Should I reach out to this guy?
Q. So I met a guy on a dating site a few weeks ago. He messaged me first and we talked for a little bit. Turns out, we have a lot in common and he is honestly what I am looking for in a man- good looking, smart, successful, down to earth, athletic, ...
A. 18 April 2014: You have'nt met yet so don't build your hopes up in case he is not what you want in real life. Meet him first and decide then if he IS really the man for you. You have to bear in mind with online dating too that you're probably not the only woman he ... (read in full...)
My friend cheats on her boyfriend, and I think he has a right to know
Q. My dilemma actually has to do with my best friend and her boyfriend. He supports her financially, pays all the bills, and even takes care of her newborn whom ended up not being his. He forgaveher once for cheating. Well, here recently sshe's had sex ...
A. 10 April 2014: Like you say, she's your best friend. Telling her partner will cause ALOT of trouble and you'll look like an evil person for trying to help. So don't tell him. Instead talk to your friend. If you can't make her see sense, try her other friends or ... (read in full...)
I couldn't get rid of the other guy, do you think the guy I like was annoyed?
Q. Should i call this guy or not? I'm not sure whether to call this guy or not. When we met, he told me that he would like to go to the theatre with me to see a show. The show starts next week ,and it is on for a couple of weeks. We...
A. 2 April 2014: Hurray! That's good news. Hope it all goes well x... (read in full...)
How do I extricate myself from this toxic relationship?
Q. I really need some advice on how to emotionally detach myself from my boyfriend (ex?). We've been together 4 years and things have gotten so horrible. He's not in love with me anymore therefore he treats me like shit. He doesn't care what he say...
A. 24 March 2014: That something that keeps you crawling back, is called a ''hold over you''. He sounds emotionally abuse. There is alot to emotional abuse so I'd advise you google it. There are sites that offer advice on it too. You've acknowledged this relationship ... (read in full...)
How can I overcome my fear of relationships?
Q. I'm sorry if this is long but lately I've been having really negative and pessimistic feelings about love and I feel like I need someone to talk me out of it and/or give me hope. I'm an 18 year old girl. I have good self esteem and I'm generally a ...
A. 24 March 2014: Never is a long time. Right now I'd say listen to your heart and take 5 from dating. For someone so young, you've had some negative relationship experiences which included an instance of abuse. I'm sorry to hear that. I hope you told someone and got ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be anxious after becoming engaged?
Q. Did I just make a huge mistake accepting a proposal? I've been dating a wonderful man for about six months, and he just proposed yesterday. I love him, and I feel like I can see myself having a happy life with him. I am freaking out right n...
A. 24 March 2014: 6months of dating then an engagement, seems too quick. But everyone moves at different paces. You say your last marriage wasn't a happy one. Have you had time to explore that and deal with any lingering doubts and issues from it?
Before you get ... (read in full...)
When is it going to be my turn in dating?
Q. Hi, Well, here I am, a 25 year old woman and I have never had a relationship with a man, in all these years have never even held a man's hand. I don't know what I can do to improve my lot in life, because I feel completely rejected by the entire m...
A. 24 March 2014: I was where you are 5yrs ago. I'm attractive, intelligent, stylish, kind and many other positive things but no man seemed to want me. I wanted my turn too. I kept praying and asking God not to pass me by when he was pairing people. My friends were ... (read in full...)
Is this much older man giving me signs that he wants me again?
Q. Hes 47, im 23. Yes big age gap but we clicked in the first instance, i fell for him and him for me i believe. But we had a big falling out when i said i did not fancy him. I ws trying to protect him from office rumours, we fell out and he made my ...
A. 24 March 2014: I'm sorry to say this but this guy is vindictive and plain nasty. Causing problems at work e.g telling management you make him uncomfortable is appropriate how? And if he liked you why would he do that? He also sounds immature. I'd suggest you love ... (read in full...)
My crush has become more attentive. Is it possible she likes me now?
Q. Hi I have a crush on a younger girl at work. I'm 30, and I'd guess she's maybe 22 or 23. A while back (maybe a year and a half), there was a night out and I stupidly told people I liked her, despite the fact we had barely even spoken beyond ve...
