Does she even have an ounce of love for me? Or am I setting myself to be completely destroyed later on?
Q. My girlfriend of almost a year dumped me two days after my birthday (mid-august) completely out of the blue. That night, she texted me saying "I think I don't like you anymore" and our relationship to me ended at that moment. Mind you, not to make ...
A. 19 September 2011: She's using you for convenience. Get over her and find someone who will love , appreciate and be proud of you. The longer you stick with this girl, the more hurt you will be.... (read in full...)
Does she even have an ounce of love for me? Or am I setting myself to be completely destroyed later on?
Q. My girlfriend of almost a year dumped me two days after my birthday (mid-august) completely out of the blue. That night, she texted me saying "I think I don't like you anymore" and our relationship to me ended at that moment. Mind you, not to make ...
A. 18 September 2011: "Am i setting myself to be destroyed later on?" Yes. She's having all the powers here, telling you she doesnt like you anymore, then easily charms her way back to you,etc. I see big trouble because the arrangement isnt balanced, she's the boss. ... (read in full...)
How long is too long a wait to say hello?
Q. I saw a girl at work who is amazingly beautiful. We saw each other in fact and shared a long intense stare before looking away. I desperately want to talk to her. She makes me feel nervous when we are in the same room together, but that feeling...
A. 18 September 2011: What are you waiting for? Go ahead and say hi, its not too late.... (read in full...)
How do I explain to Jenny that I still like her, but there's another girl that I wanna get to know some more?
Q. I like a few different girls. Two of them I actually have a chance with. The one girl, "Jenny" and I have been talking for a while. We've gone on dates and hooking up here and there (no sex). My roommates, Jenny and her friends all went to the ...
A. 18 September 2011: So you want put jenny on standby? After hanging out with mary more then you'll say to jenny "you can go now, i'm good with mary" or you'll go to her and say "right.where did we stop?lets carry on." Seriously? You need to make up your mind who its ... (read in full...)
Nice guy that no one will give a chance to !
Q. What it mean for a guy who has never found love, be in a relationship and never had sex with a woman but yet he is straight, good and caring, fine looking and he wishes to have that someone in his life who will connect with him and his feelings but ...
A. 18 September 2011: In that case then you could get to know them more before you rush with your intentions, let them get comfortable with you first, build up friendships. Love that comes after friendship is much stronger anyway. You claim you are such a nice guy;... (read in full...)
Nice guy that no one will give a chance to !
Q. What it mean for a guy who has never found love, be in a relationship and never had sex with a woman but yet he is straight, good and caring, fine looking and he wishes to have that someone in his life who will connect with him and his feelings but ...
A. 17 September 2011: Do you mean you've made advances at girls and they've all rejected you, or you havent even tried and you expect someone to find you while you wait?
Anyway, they say everyone has someone for them, so you will indeed find someone who will apprecia... (read in full...)
He has a life totally separate from me but keeps coming back to me!
Q. So, I've been with him for over 5yrs, rocky 5yrs anyways. we lived together for almost the whole 5 yrs too. We got an apartment 2yrs ago only for financial and other reasons I can't say, only my name is on the lease. fast forward a year, he starts ...
A. 17 September 2011: You love him sure, but do you deserve to be with someone who constantly makes you cry?
You say you're financially dependent on him, and on his car. That could indeed make it harder for you to leave. He knows that he can do anything you wont lea... (read in full...)
What do you make of the entire messy situation between my ex and this other woman?
Q. I recently ended a relationship of almost two decades. My ex was an extreme binge drinker throughout. I am still getting over it all. One thing that I am having difficulty with is: a couple of years back I was away with work on the other si...
A. 17 September 2011: Why did you break up with your ex? Was it because of this woman? According to the way you have described her, she sounds like the desperate clingy type, one who would take pleasure in destroying other people's relationships. Thats the side of her ... (read in full...)
