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writes: I've only had one boyfriend and he told me he liked big breasts better, that most guys do because of fertility and I don't what crap. I can't get over this, not even after having broken up (other reasons). I notice how most men drool over large breasts.How can I get over this? He said it was ingrained in every male practically because of the media, nothing to be done about it (pfft, as if men were just passive robots or something!). And in the media, especially lads mags, all I see are big breasts. Maybe he was right after all.How can I love my small breasts? I feel damn unattractive. I hate them actually. Why are small breasts worse than big breasts?Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2010): female Anon:
"at least you know, if a guy likes you, you know it must be for something other than your breasts :)"
You think guys don't like small breasts.suit yourself.We are having the last laugh over here.Not all small breasted women feel jealous of big breasted women.I love my B cups.I think they are very very sexy.I wouldn't even trade them for the next C cup.There are guys who have asked me out because of my "boobs".Thats how it was worded in the email.I refused like any intelligent woman would.But if you think small breasts don't get noticed or is liked....Sigh
I will borrow a line from one of my favorite aunts Cindy cares
", and the best way to deflect attention from your own defects is that to go nitpicking on those of other people..."
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2010): at least you know, if a guy likes you, you know it must be for something other than your breasts :)
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reader, mrvhappy  +, writes (29 June 2010):
Hi,
Speaking as a redbloodied male, I prefer women with small breasts.... I find them much sexier than large breasts..besides when you cuddle a woman, its nicer to be clse to her without the huge breasts getting in he way...(sorry if you are a lady with large breasts).
If you are still insecure about them perhaps you could give me a cal....lol..;)
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reader, LilPixie +, writes (29 June 2010):
 Everyone has their own preferences. Some prefer bigger breats, some prefer small, some don't care. Believe me, you should be happy that you have small breasts. Big ones are a pain in the back side, literally!I'm a 34F (UK size) and it's so hard to find a bra that fits and gives the support needed. A lot of tops I'm having to buy one or two sizes bigger because otherwise they're just too small to fit over my breasts. And it can cause backpain too! You could always buy a push up bra if you're really not happy with your size. You can also get extra enhancers (can't remember the actual name for them) they're like implants, just without the operation and you can pop them into your bra whenever you want to make your bust look a little fuller. Here is a link that I sent another poster in the past. You may or may not know the show, but it's from a show called "Embarrassing Bodies" and it's a galary of all types of breasts. I think it might help you...http://www.channel4embarrassingillnesses.com/galleries/breast-gallery/?image=565
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2010): Honey, as a man who has been with women with huge boobs and pencil erasers, I can tell you that I thoroughly enjoy breasts regardless of size. True, like a large penis, larger breasts DO add something to the experience...sometimes, but they aren't a requirement at all. In fact, I can give you several reasons why small breasts are better: They make a woman look more athletic, youthful and lean. They are VERY sexy to feel, whereas large boobs just feel "big". Large boobs can make a skinny woman look fat (I sad "can"), and rough sex with a large breasted woman can sometimes be a problem because they ususally don't like their tits flying around cuz it hurts. Large brested women also have very unresponsive nipples in my experience (unless theyre fake). Hard nipples are more of a turn on to me than big breassts, and small chested woman excel in that area. SO wear them proud baby...small boobs are sexy as hell, and most men dont care...really. I've only ever known of one guy who couldn't get it up unless a girl had a rack. And he is a shallow bastard who just fucks women. Men who reject you for small breasts watch too much Baywatch and porn.
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reader, imp of high noon +, writes (29 June 2010):
Speaking as a man, Your EX boyfriend is full of crap. Personally I'm of the "more than a handful is a waste" camp, no offence to larger breasted readers, thats just my preference. Also, I can't say fertillity ever crosses my mind either...?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (29 June 2010):
 I don't think that all men prefer bigger breasts and most of all I don't think that all men judge women's attractiveness and sex appeal just by the size of their breasts.
I wish it were so ! It that was true ,as the owner of a very visible and- when I was younger,of course :)- close -to-perfect chest, then I should have been able to attract ANY man I wanted, right ?. Alas, it was no so authomatic...
Your ex comment was uncaring and uncalled for. Probably he had his own insecurities, about his penis size, or height, or something, and the best way to deflect attention from your own defects is that to go nitpicking on those of other people...
