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... Send *mao1989 a private message | | | *mao1989's profile:I'm 23 years of age. I live in Wales and i feel i can offer advice as I've experience a lot of difficulties in my life and i feel i can lend people my shoulder to cry on or lend them an ear or a different perspective on things.
I am currently in a relationship and i couldn't ask for a better boyfriend.
I will always be honest with people and i'll always offer the best advice i can.
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I've never dated. How do I get to know a girl before asking her out?
Q. I am currently a 20 year old medical student that has never been in a relationship. My course is really intensive and I've found it really difficult to get to know women on my course. I have asked a few out when I was bold in first year but was ...
A. 28 January 2013: First of all try and make some time to go out with friends you don't necessarily have to meet them at a club try a pub a calmer atmosphere.
I would also not just try on your course and try others also. Best way to get to know someone is by datin... (read in full...)
The past of my boyfriend really bother me. I don't know how to deal with it
Q. I am new at this lol never posted a quetion before but her it goes......it is kind of long. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years now. I have children from previous marriage and he treats them as his own. He is very selfless and kind...
A. 28 January 2013: I really think it's not the past of the boyfriend you've got an issue with but it's an issue with yourself and this is your own insecurities. You feel unattractive because of these 'skinny' women and you say about stretch mark, so what....... (read in full...)
Am I out of line for wanting my girlfriend to discuss major life decisions with me?
Q. I am a little confused and could just use a little advice to keep me on the right path. My girlfriend and I had a little argument the other day. She's been distancing herself over the past few weeks, and I finally called her out on it. (We'v...
A. 28 January 2013: I don't think you're out of line she is very much out of line and self centred. My partner and i we discuss things like together all the time i appreciate his input and he appreciates mine we give our thoughts and feelings about the situation what ... (read in full...)
My best friend who is like a brother to me admitted that he's gay and attracted to me. I am now avoiding him because I don't know how to handle this
Q. I’m a man in my early thirties and right now I have a complicated situation in my life. My best friend confessed to me that he’s gay. We know each other for almost 25 years and he’s like a brother to me. We grew up together, we went in the same ...
A. 28 January 2013: Well yeah you can feel confused because it's a big thing to take on board and obviously has shocked your system. I far from think you should be avoiding him. Perhaps he felt if he told you may be you'd put him straight so he has that freedom to ... (read in full...)
Is spotting normal with the pill?
Q. Hi everyone About a month ago I had unprotected sex, he didn't actually go inside me anytime but thought it was best to get the morning after pill anyway. After getting the morning after pill I was told to come back 4 weeks later and as I was ...
A. 22 January 2013: Unfortunately with the pill you can still spot whether or not you're taking them properly. It's nothing to worry about :) It can sometimes happen though. If it does bother you try going to the doctors and talking to them about it. ... (read in full...)
We have been together 3 years but my boyfriend wont meet my friends!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going steady for 3 years now and it's been good until it comes to this: he won't meet any of my friends. He's hung out with me and my siblings a few times but the last time he almost got in a fight with my brother. ...
A. 22 January 2013: Well you haven't mentioned why he got into a fight with your brother or nearly got into one.
Perhaps he does feel singled out because he's Asian maybe he feels that's why your brother lashed out because he's different (he maybe paranoid)and if your... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wont stop using dating sites but makes me out to be the bad guy! What have I done wrong?
Q. Will someone please understand where I went wrong and what I did what was wrong? I have dumped my girlfriend because yet again she is on dating sites. She is not letting it go and is behaving like I have done her the greatest injustice for leaving ...
A. 22 January 2013: Perhaps that's why she did it. For you catch her out and cause a scene maybe she was waiting for a reaction off you or maybe she just wanted a way out of the relationship and wanted you to be made out to be the bad guy.
This is despite her bein... (read in full...)
Unexpected separation from my lover. Why is he avoiding me, and how can I get it back to how it was?
Q. I have been in a relationship for more than two and half years. For the past few months I notice some changes in my boyfriend's attitude. I am really worried in this situation. I feel like he is avoiding me. I know that he loves me, but somethin...
A. 22 January 2013: Well that's a hard question for me to answer i mean only you can define your happiness and what it is that will make you happy.
If he finds it difficult to talk about his feelings perhaps suggest a counsellor someone he can talk to in private ... (read in full...)