Should I initiate sex? It hurts my feelings that boyfriend doesn't want sex more
Q. I'm in a great relationship w/ my bf, he's 35, I'm 28. He treats me like a princess, is affectionate and we are getting married next yr. Lately we haven't been having sex as much. It's been over a week since our last time. I talked to him about it ...
A. 17 September 2011: Pardon me i misread. Nevertheless, i think you should try iniating. If he doesnt respond positively then have a talk to know whats up.... (read in full...)
We have been fighting a lot lately and he isn't happy with me anymore
Q. please please help me, my partner of over 2 years has just told me he does not know if he wants to be with me anymore and i am devistated. We had a massive row on friday and he went out and came back today and said that to me, i thought it was just ...
A. 17 September 2011: Don't panic. Let him sort out the problems he has first. When people are coming from places like that they are usually stressed, what more with the operation he had to go through.
Let him get his life together, maybe after that he'll make up with ... (read in full...)
My Bf doesn't have any friends and doesn't come out with mine!?!
Q. ok. so my bf is pissing me off. I feel like we always have the same fights because nothing gets resolved!! He doesnt have any guy friends. and when i want to go out or have people over he throws a fit if he has to be involved in anyway. He wont ...
A. 17 September 2011: You people need to have a proper talk, not a fight. If he's not a sociable person, he needs to make a compromise to hang out once in a while with your friends when invited. When they come over, he should make the effort to greet them, talk with them ... (read in full...)
Fickle Love..!?
Q. Yeah..so there is this guy..whom im totally in love with..and he..? I don't know..! I mean..Im confused. He used to love me before..like I came to know this based on the way he used to move on with me..But then he never said it..seeing his ...
A. 17 September 2011: Just let him go whatever his reasons were for ending the relationship then friendship...
Its hard letting go of an ex especially when he's the one who ended it...but you're still young and have a whole life ahead of you, dont let a boy ruin it.... (read in full...)
Is he shy and lonely? Or am I just not his type?
Q. One guy in particular stands out at my current job But what I really need advice on is do you think he is shy and a bit lonely? He comes across one moment quite aloof almost arrogant and ignores me and the next laid back and childish! Recentl...
A. 17 September 2011: Sure, why not? Take him out, hang, and see how it goes from there. If he's interested he'll open up more.... (read in full...)
Should I initiate sex? It hurts my feelings that boyfriend doesn't want sex more
Q. I'm in a great relationship w/ my bf, he's 35, I'm 28. He treats me like a princess, is affectionate and we are getting married next yr. Lately we haven't been having sex as much. It's been over a week since our last time. I talked to him about it ...
A. 17 September 2011: He could be trying to give you space since you're pregnant...you've mentioned that he could be tired from work. Its possible that he doesnt realise how much sex means to you, since he's loving you in many other ways.
Initiating is a good idea, we... (read in full...)
I am a flirt who loves to just want sex!
Q. Everytime I like a guy and I know he doesnt like me back I seem to use sex as a way to defend myself, i seduce him, get what i want and then get over him quick. The sex isnt that good, it gets the job done it feels good, but it doesnt please my ...
A. 17 September 2011: With that kind of behaviour you'll scare a good man out there who could have been a serious boyfriend. Sleeping with someone to get over them could actually scar you emotionally without you knowing, and when you look back years from now, you'll... (read in full...)
Did he fake it?
Q. Hey, I'm not very sexually experienced and am just a bit concerned about what happened a couple of nights ago. I've been dating a guy for a couple of weeks, and ended up sleeping with him on Wednesday night (a bit too soon, I know). We were w...
A. 15 September 2011: I think he didnt fake it, but it seems he's also pretty new to sex considering how he didnt express himself and possibly came too quickly. I think what's needed is for you guys to learn each other more. No matter how experienced a person may be, ... (read in full...)
