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Anyone else take this long to get pregnant?

Q.   Hi Folks, Thank you for replies in advance. I am a 30 year old woman, I have been with my partner for 8 years and 7 or those 8 we have being trying for a baby. Every month is a disappointment, both of us have got tested and apparently health...

A.   13 November 2013: Every couple is different. There is no set time you should conceive by. However 7yrs is a long time. As long as you're fit and healthy there is a chance you will conceive. I've heard of couples having children long after they'd given up hope. I know ... (read in full...)

All I want is someone to love me! I need some advice!

Q.   Here we go, I am going to try and do this without breaking down into tears . I have only been divorced since May of 2012 however my husband left in 2008 I met this man and started seeing him and at the time i didnt know he was married because he ...

A.   13 November 2013: You have answered your own question indirectly. You want to be happy and find love but your boyfriend treats you badly. Re read your post and see the negatives you've highlighted. There is your proof. Love has no age limit. Next year you might find ... (read in full...)

What's going on? From texting and calling everyday to nothing!

Q.   Hey,this is a question that gets asked often. I've been getting friendly with a man. We went on three dates, he called me after all three to tell me how much he enjoyed my company. The last time we went on a date, he called the next day and told ...

A.   13 November 2013: Sorry to say it but you've been 'dumped'. He is no longer interested and obviously cannot be bothered to tell you or end things like a decent person. This happened to me too and it was hurtful and confusing. It's easier for some people to break off ... (read in full...)

Breaking up and what am I entitled to?

Q.   Can anybody tell me if you have been living with your partner for 9 years and you decide to break up, would you be entitled to half or any of the property? I'm in this situation and I don't know much about legal stuff. The house is in his name b...

A.   13 November 2013: Legally you're not entitled to anything. Only married couples have rights and entitlements to things. You and your partner will have to sit down and decide who gets what. If things get difficult, you may need legal advice but there are no laws that ... (read in full...)

Best friend and I like the same man!

Q.   I'm having a major love crisis. One of my best friends likes a guy and she has liked him longer than I have. Apparently I like him to and he likes me back. I haven't told her yet and I have talked to other people I trust and I have gotten different ...

A.   4 November 2013: Don't let a guy come between you and your friend. You don't have to tell her he likes you just don't start anything romantic with him. Keep your distance from him and focus on your friendship. Is it worth losing a good friend...possibly, over this?... (read in full...)

He takes ages to reply to my messages!

Q.   I'm currently dating this guy and have been for a few months...we see each other only about twice a week as we both work full time. During the time we don't see each other we message. But my problem is that 80% of the time he won't respond to...

A.   4 November 2013: I know alot of people who do this. I do it too. Texting means nothing. Face to face conversation is best. Remember back in the day with no mobile phones? How did we cope then? We wrote letters, rang landlines and left messages there. Bottom line ... (read in full...)

My son has quit communicating....should I talk to him about this?

Q.   My son has been a relationship for about 2 months. He lives out of town and up until he started this relationship he called or texted me almost everyday, and came home to visit at least every 2 weeks. Now, I hardly hear from him, and when I do, I am ...

A.   2 November 2013: He may be so focused on his relationship that his friends and family are being pushed aside. Maybe not even intentionally. As long as you've not had a disagreement it's safe to say it's not because of you he's not making contact if at all. Next time ... (read in full...)

5 years of my life stolen by a lying cheat

Q.   My whole life has just fallen apart. I have been with my long term boyfriend for 5 years but things have only got really serious in the last 18 months, we have discussed marrige and he has been concidering moving in with me ...I have never met his ...

A.   29 October 2013: I'm sorry this has happened to you. It's understandable that you are hurt angry and struggling to make sense of it all. You don't want a man like him. Imagine being married to a man who lies, cheats and basically disrespects your marriage? His wife ... (read in full...)

What shall I do if my old manager gets this job?

Q.   Hi, Please help. About 8 years ago I left my job in a call centre because of my manager. She took an instant dislike to me and made my job miserable that I started getting panic attacks. I left there and started another job in another c...

