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Should I have an affair because my husband acts like I'm not important?
Q. i am 43, married, but i have always had guys around me. Never have been "alone". Recently got married, but i still have these guys as friends, my husband sometimes treatsme, i feel, as though I am not important to him. I am thinking about having an ...
A. 5 September 2008: If you really want to be with this other man then sure go ahead have the affair...then go back to your husband and live with the guilt and then a few months down the line your want to do it again and again! Either fix things with your husband or end ... (read in full...)
What can I do to increase my low sex drive?
Q. What can I do to increase my low sex drive? I'm almost positive that it's low because of psychological reason. My in-laws have become far too intrusive and my husband allows them to control all aspects of our lives. Because of this I have lost ...
A. 4 September 2008: Well i think letting your husband be controlled by the inlaws is not going to make you desire him....things like this can put your off your guy and desire sex less. Try having some time alone with him to talk about how you feel and let him know your ... (read in full...)
Should I have an affair because my husband acts like I'm not important?
Q. i am 43, married, but i have always had guys around me. Never have been "alone". Recently got married, but i still have these guys as friends, my husband sometimes treatsme, i feel, as though I am not important to him. I am thinking about having an ...
A. 4 September 2008: Talk to your husband first if you truely love him then you dont just give up and have an affair as easy as that. Affairs always end up messy and the one in the relationship usually ends up getting hurt, dont go down that route....dont be selfish you ... (read in full...)
I need help coming up with some romantic ideas!
Q. Hi, I was just wondering if any one knew or could think of any romantic ideas for me and my partner. My partner has been away for two weeks and would like to do something romantic on his return. Thanking you in advance x...
A. 4 September 2008: How about a romantic evening in. Lovely cooked meal from you men love the food, candle lighting, his fav food and desert maybe spice it up with strawberries and cream or melted chocolate. Then in the bedroom you could fill it with candles, a goody ... (read in full...)
Beard or Sheared?
Q. I am trying to get close to girl at the moment and am hoping to make a move over the few times we go out but i am wondering if i should shave. I have about 10 days worth of growth and like to keep it that way because i think i look far too young ...
A. 4 September 2008: Keep it as its you! If its what you usually have then keep it! If she doesnt like it she will proberly make a comment and then you can make the choice to shave it off....but from my point of view men look hot with beards or stubble!! Yes its ... (read in full...)
I can't face my boyfriend taking regularly with his ex!
Q. Right here it goes.... My bf and I have now been together for 7 months, b4 me he was with his ex for 3 yrs. Since i have been with him it had been made clear that they dont speak at all. Today I went to comment on my bf on facebook and i see a co...
A. 4 September 2008: I have been with my boyfriend 3 1/2 years and i text and talk to my ex....because he is a friend and that is all. I know my boyfriend is not overly happy but he trusts me. So if you truely love your boyfriend trust him and know that they are an ex ... (read in full...)
Married a year ago but have been with my partner for 5. The passion seems to have completely drained out of our relationship and I'm contemplating divorce!
Q. Help! I got married 1 year ago but have been with my partner for 5. This year has been very up and down and I know that everyone says that the 1st year is hardest but I think this is different. The passion seems to have completely drained out of ...
A. 4 September 2008: You dont have to spend money to get the passion back...if you both truely want it your work at it. Little things like romantic dinner at home with candles etc maybe go to the pub/bar like you would of when you was younger!... (read in full...)
I feel that if he gets a new phone he's going to hide things from me!
Q. For some reason I have some weird insecurities. Me and my boyfriend have lived together for the past 8 months and I love it we do almost everything together - because we enjoy all the same things and we have alot of fun doing all those things. ...
A. 3 September 2008: From what im reading it doesnt sound very healthy....you need to have space wether your a close couple or not you both need your own independce and maybe that is what he wants and will get that from his own mobile phone. Maybe where you both spend ... (read in full...)
Married a year ago but have been with my partner for 5. The passion seems to have completely drained out of our relationship and I'm contemplating divorce!
Q. Help! I got married 1 year ago but have been with my partner for 5. This year has been very up and down and I know that everyone says that the 1st year is hardest but I think this is different. The passion seems to have completely drained out of ...