Am I a loser for not drinking or doing drugs? Will I find a girl to date?
Q. How can I be comfortable with the fact that I dont drink or do drugs. Last night, I went out with my friends to a partyhiuse and there was rndless amounts of drinks and drugs there. I never drink, so I am the sober one. I have some friends who do ...
A. 22 January 2013: I am 24 years of age and i really don't like clubbing! You don't always find girls from clubs i never found my boyfriend from there i met him through a mutual friend.
Just because you don't drink or do drugs doesn't mean you can't go out clubbing... (read in full...)
Unexpected separation from my lover. Why is he avoiding me, and how can I get it back to how it was?
Q. I have been in a relationship for more than two and half years. For the past few months I notice some changes in my boyfriend's attitude. I am really worried in this situation. I feel like he is avoiding me. I know that he loves me, but somethin...
A. 16 January 2013: well by PG do you mean a post graduate course? Because if you guys met whilst in college he may feel you're going to find someone else now on this other course you're doing that is interested in the same thing you're doing or taking part in. ... (read in full...)
I want him to enjoy oral sex, like he did in the beginning!
Q. Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years now and I was a virgin when I met him. We didn't have sex until 9 months into our relationship. But before I lost my virginity to him, we would have oral sex and he would sometimes spend 45 minutes going ...
A. 16 January 2013: If he texture is different perhaps you've got a yeast infection down there because you can get discharge. Perhaps go to the doctors and get checked. Have you noticed any discharge? Maybe that's why it's different now because you've had... (read in full...)
Am I a loser for not drinking or doing drugs? Will I find a girl to date?
Q. How can I be comfortable with the fact that I dont drink or do drugs. Last night, I went out with my friends to a partyhiuse and there was rndless amounts of drinks and drugs there. I never drink, so I am the sober one. I have some friends who do ...
A. 16 January 2013: Not at all, your ex should have appreciated the fact that you'd take care of her when she was drunk and be grateful you aren't the losers doing drugs... doing drugs get's your nowhere! and if you did that'd be wrong for another girl! Drink, we... (read in full...)
Relationship with an old parent and siblings.
Q. I am a 45 year old single male - I have an old mother (75+) who lives with me - we share a reasonable relationship most of the times but there are instances when things just get too difficult. I strongly believe my mother's ability to compr...
A. 15 January 2013: Firstly your mother is old now and she's at that stage where she is going to gossip about things whether it be the neighbours at yours or the dogs barking through the night to the slight fact that you gave her boiled potatoes instead of mashed. ... (read in full...)
I like a certain musician and want to message him via his bands Facebook page. What questions should I ask?
Q. I know this isn't much of a problem, but i'd appreciate your help. I like a member of a band. The band that he was in that I am a fan of were famous. He is in another band now that isn't famous (well, they haven't released albums and singles)...
A. 15 January 2013: You could ask the band where they are next playing and could you see them after the show. Let them know that you want to promote their music to other people and spread the word maybe then you can meet the guy you like and get chatting to him in ... (read in full...)
What's wrong with my relationship with my Gf? She seems to find fault with me all the time.
Q. I have been going out with this girl for a while now and have been enjoying every moment we are together. Ever since we officially became boyfriend and girlfriend, she has been shooting me down. For instance, I asked her if she wanted to hang out...
A. 31 December 2012: It sounds like she is trying to avoid the relationship. Sounds like she wanted the relationship now she has it she doesn't want it. But she is finding it too hard to tell you and hoping you'll find out on your own or maybe that you'll call it o... (read in full...)
I usually pick the losers and jerks - I'm scared to see what happens this time!
Q. So I've started talking to this guy that has a lot in common with me, its like we can constantly talk and not get tired of each other. I have never been able to talk to someone like this and it feels really weird, and Im afraid I am going to say ...
A. 31 December 2012: As little monster said if he's divorced he could just be looking for a fling to get over the divorce i suppose you could say. If you met him online you need to be so careful he could be anyone trying to lure you in. and how old is he? ... (read in full...)
Ok I need to get this of my chest why is this girl saying this and talking this stuff about me ?
Q. Ok, here it goes my brothers gf is saying that she loves me when she hugs me every time I hug her. It was weird she went to hug me and my brother step in the way of the hug like he did not know that I was going to hug her then she step back like wtf ...
