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writes:Hi.I have an enormous crush on my teacher. Yeah I know this is completely normal, but he's... I'll just say he's in his early fifties. I have never heard of anyone liking someone nearly forty years older than themselves... I feel so awkward and disgusting! He even admits he's old, and even his children are older than me! So my first question is, is anyone else in a similar situation? Second, some awkward things have been happening. The student who sits next to me in the class (of the teacher that I like) seems to think this teacher stares at me more than he should. I disagree. But the problem is... Well, here's one scenario: my teacher was explaining something, and as he was talking, he was looking at people, you know just glancing at different people (like most teachers do). He looked at me for only a moment. Then, the girl who sits beside me pointed in my direction and said "why do you always stare at her?" I got really embarrassed and just kind of hid my face, and she continued to say "you know you can get arrested for staring at girls..." To make it all worse, her and another girl, who sits on the other side of me, started whispering about the teacher and calling him a creeper. (That is not true, by the way!) Yet it was still really embarrassing! It's the second time this has happened, so anyone have any tips? Anything would be appreciated... Thanks in advance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2010): (This is the asker of the question.)
Thank you all for your responses. I just want to point out that he does not actually stare at me ever, only glances, in my opinion. I'm not sure where my friend (who is in fact a bit annoying) gets the idea from. The title of this question was the one given to it by the site.
All great answers so far though; thanks a bunch!
P.S. Any other teacher would've punished my friend. I don't know why he is so lenient when it comes to this type of thing. He can actually be very strict, but it really depends on the matter.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2010): (This is the asker of the question.)
Thank you all for your responses. I just want to point out that he does not actually stare at me ever, only glances, in my opinion. I'm not sure where my friend (who is in fact a bit annoying) gets the idea from. The title of this question was the one given to it by the site.
All great answers so far though; thanks a bunch!
P.S. Any other teacher would've punished my friend. I don't know why he is so lenient when it comes to this type of thing. He can actually be very strict, but it really depends on the matter.
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reader, Kenj  +, writes (12 March 2010):
 Your friend is stupid, the teacher may have other reasons for staring. My advise on this one, just keep quiet and carry on as normal. Your crush will fade with time anyway.
I am sure the teacher will know how to handle students like your friend so dont worry about it.
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reader, ChristineAvril +, writes (12 March 2010):
 Is it normal for pupils to make comments like that? In my day, such irrelevant and personal comments would have resulted in a detention, at least!
Why did you not silence her? A sharp elbow in her ribs would have been effective.
As far as your situation is concerned, there's precious little you can do about a crush, except ride it out; nothing cane come of it.
Your teacher is probably well aware of it and may just be keeping a watchful eye on you: he dare not make anything of it, for fear of losing his job, or worse.
NOT for staring, as your classmate suggested, but for closer involvement, which you would both do well to avoid.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2010): How does your friend not know he might have staring problems? Did she do that cause shes your friend or cause she's annoying?
I have the same problem hun,(read my question if you would like) but there isn't much of an age difference and I'm already graduating from high school. And boy do I wish he would be staring at me, I'll tell you that!! Yes, him being about 40's years older is alot, you're so young hun, you don't need an old man!!
And if he's not a creeper like you say, then there's nothing to worry about, and you should tell you're friend to stop making those comments infront of the whole class and embarrasing you, gosh I can imagine how you feel. But if this staring problem persists, then I suggest you talk to him and tell him that makes you uncomfortable, clear things up, you know what I mean? Unless you want to speak to an advisor, but that would just get him in trouble so that's not a good idea. Hope in some way this is a form of help to you.
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