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... Send *mao1989 a private message | | | *mao1989's profile:I'm 23 years of age. I live in Wales and i feel i can offer advice as I've experience a lot of difficulties in my life and i feel i can lend people my shoulder to cry on or lend them an ear or a different perspective on things.
I am currently in a relationship and i couldn't ask for a better boyfriend.
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I'm terribly upset about the way my sister-in-law treated me 2 years ago and the fact that my husband did not stand up for me.
Q. 2 years ago my husband's mother died. At the funeral my husband's sister mostly ignored me, made me feel uncomfortable or made fun of me. I have had no dealings with her since. My husband did nothing to stop this going on. Since then a wedge has ...
A. 25 September 2012: Your counsellor is right maybe you should just cut the contact and leave it lie then nothing else can occur from this event from happening again.
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Am I wasting my time hoping he will change?
Q. I met this man almost five years ago. At the time I was 20 and in between relationships. We went on a couple dates and agreed to keep it "low key and simple". Then I met someone that I wanted a relationship with and cut it off with him. That r...
A. 24 September 2012: You say he's cheated... been unfaithful and feels what they don't know can't hurt them.
Maybe he is this perfect guy because he has been doing this for so long and he charms woman into things leading him to have affairs and being unfaithf... (read in full...)
How do couples handle arguments, fights and disagreements?
Q. I am curious to know how couples handle it when they have an argument, fight, disagreement etc. Do you just go off seperately into another room to calm down afterwards? I ask because my bf and i had a argument. It was about something small ...
A. 23 September 2012: My boyfriend used to go off wandering on his own he'd come back later but after he had time to cool off. Now we don't do that we talk about it together i was always the one who wanted to sort it there and then he always wanted time on his own ... (read in full...)
My long distance boyfriend asked me to share my naked pic, I refused to share and now he is sad. Should I send him my naked pic?
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend. We both are of same age, 16 years old. He is Australian and I'm Indian. We met 2 months ago on facebook and he proposed me after 1 month. I love him a lot. I strictly follow what our holy book ...
A. 23 September 2012: You need to be so careful because i've been in a similar situation. From him saying it's a sign of true love it is not! He's trying to con you into sending one stand your ground and don't do it! You've never met the guy he could be a pervert... (read in full...)
What should I do about this resentment that he won't try to lose the weight he has gained?
Q. In March, I started dating a guy I've known for 4-5 years. In may, I decided that I wanted to lose weight and since then, I've lost about 25 pounds, but here's the problem. My boyfriend was about 20 pounds overweight when we made it official, but ...
A. 23 September 2012: Is he classed as being in danger weight wise? If not then leave him to it unless you find him unattractive? I appreciate you lost weight and well done to you but if your partner hears that you're going to support him no matter what then where ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends disrespectful past is stopping me from moving on with our future?
Q. My boyfriend has been terrible in the past, staring at other women in public, buying disgusting mens magazines and putting them in plain sight where i could see them and thinking nothing of it, flirting with other girls behind my back and thinking ...
A. 23 September 2012: Well it seems he's shattered your trust in him hence why you are questioning whether you're being paranoid. If this has happened in the past who knows what is still going on technology nowa days can set things so privately it's like nothing eve... (read in full...)
I'm terribly upset about the way my sister-in-law treated me 2 years ago and the fact that my husband did not stand up for me.
Q. 2 years ago my husband's mother died. At the funeral my husband's sister mostly ignored me, made me feel uncomfortable or made fun of me. I have had no dealings with her since. My husband did nothing to stop this going on. Since then a wedge has ...
A. 23 September 2012: Well as your husband said it was a funeral and at that painful time people react in outrageous ways in which they wouldn't normally and they can't explain why. Your husband probably didn't stand up for you at the time because don't forget it ... (read in full...)
Fiance's world revolves around his 16 year old daughter with asperger's
Q. Hi This is quite hard for me. My fiances daughter is nearly 16 and she has aspergers. I'm finding this very hard to cope with. Its like she's 10 always something wrong with her and when there is my partner has to drop everything and run for her,its ...
A. 23 September 2012: Ok first of all it is a tough situation. What you need to understand is that there i a lot more to Aspergers. There can be mental problems. One of the main things with people who have Aspergers is the fact that they do not like change it can ca... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 2 months creeps me out!
