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My wife wants to move back in, but I am having an affair behind her back!
Q. Hi There Please help me do the right thing Im a married man, 52 years old, who lives apart from his wife (due to work) I actually live in a different country most of the time and only see her and my 18 and 21 year old sons aproximately 4 time...
A. 18 May 2009: Sometimes in life yes we have to be selfish, we only have one life and sometimes we do things that make us happy but hurt others, this is a price we pay and we must live with, so if you can live with the hurt of others may have through your choice ... (read in full...)
Is silence a deal breaker in a relationship?
Q. I have been dating a lovely man for a year now and am just wondering what it really takes to make a relationship work. He is my first serious long term boyfriend and so this question comes from a place of not knowing what to really focus on as the ...
A. 13 May 2009: To be honest i think in time this will become very frustrating....its only natural you want to talk in a relationship and laugh and joke together.....yes he seems like a great man but its not healthy to be silent with a partner often i believe. Try ... (read in full...)
Having trouble with sex, he can't get inside me!
Q. My boyfriend and I are having trouble having sex and we have been trying for quite some time now. The problem i think is with me. His penis will not go into my vagina. He can get his fingers in there with some pain but when he gets ready to insert ...
A. 13 May 2009: Try some Lube....there are all sorts out there this will help make it easier to push in! Then try and get him to increase the amount of fingers he uses then see if that helps loosen you up....but usually first time you get this problem...give it ... (read in full...)
Had sex with a guy who likes to break up relationships
Q. I've been with my bf for a year and a half. for a while we were having trouble with our relationship because we are both full time students in college and we live an hour away from each other. I have this co-worker that I had a crush on. He lead me ...
A. 13 May 2009: Well the fact is you have done the dirty with him....time to move on from him and focus on your boyfriend. I think most people have been in that situation were we sleep with someone thinking it will come of something then bang it was just bit of fun ... (read in full...)
How to get a straight answer from a guy?
Q. Ive slept with this guy a couple of times, and its been really great and we get on so well. but i dont know if its just me hes sleeping with or ..i just dont know? (btw its long to explain but hes your typical guy that doesnt make much effort t...
A. 13 May 2009: Try not sleeping with him and see if he still wants to see you....make sure he is not using you just for sex, tell him you need more from him if he is unable to give it to you then tell him your moving on, as you dont wanna play games! Getting a ... (read in full...)
Cheating with a married man, but I know its not right
Q. i am 21yrs,in luv with a married man with 4 kids,my concience is now telling on me and i want to quit him but is pretty tough on both side cos he is more now like my best friend and i believe he loves me that he wish to marry me but i cant, cos of ...
A. 13 May 2009: If you can carry on like this for another 15 years....and be happy and can share him with another women then i would say stay with him.....love is hard just to say end it becoz its a bad situation. Talk to him see what he wants for the future...does ... (read in full...)
My wife wants to move back in, but I am having an affair behind her back!
Q. Hi There Please help me do the right thing Im a married man, 52 years old, who lives apart from his wife (due to work) I actually live in a different country most of the time and only see her and my 18 and 21 year old sons aproximately 4 time...
A. 12 May 2009: Well your like 90% living on your own as a single man, so why don't you just do the right thing and let your wife go, so she can find happiness with another man like you have with this other women. Why stay with your wife if you hardly see her or ... (read in full...)
Please help - am I losing my mind?
Q. Hi, I am a 37 year old married woman with a good job and an outgoing personality. I enjoy being with people but get so anxious and nervous about going out and meeting them, that I whip myself into a nervous frenzy and usually try to cancel things a...
A. 12 May 2009: I went through a bad patch were i couldnt meet new people, i would blush sooo bad that it made everyone else feel like i was a freak...thats what i was thinking but it was all in my head....the people im sure you arrange to meet are your friends or ... (read in full...)
Love my husband but feel the temptation to cheat on him with a co worker, what should I do?
Q. Help, I am married and I think my co-worker and I are falling for each other. I started a new job in a new country about 5 months ago. It was the first job I had in a long time where I've really enjoyed my colleagues and the work I've been doing,...
