Is it wrong for your bf to take his daughter to a party you were invited to?
Q. Is it wrong for your bf to take his daughter to a party you were invited to? This is how it started. I asked my bf to go to a Billy Joel concert with me, but he didn't seem to interested as his ski trip was in the same month and as of yet did not ...
A. 7 April 2015: There seems to be a lack of communication. Yes, you and him talk but never make clear sense of what's going on with each other. This is not your fault at all. However communication is important in a relationship. Sometimes misunderstanding... (read in full...)
Could my actions towards this student be mis-construed? Do my actions constitute me ''leading this student on''?
Q. I am a senior lecturer in a university. I have never though of myself as good looking or anything special. I think I am good at my job, however I will let the reader judge. Recently, one of my students told me she liked me. She is beautiful, alway...
A. 2 April 2015: It is not against the law to date a student at Uni. It is however unprofessional and you're right to have stopped anything from happening. Student-Lecturer crushes do happen. I have alot of attractive male lectures that I fancy and some of my male ... (read in full...)
How do I stop feeling like a loser for going to uni late?
Q. I started at 17 (I'm Scottish) but faced some problems due to being young (hallmates didn't want to be friends with someone who couldn't go out etc.) and after a few years ended leaving my course as I was really depressed (family issues too) and my ...
A. 1 April 2015: I went to Uni at 27. So I was a mature student too. There is no shame in starting late. Mate, some people NEVER get to go to uni! So you going to uni is amazing at any age! Learning never ends. There is no age limit. I have a 50yr old gentleman on... (read in full...)
She was insistent on including her daughters in our invitation to her and then she was a no-show! I wasted £300 on all 4 of them!
Q. I got married over a month ago and I invited a friend of mine - we used to work together and became really good friends so I invited both her and husband to my wedding for the entire day. When my friend received her invite she called to as...
A. 1 April 2015: Congratulations on your wedding!!!! You're right to be angry. Sounds like selfishness on her part and unreliability. Some friend she is. How could she forget to contact you? It was your wedding day unless she forgot about that too. Is she a... (read in full...)
I'm confused about his motivations, if in fact he has any!
Q. I'm feeling a bit confused over how I feel about a guy and more importantly whether or not he likes me. The guy in question is my tennis coach and he's pretty good looking and we get on extremely well. I have lessons with him on my own and also ...
A. 31 March 2015: He might like you or may be seeking business. He gets paid to teach tennis and maybe offers private lessons too. Could be purely business.
Even if he did like you, you say he has a girlfriend. If so then nothing can happen between you. Unless h... (read in full...)
Toxic work place? Co-workers underminging me. How can I face them on Monday? How should I behave?
Q. I'd really like some advice. I work with a lady called “X” who i thought i got on well with. We text each other outside of work and i've given her a lift home etc She's older than me so i sort of looked to her as a mother figure in a way. ...
A. 30 March 2015: I'm glad you got through today. I'd suggest you keep a diary of any interactions you have with these two from now onwards. Names, dates, times etc If lies are being told about you and it's becoming your word against theirs etc Be careful! Cove... (read in full...)
Am I doing something wrong in this relationship or is she just "over" me?
Q. Well, I met this woman about a week ago at a friends party. We have been sending messages over email this week. I have told her a lot about things I am doing and she responded. I actually said I was sorry for sending a long message and that...
A. 28 March 2015: If she's responding to you then she likes you. Maybe as a friend maybe more. If I did'nt like someone, I would spend time communicating with them and making an effort to speak to them. Or even offer them my contact details. It could be she's b... (read in full...)
How do I actually meet girls?
Q. Hey everyone, I have something very cliche to ask. I'm 20 years old and for the first time in my life I really am interested in girls and I wanted to start dating. Problem is most people by this age already had that eureka moment, so I have no idea ...
A. 28 March 2015: Let things happen naturally. There are no written rules for what you should and should'nt do when it comes to dating. By all means look on the internet at stories and articles giving advice on dating etc Read books, magazines and watch dating shows ... (read in full...)
Toxic work place? Co-workers underminging me. How can I face them on Monday? How should I behave?
