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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2011): What a treat!
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reader, Weeks  +, writes (14 March 2011):
 Would love it.
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reader, dmartin89  +, writes (13 March 2011):
 I apololigise @odds for if it seems I was not being fair. I just wrote it how it was in my head and didnt have time to go back and edit.
Obviously, both are very wrong, unless there is an agreement beforehand.
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reader, xtwinklex +, writes (12 March 2011):
xtwinklex is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh Wow... Totally! If I (or my other half I'd assume) woke to find full on intercourse going on while sleeping freaked out would not even begin to cover it!
Also, for double standards, I agree so much.. I'm all for equality :D
I'd totally be up for waking up to a bit of touchy feely which would lead to fully AWAKE sex! I just wondered if this went for blokes... sneaky handjob to wake you up so you're fully awake and wanting sex?
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reader, Odds  +, writes (12 March 2011):
 Hmm. I had interpeted this to mean I woke up to find her sexing me, not just playing around.
Yeah, if it's playing around, it's cool. I'd welcome that. It's the sexing in my sleep that would seriously bother me.
Just feel like pointing out the double standard, though, referenced in dmartin89's post. Woman sexing a man in his sleep? "A bit weird." Man sexing a woman in her sleep? "WRONG!" That's just unfair. Screwing a sleeping person is either creepy or not, pick one.
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reader, xtwinklex +, writes (12 March 2011):
xtwinklex is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI was getting at touching/foreplay leading to waking leading to sex :)
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reader, dmartin89 +, writes (12 March 2011):
To be honest I dont really understand what your saying exactely!
Are we talking sex, blow job, hand job? or is she playing with herself?
e.g. A man has woken up to find his girlfriend sucking him off. It is likely because she wanted to wake him up nicely and she is feeling turned on herself.
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A man has woken up to find his girlfriend having sex with him. This could be either becuase a) nice way to wake him up or b)she's a bit weird and was trying to get away with having sex with him asleep, seeing what she could get away with.
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A man wakes up to find his girlfriend playing with his erect penis by hand. It is likely that she was already awake and was turned on by his hard penis.
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A woman wakes up to find her boyfriend having sex with her - WRONG!
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A woman wakes up to find her boyfriend playing with her nipples/clit/stroking body. Quite normal, i love being waked up by this. Although its annoying when he does it in hes sleep then falls asleep after turning me on for 30 seconds! lol
I often play with my boyfriends bits in the moring, just hinting that that I want morning sex. I also find it a comfort when I'm going to sleep, the same way that he likes to nestle in my breasts and stroke them. Its quite normal when you're comfortable with eachother and find comfort in each others bodies.
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reader, Madalo 1  +, writes (12 March 2011):
I'd like to try it. Sounds really interesting.
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reader, smiliek  +, writes (12 March 2011):
 My hubby loves when i do this. Its only happened a few times, but if i wake up first and he's got ' morning glory' sometimes i'll start playing. I'd never actually have sex at that point though, bit weird. But he wakes up pretty happily and quickly if i start playing
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reader, Kilcardy +, writes (12 March 2011):
Me likey!! :
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reader, xtwinklex +, writes (11 March 2011):
xtwinklex is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust to clarify...
I didn't mean... the gf/whatever having some secret sextime without you knowing..
I was more getting at... she's doing her thing, you wake up mid-'thing' and subesquently... you are then awake as she/you finishes
I asked because, well it's been brought up a lot in conversations by women and men and I wondered how much truth there was..
(I mean, a lot of blokes might say 'oh yea, I'd totally do XYZ, that's hot' but know full well they wouldn't if it came to it.. eg, the extreme stuff in porn might be a turn on on the screen but not with the gf etc)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2011): Yea:for me yes!..for example if its for the first time and that wil add to the excitement because its a new experience and got to be fun!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2011): turned on ;)
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reader, skitsomnm +, writes (11 March 2011):
I would be happier than a pig in mud. My question to this is........"why wouldn't I feel her taking care of business"?
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (11 March 2011):
I don't think this is that crazy. As long as she's your girlfriend. But, of course, everyone will have a different thought about this because is too personal. There is no a general answer to this.
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reader, Odds +, writes (11 March 2011):
I'm not bad, thanks for asking.
Probably the same way she would feel if she woke up to find me "attending" to her.
Something along the lines of, "This b*tch is crazy, and I gotta leave."
If she woke me up for sex, sure, happily, but there's something seriously screwed up if she's sexing me in my sleep.
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reader, alex74 +, writes (11 March 2011):
 Turned on. It's a fantasy of mine. It will never happen to me though. My wife will only do that immediately after I shower. Hard to sleep through a shower.
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reader, Problem.helper +, writes (11 March 2011):
 Speaking from personal experience : Best way to wake up.
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