A. 12 May 2009: Well the term "if i dont get caught whats the harm" i agree but you have alot to lose.....remember life is short, maybe its time for you to be selfish and enjoy yourself as before you know it your turn around and look back on life and if you have ... (read in full...)
Sex with a random girl felt better than sex with my b/f, what do I do?
Q. Help! i have a boyfriend and he went out of town for the week on a business trip and i went out by my self last night and saw this supper hot girl. so i we talk and had a few drinks next thing i new we were on our way back to her apartment. were we ...
A. 12 May 2009: If its something you are going to carry on doing meeting women for sex then you must tell your boyfriend. If it was a one off mistake then DONT tell your boyfriend why cause a good man heartbreak and end up losing him for one mistake.....if it wont ... (read in full...)
Nervous about meeting up with my online guy in real life
Q. Hi I met a man online we've been talking for a while now we r both married so we just basicaly want the same thing friendship someone to talk to. I trust him we've talked on phone lots and its neet because we worked at same place years ago just ...
A. 12 May 2009: He will be feeling the same im sure.
I met my current boyfriend off the internet, it was sooo scary but once we met it just clicked and we got on great. If you talk on phone etc im sure it will be easy to talk face to face. To calm my nerved i had ... (read in full...)
Should I leave him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been living together for 4 years now for the first year we were just friend renting a 2 bedroom apt together. Recently I was let go from my job do to lack of money in the business. I have continued to work for the company on ...
A. 1 May 2009: Well for starters a partner should always have time for you when you cry over a lost loved one, that was very selfish of him. Talk to him and let him know your thinking of leaving because of how bad things have got. Money problems always puts ... (read in full...)
I really really like her and don't no how to tell her or should I tell her?
Q. i met this girl at a party and got her number and we went out together and got on really well. i really really like her and dont no how to tell her or should i tell her? i dont no what to say or what i should do, should i ask her out or get to no ...
A. 1 May 2009: Send a text in the morning maybe saying just Hi, how are you? if she likes you whatever you send she will love haha us girls love a man who lets us know whats going on....so make another date with her, and contact her when you feel like it, but make ... (read in full...)
Do you think he cheated?
Q. Here is my dilemma... Back in December my husband went to Japan for military duties for 2 weeks with 2 other guys. When he came back I found that he emailed to these 2 guys a picture of a local girl....I asked him who that was and he said she was ...
A. 1 May 2009: I don't think he has cheated by the temptation is there, a pretty girl paying him attention was prob all it was, when you have been with someone awhile, a new person seems exciting etc but that was prob it, if you have talked to him about it and hes ... (read in full...)
Is he just joking about? Is he trying to make me jealous?
Q. okay, theres this boy i like and he likes me aswell. all week hes been saying hi to me and smiled and the usual stuff. then he said to everyone he really really likes me and blushes when he hears my name. and today he wrote on his hand our names to...
A. 1 May 2009: If he like's you then he will make a move, ask you out or flirt a little. So if you like the guy then just test the water, maybe flirt with him see if he reacts to that, or ask friends what it looks like when he is around you becoz body lanugage is ... (read in full...)
He doesn't seem to want to make love to me as often as he used to...
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half now. We started having sex 10 months after we started dating, and since then all i want to do is make love to him!... everything was ok for 4 months but now he doesnt feel like doing it as ...
A. 1 May 2009: It could be he has a lower sex drive then you.....wanting sex with the man you love is natural...best thing is to explain to him, let him know your worried about this and you feel he might be going off you. Im sure he is not, like i said could just ... (read in full...)
I am not physically attracted to my wife any longer. What to do about it?
Q. I know this is horrible of me but I am not physically attracted to my wife anymore. since we started dating and now since we are married she has put on a lot of weight while I have now for the past four months have started a workout and diet plan ...
A. 1 May 2009: Tell her how you are feeling.....if my boyfriend wasn't attracted to me i would want to know so i could fix things....maybe she is depressed thats why she is putting the weight on? She should want to be at her best for her man and same goes for ... (read in full...)
Shaved or not shaved?
Q. well,this is kind of eeky but i need to know the answer..do guys prefer a clean,shaved bikini area or is it ok to have hair down under?...
