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writes:hello i just wanted a bit of advice. i just been talking to a man i like online and he said he likes me as well. we going on a date soon and have met once at his works already which went well. we talk online and will go out soon but thing is he seems to have lots of friends from work that he is with on weekends a big group of friends male and female. he said i can go out with him and his friends sometime. i have a couple of friends i see now and again but what if i date him and we get no time alone together as he works all week then is with lots of mates on his days off. i met him once and we like each other but i dont want to date someone who is with friends and work nonstop will i have time with him as a couple. he is with friends today we talk most days but heard nothing today and we will meet in the week. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2012): good advice thank you. i will get to know him as a friend and take it from there.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (23 September 2012):
 Hi
Well he talks to you online so he has got spare time.
As for his social life, you should be pleased he's busy, he has asked you to join them too which is great.In time if it develops he would want to spend time with you alone I bet.
Its very early days so either give him a fair chance or find a man who suits you better.Nobody is perfect but its down to what you find acceptable in the end.
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reader, lmao1989 +, writes (22 September 2012):
 Yes he has many friends and you've said he sees them on the weekends, but who is to say that this won't change when he's with you and you guys become an official item?He maybe spend less time with them and more with you because he's starting to settle down.I am sure it won't be a forever thing it's good he's seeing friends now an good he invited you, but as the relationship progresses him hanging out with friends over the weekend all the time may tone down more as he starts to spend more and more time with you.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (22 September 2012):
 Honestly, if him having so many friends is an issue for you before you have even been on a proper date or spent any quality time with him, I'd say the relationship is doomed.
It's not reasonable to meet someone and then immediately try to change them or their behaviour...the trick is to observe and spend time with the person and then decide if you have anything in common with them before you even start thinking about a long term thing.
He's been nice and invited you along to meet his friends, maybe he'd like to see if you fit his ideals before he gets heavy.
I'd go, meet his friends, see how it goes, but if you think he isn't compatible with you, then move on.
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