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2010): Different guys prefer all sizes of breasts, and your boyfriend's just setting himself up to be dumped because someone else will come along who loves the size of your breasts, and most everything else about you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2010): I really despair at what your boyfriend said to you. If women went around saying that men's penis were so much better large and that was just ingrained in the female mind because big means more sperm then there would be a lot of paranoid guys out there. Jeeez. Its a bit old fashioned to say that larger breasts are preferred. A lot of celebs who had boob jobs are now having them removed. I know that having larger breasts can be a problem. I worked in a lingerie store for 2 years and most of the women with large breasts were sick of it - they felt heavy, clothes didn't always hang properly on them, sport was impossible. I have seen both sides and confidence is more attractive than size of breasts. My breasts have grown slightly even throughout my 20s and 30s (I was 32b when I was 21 now I'm 32dd - age 38) and overall I have put on nearly a stone - so it is possible that your shape will change. I would love to get the weight off and if it meant smaller breasts either way though I would not care. I have a saying to men like your ex-boyfriend "More than a handful is wasted".
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2010): Sometimes its the bigger breasted women who makes you think that.I had a humongous breasted woman I knew who kept telling me I had small boobs more than I noticed it myself.I don't know what made her notice it.she put me down so badly all the time.My guy loves my breasts.Go figure.Kick negative people out of your life and you will be fine.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (29 June 2010):
 Simple answer is that small breasts are not "worse" and there are many of us out here that are just as happy with smaller breasts, especially if you are a smaller girl.
Maybe, maybe larger breasts look better on screen or in a magazine but that is just because they are more obvious. In the flesh, as it were, smaller breasts are just as fun and frankly wind the clock forward 20 years and you smaller breast girls will be having the last laugh.
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reader, tamara_r  +, writes (29 June 2010):
 Id say its all about confidencw. I do believe there are guys that love small breasts so dont be sad! In the end their yours and you need to feel comfortable in your own skin. Ive come to notice that despite what media has employed how women are considered to be attractive to men, men still have their own take on whats attractive. There are several types of ppl out there tall, short, slim, curvy..you name it. Theres bound to be variety in everything even men. Being a larger breasted female.. there are some cons too. Women with larger breasts (depending on size) may have back issues, have difficulties wearing certain clothes without a bra and still look good etc. Id say it be easier having small breasts just think, you dont always have to wear a bra and be more perky, AND be able to fit better in clothes. Some larger breasted women have to get things altered or bought especially for their needs. I guess Im somewhat in between. Being a size 40-42D Im just outside of whats considered the norm size range yet not so overly large that id have back issues..thankfully I dont have that problem. When it comes to bra shopping the typical sizes go up to 38C and those are all the nice bras! Yes online I could find a nice bra for my size but it gets expensive! And being 21 I dont want no old lady looking bras (no offence to older women). I am greatful an hr away from where I live I can go to the outlets and find something in Vanity Fair. Even there I run into frustrations bra shopping but in the end I always manage to find a batch that suits me for an amazing price. So dont feel blue, not all guys are boob guys..and not all are into big ones at that. You could change your physique over time with other methods but I would not jump to that so quickly. Just think is it really that necessary? You must be happy with yourself foremost. Dont let anyones opinions make you feel that you sont have something to offer. Besides its the inside that counts most, no? Keep in mind looks fade over time but a mind lasts forever! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2010): i know how you feel. I have smallish breasts also and hate that i never feel quite good enough. All thats portrayed in media is big ones, even tho alot are fake. Your bf was a bit of a jerk to say he prefers bigger ones. My finance says he loves mine, but likes looking at any shape or size. He just likes breasts. Lol. Not that it makes me feel that much better about mine. But what can ya do. I dont want implants (neither does my guy) i cant tell you how to love them, except that not every guy wants huge ones, and most guys should love you and what you have more then what someone else might have
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2010): Your ex was lying to you; loads of men love and prefer small breasts over large.
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reader, erinmarie +, writes (29 June 2010):
well most of the girls in the media have fake breasts, if a man doesnt like you for you then its not ment to be, but big breasts are more to love, i dont know what goes on in the mind of a male
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