I love him and couldn't imagine being with someone else but I just don't know if I can live with him anymore
Q. Hi I'm having a problem of rather or not I should move back home or stay living together with my boyfriend. We have been together for years and this is the first place we have ever lived other than home and we have lived almost a year. I love him ...
A. 12 September 2011: There is need for clear rules when living with other people. Who cleans the house on which days, who cooks on which days, how much everyone is supposed to contribute towards the bills, etc. If this is not done, only few people are stuck doing it and ... (read in full...)
He's in jail for life, and he's telling me to cut contact. How can I deal with my strong feelings for him?
Q. I'm in love with a man who is incarcerated. I met him through a pen pal service which asks for people on the outside, like myself to write to prisoners. To be on the safe side, I picked a man who was doing life without the possibility of p...
A. 27 August 2011: INFATUATION. GET RID OF IT!!!
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Male, 20 and still a virgin
Q. Just as the title says. I absolutely hate myself for it too. What a loser i must be. Worse, everyone's always telling me how good looking i am and what a good sense of humour i have. So why the HELL cant i make it work for me?? Im a useless failure. ...
A. 23 August 2011: My goodness, whats the big deal with being a virgin? Why should people look at you any less because you havent had sex? I dont know what you are fretting about but in my opinion its nice to lose your virginity when there's no doubt its the perfect ... (read in full...)
How to Meet The Man Or Woman Of Your Dreams
Q. If you want to find the man or woman of your dreams, you have to put yourself in the environment where they work or hang out. For example, if you want to meet a lawyer, go down to your local courthouse during lunch hours- and hang out at the ...
A. 23 August 2011: Sounds good.... (read in full...)
How to Meet The Man Or Woman Of Your Dreams
Q. If you want to find the man or woman of your dreams, you have to put yourself in the environment where they work or hang out. For example, if you want to meet a lawyer, go down to your local courthouse during lunch hours- and hang out at the ...
A. 22 August 2011: Hey Daniel, sure i did meet some other fishes in the sea...... (read in full...)
How to Meet The Man Or Woman Of Your Dreams
Q. If you want to find the man or woman of your dreams, you have to put yourself in the environment where they work or hang out. For example, if you want to meet a lawyer, go down to your local courthouse during lunch hours- and hang out at the ...
A. 21 August 2011: Lol. I wish it always worked. I definitely had a dreamguy in college, made an initiative but it didnt work out. ... (read in full...)
Not sure whether I should tell my ex that I slept with his cousin...
Q. My ex and I have been broken up for about a 2 years. We were high school sweethearts but he cheated on me in the 11th grade with a girl i thought was my friend. We broke up for a while then i got back with him. So it was kind of off and on from ...
A. 3 August 2011: You just said it that you dont want him to hear it from anyone else, so no matter how hard it may be, the safest thing to do is to tell him yourself before anyone else does, and let him make up his mind if he wants to go ahead making up with you.... (read in full...)
What is the typical refractory period and number of orgasms for men?
Q. What is a typical refractory period for men out there? By refractory period, I mean the time it takes for you after an orgasm to be erect again and ready for the next round. I'm sure it varies a lot, and surely varies with age. I'm just ...
A. 25 July 2011: Ok, so i was with my bf who is 25years old yesterday from around 10:30 in the morning to 4:30 in the afternoon. In those six hours we also had sex six times and he orgasmed in all those rounds. We are in a LDR so maybe we missed each other a lot. ... (read in full...)
Are all men into kink?
Q. I mean, really, dating at age 49 seems like I have to deal with a lot of kink. And they're bloody upfront about it too: I go to a singles dance mixer night last night, and these are the chatty pick up lines blokes used, "what do you like in a man?" ...
A. 18 July 2011: They're there, somewhere....you'll find him.... (read in full...)
Is he a player or is he genuine?
Q. We always chat. Like, whenever he comes online, he'd message me immediately (even when he just woke up). We'd talk for four hours or more. We talk about random things and we even have our own private jokes! However, whenever the conversation tak...
