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Im a very romantic person and love everything to do with romance and love.
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Can you have a meaningful relationship with someone if it started out as just sex?
Q. I would just like some advice and opinions here... Do you think a relationship based on sex alone can turn into a real relationship? I met a guy at a club and I wasnt looking for a relationship at the time, he was cute so I ended up going bac...
A. 20 May 2009: Yes of course it can......but you need to find out if this guy is only around for sex this is easy to find out.....just don't have sex with him for awhile....date him, then say goodbye at end of the night, if he is keen on a relationship with great ... (read in full...)
Falling for someone I can never be with! Please help!
Q. Well this is the short and long story.... I'm in a casual relationship right now, although i really do like him, actually love him alot. The thing is, i'm starting to have really very strong feelings for the company i work for, workshop manager! I ...
A. 20 May 2009: Well its prob the whole wanting something you can't have.....you have a good boyfriend but you yern for this other man who sometimes pays you attention.....i don't know why we get like this but we do.....i say its ok to flirt etc with other guy but ... (read in full...)
I think we are falling apart...
Q. Well I've been with my boyfriend for 7 years now Iam 20 and he's 21 we have a 3 year old child together and lately I've been feeling lonely like iam in this relationship by myself we never go out or do anything fun.Were always fussing and everytime ...
A. 20 May 2009: Well after 7 years and having a child you both have had to grow up quite quick...so youve prob lost the fun you once had.....i know it sounds so simple but try dating again with him, get a babysitter, go for a meal or cinema, do yourself up like you ... (read in full...)
Do good looks mean a better life?
Q. do good looking guys have more options of girlfreinds and more freinds and be very popular ...
A. 20 May 2009: I think yes good looking people, seem to get more in life....its not a good thing but i think the world has got so Superficial....but even though yes good looks will get you more girls and even friends more attention, doesnt mean there be nice girls ... (read in full...)
Planning on marrying my fiancee but my other girlfriend is pregnant
Q. morning, i'm a young guy of 33years old. i have a problem with my girl freind.the probleme is this.i have a fiancee in my own town,but i came in this small town for work almost 8 month now and i find another girl freind.before we started...
A. 20 May 2009: Well for starters you need to make sure she really is pregnant she might be saying it so you stay with her, so get her to do a pregnancy test with you, then see if the child is yours. You cant expect to go between two women and not have a problem, ... (read in full...)
To cheat? Or not to cheat?
Q. I'm happily married but have been texting this friend for the last couple of months. The texts have been very intimate and very flirty! We have both established this turns us both on and subsequently are finding that our sex lives with our parnters ...
A. 19 May 2009: Well you either do it and then end up having an affair as great sex is very addictive and it wont only be once your do it ur just want to keep going back for more, if u can live with the lies to your husband but great sex then go for it....BUT if ... (read in full...)
Should we spend some time apart?
Q. Before I start, thanks in advance for any time you take to reply! :-) My b/friend and I have been dating for about a year now. When we first met, as is always the case, he was super damn hot in his fiery sms's, telling me the sexiest things! ...
A. 19 May 2009: Distances does usually help as you crave that person, not being around them not having sex for awhile..then when you both meet up your both usually wanting it bad, try it if this doesnt work then it might be more serious issues like stress and work ... (read in full...)
Ever since her affair I have closed the door to tolerance and patience
Q. I'm making the decision today as to whether or not i will remain in my relationship. Over the past year and a half I've been involved with someone whom i thought i loved. She definitely cheated on me and there is plenty of evidence that she d...
A. 19 May 2009: Well firstly, her mental issues are not yours she has to deal with them herself, talk to her about them, try and get her help but only if she wants the help, then you need to run fast away from this relationship, why stay with someone who beats you ... (read in full...)
Where is this relationship heading?
Q. When is a good time to bring up the topic of where a relationship is heading? I have been seeing this guy for about 1.5-2months. However he then had to move for work. We knew this from the beguining and I never intended to fall for him like I ...