Q. I'd really like some advice. I work with a lady called “X” who i thought i got on well with. We text each other outside of work and i've given her a lift home etc She's older than me so i sort of looked to her as a mother figure in a way. ...
A. 28 March 2015: If you can't avoid them then be polite, stick to neutral topics like weather, music, X factor etc Just be careful around them. You don't know what they'll do next. ... (read in full...)
Toxic work place? Co-workers underminging me. How can I face them on Monday? How should I behave?
Q. I'd really like some advice. I work with a lady called “X” who i thought i got on well with. We text each other outside of work and i've given her a lift home etc She's older than me so i sort of looked to her as a mother figure in a way. ...
A. 28 March 2015: These two women are trouble. I'm glad you found that out and can now handle them carefully. Yes, carefully because with these two, who knows what else will happen. They seem hell bent on making trouble for you.
I used to work with 2 girls my own a... (read in full...)
So confused. Can you help clarify what to do? my rebound Gf has been very good to me. My ex wants me back
Q. I've gotten myself into a horrible bind. The love of my life and I split up in November. While on the rebound, I made a poor, quick decision to jump into another relationship while I was still hurting over my ex. I wound up really enjoying ...
A. 27 March 2015: Either way someone is going to get hurt. There is no easy way to deal with this. If your ex is back on the scene and you want to make a go of things with her, then good luck. I hope it works out for you both.
Your current g/friend is a rebound ... (read in full...)
Is it worth it for me to ask out my co-worker? And is it even likely she'd agree to go out with me?
Q. For the past couple of weeks (probably 8) I've been talking to a cute coworker who sits on the other side of the building where I work at. I usually pass by there and whenever she gives an inviting hello or I have something interesting to talk ...
A. 25 March 2015: Work romances do happen and can work out. I know alot of people who met at work and went on to get married. There are things to consider first before embarking on an office romance. There are:
*Do your bosses allow romances at work? You would'nt... (read in full...)
I found a box of condoms in his place!
Q. Hello everyone, I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half now, rough patch but we get through it all. i have keys to his place, and yesterday I dont know why I snooped around. In one drawer iour bedroom, I saw a box of condoms. We dont...
A. 25 March 2015: It could be an old box from way back when or a recent box. Maybe he keeps condoms handy just in case you want to use them. No harm in being prepared.
Has he said or done anything to make you think he's cheating or is going to? I know seeing t... (read in full...)
I found a box of condoms in his place!
Q. Hello everyone, I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half now, rough patch but we get through it all. i have keys to his place, and yesterday I dont know why I snooped around. In one drawer iour bedroom, I saw a box of condoms. We dont...
A. 25 March 2015: It could be an old box from way back when or a recent box. Maybe he keeps condoms handy just in case you want to use them. No harm in being prepared.
Has he said or done anything to make you think he's cheating or is going to? I know seeing t... (read in full...)
Considering seeing a therapist. How do I find one to address my concerns?
Q. I'm 29 and have never had a girlfriend. I have dated some, but they've been few and far between for the most part. While I have a great, supportive family, hobbies to occupy my spare time, and a few close friends that I like spending time with, I ...
A. 25 March 2015: As i'm studying Psychology, I can tell you therapists (who are psychologists) deal with a wide range of issues, and relationship therapists don't specialise in couples only. They deal with singles too.
Firstly have a good think about what you want... (read in full...)
How is a woman honestly supposed to deal with getting older when men so obviously prefer younger women?
Q. My question will probably seem very silly here to many of the young ones or men but to women in my age group perhaps they will understand what I'm saying. How is a woman honestly supposed to deal with getting older when men so obviously prefer y...
A. 25 March 2015: I know a woman who's husband left her for an older woman. So older ladies are'nt losers when it comes to dating. But not all older men like younger women. Yes, visually younger woman are appealing but not all younger women like older men either.
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He's 25 and he's interested in me and I'm 47. My son, 27, is not happy about it. Should I try to deal with my sons concerns first?
Q. My boyfriend is 25 and im 47. my son is 27, I initially could not believe a guy younger than my son would be interested in me... but I have looked after my figure. We have a mind blowing relationship and both his and my parents have no problems... ...
