I really like her a lot but her horrible vaginal odor is putting me off! How do I tell her?
Q. For months i had lusted after this lady i ran into at a friend's party. She is tall, beautiful and a succesful professional. She lives in her own home with her son, so it was convenient to visit her. After weeks of heavy dating, she finally allowed ...
A. 25 August 2006: Does it smell of wet fish?
If so, it is because she is 'clean' and an infection women often get from washing too much!
It is called bacterial vaginosis and is a watery discharge, sometimes accompanied by a bit if irritation. It is easily cleare... (read in full...)
When I have sex I bleed! Why?
Q. have met somone new! when we have sex i bleed! Why?...
A. 25 August 2006: I don't wish to scare you inappropriately but you haven't said much to go on. Possibilities that spring to mind are: 1. Chlamydia is a sexually transmitted disease that you can catch from sex just once with a person who has it. One of the symptoms ... (read in full...)
He only sees our relationship as friends, as he says he doesnt have luck with the girls!
Q. hi my name is lilly i meet a young man a year ago ,when we just started seeing each other ,he told me he doesn't have luck with girl and he does want to put a label on me ,so as of now i am still his friend . I loved him alot ,it hurts me mor...
A. 25 August 2006: I love a guy who thinks he cannot attract women and he is just suspicious women want him for financial reasons. I think the sex thing was a mistake and you should make it clear that if he wants 'friends' then that is what he gets ..full stop. He ... (read in full...)
Is this really the end of our 8 year relationship? (long post)
Q. OK, I'm a 26-year-old man, who is somewhat successful and very educated, not that that means anything. Well, i need a someone's perspective male or female on my situation and i pray you can help me get back the love of my life. I'll try and make ...
A. 25 August 2006: It sounds familiar in many ways and although everyone's experience is individual, there is no crystal ball to either tell you the outcome, or the right decision. All you can do is accept her decision as the party to make the move and respect it.
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Hard to deal with my dad passing when I was 5, I resent mum because of it...
Q. when i was young (5, im now nearly 15) my dad died, and i cant say ive had an easy life since. But sometimes i resent my Mum and even hate her, because she was left behind and not him. I know thats a horrible thing but im so mad i never knew him and ...
A. 23 August 2006: You are obviously aware that your feelings toward your mum is not rational, yet to are compelled to hate her for your dad leaving. You may remember him from the tender age of 5, but you cannot have known him well. You wanted him so much you have put ... (read in full...)
Doing whats best for mom?
Q. I hope this question is allright for this site. My mom has dementia and alzheimers and it was decided that we should have a family conference to discuss her future. She was caught wandering the streets by the police and so we are probably going to ...
A. 23 August 2006: I would need to know why my sister was obstructing me attending as it is unclear if you have a big age difference, or if you have an otherwise reasonable relationship with your sister. If she is just obstructing you and no reason can be offered, ... (read in full...)
We have a son and I still love her! Can love come back after a split?
Q. Can love come back after a split? I have just split from my girlfriend who i was together with for three and half years, and we have an eight month year old baby. Things were up and down to be honest all along but we had loads in common, got on w...
A. 21 August 2006: You sound a really nice guy and I can only anser with my own story as brief as possible.
I was in love at age 16 and we married at 19 and felt we were soulmates. Ht a rough spot and split up. Both found different partners and were not happy. K... (read in full...)
Husband admitted having feelings for someone else!
Q. my husband of 10 years has just told me he has feelings for another woman who he works with but there is nothing in it and just feels comfortable being with her. It has left me devastated and hurt. Please someone give me some advice...
A. 21 August 2006: I am not trying to blame you as I do not know you, but the very fact he has told you could be he wants you to help him to stop by looking at why he needs the 'comfortableness' with someone at work. He is obviously seeing the danger himself and it is ... (read in full...)
Been together 2 years but sex is non-existant and I find I can't say 'I love you' back to him...