A. 31 December 2012: Sounds to me like she's flirting with you trying it on. Perhaps she is doing this to get a reaction from your brother, in her eyes she may think she's winding him up and wants him to react to protect her i guess you could say like stand up for the ... (read in full...)
I think she wants me to spoil her like her ex did. I feel I have big shoes to fill, is it wrong to feel this way?
Q. I'm having a problem. My girlfriend and I have been dating for awhile but her ex keeps coming up. They were in a very deep relationship. He went above and beyond to spoil her. Now I share some of the same qualities and views that he has but I'm ...
A. 1 December 2012: Some people get used to that kind of life butt what they also have to realise is that the fact is they are an ex for a reason so yes they may have spoilt them but whose to say that was a good thing? Maybe it was to stop them from prying where they ... (read in full...)
I'm pretty so why don't I get asked out?
Q. Hey everyone, I am a 23 year old girl and I'm single..now here's the thing I don't mean to sound conceited or superficial but the reason I'm telling what I'm going to right now is I just caant figureee why this is happening..so. Please do help me....
A. 8 October 2012: Some guys may find the fact you're so pretty and such a nice person that you'd not look at them in a million years there for they are too shy to come up to you in case of being turned down by you and feeling humilliated.
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I'm ready for sex but g/f doesn't want to take my virginity
Q. Hello everyone, I've been with this special girl for 3.5 months now. I'm crazy about her and really love her. I'm a virgin, she's not (3 previous sex partners). I told her i was ready for the next step. She said I dont have to look forward to it no...
A. 8 October 2012: Well maybe you just should make her realise that you're not just with her for that reason.
and it doesn't matter what this ex has said he may just be saying this to rub it in your face try and make you jealous i don't think he'd know you're a... (read in full...)
We've went on dates I really like him but he told a woman on facebook he loved her after she said it to him!
Q. There's a guy I went on a few dates with and I like him very much. I feel like we are a good match and he does indeed seem into me, only thing is our distance is definitely a challenge. We are friends on Facebook and for some reason, ALL of his ...
A. 8 October 2012: Well if you're so concerned about this woman why not confront him. Just ask him whether or not he is involved with someone just so you know for your own minds sake and can move on if needs be.
You can stop from viewing his feeds through your wal... (read in full...)
I'm pretty so why don't I get asked out?
Q. Hey everyone, I am a 23 year old girl and I'm single..now here's the thing I don't mean to sound conceited or superficial but the reason I'm telling what I'm going to right now is I just caant figureee why this is happening..so. Please do help me....
A. 8 October 2012: Do you have enough confidence in yourself? A lot of guys like confident girls.
I was in a similar situation to yourself i kept telling my friend i'd never find love and when would it happen so on but one day it did just happen.
Try not to fo... (read in full...)
Situation with my sister have left confused
Q. My 12 year old sister and I have always had a good relationship, occasionally we fall out but it always blows over in a couple of moments. Recently though she seems to becoming more and more sullen, more prone to back chat to the rest of the family ...
A. 8 October 2012: I think not just the fact she's the youngest so that's maybe why she got off scott free but this happens because of her changing into adulthood so she'll become more agressive, but also i'd see who it is she hangs around with because it could be ... (read in full...)
Why didn't he accept me on facebook? He acted like he liked me
Q. Hello, i recently filmed a movie for college with some people and someone brought along one of their friends to play my boyfriend in the scene. We had to take loads of shots of us kissing and stuff and it was all really good. He kept making excuses ...
A. 8 October 2012: Maybe he feels uncomfortable because he had just met you and done all this scenery stuff with you and then you've added him maybe he wants to get to know you more in person. He could be a shy guy and not want to add you just yet.
Try cancelli... (read in full...)
Am I too ugly for my crush????????
Q. am i ugly? i really like my crush and i was just wondering if im too ugly for him. i have brown long, silky striaght hair. cute glasses. no spots, clear skin, normal nose, normal lips. kinda rosy cheeks. straight white teeth. Many people say i'm ...
A. 8 October 2012: It all depends on what your crush likes. You maybe his type and you may not be only he can tell you. Just have more confidence in yourself!
Try not too think on it too much.
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Is he using me? We never date, just have sex in the woods!