A. 24 March 2014: She seems to like you as a person and that's a start. Try asking her about her romantic life to get an idea of whether she's looking for a boyfriend. Crack a joke and say something like ''Hope you had a good weekend and did'nt stay at home watching ... (read in full...)
If you don't have dating/sexual experience do you fake it till you make it?
Q. If I don't have any sexual experience, how do I go about in my everyday life meeting girls, faking it til I make it? I see plenty of guts out in bars doing it all the time. It's about time I get in on the action while my junk still works!...
A. 24 March 2014: Be confident and approach girls. Right now that's important in order to meet someone. Work on your manners e.g be courteous, offer to buy a drink for a girl basically be a gentleman. We love that! Try out kissing although I'm sure you've be there ... (read in full...)
I couldn't get rid of the other guy, do you think the guy I like was annoyed?
Q. Should i call this guy or not? I'm not sure whether to call this guy or not. When we met, he told me that he would like to go to the theatre with me to see a show. The show starts next week ,and it is on for a couple of weeks. We...
A. 24 March 2014: He may have been offended you were paying this other guy attention then again maybe not. I'd suggest you wait until you meet up again and apologize for any offence you might have caused. Tell him what you told us. If he likes you I'm sure he'll ... (read in full...)
If he was really that into me would he be secretly messaging another girl?
Q. Hi everyone, I've been with my boyfriend for four years and I've never had a reason to not trust him. Recently things have been rough but we seem to of worked through it together and everything for the last month has been great. However we w...
A. 24 March 2014: When a guy with a girlfriend messages another girl, that is not appropriate. This girl may not be interested in him but why is he messaging her? He needs to respect your feelings. It doesn't sound like anything romantic between them was said or ... (read in full...)
I don't like the engagement ring he gave me
Q. I'm disappointed with my engagement ring. I feel like a horrible person. I love my fiance to death, but he picked out a gorgeous ring, with a sapphire as the centerpiece stone. It really is a beautiful ring-but I am very traditionally mi...
A. 24 March 2014: You should tell him. You don't want to wear an engagement ring you don't like for however long. He loves you so I'm sure he'll understand. Just word it carefully and gently so as not to anger or embarrass him. Even suggest you go ring shopping ... (read in full...)
It's early days, but after just two dates - were his actions charming or creepy?
Q. Hi Agony Aunt folks I have a question , So I met this guy online we had 2 dates so far he is a cop and seems very nice a lot different form the last guy I dated I have had bad luck lately in the men department and seem to end up with abusive men so ...
A. 19 March 2014: It was a bizzare thing to do but people keep soaps and shampoos from hotels they've stayed at even towels. He sounds sweet but it's too soon to assume the worst about him. Try to ignore the spoon incident. It was maybe creepy to you but someone else ... (read in full...)
How can my ex and my current boyfriend and I all get along?
Q. My ex and my boyfriend argue and throw insults at each other whenever they meet, and now I have had to arange for my ex to pick our child up at my sister's house to avoid this from happening at our family home. However it doesn't stop them bad ...
A. 19 March 2014: You need to set boundaries e.g tell both men NOT to fight or shout especially if your daughter might be around. Be firm and clear on this.Sit down and talk to your boyfriend and thank him for his support and love but encourage him to refrain from ... (read in full...)
What could I do about office gossip if I start dating a man for than 10 years older than me?
Q. Hi all... I can't believe I'm even doing this but I don't know where else to turn. Just about everyone I work with are gossip kings and queens and I need to be able to handle this in a mature, respectful way as I plan on sticking around these parts ...
A. 19 March 2014: Office romances will always be a topic of gossip at work. There is nothing you can do about it. Seems like you and this guy are hot for each other but looking at the things you've mentioned about him...I'm wondering if this may pose a problem ... (read in full...)
I'm struggling with what he calls his dry sense of humour
Q. I love my boyfriend who is 40 of 7 months but don't like aspects of his personality. He can be very sarcastic and make derogatory comments about my weight. I'm a size 12 Uk and run and ramble, bike on the Downs etc. He makes comments about women ...
