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writes:I'm not sure whether to risk the best friendship I've ever had. I'm pretty sure she's straight, but it's eating me up the idea of her with a man (or anyone else)! She is very confusing, and a lot of people have said to us that we are pretty much in a relationship as it is, and that there is a good chance she must be confused about me. We are extremely cuddly with each other! I'm madly in love with her and that's stopping me seeing what the right thing to do would be! I don't want to lose the intimacy that we already have. Help please!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys for the responses by the way! It's almost just nice to talk about it, as very few people know im gay let alone in love with anyone! Yeah we haven't taken it any further, but we are very very cuddly. We have loadsa sleepovers and things (just the two of us, even though we're 19, lol) and we like fall asleep cuddling and things. (sad I know! hehe) It's a pretty intense relationship as it is. I just don't know whether she is just being super friendly or is interested!! She does occassionally talk about blokes as well, which just drives me round the bend!
I will take both of your advices though! Thanks very much :-)
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reader, michelleAKAmandi  +, writes (28 September 2008):
 Hey there!
I can't agree more with AskOlderSister! and to think I never thought of trying the wine scenario... he he
That is a sure way to find out without causing major shock if in case that would happen.
If you guys are already cuddly as you said though, I can't help but think that maybe there is something there on her side and maybe she is afraid to react as well. So try what askoldersister suggested and stop driving yourself crazy!!! I can almost feel your emotional messiness, as I have been there, but I couldn't act on it because she moved away and I wouldn't have a LD relationship at the time.
When you say you don't want to ruin what intimacy you already have with her, does that consist of mere cuddling? I can understand where you are coming from, but if you don't act on your feelings in some way, you are going to make yourself nuts and it will only get deeper for you, when it may not be for her. So as I said, take that safe chance and see where it goes.
Good luck and let us know how things are going.
Michelle
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