Q. Iv been seeing this guy for 2 months now and we meet up once a week, he seems nice but he never takes me out on a proper date. We only meet up for sex or heavy petting. He doesn't book a room up, we do it in the woods, Im feeling a bit used. He does ...
A. 3 October 2012: If he;'s only taking you to the woods to have sex and not out for a beautiful meal on a date i think he is using you yes.
You need to end this or tell him you want to go out for a meal on a proper date if he declines he isn't the man for you.
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I stripped down to my boxers on a webcam. Now I'm afraid I'm on a porn site!
Q. Hello, Please help me, I can't get this out of my mind. I guess I did something very stupid. About a year ago I went to a chatbox and chatted with a girl. We continued on msn-messenger and then she asked me if I wanted to use the webcam. I agreed...
A. 3 October 2012: I've been there but unfortunately i was black mailed with the video. I found out they had done it to a lot of girls. I was exactly like you got so paranoid thinking 'am i on a website' and when i got junk emails saying 'omg is this you?' i felt ... (read in full...)
Husband didn't introduce me to anyone at a party and I was left feeling very uncomfortable
Q. I feel very sad and disappointed at the moment because my husband and I went to a party where I knew almost anyone and he didn't introduce me to anyone. He says he doesn't like all these mannerly introductions, but I think that's common sense. I...
A. 30 September 2012: I would feel the same as you i'd feel awkward and i'd feel people want to know what am i doing here if i don't know anyone. If my partner did that i'd feel very much the same uncomfortable and not want to socialise because i'd not know anyone. ... (read in full...)
After I posed nude for her, how can I be comfortable around my friend?
Q. Ok this is really embarrassing, but a female friend of mine is this really awesome sketch artist. It's a little hobby of hers, but she's studying to be an interior designer. After sketching my face a couple of times, she asked me if she could draw ...
A. 27 September 2012: Have you talked to her properly about the drawing situation and explained how embarrassed you're feeling and uneasy about it all?
If she's your friend especially after ten years then she should totally understand if not she's not a very good fri... (read in full...)
How can I help my depressed boyfriend?
Q. Hey everybody. My boyfriend goes through periods of depression. I've experienced similar things in the past so to some extent I understand how it is. Sometimes I find it difficult to know what to do when he goes through these stages. Often we'l...
A. 27 September 2012: I experience something quite similar believe me sometimes just leaving them on their own is the best way. If there is something he enjoys doing on his own leave him do it why not arrange it so if he likes games or going for a walk on his own or just ... (read in full...)
My married lover has moved on to another girl and I am so hurt, what should I do now?
Q. I have been cheated by my married Lover, he has moved on to a "new girl"(another victim).he has completely removed me from his life,We both are in the same office, spend 8 hrs together, sitting besides each other, but we dont speak at all. he cut ...
A. 26 September 2012: What do you expect he's a cheater he's had affair whilst married why would it bother him that he used you and moved onto someone else.
You feel hurt and used but what about his actual wife? Did you consider her feelings when you and him were doi... (read in full...)
I always think about my ex's in my relationships and I can never be satisfied with the present, and its stopping me from falling in love! What is wrong with me?
Q. I don't know what's wrong with me, but please help me out! When I start dating a new guy, I always think about my exes and I don't feel happy because I'm thinking of/comparing him to the previous guy. It's like I can never be satisfied with the ...
A. 26 September 2012: You will find love, the main thing you need to think of is you're exes are exes for a reason so they can't have been the person for you and you're still looking for that right guy. You can kiss as many frogs in the world and compare them to ... (read in full...)
Messed up real bad! Need help and advice.
Q. Hello! I am new to this but I am trying to get all the help that I can get at this point. Well here it goes. Four days ago my fiancee and I got into a little fight at a wedding and left there right away which turned into a bigger fight down the ...
A. 26 September 2012: Ok woah! She'd been punching you and hitting and kicking you...? I think she has some issues she should address also.
Maybe you give up the alcohol for a bit and just prove to her that it isn't you when you're drinking that it's someone else.
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What's the best way to tell him you like him?
Q. okayy, peeps--this question is gonna be short, sweet, and to the point. i'm mainly looking for male opinions here, but females...feel free to put your two cents in as well. ") what is the best way for a girl to tell a guy that she likes him? shoul...