A. 13 March 2014: He sounds like a narcissist. Google it and see how his behaviour is that of narcissism. Making fun of someone is unacceptable especially when it's about their body or looks. It's hurtful and damaging. Maybe he's been this nasty all his life or maybe ... (read in full...)
I have photo evidence of my girlfriend holding hands with another guy! Should I break things off?
Q. I am dating a girl that I dated a couple of years ago. We have been dating for almost a month, and i got a picture of her holding another guys hand. She says he was only rubbing his hand. My other friends that know her say that I should cut it o...
A. 13 March 2014: Done end your relationship over hand holding. Sure holding hands with another guy whom she's not dating is upsetting and unacceptable, but it's too small an issue to end a relationship over. My advice is to talk to her about it. Don't show her the ... (read in full...)
Why would he delete my number after all this?
Q. Hey, so I've been dating this guy for a month we aren't boyfriend and girlfriend but he likes to say we are and act like it. Anyway we cut things off a while ago and decided to just be 'friends' his choice not mine (He's muslim and said we can't be...
A. 13 March 2014: His religion may genuinely be why he could'nt date you officially if at all. But he's known all his life what is expected of him by his family and religion when it comes to dating within his own religion. This should have stopped him from leading ... (read in full...)
How can I regain his trust? How long will it take? And can someone fall in love again after this kind of hardship?
Q. So to sum it up I had feelings for this guy "E." Who didn't like me back. "W" helped me through the grieving process. "E" and "W"are best friends. W started to have feelings for me but I kept rejecting him because I was still grieving. Finally after ...
A. 13 March 2014: Yes, you can fall in love again after this hardship but regaining someone's trust isn't always easy. But it can be done...with time. By showing the person you can be trusted e.g by keeping secrets, being honest and reliable etc you stand a good ... (read in full...)
Why did she start to show interest when I ignored her? Should I pursue her?
Q. Hi I am an individual who doesn't believe in mind games and find it a big turn off! I was chasing a girl and dated her for a while until suddenly she became distant. I thought maybe she's not interested so I confronted her. She didn't give me a...
A. 9 March 2014: Some girls like to play hard to get, others just like the attention but want nothing more. Certainly ask her out. If she says no, well you'll be able to move on and find someone who's straight forward and open with their feelings. No mind games. ... (read in full...)
I can only get turned on by my girlfriend?!
Q. Hi My problem isnt terrible but I'm worried about it Is it normal to only get turned on by my girlfriend? I can only Masterbate to her. If I watch porn it wouldn't do anything for me it's weird , it took me 2 years of convincng but got her to...
A. 9 March 2014: What a lucky woman she is! Everyone is different and gets turned on by different things. I find porn a turn on while someone I know finds porn a form of comedy. As long as your woman is doing it for you just enjoy it.... (read in full...)
Does he want me or not? Why stalk me but not speak to me?
Q. i had a relationship with a man that was at the point of engagement. while there were some communication issues to be worked out, he left the relationship before sorting anything. now that we are apart, he does not want to be together and won't ...
A. 24 February 2014: This is creepy. His behaviour is that of a stalker. You clearly like him but will need to actually have a conversation regarding your feelings towards each other. Is his behaviour scaring you genuinely? If so you'll need to involve the authorities. ... (read in full...)
What is left to do safely without getting HPV?
Q. I am a a 31 year old female recently divorced and now dating again. Recently I got out of an almost year long relationship with a man, and I now test positive for HPV after my Pap Smear. Here is the situation: We did everything right, we both ...
A. 24 February 2014: My advice is to speak to a doctor about this. No one here is medically qualified and any personal experiences anyone shares on the subject isn't going to accurate or necessarily right. Your health is important and you're right to have concerns and ... (read in full...)
Is it natural to have doubts after breaking up with someone?
Q. Me and my boyfriend of 2years have just broken up and I am obviously feeling very mixed and heartbraking emotions right now. I just feel better explaining on here and if anyone can give me any reassurance or advice it would be greatly appreciated. ...