A. 24 March 2015: I have to disagree with those who say age gap relationships don't work! I only date men older and the r.ship dynamics have nothing to do with age but personality and life experience. Some older men I've dated have been immature and dependent on me ... (read in full...)
He's 25 and he's interested in me and I'm 47. My son, 27, is not happy about it. Should I try to deal with my sons concerns first?
Q. My boyfriend is 25 and im 47. my son is 27, I initially could not believe a guy younger than my son would be interested in me... but I have looked after my figure. We have a mind blowing relationship and both his and my parents have no problems... ...
A. 24 March 2015: I recently met someone your age hun and like you he has adult kids. His daughter is 27 and son 25. He is a very attractive man and has also looked after himself well. Sexy physique, full head of hair, all his teeth...lol He looks like a 35yr old ... (read in full...)
He never tells me he loves me! What do I do?
Q. Hi, I've been in a relationship with my parter for the last four years, we have a 7 month old son together. there is an age gap he's 45 and I'm 24. I love him so much but I doubt if he feels the same as he never tells me. I don't think he fancy's ...
A. 23 March 2015: Firstly work on your confidence. I'm not a mother but have female friends who felt unsexy after having a baby mostly because they were tired and their figures had changed during pregnancy. It's wonderful when a partner tells you they love you but ... (read in full...)
He flirts with me and he's younger than I thought. Do I act on my feelings or forget him?
Q. Theres a bar i go in and each time ive gone theres a young guy who works there always chats to us, this week he had more time to chat and got quite flirty. He told me how old he was i was shocked he was as young as he was id like something to happen ...
A. 23 March 2015: As long as he's 16 and over...lol I say that because you did'nt mention roughly how old he might be. i'm around your age hun and have younger men chatting me up all the time. We're not too old or too young at the moment so younger guys are ... (read in full...)
What do I wear on my first date? What do I say?
Q. Hi I need help because I'm going on a first date and I'm really nervous don't know what to say or were I don't want to embarrass my self in front of him...
A. 23 March 2015: It depends on whee you're going. E.g if you're going bowling then jeans and nice top and jacket would be a good option. If it's to somewhere fancy e.g for a meal somewhere nice, a smart dress would be good. Also first dates are the time when you'll ... (read in full...)
Ridiculed for being single
Q. I am a 24 year old student in college who has never had a boyfriend or been kissed. it really hasn't bothered me, besides my friends bringing it up or other people asking me how come I am single, but recently my family has been picking on me as ...
A. 22 March 2015: Try your best to ignore the pressure because it will get you down. I say this from experience. I was always given a hard time mostly by 'friends' and workmates, for being single. Once when I was 22, a work colleague said to me "Looks as if we'll ... (read in full...)
I have problems with insecurity and panic if he doesn't text me back sometimes!
Q. Hi, I have posted on here in the past and got some helpful answers, so here goes! I met a guy about 6 years ago and we kept in touch (long distance I am in the UK and he is in Italy). We always had a connection. Recently we met up again as ...
A. 21 March 2015: I doubt you're immature but sometimes we all reach a point where we need help. CBT is amazing. I had it myself. I used to give 100% to friendships and relationships and come out with nothing and get hurt badly. I used to over-react to silly things ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be so afraid to think about remarriage after divorce? Will my ex control things still?
Q. I got divorce last year and seperated for 2.5 years before that. I was searching online as no one from my family or friends are divorced. I wanted to see how the second marriage works when you have a child, my daughter is 8 years old. What I le...
A. 21 March 2015: Everyone's life is different. Some divorces end well and both partners move on no problem, sometimes it's rough riding e.g partners hating each other, playing tug of war with the kids or fighting over who gets what.
Some people go on and just dat... (read in full...)
I have problems with insecurity and panic if he doesn't text me back sometimes!
Q. Hi, I have posted on here in the past and got some helpful answers, so here goes! I met a guy about 6 years ago and we kept in touch (long distance I am in the UK and he is in Italy). We always had a connection. Recently we met up again as ...
