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writes:hi am 18 years old and i met a man for several months we do chatting and we fell in-love with each other I do not know but i am in-love or not? i break up with my bf and told my suitors i have found him, i did not meet him yet in person i feel something good in him. its like if we cannot communicate with each other(call, text, or chat) i am already worried and something anxious. and if we do communicate, its like my day was totally complete.my question am i in-love even we did not yet met each other? or is it possible? i am so excited that he come here. please anyone can answer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2010): I would say that can be
lust i wouldnt say love
because you havent seen him an you guys had just met
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reader, jimrich  +, writes (17 September 2010):
IMO, it's not 'love' - more like a need being temporarily filled.
re: its like if we cannot communicate with each other(call, text, or chat) i am already worried and something anxious. and if we do communicate, its like my day was totally complete.
....What you describe is a form of Codependency where you are incomplete, and empty UNLESS some other person fills you up. You DEPEND on others to make you feel good and when thy don't, you collapse in despair. That's not 'love' - its' DEPENDENCY or NEED and can be very destructive.
The other part of 'love' is experienced in a successful relationship and that requires good relationship skills and knowledge, otherwise your 'love' can die over night.
Why settle for an online 'love' affair instead of a real one?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2010): Yes it is very possible to be in love without meeting. When you are in love with someone it's all about how that person makes YOU feel and you can have that feeling without meeting. That being said, when you actually meet, you possibly can see something different in the person and that can change how the person makes you feel for the worse. On the other hand, meeting could bring out even more and cause you to feel deeper in love.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (17 September 2010):
 You can love the idea of someone for sure, but how can you love someone that you haven't met and don't fully know yet? Endless MSN conversations, skype and SMS do not mean that you know this person in their entirety...
They may be exactly as they portray themselves... they may not... only way to tell is to meet them in person.
Didn't work for me, but doesn't mean that others don't get exactly what was advertised ;)
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reader, CupidsPrincess  +, writes (17 September 2010):
You can certainly fall in love at any age at any circumstance at all times and I also feel with any number of persons (except that some would be matured love and other immature). Remember, love is blind?
Online love is quite possible and plausible. A friend of mine had an online relationship and got married to the guy. She met him only after months of e-courtship and met him only after months of actually meeting him online.
But it has a lot of dangers and risks associated with it. You have no idea what the guy looks like in real, his age and even if he is a he and about his background etc. etc. So it is not a wise idea to fall in love blindly without meeting him ever.
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reader, LilPixie +, writes (17 September 2010):
 We can't tell you if you're in love or not, you have to find that out for yourself, but yes it's possible. I met my boyfriend online, we've been to together for a little over 1 1/2 years and I've recently moved in with him and things are going great.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (17 September 2010):
 Personally, I don't believe you can truely love someone who you've never met in person. It's like that song by Cher; "If you want to know, if he loves you so, it's in his kiss."
Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I think that online romances often get out of control. I think that it is possible to find someone with whom you have a great connection, but is that love? When you see eachother. When you kiss. That's when you'll know if it's really love. Before that, it's more like a dream.
That's just my take on it. I wish you luck with your man.
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reader, dijoyful +, writes (17 September 2010):
 Hi, you can not be truely in love with someone you havent met. You are more than likely in love with the idea of this person. You would of built up an image in your mind of what he looks like how he sounds even how he will fit into your life in the future, even though these feelings are somewhat real they dont go nowhere near to actually knowing the real person and the chemistry between you. There may be a conection which will only turn into love when you both phsycally meet and get to spend time together. Sometime its the 'falling in love' with 'being in love' that we mistake for love its self. Give it time, if his the one for you theres no rush.
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