A. 24 February 2014: Breaking up with someone is hard. Even if you ended the relationship. It's normal to have doubts about your decision. But it seems as if your relationship wasn't right for you for a long time. Do you think you can continue to be in a relationship ... (read in full...)
Broken up for 1.5 years yet still cry almost every day
Q. Has anyone else ever thought about something an ex did even though you've been broken up for a year and a half? The thing he did was two years ago. I don't want to say what it was. I cry nearly every day. My parents think I'm mentally ill as I ...
A. 24 February 2014: The end of a relationship is like a death. The grieving process is the same. How long it takes to get over someone is different for everyone. I'm wondering if there are maybe unresolved issues you have with your ex? It is possible that may be what's ... (read in full...)
I thought the date went well but I've been getting mixed signals since
Q. Hi I've been talking to this guy for over a month now, we have skyped a lot, I feel like we know each other very well, we have met up once it was very good, everything went so well, we tried to meet up again and he pulled out at the last minute, ...
A. 24 February 2014: I agree with Khurram. Take the bull by the horns and tell him you like him and would like to see things progress onto a second date. If he again brushes you off or give mixed signals, then you'll have to cut your losses and end things with him. ... (read in full...)
He lied, and his real age has freaked me out!
Q. Making this short because I just recently found out. I don't know how to tell any of my friends about this either but I've been dating this guy I work with for about 2 months and all this time I thought he was 25 because that's what he told me. He ...
A. 19 February 2014: Lying about ur age by a couple of years is ok. I've done it. I like to say I'm 27 or 28 rather than 30 which I will be this year. But 33 is a large age gap for a 19yr old. Whether u meet up with him is ur choice. He may have felt embarrassed about ... (read in full...)
I'm panicked about our age difference!
Q. Just need your opinions and advice. I met an older man online 2yrs ago and we've hit it off. I was not ready for a relationship at the time due to fear of being hurt again mainly but I'm over that now. I felt like I'd led him on but was honest about ...
A. 19 February 2014: Again thanks. Tisha-i, ur so right. I always wondered why he did'nt continue looking and dating elsewhere? I enjoyed the online fantasy relationship because it suited me better than a real one. I am NOT ready or in a place career wise, to date. I ... (read in full...)
I'm panicked about our age difference!
Q. Just need your opinions and advice. I met an older man online 2yrs ago and we've hit it off. I was not ready for a relationship at the time due to fear of being hurt again mainly but I'm over that now. I felt like I'd led him on but was honest about ...
A. 18 February 2014: Thanks you so much for ALL your responses. They have been helpful. I did tell him I could not have a r/ship with him and he was upset and devastated. I explained that the age gap IS too big and my career takes centre stage at the moment in my life. ... (read in full...)
Should I have talked to my Ex Husband?
Q. My ex husband and I have been separated for 3 and half years, due to his constant online cheating. After the split, things got ugly and he turned into a very ugly person, calling me names and threats, our kids dont talk to him. I saw him this wee...
A. 18 February 2014: Well done! You showed self respect. He hurt you and you did not allow for another opportunity for him to do so. Even a nasty comment from him would've stung but you did the wisest thing in such a situation...walk away.... (read in full...)
I'm panicked about our age difference!
Q. Just need your opinions and advice. I met an older man online 2yrs ago and we've hit it off. I was not ready for a relationship at the time due to fear of being hurt again mainly but I'm over that now. I felt like I'd led him on but was honest about ...
A. 18 February 2014: Just to update you all. I've finally met my gentleman friend and we hit it off. Sadly during our meeting, the age gap was very apparent. Listening to him talk about his career, travels etc I felt like I could not relate to that. My career is only ... (read in full...)
I'm panicked about our age difference!
Q. Just need your opinions and advice. I met an older man online 2yrs ago and we've hit it off. I was not ready for a relationship at the time due to fear of being hurt again mainly but I'm over that now. I felt like I'd led him on but was honest about ...
A. 12 February 2014: Again, thanks for your replies. Right now we have decided to take each day as it comes. We've had deep open conversations about our age gap, what people might think, marriage and children. So far we're on the same page. All we want for now is to ... (read in full...)