A. 1 May 2009: Well every man is different, i think aslong as its neat and clean then i think when a man is horny he doesn't really care haha! ... (read in full...)
Guy A or Guy B, I've called off the wedding to B but I need to chose once and for all.
Q. So, my situation is a tough one and a little confusing but here goes! Theres a guy (guy a) that was my high school sweetheart. We were crazy inlove but didn't work out because he had some growing up to do. We continued to talk every so often to stay ...
A. 28 April 2009: Your a very lucky lady to have two good men, most women don't even get one!
but my advise for you is be with the one who you truely can be yourself with, who makes you laugh, who makes you smile when you think about them, and who makes you feel like... (read in full...)
I think about my best friend's boyfriend more than I do my partner.
Q. OK THIS IS ALL WIRED I NEED HELP!!! OK so my best friend's boyfriend an I have been having an affair for 5 years now, he's been with her about 7 years, and I been with mine ten years. We both love the sex he tells me he loves it when he's sleeping...
A. 16 October 2008: Well for starters you don't have the right to call her your best friend as your not because no friend would EVER do what your doing. You really have to get in the real world...you both have partners and children, do you know how many people your ... (read in full...)
How can I make sure we don't drift apart?
Q. Iv been with my boyfriend for a month and hes going back to uni this weekend and its 3 hours away! He says that we will still see each other every weekend still cuz thats all we see each other now as he lives a few hours away! But he wont have a car ...
A. 30 September 2008: Well if you cant see each other do the simple things which mean alot, phone calls, text msg, emails, cam with each other. You just need to show your there for him and that even when your not with him your thinking of him. Also give him a picture of ... (read in full...)
How can I cover up the bruises and scratches I got from my boyfriend?
Q. How can i cover these bruises i got from my boyfriend and the scratches on my wrists that i did to myself because of him hurting me? They are fresh and just done today. Before u judge me about hurting myself. Its because my whole life from six years ...
A. 30 September 2008: You need to stop covering up and talk to someone...you cant go on living like this...you need help...for starters you should leave your boyfriend as no man should EVER hit a women you deserve so much better...and you only have one life so why waste ... (read in full...)
I'm having weird fantasies about threesomes, and I can get her to agree to pretty much anything. Anyone else tried this?
Q. hey. im 19 male with a 19 f girlfriend. we are in a serious relationship. the thing is ive been constantly fantasizing about having a threesome with her with another guy. the problem is that the only way i could have it happen is for it to be one of ...
A. 30 September 2008: No no no no....trust me do not use the good friend...im sure you both fantasise about things we all do...but instead of the 3som why not explore each other more im sure you have not tried everything u could with each other. Threesomes bring ... (read in full...)
My step daughter wants money but shows no respect, because I didn't raise her! At what point enough is enough?
Q. Dear cupid and agony aunts out there, there is a heck of alot going on here ! I am a married guy, 49, and my spouse, female of course is 46. we both have children which are now in their twenties. we have been together for 14 years, having struggl...
A. 30 September 2008: If she has no respect give her no money and your wife should back you up with this...if its her kid then she should pull them aside and teach them some respect. Tell your wife its getting to you...as maybe she doesnt notice. Or you could talk to ... (read in full...)
Am I his rebound girl?
Q. Hi My boyfriend and I have officially been together for a month or 2 but unofficially about 3. My boyfriend and I started going out, when he asked me out, 1.5 months after he left a 6month relationship with his ex. I feel as though my boyfri...
A. 30 September 2008: IF he says he has moved on and doesnt give you reason to question that then why do you? it sounds hes moved on so why dont you....he sounds like a great guy who treats you well so why ruin it with an ex....there an ex for a reason!... (read in full...)
What does this girl want from me? Can anyone tell me?
Q. hello, i have a problem with some girl that i dont know: i went to new school and this girl in that school i just dont know her but she is always with a girlfrein of her in school. the story is when she sees me she laugh with her girlfrein...
A. 30 September 2008: Sounds like the typical i like you so ill ignore you or be mean, its seems she likes you but doesnt want to shout about it. So turn the tables round on her play her at her own game...do what she does to you...ignore her and be cold with her....she ... (read in full...)
Why won't he commit after 2 years? He changes the subject when I talk about buying a house...