A.   20 October 2013: I feel for you. Most of us have had bad experiences with people we work with and it's a traumatic thing having to deal with bullying and harrassment. Before getting worked up about your old manager possibly joing the call centre where you are now, ... (read in full...)

He didn't tell me at first that he had kids even though I specified I didn't want to date someone with kids. Now what?

Q.   Well I met my boyfriend online over a month ago. I specifically said I don't want someone with kids. I was seeing him for about 2 weeks when we decided to make it official then he told me he has 2 kids. I let it go because at the time I thought I ...

A.   27 July 2013: Alot of people won't date someone with kids and that's ok. Your boyfriend should have been honest with you though and told you he has kids. I'm guessing he really likes you but when you said you did'nt want a guy with kids, he may have felt it best ... (read in full...)

How can I stop my clingyness to a guy that is already involved? I am in love with him!

Q.   I'm hoping someone will help me I love this guy so much but unfortunately I've made the usual mistakes clingy too emotional etc Ok he's with a girl he's been with her 5 years We got close and kissed twice last year please don't judge he said afte...

A.   19 June 2013: You should'nt have to make anyone see how amazing you are, if they care about you, they'll know it. Sounds like this guy has issues and even though his girlfriend might be awful, he probably loves her. He might like you too but this whole situation ... (read in full...)

Why do I have to be his secret? He won't tell his family about me!

Q.   So my boyfriend is 25 years older than me, we've been together for 4 months, we're happy age is not a problem, my problem is the fact he won't tell his ex wife or his kids! When we started seein each other we always said my mum would be the problem ...

A.   17 June 2013: Having dated many much older men myself, I have a feeling you might be being used! Older men LOVE younger women and are only too happy to show their lover/girlfriend off. While dating older men is fantastic and fulfilling, as younger women we are ... (read in full...)

Should I down play myself? Are men intimidated by me?

Q.   So I am a 26 year old female living in the Midwest. I have been single for about a year. I am putting myself out there, going on dates regularly and even do online dating....but still no luck. It seems the guys that like me, I don't like...and the ...

A.   6 June 2013: You can down play yourself yes, but don't keep the positives hidden e.g you're independent etc It depends on the guys you're attracting and vice versa. E.g if a successful businessman came across you, he'd be more than happy. Why? You're unlikely to ... (read in full...)

Is it a bad thing to want to make my boyfriend jealous?

Q.   Hey everyone, I'm dating this guy for a month now, and I know I shouldn't be playing games but I like to make him jealouss with other men,like I make sure he knows of the men that flirt with me,or the men that have asked me out and I said no cuz I...

A.   6 June 2013: What you may succeed in doing is ruining such a new relationship as well as making him think you have loose morals or can't be trusted. You don't need to make him aware how lucky he is to be with you. He chose to date you did'nt he? So he's probably ... (read in full...)

Sexting gone wrong

Q.   I am a college student and fairly religious so I understand this post will sound really bad of me. I'm also a virgin because I'm waiting to share that with the right guy. After a bad breakup with my most recent boyfriend, I met a guy at a party and ...

A.   6 June 2013: Just because you're a virgin, doesn't mean you won't have sexual urges. I'm guessing this guy brings out the sexual side of you and if you're honest with yourself, you enjoy it. It's ok to have fantasies and not live them out. Lots of people h... (read in full...)

My muslim boyfriend's family have picked out a girl for him, they don't know about me. Will he man up?

Q.   I am a female British white person i been with my Muslim boyfriend for 3 years. i very friendly with his auntie and uncle who he lives with. He loves me and i love him however things have come ahead and apparently they don't know that we are seeing ...

A.   4 June 2013: Interacial relationships and relationships involving other religions/cultures can be complicated. It's best to be open and up front from the outset about where the relationship might go e.g marriage. You say he told you he wouldn't marry you or g... (read in full...)

Do some guys not like well-educated girls?

Q.   I'm currently at quite a good university studying a rigorous subject, and as I don't know any guys from my uni I'd really like to go out with I've started dating those from outside uni. I don't make a big deal out of my education, or like to argue...