Big age difference. How should I approach him and ask where I stand in our relationship?
Q. Last year I started a part-time job at USPS as a material handler. I'm very timid, often at times people tend to think I'm a teenager and I just started dating a 51 year old guy who's worked for USPS for many years. He lives down the street from my ...
A. 12 February 2014: He may nor may not like you. Only he can tell you that. Ask him straight out how he feels. If he is interested, he'll tell you but if he blows hot and cold....be careful. Older men are no different to younger men when it comes to sex. Although ... (read in full...)
I'm panicked about our age difference!
Q. Just need your opinions and advice. I met an older man online 2yrs ago and we've hit it off. I was not ready for a relationship at the time due to fear of being hurt again mainly but I'm over that now. I felt like I'd led him on but was honest about ...
A. 11 February 2014: Hi guys, thanks for your replies. In relation to kids and married, he says he'd love to get married again and as he only has 2 kids so far,he'd like more. He says he does not mind about starting a new family and life (doing it all again) if it comes ... (read in full...)
We moved too fast -- is this saveable?
Q. Rewind to a year and a half ago. I met a really great man when I went out with a friend who was in town. I am a teacher and am in the process of adopting my foster daughter who I have had since birth. Before I met him, we were happy and I felt ...
A. 10 February 2014: No one can tell you 100% if it is saveable. It is possible is all I can say. Every relationship is different. You seem to have acknowledged that you moved to fast etc and that's great. If you do get back together you'll be able to learn from the... (read in full...)
I need help with my in-laws! I need a break!
Q. I'm feeling really mixed up right now. Please help. I've recently bought a house with my partner of 12 years. We're very happy together. I try to tell myself that his parents are good people. They've financially helped us buy the house and th...
A. 10 February 2014: They sound overbearing and I feel for you. If hubby is of no help with them, try another member or friend of the family and see if they'll have a chat with your in laws. This whole situation is going to break you and you won't be able to enjoy yo... (read in full...)
I'm wondering how or where a 47 year old women can find suitable men to date?
Q. Hi, I'm wondering how or where a 47 year old women can find suitable men to date? I've been alone for over 16 years - no dates, no sex, no prospects. When my children were younger, I used to go to the "weekend daddy" places -Chucky Cheese, ...
A. 10 February 2014: There is never a right place to meet someone...at any age. You could meet someone standing in line at the bank or in a shop. Some people have met in strange and unusual places...lol Opportunity is key. But lets try the obvious and most common p... (read in full...)
He's sweet and caring. He's also 17 years older than I…
Q. I'm about to introduce my family to a man I'd like to be with. He's sweet and caring. He's also 17 years older than I. My parents are liberal but I think even they'll balk at the age difference. I want my parents to accept him but I have no idea how ...
A. 10 February 2014: As a woman who likes dating older men, I can relate. People are prejudiced against age gap relationships but hell people are prejudiced about all sorts of stuff e.g race, religion, gay relationships. You're both adults so can do as you please. I... (read in full...)
Finally stood up to my mother after years of her belittling, but am worried I went too far!
Q. My mom is very controlling..and today, I finally stood up for myself. But i don't know if i took things too far. Over the years, she has constantly harassed me about my weight (always calling me fat, despite me being 5'9 and 160 lbs, and work ou...
A. 9 February 2014: You did not go to far. She needed to hear some home truths. Your culture may have something to do with her expectations but I doubt it. Regardless of what culture you're from, there is no excuse for belittling anyone. This is what you call emotional ... (read in full...)
Anyone else take this long to get pregnant?
Q. Hi Folks, Thank you for replies in advance. I am a 30 year old woman, I have been with my partner for 8 years and 7 or those 8 we have being trying for a baby. Every month is a disappointment, both of us have got tested and apparently health...
A. 13 November 2013: Every couple is different. There is no set time you should conceive by. However 7yrs is a long time. As long as you're fit and healthy there is a chance you will conceive. I've heard of couples having children long after they'd given up hope. I know ... (read in full...)
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