Q. My boyfriend and I have only been going out for about two months. Lately, though, it seems as if every little thing he does annoys me or creeps me out. He's constantly making fun of me and he brings the gift I gave him (a stuffed monkey) weeks ago ...
A. 22 September 2012: I don't think he'd do anything bad to himself he seems just immature as a lot of guys that age are and that's why he makes fun of you.
Just talk to him and tell him how you're feeling when he does things like that. A lot of guys that age are diff... (read in full...)
Is an Ex and Ex? And should it stay that way? I think my Bf may be in contact with this ex again.
Q. I suspect that my boyfriend might have added his ex-girlfriend back into his phone, I am not entirely sure. I just have a feeling he might have. Should I just ask him if I can look at it? I don't know if it seems odd. I really hate his ex and h...
A. 22 September 2012: Why don't you ask him if he has added her on his phone?
I do feel an ex is an ex and they shouldn't be involved in a new relationship as it can cause complications and things can go wrong especially if the ex is quite crafty and a jealous person. ... (read in full...)
Do you think he is playing me? My friend says he is. But if he's playing me, would he go to so much trouble for me?
Q. I guy I have been seeing for the past month and I have been dating. We havent gone very far and I heard that he kissed another girl on a night he got drunk. A few days ago I asked him what we were, and he said he hadn't thought about it. Two days...
A. 22 September 2012: He is playing you. He's not made an effort he doesn't even care. All he wants from you is sex. He wants you to keep seeing each other so you'll feel you're in a relationship so he can get what he wants from you and not have the strings of ... (read in full...)
Why wont my 59 year old boyfriend make love to me?
Q. why wont my boyfriend make love to me? im 56 and he is 59, we have been together now for a year. i care about him deeply and hope that we can spend the rest of our lives together. we get along great other then this one thing. he wants other sexu...
A. 22 September 2012: There maybe a problem he is experiencing that then result in lack of sexual intercourse and he is probably too embarrassed to share with you and that is probably why he laughs and jokes about it. Maybe if you let him know you're there for him an... (read in full...)
Despite his flaws I can't get my ex out of my head
Q. So I have a new boyfriend and he is the most amazing guy I have everrrr been with personality-wise and I really LOVE who he is, because he is caring and he supports me (even as far as going to auditions just to help me have the guts to follow my ...
A. 22 September 2012: If you feel you are comparing too much or that your current boyfriend isn't that great orally or sexually then why not tell him that just talk to him about it not in an embarrassing way or say you've been comparing but try and give him hints or tips ... (read in full...)
Caught feelings for a guy but things seem different after the night we finally spent together.
Q. Hello everyone, this might be long but please help me out. Around august of last year some guy friend requested me on facebook. He wasnt just a random because we had about 45 mutual friends and he lives a few towns(15 minutes) away from me. An...
A. 22 September 2012: I appreciate he said he had a good weekend but after everything you've said and what he's been like after i'm unsure he is actually wanting anything relationship wise from you. I mean he keeps saying about hanging out but if he just saying that... (read in full...)
Torn between 2 men
Q. My sister has opened a shop 15 minutes away from her house so i help her to sell. I met a guy who wants to date me and i thought he was just a player and i didn't take it seriously but i gave him my number. Two days after that i met another guy whom ...
A. 22 September 2012: Well at the moment you're just dating them so why not date them a few more times and see how that goes. It is hard to know someone off only 1 or 2 dates make arrangements to see them some more and see how your chemistry goes with them both. It may ... (read in full...)
Should I date someone who is always with his friends?
Q. hello i just wanted a bit of advice. i just been talking to a man i like online and he said he likes me as well. we going on a date soon and have met once at his works already which went well. we talk online and will go out soon but thing is he ...
A. 22 September 2012: Yes he has many friends and you've said he sees them on the weekends, but who is to say that this won't change when he's with you and you guys become an official item? He maybe spend less time with them and more with you because he's starting to... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's behavior has changed, I need some advice.
Q. Hi Everyone, Hope you can help, Ive been seeing my girlfriend for about 18 months - we will live an hour from each other - plus for a long part of this I used to work away so seeing each other was not easy. But at the weekend I would try ...
