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writes:I would like to know the definition of "in love". The english language is terrible in describing emotion, but I'm wondering if the difference between "love" and "in love" are that large? And if it matters.Is a relationship with someone worth fighting for if that "in love" feeling has faded and all that's left is "love"? Or is that just what happens when you've been with someone and gone through everything with them, the hurt and pain and distrust, the rebuilding and getting to know them again. Is that too much pressure on an unsteady ground or do you think it can work? Reply to this Question
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (4 September 2008):
 You can love many people. You love your friends, you love your family, you lover your pets. But falling in love takes longer, takes work and sweat and a special spark between you and your partner.
The difference between love and being in love is the ammount of time it takes. You can love a person 2 days after knowing them, but to fall in love is harder, takes longer, and it's harder to get out for that reason.
When you're in love, you feel you're complete. You feel that everytime you're with your partner, you feel such happiness you can't describe, like you're in you own world. You feel like no matter what happens, you two will get over it and get stronger and closer.
Of course, you may fall out of being in love for many reasons. Abuse, neglect, knowing the other person doesn't feel the same way. When that happens, the hurt experience is unimaginable.
Now, I find it almost sad, and ridiculous, when people claim they're "in love" and don't demonstrate it, when the time between their couple has been small, or when they easily get over the person. I think that way because falling in love just takes time and that word has been so misused SO many times its pathetic.
That's only my opinion and some people may agree or disagee with me. You can come up with your own answer later in life as you experience things. That's how I did with mine.
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reader, Lilly Rose  +, writes (3 September 2008):
 I think when you first meet someone and start dating them its exciting its new etc but then as time goes on you start to lose alot of that as you become much closer and see alot more of the person and that is when alot of people get confused with 'inlove' and fallen out of love....sometimes the relationship your in just has had its time and you no longer go well together. You find most people who fall out of love with partners usually get bored etc as the longer your with someone the lazier you get etc and you get in routein etc But dont think anyone can put a definition on love and being 'Inlove'!
You just know if its right or not!
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reader, Aunty Em +, writes (3 September 2008):
 I think you got it spot in. I do think there's a difference between "love" and "in love". "In love" being that fluttery/sick stomach you get when you just look at your partner! Which, people do find to fade over time, but always right there under a stack of books if you know what I mean? Some couples are really good at rekindling that sort of thing. To be "in love" or just "love" - either are worth fighting for I think. However, the "in love" part is largely important to some people. But as I say, to "love" someone, I always think the "in love" part is there.
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