Q. Hi, do you think its possible for two middle-aged adults to live together without sex (been together two years)? I've tried (for 8 mths) loads of stuff to have a more active sex life but nothing works. He's got a very low sex drive. Now I've los...
A. 21 August 2006: Well on the one side it all sounds a bit staid. Even an old couple may need some fun to enjoy life together. You don't say how old you are but I am the wrong side of 50 and from my experience I regret being married to someone for over 26 years who I ... (read in full...)
She's moved on and I can't get over how badly this has all ended..what can I do?
Q. I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 17 years. Last year she spent time off work with depression and ended the relationship since I was not committing to her. We separated for a couple of months and than she started to make contact ...
A. 20 August 2006: I am sorry it is very confusing for you but if she says she has moved on and has someone new you will have to accept that. It does sound strange that so recently she accepted you proposal then suddenly found someone else, but it does happen and ... (read in full...)
I can't help masturbating. Am I doing any harm?
Q. hey guys I have a problem. I'm 16 and whenever I'm alone for more then an hour I have these really strong sexual urges and I have to masturbate to get rid of them. I think sex is the only way I'm gonna get it out of my system, but am I causing my ...
A. 20 August 2006: I don't hink you are doing harm physically, it could be just a phase that will peter out. The problem is if it gets to be addictive and takes over. I think you are just young and letting off steam. It may help if you try to resist it a bit and do ... (read in full...)
My ex knows I want her back, so why is she insisting on dating another guy?
Q. Hey, I am struggling with an ex-girlfriend who I want to start again with. A couple of days ago, she wanted to go back out with me again. When she brought it up to me, I told her I'd need a little more time to decide on it. The next day, she brou...
A. 20 August 2006: It COULD be that her manipulation had paid off and is enjoying seeing you squirm. Whether she is genuinely interested in the other guy or not, I think your best bet is to be approachable and friendly but to turnaround and look desperate now is ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend says she doesn't love me the same way any more!
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for over 2 months and she says I've been clingy. This was my first real relationship so I did not know how to react sometimes. Lately she has not been picking up the phone until late at night around 9pm or so. I confront...
A. 20 August 2006: Face up to the fact that you cannot have 1st reserve on her. If you see her with someone else then all you can do is walk away and not openly react. It will hurt, but if you stand any chance with her or anyone else you have to see yourself from the ... (read in full...)
The girl I want turned me down; now I'm afraid I might not see her again!
Q. I have a problem. I asked this girl out ages ago but she said no, but eventually we became sort of friends (we talke etc.) The problem is that I have ulterior motives. She is in the year below me at high school but I'm taking a year out before I...
A. 19 August 2006: I know it really feels bad, but the more you try the more she is likely to not respond. Either she just does not fancy you which is nothing against you, or she is with someone else, or maybe she is too shy to say yes. If you see her at parties etc ... (read in full...)
My penis "head" is really sensitive... almost painful to touch!
Q. OK I know this sounds weird and a lot of you who read this will probably think i'm an idiot asking this. Is the type of skin cells on a clitoris the same to that on the "head of a penis"? The reason I ask is that I heard something like that and when...
A. 19 August 2006: Giggle, the moderator hasn't read your question before giving it a title!
I am not sure about this at cell structure level but the clitoris does engorge with blood during arousal but to a lesser degree than a penis. I think because the clitoris... (read in full...)
Can I achieve the greatest love of all through someone else?
Q. I'm not sure I'm ready for another relationship. For most of my post puberty life I've been in love with one person or another. I just (Three months now) got over a messy relationship with my last boyfriend and already I find myself in love w...
A. 19 August 2006: No. No one has a crystal ball to know how it's going to go. Why not just be friends and see what happens without worrying about the faithful bit. If you really like him and he likes you and your main commitment is university, then that is the only ... (read in full...)