A. 22 September 2012: Well sounds like she is still on the dating scene. I mean for her to all of a sudden hide her profile from you after you've challenged her on it seems very suspicious. i think you should have a talk with her express how you feel to her and end i... (read in full...)
I thought I liked him, but now I'm not so sure.
Q. I'm 14 (Please, no comments saying I'm too young for a boyfriend, they don't help) and I'm going out with this boy who has been my close friend for about 2 years. He's liked me since we were 12 but I wasn't interested in him. Time went on then I ...
A. 22 September 2012: You've probably withdrawn because you feel this isn't your true love. It seems like you're staying with him out of politeness too and that shouldn't be the way you need to do what's right for yourself and him. He's going to be hurt whether ... (read in full...)
What should I do? My Boyfriend is SO Jealous. Made a scene at my work. Calls me a slag almost daily
Q. I feel really bad about what I did to my boyfriend. We have been arguing so much throughout our entire relationship, he always thinks I'm cheating. He calls me a slag almost daily when he has no reason to think it. He came to my work shouting at ...
A. 22 September 2012: I'm sorry but he is emotionally blackmailing you!
So what you put your sister first she is your family!! He calls you a slag daily he's come to your place shouting at you.
He's apologising because he knows he can get away with it you should ju... (read in full...)
I am in crush with a straight guy
Q. hello there. i am a student from china who is now exchanging in france. i met a guy who is from another school at the public canteen and he is very very handsome. that day he approached me and say he was new in town and do not know anyone. we had a ...
A. 20 September 2012: Well you have said you're an exchange student and that you'll only be around him for about half a year. Why not tell him?
If you don't then you'll never know what he says.
Why did he randomly tell you he prefers girls? Is he trying to deny t... (read in full...)
Can someone help me understand the male mind?
Q. Can someone, please help me understand the male mind. I am at the end of my tether. I have been seeing a guy since the end of July and things were going well. After five weeks he told me he loved me. I thought it was a bit soon but nice to hear. Bt...
A. 20 September 2012: Maybe he is afraid of being committed maybe he does love you but didn't want to be tied down as he's afraid that if it is too good he'll lose it all.
Have you tried asking him why he reacted like that?
you need to ask him why he went all quie... (read in full...)
Need help with a long distance relationship
Q. My fiancee and I are in a long distance relationship. She moved about 5 hours away for college. I try to visit her whenever I can (about once a month). The issue is about 24 hours before I have to go home she starts to get depressed and sad and ...
A. 18 September 2012: It's a tough situation. I was like that when i was in halls at University i would try to get my boyfriend to stay a bit longer so i had that bit extra time with him.
Try and get her to focus on the positive that it won't be long until you guys see... (read in full...)
Is this the way? I want to make him jealous. In retaliation for how he has treated me.
Q. i want to make my ex jealous. do you have any ideas on how to do this? He has always told me that i need him and we are meant to be together, but I am done. I think he wants me back, then dump me. Every two months he comes crawling back to me. I w...
A. 18 September 2012: Why don't you go out get a man and show him the good life you're having without him with other men that you are not tied down too? Even if it's guy friends try to get them on board just show him you don't need him you're fine on your own and you... (read in full...)
Now I am at University how do I make new friends? And how do I cope with lonliness at being so far from everyone I know?
Q. So today was my first day of University and second night staying in student accommodation. I've had a really tough year and finally got out of my depression in time for Uni but now I feel like I am slowly sinking back there. I have never felt so ...
A. 18 September 2012: I was exactly like you i stayed in student accommodation i did make a few friends and then in the night all the floors mingled and we all had drinks but i got really good friends with girls on a different floor to myself a good ol drink helps you ... (read in full...)
Does he have feelings for me and is afraid of being hurt?
Q. Alright guys, im having a huge dellima... I met this guy through my cousin, and it seemd like a good idea. We atrted texting, we met once but it was brief, and i knew there was just something about him. I thouhgt about him off and all, and he final...
A. 18 September 2012: Try to tone it down a little with him if he wants to take it slow then go slow with him don't try to pressure him into something more if he's a bit afraid of getting hurt. I appreciate you're not a patient girl but if you want this relationshi... (read in full...)