Q. i have been with my partner for 2 yrs, i have 2 children so we cant move in together cos he has no room. but when i talk about us gettin a house together he changes the subject. am i wasting my time here i love him so much but after 2 years why wont ...
A. 30 September 2008: He's proberly scared of losing all his freedom as most men and women do. Get a babysitter for the evening and have a nice meal or something and talk to him but dont nag as that makes things worse. 2 years is not a long time together but you have 2 ... (read in full...)
I need gift ideas for this female friend. Any tips?
Q. Hey all, I'm just wanting to know gift ideas (preferrably comments from girls). I have a good friend I have known for almost 4 years. I've always liked her a lot, but thought I was out of her league, about this time last year I found out she ha...
A. 30 September 2008: Well from my point of view us girls on our birthday like to feel special and the only importand person. So id say flowers, chocolates, a teddy and a balloon :)
Such a cute idea and works for me EVERYTIME!... (read in full...)
I'm sexually frustrated, how can I let him know I need to feel wanted and taken once in a while?
Q. I am 41 years old and I started dating a 34 year old. I do not think he has any previous experience with women and I do not think he knows how to please a woman orally or even in bed. He is a great guy, very gentle but how would I let him know that ...
A. 30 September 2008: Let me tell you the nice and gentle guys can learn to be great in bed.....so dont give up hope just yet. First try the whole dressing up etc if that doesnt work invest in a spank pad and some handcuffs etc....expriement together....if hes not into ... (read in full...)
I got drunk and hooked up with another guy. Do I tell my boyfriend?
Q. Ok, my boyfriend and i love each other. He lives an hour and a half away. Things are really hard because he is really busy working 60+ hours a week and doesn't have anytime to really call or answer my texts. I feel like we aren't dating, that all ...
A. 25 September 2008: Don't tell him. If you know it was a mistake and you wont do it again then why break his heart and tell him. He doesnt have to know as that was in the past. Once you tell him it will course so many problems and he proberly wont EVER trust you again! ... (read in full...)
I am just so outraged! Is he some kind of pervert? What should I do?
Q. I recently made a horrific discovery that is making me questioning the man I thought I loved. While helping to clean out his room, I came across a stash of some 30 or more porn magazines and several DVDs stashed away. I was shocked. He told me ...
A. 16 September 2008: You only found porn why get so worked up about it? Better then finding a pair of lace knickers!
Maybe have a look at a few of his dvds you may enjoy them together! You cant question his love over some porn dvds! Thats just silly! He is a man that... (read in full...)
Why did he last so long during sex?
Q. my friend have a guy friend that have sexual inner course with for a long time (8 hours) and she is tired of him but scare to let him no. She don't no what to do. She think that he have a problem about how long he last. she ask him is he taking any ...
A. 16 September 2008: She can just use lube....that will def help if its just a case of it hurting her. But if she doesnt enjoy it she needs to be honest with him...you cant be selfish when having sex!... (read in full...)
I'm getting restless with my girlfriend of over a year. Help!
Q. ok, i dont know if im in love! ive been wit the same girl for 1 yr and 1 month and been faithful but ive been thinking about cheating on her! some days i wanna be with her and some days i wanna be single and be out meeting new girls! we fight alot ...
A. 16 September 2008: Maybe you moved to quickly to soon. If you want it to work then maybe move out as living with each other can put alot of pressure on a relationship! One thing never to lose in a relationship is independence and your own space!... (read in full...)
We only have sex infrequently and he lets everything else come between our sex life. How can I get him to see how much I need sex?
Q. My boyfriend used to have a really high sex drive and now seems to have none. We have gone weeks without sex and I seem to be the only one who cares. When I said something to him about it he actually said to me "Well, I have a lot on my mind and ...
A. 16 September 2008: Well i think the first thing you need to do is find out 'What is on his mind' what is making him want less sex...maybe its something to do with work..if he has actually said i have alot of things on my mind you should of said well lets talk about ... (read in full...)
I feel my husband and I have drifted apart even though he treats me well!
Q. I have been with married for 1 year and together for 5 years with my husband and I don`t think I`m in love with him anymore. He is a great guy and treats me good most of the time, its just I don`t really feel it for him anymore. I just feel that ...