A. 10 July 2011: Sounds to me like he has found himself a good friend!
He might come around later romantically but for now that's not on his mind considering that he doesn't flirt and evades any discussion concerning you two having a relationship.
Not a b... (read in full...)
What's with the mixed signals?
Q. well I work with this girl and just recently started talking to her and so i finaly asked for her number and she gave it to me, from there we would txt back and fourth sometimes and she would usually always answer in a decent amount of time. So one ...
A. 10 July 2011: I agree with aunt honesty. She made the first move asking you to hang, now it's your turn to ask her.
And i think you did well not to kiss her, coz you weren't sure if that's what she wanted or not. Kiss her when there's no doubt that it's def... (read in full...)
Will he ever stop cheating on his GF and be more than a FWB to me? He is my first lover
Q. So I dated this guy and we broke up on our month Anniversary and a month later we began to have sex. About every month we meet up once or twice to have sex. Most likely he is just using me because I am an easy target for him. He knows he's my firs...
A. 8 July 2011: Baby, you know what to do, dont pretend as if you dont know. This thing you have going on is totally useless. Why is it that he cant leave his girlfriend for you? Its because he takes her seriously and hopes he has a future with her, while you a... (read in full...)
Should I take back my ex-girlfriend without any conditions?
Q. My girlfriend dumped me 18 months back saying I am loser and I will always do stupid jobs and won't find good one. I was begging and crying in front of her like a baby that please don't leave but she did. I used to tell her that I was trying getting ...
A. 7 July 2011: She dumped you because you didnt have a good job and even called you a loser!
18months later she comes running back to you. Do you now have a good job?
Its a very noble thing to forgive. However, you have to take this into consideration: w... (read in full...)
He wants to have sex with the lights on but I am insecure about my body! Help!
Q. im 18/f and my boyfriend is 19/m My boyfriend took my virginity roughly 2 weeks ago, and since then we have been sharing whilst cuddling one night things we would like to try/different places we could go/ what turns us on. he mentioned that i...
A. 5 July 2011: You'll come around, trust me. I used to feel the same way, was very insecure with the lights on at first, i was even shy to get dressed in front of my man, though he kept telling me how beautiful my body is, but as time went by, i got used to him so ... (read in full...)
I like this boy and can't get him to notice me!
Q. Well I like this boy and I can't seem to get him to notice me .. I have his number and the first day we texted and it was good but as time passed I try to text him but he's barley replys.. We don't know eachother like that but I have a crush and i ...
A. 5 July 2011: Obviously he doesnt feel the same way so you need to step up your game! Casually invite him to go someplace with you, to a game or whatever. When you spend more time together he'll get to know what a nice person you are and will want to hang with ... (read in full...)
Married 5 years, still virgins, help!
Q. This year I will celebrate my 5 year wedding anniversary. Unfortunately, my wife and I are still virgins. I love her with all of my heart. People that know us think we have the most wonderful, romantic relationship. Love letters every morning before ...
A. 5 July 2011: How about some feedback sir? Whats the situation like now?... (read in full...)
My girlfriend of 19 years doesn't ever want to have sex. Should I leave her?
Q. I met my girlfriend 19 years ago. You might think that's a lot time for a woman to remain a girlfriend, but the primary reason I never married her is that we have not have had a sex life since about Year Two. I have told her several times that I l...
A. 5 July 2011: Apart from saying not having sex isnt a big deal does she say why she doesnt want to have sex?
There might be some very serious issues here because youve said she used to be sexual and all of a sudden stopped.
She loves you very much but ca... (read in full...)
He told me that sometimes he hates that I wasn't a virgin!
Q. I have a problem, i had lost my virginity a few years ago which was the biggest mistake of my life well i hadnt let my self date since then nine months ago i met my current bf i had told him everything that i had been through since he was still a ...