Need a Older Man's Opinion
Q. I met a single man(in this 30's) last year from canada and we have been in contact for 1 year now. We only met once and had a great time and chemistry and everything(did not do anything with him at all, I'm more respectable). So, now he emails me ...
A. 18 September 2012: I apologise for a start for not being an older man. But from what you've said it seems like he wanted a bit of a friends with benefits situation with you where he could get what he wants from you and still look around for other girls. Why wo... (read in full...)
Boyfriend problems involving facebook. What should I do?
Q. It seems facebook is the source of all of our issues :/ I'm really insecure about myself and always end up comparing myself to other girls and my boyfriend and I have talked about this. We live together and he treats me so well, but we do have i...
A. 18 September 2012: Woah! No way on earth do you tell someone they're a good kisser i'd never go back to a past boyfriend and tell him that because what would be the point? It was in the past and I have a boyfriend who i am happy with. I'd go mental if i found ou... (read in full...)
Boyfriend feels neglected because I'm spending time with another friend. Views please?
Q. Hey everyone, I am 23 years old and my boyfriend is 26 nothing significant there but I thought of mentioning it cuz my boyfriend has been acting really immature these days.. I have a best guy friend we go bowling,dinner's lunch we have a lot of fu...
A. 18 September 2012: It's a difficult situation because yes he is a guy but he's also your friend. your boyfriend obviously feels uncomfortable perhaps next time you hang out invite your boyfriend so he can see the person you're hanging out with and then it may put ... (read in full...)
What I have with him is okay, but could I do a lot better?
Q. Whenever my boyfriend and I don't see eachother, which is most of the week, my feelings for him fade. They go from 100 (on the day we see each other) to like 30. I start doubting him, start wondering why he doesn't even bother visiting me when he ...
A. 16 September 2012: I think if they are subconcious then they are the actual feelings you have because they normal emerge when you least expect it because it is your true feelings.
Perhaps chat with him explain how you are feeling and that if it carries on then you... (read in full...)
How do you deal with your boyfriend having female friends when there are trust issues?
Q. How do you deal with your bf/fiance/husband having female friends or being friends w female co workers, when there have been trust issues in the past (although hes never physically cheated) i told him he needs to be honest and he doesnt want to ...
A. 16 September 2012: Well that doesn't seem fair why is it you tell him everything about your life but he will not do the same for you?
And why can he have female friends and you aren't allowed guy friends because he isn't ok with it?
This isn't fair he seems to... (read in full...)
Should I tell my ex he needs to pay attention to his daughter before he loses her or keep my nose out of it?
Q. Hi all i wanted to ask what you thought of this situation with my ex and possibly what i could/should do about it. Its complicated, We split up when i was 3 months pregnant due to his cheating. Within a week and a half he found someone else and...
A. 16 September 2012: It is a tough decision but i think you should leave it up to them to sort out or not sort out. He need's to know he has these responsibilities but if the daughter feels this way of neglecting or anything then she should tell him try and talk to him ... (read in full...)
He makes constant demands for sex but due to my health and busy lifestyle we can't do it so often.
Q. I am generaly a happy go lucky kind of girl. In a great relationship with a man i love and cherish and have for near enough 7 years, our sex life is amazing but recently i have run into some problems with my health. Chronic fatigue and i also have ...
A. 15 September 2012: Have you told him this?
Maybe if he understood more about how you're feeling he'd ease up on.
Are you too tired to give him oral? I know you've said he demands sex but maybe you can compromise and give him oral so he's satisfied and yo... (read in full...)
Am I a fool for pursuing this and how long do I wait for her to notice me in a different way?
Q. As, I think it is relevant for the whole story let me give you a bit of an intro about myself first. I am very reserved and shy person and so far have never had a serious relationship, even if there were several opportunities. I consider myself as ...
A. 15 September 2012: The only thing you can do is talk to her. Find out whether there would be something other wise you'll be in limbo land thinking what if? Did she like me? Could we have been?
Well don't think of those ask her and find out so you can finally ... (read in full...)
I have great sex with my boyfriend but I can't orgasm!
Q. I have great sex with my boyfriend. But I have a issue having a orgasm...
A. 15 September 2012: It is actually quite common that woman don't always orgasm with their partner that doesn't mean that they aren't good if you feel it is such an issue try talking with your partner and coming up with a plan that can help you orgasm or reach that ... (read in full...)
