "I love you"... merely tell her that you care about her a great deal and that your feelings are growing stronger... (read in full...)
Can I completely forgive her again?
Q. Ok so here it goes almost 2 years ago i met a girl while my boyfriend( of three years) was out of province and she became my best friend we would stay up all night long chatting on msn and going on cam and goofing around and stuff we both had ...
A. 27 September 2008: Hey there,
Actually it seems your answer is sort of simple. I don't think it is a question of, "can you forgive her?". I mean, of course you can and should, however; the main issue here is the fact that you have found a life for yourself that mak... (read in full...)
When I came, it was lumpy instead of watery like usual. Is this normal?
Q. i was having a 'moment' to myself earlier and noticed all wasnt as it should be... usually my cum is just like water but it was lumpy... this has NEVER happened before... should i be worried? ...
A. 19 September 2008: You're very welcome Flip!! 8o)
Let me know what you find out if you go to your OB/GYN or give them a call and they give you some information.
Take care
8o)
Michelle... (read in full...)
I have just found out my husband has never divorced his first wife.!
Q. I just found out my husband of three years has been lying to me about everything possible, and the kicker, I just found out he never divorced his first wife. He got married in California the first time but we went to Las Vegas,Nevada and eloped.Is ...
A. 18 September 2008: Hey there Meme,
I'm so sorry you are going through this. (hug)
In your case and probably a good thing for you, your marriage is more than likely not legal and you will be able to get out of it and move on without any headache. (Pain/hurt on th... (read in full...)
When I came, it was lumpy instead of watery like usual. Is this normal?
Q. i was having a 'moment' to myself earlier and noticed all wasnt as it should be... usually my cum is just like water but it was lumpy... this has NEVER happened before... should i be worried? ...
A. 17 September 2008: I guess we posted at the same time, as your answer wasn't there when I answered your question.
Good... I was thinking you were!
My advice stands the same then....
HEY GUYS/MEN!!!!!!!!! Pay closer attention to the poster!! LOL
Good luc... (read in full...)
When I came, it was lumpy instead of watery like usual. Is this normal?
Q. i was having a 'moment' to myself earlier and noticed all wasnt as it should be... usually my cum is just like water but it was lumpy... this has NEVER happened before... should i be worried? ...
A. 17 September 2008: Before I answer, I'm assuming you are a girl/woman because it reads: female 18-21 flip....
and I've never had that problem if in fact we are answering for a girl/woman and have not had any of my friends mention anything of the sort. Maybe yo... (read in full...)
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