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writes:Me and my girlfriend have been together for about 8 months. She came directly out of a two year abusive relationship and i got out a 6 year relationship in which i was engaged about 4 months prior to seeing her. We hung out everyday, while we worked together and she lost her job. At that point she got another waitress job and decided to move an hour away to help her mom who is disabled. We have been talking on the phone everyday since usually late at night cause we both wait tables and try to see each other about once a week maybe a little less or a little more. We always tell eachother how much we love eachother and nothing makes me happier than making her happy. She does have past problems with bulemia and battles depression to the day. We get into arguements some time but of nothing important. She came out for a week and stayed with me, (at one point she asked me to promise never to leave her) which was an amazing week and sex was AMAZING except we ended it with a dumb arguement about music and left a music festival early. And she had to leave early at 5:30 the next morning to help take care of her sisters kids which also lives with her mom as well as her sister and husband. Like i said we normally talk daily and since then we talked only once the day she left which i appologized for arguing and she said everything was ok. Last couple days she has been calling me earlier than normal and leaving me messages saying that she loves me and will talk to me later. We had plans for me to go camping with her family for four days this weekend which i asked off work for. Last night she didnt respond to any of my texts or my call till today. Today she said that she needs a week to think about us and that she wants a break for that week. She says the cause is that she never had a chance to let her heart heal from her last relationship. She said she saw her abusive ex(also live an hour from her) at the grocery store at 6 am while he was on his way to work. She says that she could never be inlove with her ex again but feels guilty she is happy and he is not. She says she still wants me to go camping but wants me to go as a friend and not a boyfriend. I always told her i wanted her to move back out by me since i cant leave cause i am in my last year of college. Any insight or advice? What should i do? Should i go camping? I do love her and i know her psycologist is messing with her lexipro.. Like i said she does have depression issues, and today she said she is sooo stressed out with work and family issues. She also has some alcohol issues as well. What do you think? It hurts not being able to talk to her.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (8 July 2009):
 What does she want the break for? Normally a break is something like a vacation from work, you do something else during that period that is not work.
So, would she be doing someone else during that week?
Or is that she needs some distance during your holiday together, still friends but not lovers to give her some space?
If an employee wants a break to go skydiving, that is fine. if an employee wants a break to work for the competition, they can take a break for the rest of the millenium.
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reader, eas123 +, writes (8 July 2009):
eas123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionshe called me tonite and said that she came off the wrong way, and she loves me and just needed a couple days to get unstressed and she is also lonely. She said she didnt mean a break from us, just a break from stress for a couple days. What is your insight?
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reader, Jess1ca_1988 +, writes (7 July 2009):
well you sound like a really great guy and i know that you love her but, u need to think about what you want do you really want all the drama she is filled with, and maybe you should get out and start opening up to more ppl and options who knows u might find someone who wants to be with you more
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