Did he or did he not get me an christmas present. How can I shake the expectation that he should get me an xmas present?
Q. Hi, I feel like a really bad person but here goes. I've been sort of seeing this guy for about 6 months. It's nothing official, just a casual thing. For my birthday back in August he got me a very nice present and it was a complete surpris...
A. 21 December 2006: Martini, I identify a lot with what you say and female reader age 30-35 I don't think you are being selfish. You are mixing up the idea of a gift being materialistic whereas in reality, as Martini states, you are hoping for a sign of being thought ... (read in full...)
I've tried everything but...I can't get her to orgasm! Any tips?
Q. i cant get her to have an orgasm and ive tried almost everything, until she doesnt want to experiment anymore, so im wondering if anyone had any tips from a helping hand....
A. 21 December 2006: Making a woman have an orgasm can be become an obsession with a man and has contributed to ruining two relationships in my life (though not the sole reason). I didn't even know how to have an orgasm until I was about 34 and although my first husband ... (read in full...)
I feel like I am alone!
Q. I feel like I am alone.I have empty sex with guys who Im sure dont want to see me in the morning and when I feel like a man is getting to close to me I push them away.I have a couple of guys who want to date me right now but for some reason Im ...
A. 21 December 2006: You have to take some chances in life and part of that is getting hurt. There is that old saying "better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all". Do you fancy either of the guys who want to date you? Do they show signs of enjoying ... (read in full...)
Our boss says coworkers are not to date each other - he doesn't know his bro and I are falling for each other!
Q. Well i just started a new job about 3 weeks ago and Im in a little bit of a situation. I have a thing for the bosses brother and he feels the same about me, we have been sneaking around, and I am starting to fall for him. The problem is my boss told ...
A. 16 December 2006: This may sound a bit paranoid, but could they be in league with each other and have been testing you?... (read in full...)
I fell for a woman at work and I'm married! How do I forget this woman and work on my marriage?
Q. What's the cure for love? Please help me! I'm married and I accidentally fell for another woman. (Not having any affair, and she doesn't care about me) I feel miserable. I think about her every 5 minutes or so, wishing so badly I could be with he...
A. 16 December 2006: I think you need to reflect on your marriage. I know it is harder said than done but even if an affair was possible with this woman at work, your relationship would always be tainted by guilt etc. Also, I think if we give in to these feelings of ... (read in full...)
I Think My penis is small is there anything I can do to help it grow?
Q. I Think My Penis is Small is there anything i can do 2 help it grow? i'm in my 20's got a 6 inch cock and it's mega thin. is this normal? my last girlfriend loved it. she told me her boyfriend before me had a smaller one. do you think a 6 inch i...
A. 16 December 2006: Sounds pretty standard to me and a good size 9 in the UK mens shoe department!... (read in full...)
My bf sent his ex a christmas card...why did he do this as it upset me a great deal?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 5 months. He was previously married for 8 years and his wife left him, 15 months ago. He tells me that he is in love with me. Although during a conversation earlier he mentioned that he had sent his wife a ...
A. 15 December 2006: I partly agree with Irish49 but also in a world where marriages break up more and more things are bound to get confusing. I think it is unrealistic to expect anyone who has had a very close relationship with someone to expect them to have no ... (read in full...)
Can a relationship continue when only one person has a sex drive?
Q. hi my question is it reasonable to expect a relationship to continue when only one of the couple has any sex drive my partner wont disscus it its been a problem for three years now we are both 39 years old....
A. 10 December 2006: Somehow it has to be discussed. There may be issues she feels she cannot talk to you about. Is she OK with you in every other way, or is the relationship struggling generally?
Sex drive is usually there in everyone but needs certain componants to b... (read in full...)
I'm a teacher. Do you think it is wrong that bossing students around turns me on?
Q. I am a bit of a power freak and I enjoy bossing people around. I am a teacher and I love my job, sometimes I do go little too far but not often. Thing is though, the power thing relates directly to my sexuality. I enjoy bossing students around ...