A. 19 May 2009: Well he probably needs time to settle into his new place, the best thing to do is to ask him straight out, tell him you have been having a great time with him and hope you can carry this on etc then what he comes back with, then i think from then ... (read in full...)
How can a woman initiate kissing? What else could I do to show I like him?
Q. I am 32 and i am interested in this guy hes 44. I feel 100% safe with him (he knows people in my family-who happens to be in police force-hes not going to hurt me). We were both hurt in last relationship. Thing is mine was my first relationsh...
A. 19 May 2009: Well..i find it comes naturally..there will be a momment when you both have to kiss, the whole sitting close together, his arm around you, someone quiet so not many people around so you both don't get shy......the whole build up to first kiss is ... (read in full...)
Is he being self-conscious about the age gap or is he trying to hide something from me?
Q. So I am dating an older man who is an adjunct teaching piano at a university. I'm 23 and he's 30 and we've been going out for two years. I was over at his place recently and he had to go into school to hear some of his students play in a recital ...
A. 19 May 2009: How old are his students he is teaching? if there your age then i would be worried have u seen the girls he teaches?, probably nothing, he sounds like one of them men that work is very serious and he takes it serious, also maybe if his students see ... (read in full...)
Mastubation or Sex that is the question?
Q. Is it sensible to masturbate or to have sex ?...
A. 19 May 2009: Have both, have them at the same time if you wish! Sex you obiviously need another person, but i would say both are good but sex is more about a connection with someone and having someone else please you!... (read in full...)
Married woman who loves two men. Should I leave my husband?
Q. I have been married to my husband for three years now during the course of our relationship he has cheated on me several times, some I can prove and some I just have a strong feeling about. Example after being married for three months I found out ...
A. 19 May 2009: If your husband is not making you happy and has cheated on you many of times, then i think it is time to move on. Maybe you should be on your own for awhile, this new man is probably great fun at the moment but can you see yourself getting serious ... (read in full...)
I need some sexy things to read, where do I find the right stuff?
Q. Hey, I want some sexy things to read, full of passion and sex. Please advice. ...
A. 19 May 2009: Yeah search the web, or go to sex shops they always have sexy books, all kinds! Try Anne Summers!... (read in full...)
Do girls lie about being a virgin?:
Q. When girls have a bad experience their first time in sex, or regret having sex for their first time. Do they later on lie to their future boyfriends about remaining a virgin?...
A. 19 May 2009: I think girls usually lie if they have been with many men! If only a few then i think its normal for us girls to be honest, ive always been honest, even if your first time was crap it was an experience and we all learn from them....some girls may ... (read in full...)
How do I stop masturbating?
Q. How do I stop masturbating? I think it has become habit rather than necessity. I do at least twice to thrice a week, after doing it I always get feeling to not do it again, but I break promise made to my self. Please help overcome this habit, I...
A. 18 May 2009: Well twice a week seems pretty normal, but if you find its something your just doing through habit and not enjoying then you need to break the habit, try to avoid what makes you want to masturbating, what makes you want to do it if you really dont? ... (read in full...)
I want to ask her out, but don't know what to suggest, or if it really is the next step?
Q. I need to know what to do next in a potential relationship. (I am in uni btw) It has taken me a while to realise how much she really does like me. We met five months ago and have been meeting semi-regularly or regularly for nearly 4 months. ...
A. 18 May 2009: Take her to cinema, go for a meal, go for coffee, or if the weather good a lil picnic, if she likes you she wont care what you do just being out with you is enough hun!... (read in full...)
I told him I like him but he has a girlfriend
Q. Well i have liked this boy for about ages now and i finally told him ( over msn lol ) and he said he sorta likes me aswell but he has a girlfriend and when my bestmatee said to him why dont you dump your girlfriend and go out with louise he said no ...