A.   4 June 2013: There's nothing wrong with being ambitious and educated. Some men do find this intimidating whilst others don't. There are ambitious people who'd feel comfortable in your company and not so ambitious people who'd feel inadequate or maybe not care. ... (read in full...)

How do I negotiate dating a soon to be divorced man with a child?

Q.   I started seeing a guy. It started out as a hook up ad we started meeting regularly for BDSM type nights. I'm quite a bit younger than he is and he is in the middle of negotiating a divorce with a young child. I met her a few weeks ago and have seen ...

A.   2 June 2013: Looks like he wants more e.g introducing you to friends and wanting you to meet his daughter. What do YOU want from this? If it's a proper relationship, then his daughter is part of the package. By taking him on you'll be taking her on too. With... (read in full...)

Desperate to get help for my son who hates me

Q.   HI Cupid friends and aunts/uncles I don't know what else to do I am so afraid for my son because of his behaviour towards me and his life in general. I have seeked help with councilors, social services, the police just about everyone, and it...

A.   30 May 2013: I've done some further research and your son may be suffering from anti social personality disorder. Your sons' behaviour rang bells. Like I said before, google this disorder and do some research. Put this info together and present it to the courts. ... (read in full...)

Desperate to get help for my son who hates me

Q.   HI Cupid friends and aunts/uncles I don't know what else to do I am so afraid for my son because of his behaviour towards me and his life in general. I have seeked help with councilors, social services, the police just about everyone, and it...

A.   30 May 2013: Sounds like your son might have an anti social behaviour disorder. People who behave this way are normally dismissed as being trouble makers, thugs etc But this is an actual problem that may have biological causes as well as mental. I'd push for ... (read in full...)

Could I be putting myself in danger by allowing my Ex back in my new life?

Q.   Dear Cupid,I have been single for ten years now and I want to be back with my ex he is my daughter father I moved to another state to get my life together I stopped drinking and getting high( pot) .Now that we are going older the children are grown ...

A.   30 May 2013: It is would be a risk if he hasn't conquered his demons. As you have it's best to avoid any situation where you might fall back into old ways. It could happen. Say for example a friend of yours who did drugs and alcohol or had not fully recovered ... (read in full...)

My parents doubt and don't seem to believe in me

Q.   Hello everyone, i hope someone out there can give me some help on a pretty personal issue. I am a 22 year old girl who lives with her parents. I attended University for 3 years and lived away for that amount of time and changed into a wonderfu...

A.   30 May 2013: I think your parents might be worried for you rather than doubtful of your capabilities. Believe it or not, parents will worry about their kids even when their kids are adults. It seems being away from home opened your eyes to a whole new world and ... (read in full...)

I'm afraid its going to come down to my g/f choosing either me or her mom. Do I walk away now?

Q.   I've been with my girlfriend for about seven months now. We have a very healthy and happy relationship. Recently, though, I've come across a bit of an internal dilemma. She has never been in a relationship with a woman before until me. I thou...

A.   29 May 2013: If your girlfriend is gay then she'll always be. Whether it's you she's with or someone else, male or female, she's gay. Her mother will find out eventually or she'll tell her. I'd advise you give your girlfriend a chance and talk to her about your ... (read in full...)

Don't want to date this guy, but I still want us to be friends.

Q.   Hello everyone, My situation I am in a bit of a pickle. I went on a nice date with this guy and a movie, but I don't want to date. This guy I met in my town just started talking to me and having conversation with me. And we chatted, and he ...

A.   29 May 2013: This isn't easy especially as he seems to like you. But you have to be honest with him. As for remaining or becoming friends....that'll be down to how reacts to when you tell him that romantically, there's nothing there. I'd advise against keeping ... (read in full...)

Cross dressing boyfriend...help!!!

Q.   I was with my boyfriend for 4 1/2 years and about 1 yr ago I found erotic pictures of him on the computer cross dressed. I was so upset and freaked out! He said he didn't need to do it. Well, I kept finding new clothing. When he started ...

