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Is there a way to tell when a girl is cumming?

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Question - (30 September 2008) 6 Answers - (Newest, 1 October 2008)
A male New Zealand age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hey Cupid.

I was just wondering if there is a way for a guy to tell whether a girl is cumming during sex? Because my girlfriend groans and gets wet but I want to know if she is just one of those girls who don't ever cum or whether I just can't tell

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2008):

In addition to what the others have said, I will say that personally, my ab and PC muscles flex/tighten to their very limit.

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A male reader, DoubleM United States +, writes (1 October 2008):

DoubleM agony auntWhen you are young, I think that it is harder to tell when a woman is truly having an orgasm. With age and experience, it usually becomes apparent. Although I try to resist typecasting, women as well as men indeed fall into several different categories, such as the silent type, the moaners and the more vocal types to name a few. But these things can be feigned.

If you must know, there are certain physical reactions to approaching and reaching orgasm with which a woman rarely has any control, but most are a bit hard to realize by a man in the heat of intercourse. As Michelle indicated, there are usually a series of quick vaginal contractions at the point when an orgasm begins. These are usually rapid and may last over a span of several seconds or less. With some women the contractions are subtle and difficult for a man to sense with the shaft of his inserted penis (or fingers), but with other women the contractions are quite strong and apparent.

Other physical reactions may include spasms, trembling, body arching, curling of her toes and a definite "blush" or flush (redness) across her chest and/or neck. Her nipples may be most erect (lengthened) and hardened in the case of some women. In most every case, the breathing becomes rapid or labored, and some women become at least slightly sweaty either during or after orgasm.

The most important thing to know is that, even after a first release of sexual tension (orgasm), a woman can soon after have another, which is why I prefer to bring on the first one or more via cunnilingus,

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A female reader, michelleAKAmandi United States +, writes (30 September 2008):

michelleAKAmandi agony auntI think his point is, how can he tell for sure. I have to admit when I was really young I faked it with a guy because he just could NOT bring me to orgasm. Little did I know I was cheating myself. Anyway... there are definite signs like the ones I mentioned. Oh and one other thing that may happen, it does to me... right after my orgasm I am super sensitive and direct contact to my clit makes my whole body shiver. If she seems to direct you away from her clit area for a few minutes and then lets you continue that more than likely is the reason and she had an orgasm.

Again, hope this helps,


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A female reader, Piscetisch United Kingdom +, writes (30 September 2008):


Everyone is so different. They orgasm differently, they don't orgasm at all, they orgasm loads...

The best thing is to just ask and learn.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2008):

dont know about others, but one sign of when my gf is gonna cum is she starts to dig her nails in and its a bit of a fight to stop her scratching me.

now a little bit i dont mind, but i have a scar that runs from my left shoulder, across my spine and half way to my right shoulder, she done that one about 3yrs ago!! - she does get carried away

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A female reader, michelleAKAmandi United States +, writes (30 September 2008):

michelleAKAmandi agony auntHello...

If you are having intercourse with her, you should be able to tell. You may have to pay a little bit of attention to what's going on at the point she sounds as if she is having an orgasm. If you are inside her, you should be able to feel her vaginal muscles tighten and release a few times around you. Even if you have your finger(s) inside her vagina, you may be able to tell. As I said, just pay a little closer attention to this when she starts moaning.

Getting wet is merely a part of being turned on. If that meant we were cumming damn I'd be the happiest woman in the world...LOL

She may get "wetter" during/after cumming... that can be a bit of a clue as well, but not so much.

I hope this helps...


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