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writes:I'm 18 years old, and I have been with my boyfriend for 5 months. I thought we were getting along great, but yesterday he told me he had a crush on his hairdresser. He claimed it's just something stupid, and that it doesn't affect how he is feeling for me. She's 25 years old, he's only 18.I got really upset about this and nearly ended it with him. We were up all night, and he just kept apologising and saying that he's so stupid for ever thinking it, and doesn't want me to break up with him. I don't know what to think about it. Is it 'something stupid' or is it something to cause concern?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks :) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2011): im a hair stylist and let me tell u, this happens alot. we get alot of flirting from men, but it really means nothing. we work inside peoples personal space and touching peoples hair is our job. some men get this confused as intimate, but rest assured sweetheart, its not intimate to us!!!! him telling you that is really not fair to you. whether its his hairstylist, or some random chick at the mall, him telling you he likes someone else is a red flag. good luck hunny!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for replying, I feel a bit better about all of this now.
I've spoken to him and we're working it out.
Thanks x
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reader, LovelessAct1  +, writes (2 January 2011):
Have you ever looked at another guy and thought he was good looking? Ever watched a movie with a charismatic male lead and fantasized about him? I'm sure you have. I do believe that is was something "stupid" as he claims. You both should try and look past this and simply cease to mention it.
Everyone who's in a relationship will "notice" other people, especially when they feel deprived of attention or have a certain lack of self confidence. Its a flaw, yes, but humans are full of them. If I were you I'd forgive him for it and let your relationship move on. I highly doubt he'd even have the guts to do something about it if it was a sincere crush, which I highly doubt it is.
Its best to forgive and forget in this situation. Good luck.
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