A. 3 September 2008: I think most of us go through the rough patch in a relationship when we have been with someone so long and things start to become routein and boring and serious....but if he is your best friend and you love him then you should work at it to make it ... (read in full...)
I want to be able to feel that passion again since my miscarriage. It seems like I'm the one who's making all the first moves.
Q. I am a happily married women who went through a miscarriage a few months ago. My body has taken a while to get back on track but I'm finally there. Ever since the miscarriage my husband has been worried about causing 'problems' for me if we have...
A. 3 September 2008: Sorry to hear about what you went through. Its very easy to start looking at other men in that way when the passion is lacking but trust me its not worth losing a man you love. You really need to get it into his head that you want things to go bac... (read in full...)
When did you first have a boyfriend/girlfriend - that actually lasted a few months?
Q. Poll: When was the first time you had a relationship, and what age did you have your first kiss? I'm not talking about a peck on the cheek or peck on the lips type of kiss, I mean a toungue kiss? And when did you first have a boyfrien...
A. 3 September 2008: First kiss 14....first proper relationship 18....dont worry luv at 16 i thought i would never meet a guy or anything but one day it just hit me....before you know it your be in a relationship kissing till the cows come home and thats when all the ... (read in full...)
We have great sex but he doesn’t last very long, just 2-3 minutes...
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for a little under a year now and I love him to death. Our sex life is the only thing concerning me at the moment. We have great sex but he doesn’t last very long. He only lasts about 2 or 3 minutes and then ...
A. 3 September 2008: Try more foreplay for you...or there r creams he can use to slow down the process of cumin....also if he feels he is about to cum make him stop and let him do abit more foreplay on you...use it to your advantage hehe... (read in full...)
Is a relationship only for the "in love"? What is the difference between "love" and "in love"?
Q. I would like to know the definition of "in love". The english language is terrible in describing emotion, but I'm wondering if the difference between "love" and "in love" are that large? And if it matters. Is a relationship with someone worth fi...
A. 3 September 2008: I think when you first meet someone and start dating them its exciting its new etc but then as time goes on you start to lose alot of that as you become much closer and see alot more of the person and that is when alot of people get confused with ... (read in full...)
Together for three years, I moved in with him, asked if he thought we would be together in the future, he did not know, couldn't promise love or commitment, I am devastated, should I just wait around or leave, I love him?
Q. Im in a difficult position, I recently asked my boyfriend whether he thought we would still be together in the future, so we could make plans. His answer was I hope so but I cant promise I will still love you then, and to stop planning for the ...
A. 3 September 2008: Id say dont move in together i had the same problem with my boyfriend the thought of moving in etc just put so much pressure etc id say why move in just yet. Sort things out before you make that big commitment....make sure its something you both ... (read in full...)
I wrote my boyfriend a letter, about how bad I feel about my weight, and the stress in our relationship, he answered that he does not know what to say, what do I do now?
Q. i recantly posted a question and got a answer so i did actually that and wrote him a letter but after he read it all he said is 'what do you want me to say, i cant say any thing' this is what i put in the letter---- we use to get on loadz before ...
A. 3 September 2008: Some men are not vocal with there emotions, so the letter may have touched him and got through to him but he may not know how to react to that or what to say....as he prob does not want to hurt you or upset you. Try and ask him how he felt about ... (read in full...)
How do I make my woman so happy, that she thinks about me, when we are apart?
Q. i want to know how i can make my woman happy even when she is absent as to make her always think about me....
A. 3 September 2008: Flowers sent to her home r always nice. Or if your tight on money i think ecards r real cute, my boyfriend sends them to me when im at work out the blue there free to but are real sweet. Even a cute cheeky text. A simple 'Im thinking of you' will ... (read in full...)
Sex has faded in our marriage so what is really going on?
Q. I just turned 41 and my husband just turned 37. We used to engage in sex alot but now there always seems to be something in the way. I love him to death and soetimes I just wanna give him oral pleasure just to make him happy but he rarely takes me ...