I'm 17 but I am attracted to twenty-somethings
Q. I was just wondering is it normal to only be attracted to older guys? Im 17 and i have only been attracted to one guy who was my age. I find myself only liking older guys..Not old old but like in their mid 20's..Im afraid that ill never find someone ...
A. 19 August 2006: To are attracted to who you are sttracted to. Whoever you meet who you feel comfortable with and enjoy their company, feel understood by, respects you, where trust is there, in fact all the things you desire in a man, the age is not really a ... (read in full...)
How quick or long does it take for a woman to reach her climax?
Q. As a matter of interest, some men last a few seconds to a minute before they orgasm, and sometimes go for hours. Now how quick does a woman reach her climax, and her orgasm, or do some woman last longer or do they come in a matter on seconds or mi...
A. 18 August 2006: Depends on the woman and the arousal. Sometimes I have climaxed in less than 5 minutes, other times I have given up.... (read in full...)
Is there a difference in being "wet" or "cumming"
Q. This might sound really wierd and im a little embarrassed to say it but hey. When my boyfriend fingers me he asked me if i "came" yet. He says that I am very wet, but the truth is I have No IDEA if i had "cum" or not. How do you know if you "cum...
A. 18 August 2006: Being wet is usually meaning you are aroused, but if you 'came', you would generally know it!
A little nearer to the front from where you pee from is a nodule, a bit like a button and if you touch there it is so sensitive one finger is unbe... (read in full...)
How much of an age gap is too much ?
Q. What are the age gaps between you and your partners? And at what stage do you think a age gap is too much? Thanks! x...
A. 16 August 2006: My friend is 46 and her husband of 2 years is 77. She cannot bear to be away from him for more than a couple of hours ... and she keeps him so he gets her tea ready. Trouble is, she often has the odd evening or weekend alone as he is off to the pub, ... (read in full...)
I had a miscarriage, will this harm my body and can I have future children?
Q. Hi, I had a miscarriage the other day and i am just interested if anybody knows if it harms my body in anyway or even damages my eggs at all?...
A. 16 August 2006: As far as I know, most miscarriages are normal in that it can be natures way of getting rid of a conception that is not developing right. There is no reason you should nit have a perfectly normal baby next time.... (read in full...)
Can we get back our sex life naturally ? or is it too late for us ?
Q. Im really concerned that there is no way back for me and my man. We have been together for 3 years are in our 30's and just lately all we do is argue over sex. I feel unwanted and not sexy and he says its me thats feeling that way and thats not ...
A. 16 August 2006: I think you would both benefit from professional counselling and your GP should be able to access this for you, or you can pay through Relate, a marriage counselling organisation who have sex therapists. It sounds very complicated and delicate and ... (read in full...)
We havent had sex for 7 months!!! All he says is he doesnt feel like it!!!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for about 16 months now and for about the past 7 we have had no sexual contact whatsoever! His excuse is that 'I just don't feel like it' Now any I guess normal person would think they are being cheated on! But I ...
A. 15 August 2006: A lot of men behave this way when they have impotance or erectile dysfunction as it is called these days. They can be so embarrassed and ashamed that they don't work. The porn could be a way of him trying to get it work by way of desperation. ... (read in full...)
How can i save us?
Q. Hi everyone, I'm new to this so please be kind to me! I am 5ft 5, slim with brown hair and green eyes and I work in Administration. ***MY PROBLEM** My past relationships have been rubbish to put it bluntly. I have been forever lied to and cheated o...
A. 14 August 2006: Hi,
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy techniques may help you. You could get a basic book on it or try this simple exercise when you are feeling rational. Write down 6 things that worry you most and play on your mind. Then next to these things writ... (read in full...)
How long before you can get divorced?
Q. i am just wondering when you and partner split up and wanting to get divorced do you have to be separated for so long like away from each other to prove that you dont love each other or can ypu get a devorce straight away?...
A. 13 August 2006: Don't quote me on it but I think it is 2 years just for straightforward no blame, or 6 months for strange behaviour, adultery etc. but then you have to prove it through a solicitor. You can count 6 months of the 2 years (this UK by the way) when you ... (read in full...)