A. 26 September 2012: Definitely tell him in person make sure you get him alone and just ask him if he'd like to hang out sometime perhaps going to the cinema or grab something to eat.
Asking him to hangout or go out somewhere should give him a pretty good idea you... (read in full...)
Is he being honest or is this his way of trying to end things?
Q. Over a month ago I met this guy in a bar. He seemed like a nice guy but I was not particularly physically attracted to him and I was only recently out of a six year relationship at the time and only looking for superficial relationship (so hot guys ...
A. 26 September 2012: I do think that Sageoldguy1465 is right. He's obviously bailing out on you because he probably clocked onto the fact you weren't going to put out that easily and once you did he had his fix and just wants to keep you at arms length should he need ... (read in full...)
Is it odd that I can only contact my BF via facebook?
Q. Is it strange that the only way i can contact/speak to my boyfriend in the evenings is via facebook? We've been together for 4 years. I dont think he is cheating but i dont understand it. When he gets home from work, he puts his phone away and d...
A. 26 September 2012: Yes it is odd, my partner hates phones immensely but if he goes out with his friends he's always got his phone with him to let me know he's ok or if anything happens. If i travel somewhere far he will keep his phone on as well so i can let him know ... (read in full...)
Does my boyfriend think I'm with him for his money?
Q. Hey everyone,I'v been dating a guy for 3 years now and I love to death,he means the world to me but he is a well known businessman of the city and I'm happy for him,he is constantly busy and whenever he can't make it he would send me these really ...
A. 26 September 2012: Cerebus has hit the nail on the head. He isn't doing it because he thinks that's why you're with him.
But because he cannot plan things with you or see you when you want to see him he's buying you things to keep your happy and keep you from fee... (read in full...)
B/f doesn't feel comfortable having sex at my house!
Q. okay here is my situation, I am 24 and lost my job. I am living with grandma and my dad since they both sold their house and we now live in 3 bedroom apartment. The current situation is my dad is still not fully done with moving from the old house ...
A. 25 September 2012: I'm very much like your boyfriend i find it very uncomfortable to have sex when people are in asleep or not. The fact is i feel they can wake at any moment and walk in looking for something, i don't enjoy it as much because i'm always thinking of ... (read in full...)
I saw a picture he had drawn for an ex and it hurt me, how do I feel more secure about the past?
Q. Me and my boyfriend use online art sites because we both love drawing and makings things and both of us have online galleries where we share our art with friends. I was looking through my boyfriends gallery and looked at a piece that was from 6 ...
A. 25 September 2012: Maybe this item hurts you because he's not drawn anything for you?
So now you feel he cared more about his ex than yourself.
Why not ask him to draw you a picture if you feel insecure maybe it'll make your mind feel at ease if he draws you a p... (read in full...)
I'm terribly upset about the way my sister-in-law treated me 2 years ago and the fact that my husband did not stand up for me.
Q. 2 years ago my husband's mother died. At the funeral my husband's sister mostly ignored me, made me feel uncomfortable or made fun of me. I have had no dealings with her since. My husband did nothing to stop this going on. Since then a wedge has ...
A. 25 September 2012: Your counsellor is right maybe you should just cut the contact and leave it lie then nothing else can occur from this event from happening again.
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Am I wasting my time hoping he will change?
Q. I met this man almost five years ago. At the time I was 20 and in between relationships. We went on a couple dates and agreed to keep it "low key and simple". Then I met someone that I wanted a relationship with and cut it off with him. That r...
A. 24 September 2012: You say he's cheated... been unfaithful and feels what they don't know can't hurt them.
Maybe he is this perfect guy because he has been doing this for so long and he charms woman into things leading him to have affairs and being unfaithf... (read in full...)
I'm terribly upset about the way my sister-in-law treated me 2 years ago and the fact that my husband did not stand up for me.
Q. 2 years ago my husband's mother died. At the funeral my husband's sister mostly ignored me, made me feel uncomfortable or made fun of me. I have had no dealings with her since. My husband did nothing to stop this going on. Since then a wedge has ...
A. 23 September 2012: Well as your husband said it was a funeral and at that painful time people react in outrageous ways in which they wouldn't normally and they can't explain why. Your husband probably didn't stand up for you at the time because don't forget it ... (read in full...)
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