A.   29 May 2013: Cross dressing is a fetish as well as a fantasy life for someone people. It isn't unusual to come across cross dressers but it can freak people out like it did you. You shouldn't have found out the way you did though. Your boyfriend may just enjoy ... (read in full...)

I've fallen for him but he's said he wants to remain single, I don't think he knows my feelings about having children. What do I do?

Q.   I've been friends with a widower for about 3 years, before he became a widower actually. His wife passed away very suddenly about 2 years ago, they were very close. We started off as just friends, I was trying to re-engage him, his health was poor ...

A.   29 May 2013: He may or may not need more time. Only he knows. It's possible he's still grieving his late wife. All of us deal with death differently and he may not even be in the frame of mind to even consider having a relationship. E.g after a relationship... (read in full...)

Is it even worth it to have my mother in my life?

Q.   I'm at breaking point in my relationship with my mother. We've never had the best of relationships anyway but I'm seriously considering cutting her out of my life. My mother has never liked or loved me as a person. I certainly have never felt it or ...

A.   28 May 2013: Abella, your advice was by far the best and made sense. The others advice was good too so thanks to the other answerers. But Abella, it was like you could read my emotions and mind and did not make me feel worse. You're right about one thing, she ... (read in full...)

Is it even worth it to have my mother in my life?

Q.   I'm at breaking point in my relationship with my mother. We've never had the best of relationships anyway but I'm seriously considering cutting her out of my life. My mother has never liked or loved me as a person. I certainly have never felt it or ...

A.   28 May 2013: Just some extra info, I don't want a relationship with my mother. So no building bridges or trying to resolve issues. I just want to know how I can live happily and have a cordial 'relationship' with her for the sake of those around us and my ... (read in full...)

Our marriage has went downhill since I've been pregnant. He just doesn't seem to care how I feel!

Q.   I've written about this topic before, and every time I try other's advice, it just goes no where, and I'm not sure what to do. I'm now 8 months pregnant (fit and all belly). Since I started showing, my sex life has dwindled. It's pretty much beco...

A.   16 May 2013: Pregnancy is meant to be a joyful time for both parents. As women pregnancy can either be pleasant or miserable, depending on the woman. A new addition to a family e.g a baby does mean an extra financial worry. Raising a child is not cheap so for ... (read in full...)

How to forget him and go back to how I was before all this?

Q.   Hi there Just wanted some advise really. I'm married and have been for 20 years. Feeling very taken for granted by husband which is normal I suppose. I know he loves me but we've had serious trust issues over the years. He's broken my trust over th...

A.   16 May 2013: I've never been married but do know people who've been married as long as you have. 20yrs is a looong time. You've had issues in your marriage but admit to still loving you're husband. That's a good thing. This guy is with someone too and affairs ... (read in full...)

I don't like being called a bitch! Do I try harder to be friendlier to my boyfriend's mates?

Q.   I think I'm over reacting but I thought I would ask anyways. I've always been an emotional person and I get my feelings hurt easily. A friend of my boyfriend has really hurt my feelings twice now. The first time was he called me an 'effing bitch...

A.   16 May 2013: He sounds like an nasty person. We all have opinions about other people but him calling you the B word is unacceptable! Twice is so wrong. I'd talk to your boyfriend and make it clear how hurtful his friends' comments are. You're right to be upset. ... (read in full...)

Why can't a man want to be with me for other than just sex?

Q.   hey guyz i like this guy so much he doesnt know and i was happy because i saw the way he looked at me and thought the feeling is mutual until today i got shocked and dissapointed realising that he has a girlfriend i saw them and he introduced her to ...

A.   15 May 2013: Well done for sticking by what you believe in and want. You sound like a girl with lots of self respect. Don't ever change. Why do you attract guys that are only after sex? I honestly don't know. Attraction is not easy to explain or understand ... (read in full...)

My confidence has dropped sharply after constantly being rejected. What's wrong with me? What should I do?

Q.   I feel like girls don't like me, because I'm a nice guy. Lately I've thought about it, and some people have told me that I'm way too nice. I'm the romantic type that thinks out dates, and plans cute stuff for anniversaries, and basically does sup...