A. 21 March 2015: I have had insecurities similar to yours. We all do sometimes. However if you feel they are consuming you, then there's a problem. You don't want to feel this way all the time if at all.
There is a term in Psychology called 'Rejection Sensitiv... (read in full...)
Is it too late to restart my life at 35?
Q. Do you think that at 34 (35 in 2 months) its too late to restart your life? I am living in a country that is not mine... With a man that I no longer love and can't stand him touching me... in a job that sucks... I just have this need to pack and...
A. 20 March 2015: I'm 30 and feel more confident than I did when I was 21. Your mid 30's is not too late. It's scary at any age when you go through changes in your life. We all go through changes. It's called fear of the unknown. Job security is everything. As l... (read in full...)
Should I push this matter to be handled further or let it go since its my last day?
Q. Hi all, Some advice would be great. I've recently qualified as a nurse and have been working 8 weeks at a time in various areas as part of a scheme before I choose the area I enjoyed to take a permanent role. I started a new area 8 weeks ago n...
A. 20 March 2015: I feel for you! This woman is a b*tch! In fact no she's a psycho! Good on you for standing up for yourself and well done for becoming a nurse. You're young yes, but sounds like you have a wise head on your shoulders. You live and learn I say. Whe... (read in full...)
My new gf's daughter flirts with me
Q. I recently started dating a really great 49 year old woman who has been divorced a long time. Things have been going so well that I spend a lot of nights at her house. She has a 19 year old (almost 20) daughter who goes to college and lives at ...
A. 20 March 2015: Firstly you're not not a paedophile. Far from it. This girl is of legal age. You're obviously not attracted to her and she makes you uncomfortable. It's good for a mother and daughter to have a close r/ship but you have to draw a line somewhere. ... (read in full...)
How can I get over my strong aversion to having my photo taken?
Q. I dread having my picture taken. When someone pulls out a camera, I usually try to get out of having my picture taken. It's because while at first I sometimes like my pictures, but I'll just sit and stare, and start finding all sorts of little t...
A. 20 March 2015: The camera does'nt love all of us. I'm like you. I hate having my photo taken but will grin (literally) and bear it for family photos etc So you're not alone on this one. There are some people who look attractive in person but awful in a photo and ... (read in full...)
Repressed memories of abuse are coming back to me, and now I don't want my mother in my childs life
Q. When I lived at home, my mother and I were at loggerheads. She and I never got on. I was a hard teenager to deal with in fairness, my attitude was terrible, although I never did anything really bad. One time, when my mother was giving me a ...
A. 20 March 2015: You and your mother have a lot of water under the bridge i.e a lot of bad memories about you and her. Also there seems to be unresolved feelings between you. Hurt, anger betrayal etc You are right to feel uneasy having her around your child. But ... (read in full...)
How do I manage their conflicting expectations?
Q. I have been married for a year and I am still in school. My mother is still paying for my tuition and not my husband. My mother does not want me to get pregnant because she wants me to graduate then work to build my future so I can be comfortable. ...
A. 20 March 2015: Your mother is in charge....for now. As she is paying your tuition fees etc she's right to ask you not to have a baby and focus on your career. So for now live by her rules. Your husband needs to as well. It's not forever just for the time being. Be ... (read in full...)
How can I tell my mother in law that I am not ready to forgive her behaviour?
Q. Hey everyone. Back in December, i wrote on here for advice on dealing with my insensitive, mother in law. Basically, she said some really cruel things to me regarding me infertility struggle. She told me to "hurry the f@*k up to have a baby because ...
A. 20 March 2015: Is she dying? You say she mentioned she has a year to live. This may explain her behaviour. I'm not making excuses but knowing she is dying must be traumatic for her. Some people feel they need to end on good terms with everyone whilst others l... (read in full...)
I've been seeing him for six months but he won't show me his home
Q. I meet a guy for the past six month now,he's an engineer,and and i'm begining to fall in love with him,but the problem is i don't know his house,we stay 2geda in hotel sometimes,and i have asked him several times his house,but he kept on telling ...