A. 11 September 2008: Life is not that simple...you cant just say oh i dont love someone and end it. You must look at your situation it could be stress, depression etc that can effect the way you feel. I was in a simular situation when i thought i didnt love my boyfriend ... (read in full...)
Do men who don't watch porn exist or should I give up and stay single?...
Q. when I commit to a special man I hope to be his only and for him to get his sexual arousal from my body alone...is this too much to ask.....I cant imagine ever needing to look at another mans body for arousal once commited....and I cant imagine ever ...
A. 5 September 2008: My boyfriend doesnt watch porn! So yes men do exsist who dont watch it ;) There hard to find but there sure out there!... (read in full...)
Is true happiness just a myth, will nothing ever be okay??
Q. Hey everyone, this is for all of you, ive recently became part of ''Dear cupid'' and been reading all of these articles, written by guys, girls, of all ages and i just wonder so much of the time, how could a world as cruel as ours even exist?? ...
A. 5 September 2008: At your age i true felt life was a losing game and things were always bad and boring etc etc but trust me life does get better with age...and happiness is out there. You have the rest of your life to be happy but you have to make it ... (read in full...)
Should I have an affair because my husband acts like I'm not important?
Q. i am 43, married, but i have always had guys around me. Never have been "alone". Recently got married, but i still have these guys as friends, my husband sometimes treatsme, i feel, as though I am not important to him. I am thinking about having an ...
A. 5 September 2008: If you really want to be with this other man then sure go ahead have the affair...then go back to your husband and live with the guilt and then a few months down the line your want to do it again and again! Either fix things with your husband or end ... (read in full...)
My hubby rarely has initiatives, and I need to feel wanted! Would it be wrong to have an affair?
Q. I am married but I don't know what it is about me that I feel I need to have this affair. I have not yet gotten involved, but am seriuosly thinking about it. I have a few guy friends that really want to, knowing that I am married, but my question is ...
A. 4 September 2008: Having an affair on your husband who you say is a nice guy is a STUPID idea..and very selfish. What you really need to do is get the passion back into your relationship, the feelings you once had. Dont throw it all away on some silly affair it will ... (read in full...)
Will my boobs ever stop growing? I go through bras like water!
Q. i know this sounds like a realy stupid question but will my boobs ever stop growing?! theyre really startin to bother me now, all my friends tell me how amazin they are and how they wish they had bigger boobs and stuff, but it really pisses me off ...
A. 4 September 2008: Well if your 16-17 they should stop growing soon....but it can also depend on ya weight as when you gain weight/ lose weight boobs change size....I wouldnt worry about it tho your very lucky to have big boobies many people will be jealous....make ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks I'm a sex addict because I want him to go down on me?!
Q. hi there i have a peculiar problem..my boyfriend doesnt want to go down on me..he makes me do it to him... he says hes never done it to another girl..though hes had sex a lot...i cant understand..he thinks im a sex addict..theres nothing wrong wi...
A. 4 September 2008: He obviously doesnt want to do it so hes trying to make you feel bad when you ask him to do it...but darlin it is totally normal to want it...your not an adict your a normal sexual women. Try and turn him on with it...tell him how you feel when he ... (read in full...)
What can I do to increase my low sex drive?
Q. What can I do to increase my low sex drive? I'm almost positive that it's low because of psychological reason. My in-laws have become far too intrusive and my husband allows them to control all aspects of our lives. Because of this I have lost ...
A. 4 September 2008: Well i think letting your husband be controlled by the inlaws is not going to make you desire him....things like this can put your off your guy and desire sex less. Try having some time alone with him to talk about how you feel and let him know your ... (read in full...)
Should I have an affair because my husband acts like I'm not important?
Q. i am 43, married, but i have always had guys around me. Never have been "alone". Recently got married, but i still have these guys as friends, my husband sometimes treatsme, i feel, as though I am not important to him. I am thinking about having an ...
A. 4 September 2008: Talk to your husband first if you truely love him then you dont just give up and have an affair as easy as that. Affairs always end up messy and the one in the relationship usually ends up getting hurt, dont go down that route....dont be selfish you ... (read in full...)
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