A. 27 August 2008: Try and back off and see what happens....maybe he doesnt want to feel pressured into always having sex i know it sounds silly but some men dont want it everytime there asked! Give him some space and let him come to you...im sure it wont be long ... (read in full...)
Not really physically attracted to him anymore!! Help!
Q. Hi, I've been in a relationship with my bf now for about 5 years. We both really love each other and he is a great guy. However, lately I've been feelin like he's not very good-looking. My bf is about 5'7 and very skinny. Also he's only 25 and...
A. 27 August 2008: You have to tell him straight out how you feel but dont do it in a nasty way. But tell him your not attracted to him anymore and then the balls in his court to change things if not then your prob best off leaving him!... (read in full...)
I don't think I'm in love with my boyfriend anymore. But I don't want to break up with him because I want to love him again!
Q. I don't think I'm in love with my boyfriend anymore. I frequently feel very miserable about no logical reason. I've sought professional help for it before, though no-one really takes this problem seriously, I don't think. Anyway, I was feeling do...
A. 27 August 2008: You can grow to love someone again...you just have to remind yourself why you fell for him in the first place. Its hard when you have been with someone a couple of years to keep the excitement you once had when you first meet someone. Maybe have a ... (read in full...)
I'm into animal erotica. Can anyone answer questions on "fish" sex?
Q. Hey, Im kind of new with this.So anyway, Im a 39 year old female, Im overweight, lonley, and I need to get my freak on, Im so used to my 9-5 shifts anyway Laitly Ive been turned on by animal erotica, I had a moment when I was 10 with a dog that Ill ...
A. 22 August 2008: This is sick and cruel! Do us all a favour and buy a bloody toy! and leave them poor animals ALONE!... (read in full...)
I think I'm in love with my wife!
Q. Dear all, This is in response to the many posts I have read about people who are in love/lust with a forbidden fruit such as sister in law. I think Im in love with my wife, we have known each other for 3 years and been married for one but I st...
A. 21 August 2008: Well no one has a perfect relationship we all have problems thats why we post on here for advice and help.
But i know how you feel i have been with my boyfriend 3 years and he is my world and i love him so much and he is the hottest thing ive seen... (read in full...)
I want to have children but we never have sex anymore as he has performance issues due to his drinking, I feel my time is running...
Q. My husband is a high functioning alcoholic, who only drinks on the weekends, but his drinking is starting to affect our relationship, emotionally and sexually, and his health. He has never been violent but is becoming more accident prone due to ...
A. 20 August 2008: Well firstly why are you planning to have a child when your Husband has a drink problem what kind of father could he be if hes a drunk! I say best thing to do is get him help, he needs to stop his drinking before he can before a fit father. Maybe ... (read in full...)
Is sex with a comdon safe if I'm not on the pill as well?
Q. My boyfriend and i slept together last night, we used a condom but i am not on the pill, can i feel ok about not being pregnant?...
A. 15 August 2008: I've been with my boyfriend 3 years and that is the only form of protection we have ever used just a condom and only had 2 scares! Aslong as its used properly and for the whole duration of sex then you should be fine. If your that worried get on the ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend called me by his ex's name. Would you tolerate it?
Q. Would you tolerate the person in your life,your loved one,to by mistake call you by a ex's name?My fiance was married to a Liezel for thirteen years and my name is Lizel.Is it just because both start wit and L and am I just making too much of ...
A. 15 August 2008: I think it is normal for anyone to go off the rails if your partner calls you by the ex name....if its the first time he has ever done this then i would say dont worry. But if he does it again i would start to have serious douts.....being called by ... (read in full...)
Sex, sex and more sex. Is it a bad thing?
Q. hey. so me and my boyfriend have been dating for mmm six months and well we have sex alot. and i mean alot. but it seems thats all we do when we're alone, we dont just hangout you know. i mean we do sometimes....but it leads to sex. and its like ...
A. 15 August 2008: Spend sometime with him just kissing and cuddeling him NO SEX though.....you might enjoy it...see if your relationship has anything more to give then sex by just not having it all the time. ... (read in full...)
He seemed keen and now he doesn't. What is going on do you think?