I don't like my face colour!
Q. Hi, i am a pakistani girl, aged 18. My problem is that I would like to be fair skinned, i am quite tanned. I don't want to change myself out of insecurity or for others. I merely feel that my facial features don't suit this dark colour. I have ...
A. 13 August 2006: I am amazed. Here we have 99% of the white UK polulation trying to look like you and you want to be fair skinned. Apart from the fact I have never heard of safe treatment except for dark blemishes on white skin, or that disease Michael Jackson ... (read in full...)
Lots of questions about my romance
Q. Hia, Lets start at the beginning... I started dating my b/f 4 1/2 months ago after a 2 year friendship in college. We are getting on extremely well and the other day he told me he loved me and had never felt this way for anyone before and i told...
A. 13 August 2006: First, don't be pressured into sex before you are ready because if he does love you he won't run off just because you don't want to yet. I am a mother of a 21 year old and she certainly would not ask my permission though I hope I have brought her up ... (read in full...)
Should I look after no.1
Q. I need someones advice! I love my boyfriend so much but things between him and I have now died off and I feel nothing for him anymore. I have been kinding seeing someone else behind his back but even though I want to take things further with...
A. 13 August 2006: You do have to do what's right for you and you are not responsible for someone elses mental instability. It would be much worse for him if her knew you had someone else already so since you seem sensitive to his problem, I would suggest you finish ... (read in full...)
If I get back with my ex, will he think he can dump me, then have me back whenever it's convenient?
Q. Dear Cupid, Me and my boyfriend dated for eight months. We broke up over the summer because we couldn't see each other. Now that school has started again he wants to get back together. I love him but I'm not sure if we should get back together...
A. 13 August 2006: You are afraid he will move out just when he feels like it, but you won't know until you try as one event isn't much to go one. In any relationship you risk getting hurt and if you are more attracted to him next time it will hurt more if he leaves. ... (read in full...)
I am in love with my female friend! Could it be because of a lack of meaningful relationships with men?
Q. I'm a 21 year old female and consider myself to be straight. However,I am in love with my female friend and have felt this way for a long time. We've recently finished university so I haven't seen her for a while but I'm pining for her badly, I ...
A. 12 August 2006: Give yourself as much time as you need. You don't say if your friend is straight or not. Obviously, you don't want to risk losing her friendship but perhaps next time you see her for a girls get together you could develop a conversation along these ... (read in full...)
I'm married, but I can't get this other man out of my head!
Q. ive been married for 5 years now but i cant get another man out of my head. ive known him for some 5 years more than my husband but we never got together. Before i got married i went to visit him and we kissed, but since that night 7 years ago we ...
A. 12 August 2006: I would say it depends on your current relationship. I know people do it but really people aren't things we should just trade in for someone else. The husband you have is the one you know, warts and all. If you were happy with your relationship ... (read in full...)
My online dating turned a bit sour....
Q. Can anyone give me their thoughts on my situation? I'm sorry this is so long... I chatted to a guy from my dating site for about a week on msn. Then we met up for a date last week. I'm 33, he's 32. Before we met, he told me some quite heavy...
A. 11 August 2006: It's not even a 'white lie', it IS a lie when he had agreed ground rules, such short lived too. Be thankful you discovered early and move on. You deserve better, especially with the love you have to give and the obvious concern and sensitivity you ... (read in full...)
Why would he not rise to the occasion, even though he wants sex ?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost a month now but have been friends for over two years. We started to have sex not long ago and it's great. We make love almost everyday and it's amazing. But there's the occasional "He's in the mood ...
A. 10 August 2006: If he only can't do it occasionally then a doctor is not really going to help. You don't say how old you are but if it was something vascular or nerve related it would consistantly not work. Could he have had a bit to drink on those poor occasions, ... (read in full...)