A. 5 July 2011: We dont hang on to our mistakes. Him as your boyfriend is supposed to support you, not make you feel bad about something that you did long ago, which you cant even reverse.
His argument that if you were a virgin you two wouldnt be having sex is n... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm missing out, knowing that he has had 12 partners before me!
Q. ok heres my story... im a 22 year old female and my boyfriend is 24 years old. he is my first EVERYTHING (i lost my virginity to him at 22 by the way). and i recently found out by him that he has been with 12 other girls before me. i already knew he ...
A. 5 July 2011: Much has already been said by YouWish but i'd like to stress the point that just because you're 13th, that doesn't mean you're not special to him. He loves you and im sure he'd be disappointed if heard what you're saying. Are you just going through ... (read in full...)
Do any men like giving oral?
Q. I have only ever been with the one man in my life and he does not enjoy performing oral sex on a woman. He claims that men just DON'T like it at all. This may be a stupid and very obvious question I should know the answer to, but because I have o...
A. 30 June 2011: To generalise that all men hate giving oral sex is very bad. My ex boyfriend never gave me head,even though i gave him. I never even asked him to do it coz i was self conscious. My present boyfriend, however, just cant get enough of going do... (read in full...)
Never sleep with an ex - sex does not mean they want you back
Q. Hello, i want to share my awful experience with you so that way hopefully I can stop someone making the same mistake. My ex broke up with me 2 months ago, we didnt date for long and he didnt even seem that into me but i was stupidly in love with him...
A. 29 June 2011: Actually you're not the only one to have experienced this. My ex dumped me for another girl then started flirting with me again over a year later,and was dissing his girlfriend. I thought maybe he wants to get back but all he wanted was sex from me. ... (read in full...)
I give him oral 24/7, but NEVER has gotten it in return, am I being selfish?
Q. Hello, I am a 18 year old female and i am mixed. I am native american and black. I been with my boyfriend for a year in a half and i have done everything to please him. I even pay for every single damn thing. I wait for him all the damn time ...
A. 15 May 2011: Talk to him about all your concerns. If he doesnt change, off you go!... (read in full...)
I get more pleasure out of dry humping then sex!
Q. Is this strange? I would rather keep my clothes on and dry hump, then have sex. I feel nothing with sex, but dry humping really gets me in the mood and safe to say, turns me on Is this strange?...
A. 11 April 2011: Its not strange because dry humping stimulates your clit and you can cum from it. Sex doesnt stimulate your clit unless you put in an extra effort so usually you dont cum and it doesnt feel as exciting as dry humping. Bottom line: you're norma... (read in full...)
Right after bad sex he said he wanted to break up!
Q. My boyfriend of 2.5 years said he wants to break up with me after we had a really bad sex. Somebody help me plz.. We are from different countries (Greece and Turkey) which people do not see it as a good thing to marry someone from the other n...
A. 27 March 2011: He really doesnt seem like a person to spend the rest of your life with. You are unhappy in the relationship, he constantly tells you he wants to break up and he stopped treating you nicely long ago. If you want hapiness in your life you better move ... (read in full...)
Worried my weight will be a turn off
Q. Im a 24 y/o female and recently got into a relationship with a 32 y/o guy. I really like him alot and want this to work out really bad. Problem is I'm worried that my weight will be a turn off, plus I've only ever been with one other guy and I ...
A. 21 March 2011: Dont be worried. You've decided to spend a night next weekend, so is he suddenly going to realise your body size then? You mean he doesnt know your size already? Is he blind or something? My point is, he already knows your size and he's satisfied ... (read in full...)
Men: would you be turned on or freaked out or something else by this?
Q. Hello lovely men of DearCupid :D How are we today? So, picture this... You wake up in the morning with a hard on only to find your girlfriend/mrs was already 'attending' to it... Reaction please? Would you be turned on? Freaked out? ...
A. 12 March 2011: I'd like to try it. Sounds really interesting.... (read in full...)
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