Q. This guy was texting me non stop before. Last week weekend we went out on our first date. It all went well I think as he texted me the next day saying he thought I was beautiful. He had been texting me non stop after the date until wed, i never ...
A. 15 August 2008: Sometimes people do that. It could mean he is not into you as much as you thought or it could be he doesnt want to seem to full on case he scares you away. Have you tried to call him? Dont always wait for the man to contact you...... (read in full...)
Can anyone give me a suggestion on a good place to meet guys?
Q. I feel kind of silly asking this, but could anyone give me a suggestion on a good place to meet guys? I don't go to school anymore, and I don't work in an environment in which I'd meet anyone that I'd want to date. Guys in bars and clubs seem t...
A. 15 August 2008: Try myspace or facebook for online as most people on there r pretty trendy and cute or i would say through your friends...get them to set you up or go on double dates with there boyfriend and his mate...let your friends know your on the look out and ... (read in full...)
I had an affair with my boss, his wife found out, we still see each other, but no sex, what is it that he wants?
Q. After his wife found out about our affair, we still keep seeing each other, but no sex at all, his wife checks on him all the time and restrict him doing OT hrs (he is the boss), it's really hard for us to meet. What does he want from me? Why go ...
A. 14 August 2008: Because he is bored with his normal day to day life and your new and exciting and its all very naughty, but in the long run your proberly end up on your own and he will be back were he started with his wife and not with you. I would stay clear of ... (read in full...)
I am trying to find out if this guy only wants sex, and that's it, how do I determine this?
Q. This bloke at work arranged to go chum me to a night out, however he blew me out at the last minute with no explination, we didn't speak for a few months, he sent me a text saying we wanted different things and recently he has started to show an ...
A. 14 August 2008: Men dont ask women round to watch a dvd unless they want sex lol
If he is decent let him take you out for a meal or cinema then your find out if hes only around for sex..because if he only wants sex he wont stick around. Just dont give in to him.... (read in full...)
She never really had much to say and it's making me miserable!
Q. I don't know what to do about my girlfriend. We've been together just over 3 months. She's 35 and I'm 33. I'd been single about 8 months before we met. I tell her I love her whenever I feel it, buy her flowers, visit her every day and send her...
A. 14 August 2008: I dont agree you should end it as i was with someone who was simular very quiet and didnt open up....it has been hard but i saw the true beautiful person under all that quietness and closing me out. Dont get me wrong it will be hard and will take ... (read in full...)
My husband isn't fulfilling me sexually and now I want a woman!
Q. How do I tell my husband that he's not fulling my sexual desire and I want to be with a woman. I think a woman will be more dominate than my husband. Can anyone help me?...
A. 14 August 2008: Talk your husband first....you never know he may have that desire to. But make sure its what you both really want as sometimes our imagination runs wild with fantasys and desires but when brought into reality there not so great. Will your husband ... (read in full...)
My friends said he was just using me for sex and I asked him if he was. Now I can't take back what I asked. Help.
Q. I'm 16 years old, and I have a friend who I have slept with on a number of occasions. The thing is, because of things that have happened in the past, none of my friends approve of me being friends with him. Because of this, they constantly tell me ...
A. 14 August 2008: If you are not in a relationship with this guy but your having sex then course you have the right to ask him if he is using you for sex. But to me it sounds like you was a mate with benefits i'e SEX....why would you have sex with him if he is your ... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting about my boyfriend's stunning best friend?
Q. My boyfriends best friend is a girl, and she is utterly stunning, she is very thin and striking, wheras i am very short and curvy. I have no problem with him having a best friend who is a girl, its just I get jealous sometimes as she always sits on ...
A. 12 August 2008: Well if my fella had his mate sit on his lap i would go mad. Im sure that would make any girl jealous. Maybe he likes the attention, but doesnt want her in that way. Tell him its hurting you and exactly how you feel. He proberly just see's her like ... (read in full...)
Am I right to put my foot down about him texting these girls?
Q. Hi, needing a few opinions on my situation. I've been with my boyfriend for not far off 4 years and its been great. Yet there has always been one thing that has worried me and makes me slightly paranoid and that is his constant texting with his girl...