Why are my parents treating me like this???
Q. What to do about parents. They refuse to see who I am and constantly tell what I can and can't do. They won't listen to what I have to say, they think that they know everything and that they are always right. They treat me like an idiot especially ...
A. 10 August 2006: I am the mother of three 'children' ages 25, 23 and 21. I believed in free choice for my children and never fussed if they were not on the latest reading book or didn't get good grades. I knew my children were 'clever' and they have all grown up OK. ... (read in full...)
How do you cure premature ejaculation?
Q. i have not been in a relationship for over three years and have been celibate ever since apart from masturbation. i have had many opportunities but am to afraid as i have not got the courage as i suffer from premature ejaculation. all journals i ...
A. 10 August 2006: Ideally, it would be better to develop a relationship with your partner that is not just based on sex. That way you have the caring and desire first so that it comes to the point where there is support instead of just expectation. This can be part ... (read in full...)
How to get on with my life after a marriage breakup
Q. I am getting a divorce from my husband. We have 2 sons aged 27 and 34. I left 3 years ago, but have kept in (kind of) friendly contact with my ex, even to the point of inviting him around for Xmas dinner for the past 2 yrs, as he would have bee...
A. 9 August 2006: As far as I understand, if you have been apart for 2 years, that is the divorce requirement, but you need to have proof for your solicitor. I don't know if you can count it retrospectively though. I should imagine it will make it more epxensive if ... (read in full...)
My wife really really needs help, but I cant get her to see it!!
Q. My wife needs professional help but she cant see this yet everything to her is a problem me the children the house she is in bad form all the time and we constantly argue last week she threatened to kill herself and our son if i went to the shop she ...
A. 9 August 2006: See your GP as an emergency if necessary and explain the situation. Your son's life is paramount and whatever happens, he must be safe. If your wife does not recognise she needs help then the GP can force her to be admitted for assessment. This ... (read in full...)
He masturbates over Page 3 and its really upsetting me!!
Q. My boyf of 3 1/2 years is driving me mad! In the past Ive caught him lookin at Page 3 about to masterbate whilst he thought I was asleep. Ive caught him looking at it on the internet and during an argument about it he admitted the evening before he ...
A. 9 August 2006: I think it is a two fold problem from both sides. I think he needs to recognise he is on a pathway to addiction. Porn is OK in moderation but getting horny at 3am nearly every night is like waking up an hour before your alarm goes off, it's a brain ... (read in full...)
When I was trying to get her back she couldnt care less... now though shes texting me and showing an interest... what is she doing!?
Q. This is the situation. My ex broke up with me and I was devastated. I tried to get her back and she said she didn't want a relationship right now as she didn't trust me. So in my mind and heart I let her go. Since I let her go and live the life ...
A. 9 August 2006: Yep, badbrit has laid out some good perpectives. I think you are in a good position to lay your cards on the table (if you still want her back) and say how you feel and express your concerns. You have nothing to lose so appear strong and confident ... (read in full...)
My wife only seems interested in herself and what she does.. is this right ?
Q. My wife seems to have her own agenda in life, I don’t know how to explain it , but it is like she is heading a different road to the one that I believe should be our road of success. she is a successful women with the very good earning, I always ...
A. 9 August 2006: I am really sorry about your situation. From what you describe she does sound self centred and it is not a basis for a sharing relationship. Perhaps you could try listening to her to get her perspective, and instead of presenting your case as you ... (read in full...)
I miss my daughter now she is married!
Q. How do I deal with my jealousy towards my son-in-law? My daughter (I'm her dad), whom I love with all my heart, has been married for 2 years and it unfortunately has had a negative effect on our relationship. I feel jealous of her husband. Now she...
A. 6 August 2006: I would have liked to know more about your relationship with her husband and if they are local to you. Does he know how you feel or is he currently unaware of the situation?
You need to change your perpective, look for the evidence that she feel... (read in full...)
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