A. 10 December 2006: I think you need help and it is wrong that you get so much, to extent of sexual arousal, out of your abuse of power. Recognising this in yourself is the first step. As for your girlfriend dressing up in school uniform, some would say that is OK, in ... (read in full...)
He's been taking viagra! And I didn't know it..I'm devastated! Help
Q. when i first met my boyfriend(18months)i found out that he was taking viagra of course he denied this,as time moved on for us i didnt think he'd need to take it as we have a great sex life(so i thought)i found viagra in his pocket accidently,this ...
A. 9 December 2006: I am shocked at your response and the insensitivity and selfishness of it. You don't say the age of the man but if he needs Viagra the issue is more to do with his general health than enhancing sex and making it "not normal". I know many men obtain ... (read in full...)
Feel unsure of myself, like I don't fit in... tip?
Q. I have a social problem. I'm very interested in music but have never got myself very involved in any exra-curricular activities in school. Now I've started college, and I HAVE to do two choirs, I have no choice, as I've taken music at A level. When ...
A. 9 December 2006: I can identify a lot with what you describe, and I am in my 50's. I think it is good that we are not all like sheep following the same shepherd (not mant to sound religious!). Since I was your age I could never feel in with a crowd as all they did ... (read in full...)
I am a man and I'm deeply concerned that pornography is affecting my relationship! Am I an addict?
Q. Hi, I'm concerned that pornography is affecting my relationship. Over the last few years I have got into a habit of browsing internet porn, 3 or 4 hours a week. I had previously thought this to be harmless, but it seems to be devaluing sex wit...
A. 8 December 2006: I admire your honesty and insight into your problem. At least you are are some way to conquering it by recognising you want to stop. It would be interesting to know if the craving to view Internet porn is purely driven from the need to ejaculate, or ... (read in full...)
We're engaged.. He won't see me if there's no-one around in case he has sex before marriage with me!
Q. i've been dating my boyfriend for two years now and we are planning our wedding mid-february.We are in our early twenties and have great careers. I love him with all my heart but because i'm still a virgin(he is not), he doesnt like me coming o...
A. 7 December 2006: I think it is great. I wish I had his dedication. The tension must be unbearable but well worth it even if it is ultimately disappointing as his frustration may not make it to desired end point. Having said that, it is just good old fashioned magic ... (read in full...)
Just been diagnosed with Diabetes, does this now mean a downward climb plus impotency ??
Q. I'm an otherwise healthy male, but just been diagnosed as diabetic! I think of myself as generally healthy, I'm careful what I eat. wholefoods, veg, etc., I'm not over weight at all, I exercise either a 2 hour work out in the gym or 50 lengths of...
A. 29 September 2006: Apparently, 50% of diabetic men will become 'impotent', but good control of your diabetes should mean a reduction in risk. Look at the Diabates UK website for the best advice on diabetes in general. Your doctor or nurse should be giving you advice ... (read in full...)
I would like to improve my self esteem, any help please!!
Q. dear cupid i am a 16 year old boy and i need help i would like to know if its possible to build my self-esteem as i am not confident in life and especially when talking to the girls i alwayz turn red and have had some critisim from girlz abo...
A. 26 September 2006: Power to change has to come from withn yourself. In a way, having no self-esteem has a selfish aspect to it, as with no self-esteem you seek approval of and care what others think of you too much. It can help by reading a good self help book as they ... (read in full...)
I am 13 and still a virgin, is there something wrong with me?
Q. Im a 13 years old. Most of my friends have lost their virginity. I have to listen to everything they say about how great it was. I for one haven't.Is there something wrong with me? ...
A. 24 September 2006: I work where mothers support there young daughters to have sex early and I found that quite shocking, but it has become 'normal' in their society. You are you, and do not have to conform to this pressure. To be your own person makes you special by ... (read in full...)
Can I still get pregnant even though my man has had the snip?
Q. I have recently started a sexual relationship with an older man and yesturday we had sex, we didn't use protection because he has told me that he has had a vasectomy but I have heard that sometimes people can still become pregnant even though the ...
A. 24 September 2006: It is extremely rare. They ususally have to produce a specimen after their procedure to check that they are sterile.... (read in full...)