A. 12 August 2008: Start texting other men! See how he likes it. If he had any respect for you he would not be texting anyone involving sexual context. Tell him how sad its making you and if he still does it then it proberly is time to move on....find a real man who ... (read in full...)
A follow up question about boyfriends who text their Ex...
Q. Hello, I posted a question a few days ago about my boyfriend receiving texts from his ex while I was at his house and me feeling really sick and scared because I've been cheated on before in past relationships... well now he's going over to her ...
A. 11 August 2008: To be honest i think a lot of people blow the whole texting the ex out of context. I text my ex...but i always let my boyfriend know, so if he ever sees a text etc im not lying to him. If he wants to cheat with his ex he will, but telling you he ... (read in full...)
I have a loving husband, recently I met a guy on the internet who I connect with, he has cheated on his wife before, I have never cheated on my husband, should I have some fun and cheat?
Q. I'm recently married to a loving husband. We've been dating for 5 years before we got married. I met this guy who's also married on the internet and there's a definite attraction between the two of us. He has cheated on his wife a couple of times ...
A. 11 August 2008: You will have your couple of hours of fun and excitement, but then you have to come back to reality....its really not worth it in the long run. Talk to your husband tell him your not feeling special etc try and work on why your having these ... (read in full...)
What is the secret of a happy life?
Q. i still not feeling beter. i always worry about silly things.i don't find joyful life still now even if i got a job.what is the secreat of life?...
A. 6 August 2008: To be happy with in yourself.....love life because your alive and living. Get some new hobbies...if your single date....go dancing....meet up with friends!... (read in full...)
I'm Confused and Unhappy
Q. I met John online 5yrs ago, we kept up a long distance relationship and travelled together every year and had wonderful times together. Three years ago our daughter was born and we were just overjoyed. I have now relocated to his country at his ...
A. 6 August 2008: To say that you have given him a family that he never wanted show's no respect for you. He doesnt know if he loves you....then why have a child with you and get you to move to his country. If your unhappy tell him. Your both not happy, you need to ... (read in full...)
I can't help but feel insecure and inadequate. I keep comparing myself to her.
Q. There's this guy I've known for a long time. We were going to pursue a relationship. The problem is he has a high sex drive and I'm a virgin at 22. He's alot older and he's 28. The fact I'm a virgin - it's a issue to him. I want to take my time and ...
A. 6 August 2008: IF he can't wait for you to feel ready for sex at the the right moment then he is a LOSER! Ditch him. If a man truely respected you they would never pressure you to have sex or make you feel low about yourself. Find a real man who will treat you ... (read in full...)
I hate being single and I have no experience of dating, please help.
Q. I'm a single teenager just finished high school and about to start college, and I hate being single but have no experience. How do I start off in the world of dating?...
A. 6 August 2008: Well the best thing to do is go out with friends, you wont find mr right sitting at home. So plan loads of things to do. Also try double dating. If you have friends with boyfriends get them to bring a mate and four of you go out...its great fun and ... (read in full...)
Why does the ex declare undying love, yet behaves like a player?
Q. General question time. Why would someone you split with 7 months ago, be telling you they still love you, and cant get with someone else yet because of that. Yet be chasing lots of different girls at the same time, especially ones 10 yrs younger ...
A. 6 August 2008: It's Simple...because he wants to have his cake and eat it, proberly scared of full commitment to you and wants the players lifestyle still. I would stay clear of him and lose contact with him and find a nice decent guy who knows exactly what he ... (read in full...)
Should I break up with him?
Q. I really need people's advice on this. I am 21 and have been with my bf for 3 years, we have broken up before twice both times because i wanted to. My bf is loving, caring, always puts me first, but is quiet and doesnt socialise much unless its with ...
A. 6 August 2008: I broke up with him on sunday, it was very hard but i feel a weight has been taking off my sholders!... (read in full...)
Should I break up with him?
Q. I really need people's advice on this. I am 21 and have been with my bf for 3 years, we have broken up before twice both times because i wanted to. My bf is loving, caring, always puts me first, but is quiet and doesnt socialise much unless its with ...
A. 18 July 2008: Thank you very much thats exactly what i needed to hear!! xxxx... (read in full...)
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