A. 18 May 2009: Well if you tell someone you like them, there not just guna break up with there current girlfriend, there needs to be more to it, if you really like this guy then carry on talking to him, and if his feelings grow for you then yes maybe he will dump ... (read in full...)
I'm a big girl and have trouble taking my clothes off in front of my b/f
Q. okay so heres my problem im a big girl and well im not like a whale but im quite big and i have a problem with like taking my clothes off infront of my boyfriend i mean once im nakid im really comfy but i just wana no how to feel sexy, this man has ...
A. 18 May 2009: Head to the gym!!!!
Eat more healthy!
Im sure your boyfriend loves you just the way you are, but its all in your head hun only you can change this, either by losing weight or just by loving yourself and accepting u have a great man who loves yo... (read in full...)
Why do men masturbate when they have girlfriends?
Q. Why Do Men Masturbate When They Ave Girlfriends???? Plzzzzzzzzz Help My Bf Dose It N It Make Me Really Angry N We End Up Arguein About Itt!!! I Think It Rude N It Make Me Fill Like He Dosen't Love Me N That He Get More Pleasur Wen He Masturba...
A. 18 May 2009: That is exactly it...its what men do.....its normal...nothing to do with you hun, but if it really upsets you talk to him, or try letting him do it infront of you...maybe add it into part of your bedroom fun....just becoz he is masturbatin doesnt ... (read in full...)
I want to ask her out, but don't know what to suggest, or if it really is the next step?
Q. I need to know what to do next in a potential relationship. (I am in uni btw) It has taken me a while to realise how much she really does like me. We met five months ago and have been meeting semi-regularly or regularly for nearly 4 months. ...
A. 18 May 2009: Ask her out for dinner or cinema, see how it goes don't put to much pressure onto things, have fun then by the end your then know wether there will be a next date! Good luck!... (read in full...)
He kept joking to her about running away with her. Am I wrong for feeling disrespected?
Q. my boyfriend is older than me so his crowd is usually men and women (husbands and wives about his age) last weekend he had a gathering and just went on and on joking with one of his friend's wife, about how they should run away together and she ...
A. 18 May 2009: WHAT...thats terrible what he did, i would of gone crazy! Where is his respect for you? you need to pull him up over that and tell him how crap he made you feel, no man who loves you would EVER do that! If he doesnt seem sorry about it and he does ... (read in full...)
What is the best chat up line?
Q. I need some advice please.. I came out of a long term relationship last august and its all most been a year and i think i am now ready to go and meet some one new so me and some friends are going out on the weekend (first time i have been out pr...
A. 18 May 2009: Best chatup line that works for me is 'Hi, fancy a drink?' sooo simple but i promise you will work!! girls hate flashy men with stupid chat up lines, be yourself!... (read in full...)
2 weeks into my relationship and I've kissed another guy. Now I don't know what to do. Help!
Q. Two weeks into the relationship and i've already kissed another guy whilst drunk... I feel awful I know how bad this sounds I really do. I went over my alcohol limit and stupidly kissed some random guy...It's tearin' me up I know it's only two we...
A. 18 May 2009: Well don't tell him, it was a silly drunken kiss, most of us have been there at one point in our life! So just focus on this new relationship and just forget about the silly kiss, its only 2 weeks so dont worry to much, your only human! Try and ... (read in full...)
Sex or compassion..which one?
Q. i am in love with two men. the one pleases me like you wolud not believe in the bedroom. our souls connect an we make love like no other. the second man gives me everything in a healthy relationship needed! (attention, respect, makes me laugh, ...
A. 18 May 2009: Its great having a man who gives you respect and is caring etc but if the sex is not there or the passion then sooner or later your be looking elsewere! Does this other man not give you the sex/connection you want?
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Fiancee says we are never going to have sex!
Q. Me and my fiancee have been together for about 7 months, and we love either other very much, but she told me that we are never going to have sex. I love her and i would never cheat on her. but it is getting to me. We used to fool around but lately ...