A. 19 February 2015: He should have showed you his home by now. I'd be worried he has a wife or maybe lives in an ugly or dirty house. Maybe he's embarrassed to show you his home. Some men don't know how to cook and clean for themselves so maybe his house is dirty. ... (read in full...)
Do I answer her or not? She messages me, I ignore her. She keeps messaging. How to get her to stop?
Q. Do I answer to this girl or not. We were family friends and became closer two years ago and at first she thought I was a player but as we got closer realized that I was far from it. I was trying to go from a "nice guy" to a jerk and she told me not ...
A. 19 February 2015: What do you want? Ask yourself that. Once you know exactly what it is, then do it.
Your questions is confusing. Do you or don't you want this girl? Does she want you? You're both young and have lots os time to have r/ships and friendships that wil... (read in full...)
Need help to move past then when I see the OW all the time
Q. My husband told me that he had cheated on me I have decided to stay and see if we can make it work. We have been together for 10yrs and have 3 children hence why I am trying to move on. He has done everything I have asked ie deleted her number, ...
A. 19 February 2015: Of course it'll hurt when you see the OW. Your husband cheated on you with her and it hurts. Time is a great healer and gradually, once you come to terms with what's happened, you'll find it easier to see her. It's a shame she can't move away ... (read in full...)
Can age gaps work?
Q. Hi, why do I always fall for older men! I have had 2 serious relationships one when I was 19 and he was 38. Then I met my daughter's father (48) when I was 22 which ended badly. I swore after that I had to stick to men around my own age, more in ...
A. 7 February 2015: I like older men too! I've dated quite a few and they've treated me much better than guys my own age. My mum always tells me to find someone my own age and people are always concerned if not disgusted that I like older men. Because of my ... (read in full...)
My husband had the following conversation with the woman he slept with behind my back. Please tell me what you think of it
Q. I'm writing this post because i found something which has concerned me a bit. I have been married for a little over a year and things have been going fine, at least, i thought so. Before we got married my husband slept with another woman be...
A. 17 December 2014: I'd be concerned as to why he's meeting up with her? He's married now and she's in a r/ship. They dated in the past and her b/f is ok with her having/meeting friends. But does he know this friend of hers is an ex b/f? Mmmm... I don't think your... (read in full...)
Why is my married coworker so hot and cold with me?
Q. After 8 months, I finally returned to the place I used to work. The last time I was there, I became good friends with a man, let's call him Mike. Mike pretty much taught me everything I knew when I first started the job. He is about 10 years older ...
A. 31 August 2014: I can give you advice based on my own experience. I met an older married man recently who I was attracted to and he seemed to like me too romantically. The way he was with me was not the way a married man would behave. All of us enjoy flirting and ... (read in full...)
If he's married then obviously it's a disaster waiting to happen
Q. Ok. Long story short, someone tried to break into my house but did'nt manage to do so. I was'nt home at the time but found my front door broken when I came home. I went to the police station to report what happened. While I was there, I was ...
A. 22 June 2014: Thanks for the responses so far. To give a little more info. Because of the failed break in, I was a really upset and felt the need to express my distress to him immediately when he was interviewing me. I am a talkative person anyway and was trying ... (read in full...)
My ex might want contact with his son
Q. I may be over reacting and thinking of the worst possible case but I was recently told my ex has been speaking to someone about gaining access to our son, and although he never has in the five years since I gave birth, I have also never heard any ...
A. 21 May 2014: You are going to have a battle on your hands. Under UK law, even if you're not married, he STILL has rights over his child. Not the same as a married parent but 'some' rights. Even if you did not put his name on the birth certificate, he can demand ... (read in full...)
Should I reach out to this guy?
Q. So I met a guy on a dating site a few weeks ago. He messaged me first and we talked for a little bit. Turns out, we have a lot in common and he is honestly what I am looking for in a man- good looking, smart, successful, down to earth, athletic, ...
A. 18 April 2014: You have'nt met yet so don't build your hopes up in case he is not what you want in real life. Meet him first and decide then if he IS really the man for you. You have to bear in mind with online dating too that you're probably not the only woman he ... (read in full...)
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