A.   9 May 2013: You're suffering from rejection sensitivity which is a psychologist's term. I'm training to be one so can explain abit more. After we've been rejected many times, we become sensitive and even the slightest rejection or perceived rejection, will ... (read in full...)

I never get the right guys to date me!

Q.   Hi I'm a 27 year old lady and I need help, I have never been in a decent relationship like other people. Whenever I am involved with someone it does not last and it ends up shattering my confidence. I always feel like guys persue me just to sleep...

A.   9 May 2013: Hi, sounds like an awful place to be romantically. What I'm guessing is, you have a type of guy you want e.g someone on your level and lifestyle. However you attract the wrong ones e.g foreigners or low class people. What we look for in a partner ... (read in full...)

I really don't know how to approach my crush

Q.   Hey there, Basically I am really confused and do not know what to do. I'll give you the basics. Im an 18 year old girl, and i have been going out with my boyfriend for 2 years. I love him to bits, he is the kindest and most sweetest person ...

A.   9 May 2013: If your crush was male, would you want to get to know him like you do this girl? Would your boyfriend approve? Whether your crush is male or female, is irrelevant however you're fixated with someone else. That's not good. Some people are curious ... (read in full...)

I'm scared of having sex because I can't stand pain!

Q.   i hv been in a relationship up to a year and nw my patner is suggesting we should hv sex and meanwhile am still a virgin. Am afraid it might be hurt like hell becaus i hv never had that kind of experience before in my entire life...

A.   9 May 2013: First of all make sure this is what you want to do and the right time. Not when your boyfriend says it is. If you're ready then don't be afraid to llet him know your concerns. Depending on the type of guy he is, he'll do whatever he needs to to ... (read in full...)

Did my friends just get tired of me?

Q.   Has anybody here been through a situation where you've lost your friends or your friends have turned on you and aren't your friends anymore? Over the last couple of months all of my friends started hanging out with another group of people and I ...

A.   9 May 2013: You're telling a story similar to mine. Only difference is you have friends where as I can't seem to keep any after making them easily. What I do know is that friends grow apart. But there's no excuse for ignoring someone or shutting them out e.g ... (read in full...)

Do I have any rights at work? They keep putting me on nights!

Q.   im working in an arcade, its a temp job and im on a zero hour contract but they been giving me at least 30 hrs a week. they said when i went for the job i be on days and up to 8pm sometimes which is fine but lately i been having to work nites which ...

A.   8 May 2013: Have you tried citizens advice bureaux? They should be able to help. Look for their number in the yellow pages where you'll find lots of useful helplines you can try too. Also try the job centre/Dwp. Even if you're not claiming benefits, they can ... (read in full...)

He stopped texting me after we've been seeing each other nonstop for the past 2 months.

Q.   This guy I've been seriously dating for the past 2 months suddenly stopped responding to my texts. Before I start ranting about my situation, let me preface this with his history of relationships. He just recently got out of a long term ...

A.   8 May 2013:  You're moving away so it's safe to say he's probably not taken it well hence is bad behaviour, no txts etc you seem to know what you want in a relationship and see this guy for what he is. But you conflict the positives with hopes of a happy endi... (read in full...)

Geting Old and really Confused

Q.   I'm in agony. I was involved with a guy and we had sex twice and after that he started being distant and avoiding me, so as time went I tried to let go and forget about him, which was really hard for me to do. When we started dating he told m...

A.   8 May 2013: What do YOU want from the relationship? Is it casual sex you're looking for or a serious relationship? To be honest, he's using you. He's not over his ex but seeks affection and sex from you, this makes you a rebound girl nothing more. My advice ... (read in full...)

Do I have any rights at work? They keep putting me on nights!

Q.   im working in an arcade, its a temp job and im on a zero hour contract but they been giving me at least 30 hrs a week. they said when i went for the job i be on days and up to 8pm sometimes which is fine but lately i been having to work nites which ...

A.   7 May 2013: I don't know the set up you have at work e.g are there union reps or workers representatives? It's worth speaking to someone neutral at work and that you trust about this. Once you have facts and more info, you can approach a manager about shifts. ... (read in full...)

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