My parents consider him a criminal and want me to break up with him. Why are they doing this?
Q. I’m 19 years old guy and I’ve a trouble with my parents. I’m gay and my parents know it. And they have nothing against me being gay, but they have something against my boyfriend. I’m dating a wonderful guy for half a year. He really makes me feel ...
A. 15 September 2012: They're family it's what they do they like to interfere in your relationships.
In their eyes they are just looking out for you when in actual fact they are more pushing you away.
Just because his father killed his mother (in which i have dee... (read in full...)
She didn't respond to me for days then said she needed some time off. Do I move on or wait for her?
Q. okay,me and my girlfriend met two months ago and we made it official. One the first day we met she told me she had a crush on me over text. I've decided to get into a relationship with her, at the same time i told i wanted something serious and long ...
A. 15 September 2012: Doesn't sound too positive to me. 'Sorry i f***ed up' perhaps she is doing weed still and can't stop as it has become part of her life.
I don't think you should of threatened her with if she doesn't quit you'll end it with her because she's be... (read in full...)
I'm a 20 year old virgin and would really like to know.... What does it feel like to be completely in love with someone, flaws and all?
Q. This probably sounds like a stupid question, but what does it feel like to be in love? I'm a 20 year old guy, never had a girlfriend or even any interest from a woman, still a virgin, never been kissed etc. So I really don't know what its like. I'm ...
A. 15 September 2012: Trust me you will know when it happens. Everyone has their own perspective on what love is like for them and you'll just know when it happens.
I was like you when i was your age always telling my friends i'll never find a boyfriend i had previous... (read in full...)
I got a new job and now he won't talk to me. Why is he angry at me?
Q. This guy and I use to go out as teenagers we had two kids together he treated us like sh... Now he is sick he can't really do anything for himself .We talk to each other every other day . since I got a new job he does't want to talk to me .He really ...
A. 15 September 2012: Perhaps that is the problem here you have a new job maybe he feels you're going to neglect him and feels you may not have any time for him.
I don't think he's blaming you for being ill as you've said it isn't your fault, but perhaps he's worried ... (read in full...)
I need help getting over my past relationships and trust issues. And how do I know if this guy likes me?
Q. I'm 17 (18 in May) and i have been talking to this boy who is 18, (19 in June). We go to the same college, and have seen each other a few times but not actually spent time together yet. We're texting almost everyday and I'm starting to like him (i ...
A. 15 September 2012: Well only way really too get over that previous relationship and build trust issues is to see this for a bit.
Get to know him go out on dates and things and see how that goes then maybe you can open up to him a bit more because you will both be ... (read in full...)
Should I stay at his house?
Q. Dear cupids, I am faced with a challenge. I made up my mind to spend my school holiday this december with my boyfriend in his house in another state and tell my parents the school requested us to stay because of out fast approaching exams so as to ...
A. 15 September 2012: Well i would dump him as you clearly don't want a relationship with him as you've said you don't like him that much and he is probably only wants you to stay because you told him you're a virgin.
I would stay in school as you clearly don't want... (read in full...)
He forgot about the dating site? Could this just be a bit of his old types of behaviour coming back a bit?
Q. I am having a bit of a problem with my boyfriend at the moment...(We have been together 9 months and met through a mutual friend) We've recently had a few small issues, that are just like little arguments really, he's stressed with work and othe...
A. 15 September 2012: If he has been as honest as you think he has I don't think you've got anything to worry about. From what you've said i think you have your doubts you've kept saying all of these positive things that he has told you yet you still feel the need to ... (read in full...)
Is it true that a girl forgets her first love or the one she gave virginty to? Does my Gf miss him?
Q. Is it true that a girl forgets her first love or the one she gave virginty to ....???? I'm in relation wid her from one year ago She loves me to bits. Sometimes I feel bad that she had an awful former boyfriend who took my girl friend's virgin...
A. 15 September 2012: I think you may be being paranoid. She probably remembers him but not in a good way and that is why she doesn't want too.
Can't say girls remember there first time and who it was with, but I can sure tell you that if someone treats you badly wh... (read in full...)
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