A. 18 May 2009: She can't just be with you for 7 months then decide she doesnt want sex, your in a relationship a partnership....she should at least explain to you why she is chosen to do this. If she wants you to wait till marriage, then you need to really think ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I cheated? What he doesn't know won't hurt him, right?
Q. I have made a huge mistake, And when I was drunk last week at a party I cheated on my boyfriend and had sex with another guy. My boyfriend doesn't know as i'm too frightened to tell him, because I know it would be over as soon as I do tell him. ...
A. 18 May 2009: If you don't want to tell him DON'T Do what you feel is right, but i strongly feel you should NOT tell him! Try and move on from this and focus on fixing your current relationship! Good Luck!... (read in full...)
My much older boyfriend is engaged to another woman, but I know he really likes ME!
Q. Im 18 and the man im seeing is 34. we are smitten by each other... we see each other nearly every day, send over 100 texts to each other daily and cant keep our eyes off each other. I have never felt this way about anyone before! There is the small ...
A. 18 May 2009: It sounds all very exciting to me....sneaking around etc bet he loves it! Does it not break your heart he is marrying another women? probably sleeping with another women? I think you have fallen for him alot but he doesnt feel the same as if he did ... (read in full...)
I know it was just 'sex' but we're both married and I feel so guilty.
Q. I have been with my partner for 18 years and have 4 children, he is miserable, swears at me, and is gernerally a nasty person, other days he is a kind loving person. I am attracted to someone else now which I think is just an escape from my real ...
A. 18 May 2009: Your not happy so end it with your current husband! Find someone who treats you well, doesnt swear at you! You had sex with another man which shows how lonely you are! Why stay with him? Yes you feel guilt because you did something wrong but nows ... (read in full...)
I love him, I cheat, why?
Q. my problem will probably appear very mixed up and contradictory. But i'm saying this from my own experience from my boyfriend of 15months. Since around 4 months ago, me and my boyfriends relationship deteriorated slightly, many arguments came and...
A. 18 May 2009: It is the easiest way to get attention when its lacking in a relationship from other men, and kissin and sex is the quickest but not the best, do you really love him? or you afraid of being on your own?
When you cheat do you feel guilt or can you ... (read in full...)
My wife wants to move back in, but I am having an affair behind her back!
Q. Hi There Please help me do the right thing Im a married man, 52 years old, who lives apart from his wife (due to work) I actually live in a different country most of the time and only see her and my 18 and 21 year old sons aproximately 4 time...
A. 18 May 2009: Sometimes in life yes we have to be selfish, we only have one life and sometimes we do things that make us happy but hurt others, this is a price we pay and we must live with, so if you can live with the hurt of others may have through your choice ... (read in full...)
Cheated on b/f with best friend
Q. i cheated on my bf with my best friend......... now i don know how to tell him as i reli jus don wanna lose him at any cost.. i love my bf a lot... should i tell him...???? if yes, how????? plz help........
A. 18 May 2009: Don't tell him!!! You made a mistake aslong as you know this wont happen again then dont tell him as your break his heart and lose him so whats the point??? Your young so your still learning about love and relationships....this is your first ... (read in full...)
He gave me a company email rather than his personal one! What does this mean?
Q. I'm leaving my company in half a week, so I gave a thank you gift for this coworker that I fancy and told him to keep in contact through an email to see how it goes. However, he got a gift for me a couple days later and wrote the exact same note ...
A. 14 May 2009: Actually when you think about it how much time do we spend at work ALOT!!! So i think its a good sign, me and my friends only use work email as we can do it on the sneak at work, so don't think its a bad thing, its good that he has given you a ... (read in full...)
What is a casual relationship?
Q. Just wandering what peoples thoughts are of what a casual relationship is? Ive been with my boyfriend nearly 3 yrs. We dont live together and we see each other bout 3 to 4 times a wk. Never been on hol. Hes 30. Goes out drinking allday with his ...
A. 13 May 2009: You need to get your own life, go out with your friends, don't wait for him to live your life, hes ok living his life seeing his mates etc what are you doing? dont waste time on this man, turn the cards on him, show him you can have your own life to ... (read in full...)
Sleeping while partner has sex with me
Q. hi plz help, in a normal relationship is it right that u should wake up and find your partner has had or is having sex with you this has happend so many times. xxxxxx...
A. 13 May 2009: Well you should ask your partner as to why he enjoys having sex while you sleep. Surely sex is a bonding thing something you both do together, if your unsure about it ask him not to do it as you get nothing from it and it is not fair, maybe he ... (read in full...)
Meet up with him again? Or just forget it?
Q. I was seeing a guy for about two months. He is a teacher and is a lot older than me (I am 19 he is now 28) but this was not a problem when I was staying with him and around his friends. He got freaked out however when he came to stay with me at my ...
A. 13 May 2009: If you meet up with him, make sure one drink doesnt turn into 6 and you end up sleeping with him, dont let him use you! If he wants to be with you then he can wait for sex another time. It seems he doesnt want to commit to you but wants to have fun ... (read in full...)
Have I definately lost my virginity and was this actual sex?
Q. im 15 years old and ive fancied this boy from school for a while now whos 16 but in my year (11). hes fancied me for about a year we talk all the time out of school but hardly ever while we're there. i was a bit scared of asking him out because ...
A. 13 May 2009: If his penis went inside you then yes you have lost your virginity! I hope the condom stayed on at all times while you was having sex! If he has a big penis then yes it will hurt, and the whole motion of sex usually does leave you with pain between ... (read in full...)
I think I'm turning lesbian!
Q. Hi I'm kikki and I'm 15 I think I might be turning lesbian but not sure. I have a bf but I don't enjoy sex with him anymore it's like he just cares about himself. Recently during p.e at school I have noticed my nipples going hard getting changed in ...
A. 13 May 2009: Well your young and its natural to feel this way...your curious just becoz you get horny of the thought of a girl doesnt make you lesbian....doesnt even make you Bi sexual...best thing to do is experiment but safely...if you want to further these ... (read in full...)
He keeps asking me if I'm a virgin!
Q. I went out on one date with this guy, and then the next day we were talking through text messages and he asked me if I was a virgin or not. I told him I didnt feel comfortable answering that at this stage yet and he said thats ok I dont have to ...
A. 13 May 2009: I think it is normal for a man to ask this....if you are a virgin tell him...thats something to be proud of and im sure he will respect...men are just curious about women being virgins....even men ask how many men have you slept with....if you dont ... (read in full...)
I've been trying to win his heart through food
Q. I have this one guy friend that has noticed me since the begining of the school year. I have seen him in one class but i noticed that i have him for two classes. At the begining of the school year, i didn't really know anyone. So one day there was ...
A. 13 May 2009: You should never have to win a heart....if he likes you then you should just have to be you for him to notice you and want to be with him. STOP buying him food and letting him eat yours....no gentleman would take food off a lady all the time its ... (read in full...)
Is silence a deal breaker in a relationship?
Q. I have been dating a lovely man for a year now and am just wondering what it really takes to make a relationship work. He is my first serious long term boyfriend and so this question comes from a place of not knowing what to really focus on as the ...
A. 13 May 2009: To be honest i think in time this will become very frustrating....its only natural you want to talk in a relationship and laugh and joke together.....yes he seems like a great man but its not healthy to be silent with a partner often i believe. Try ... (read in full...)
My wife wants to move back in, but I am having an affair behind her back!
Q. Hi There Please help me do the right thing Im a married man, 52 years old, who lives apart from his wife (due to work) I actually live in a different country most of the time and only see her and my 18 and 21 year old sons aproximately 4 time...
A. 12 May 2009: Well your like 90% living on your own as a single man, so why don't you just do the right thing and let your wife go, so she can find happiness with another man like you have with this other women. Why stay with your wife if you hardly see her or ... (read in full...)
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