I am an Indian living in the UK. Where do I draw the line between being friendly and flirtatious?
Q. I come from India and i live in UK ...what I want to know is where to draw a line between being friendly with a man and being flirtatious. I am not sure how i am suppose to react if an English man hugs me ? Is it a normal custom to hug someone and ...
A. 23 September 2006: In my view it is very flirtatious and inappropriate unless you know him very well. He could be taking advantage of your cultural innocence. be careful. If an Englishman kissed my hand I would consider him slimey. ... (read in full...)
I cant deal with her ex, and feel she should not have got involved with me without closure! I need him out of her life to be able to move on!
Q. Hi, I got some good advice the other day about my current relationship, and have heeded the bits about being treated like a doormat. My ex constantly talks about her exes and her previous one in particular. He has recently been back in contact about ...
A. 21 September 2006: I both agree and disagree with your view on this situation. First of all, I agree that someone with such an abusive past should be able to move on and be relieved they have at last escaped to have a new life, but it is beyond my understanding that ... (read in full...)
How can I form a better relationship with my wife ?
Q. I've been married for 40 years, I don't love my wife and I thinks she knows that. Recently friends of ours have split up, I am absolutely obsessed with the woman in this split and I can't help thinking of her all of the time. Could you suggest ways ...
A. 18 September 2006: Perhaps you could talk to your wife and ask her how she feels about you. Does she say she loves you? I respect your decision in wanting to may it work with your wife. Try writing down on your own, aspects of the relationship you like and aspects ... (read in full...)
My brother is a very troubled person and I need advice on how to help him. Please help!
Q. I know this is not a relationship problem but I really didnt know where to find advice and I think all of you agony aunts give good advice so please help me. My older brother who is twenty one has led a very bad life, he got bullied all through ...
A. 18 September 2006: Try going with him to see his GP as he/she should be able to access free counselling. Also you could try typing 'free couselling' in, and your local town, on the Internet and see what comes up. You could try 'youth counselling' as key words. Local ... (read in full...)
What is he thinking???
Q. What is he really thinking? I've been with my boyfriend for the past 7 years. We're both in our late 20s and I thought we were very happy together and he was the one. However, he dropped a bombshell on me a couple of weeks ago and told me that he ...
A. 13 September 2006: It sounds as if he doesn't know for sure what he wants and he will keep you on a string thinking he will make his mind up, but it doesn't work like that. It is more a case of 'You don't know what you've got 'till it's gone' so hard as it may be for ... (read in full...)
My wife has a low sex drive and its driving a wedge!
Q. Wife has low sex drive and am thinking about an affair. I have a much higher sex drive than my wife and would like to have sex 2-3 times per week. In her perfect world 1-2 times per month would be better.I am very passionate and like for an enco...
A. 10 September 2006: having an affair could destroy what you have and you should consider if it is worth the risk and hurt she would feel. I don't agree that every single man with a high sex drive goes with women either. It may not be your 'ideal' but you do know how to ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to use this guy to make babies? Trapping him as a father?
Q. I am a confident, intelligent, and independent 21 year old woman. I work full time, i am also a part-time university student (finishing my degree in 6 months). I own my own car and have recently moved out of my parents house and have had no troub...
A. 9 September 2006: I'm not sure to be honest. None of us have the certainty of one partner all our lives, but I am certain that if you did this, it should be with his consent and support.... (read in full...)
Is the age gap to much???
Q. well, recently i made a post about a guy i liked who i met at college. i am seventeen but on my post before this i said i didnt know how old the guy was, well i just found out and he is 26, i am gutted.he has asked me out tomorrow for drink. i...
A. 8 September 2006: None of us are as old as we actually look. It is the child within us that counts so trust, companionship and being content in each other's presence means much more than any age gap even if it is 40 years.... (read in full...)
He has Herpes and its bothering me but is that all???
Q. My boyfriend has genital herpes which he contracted some years ago. He is very sensible and we always use protection. He has an attack probably every 3 months or so now, which is better than it was. We've been together for a year and a half and it's ...
A. 8 September 2006: No you are not crazy. It is normal to ask yourself such questions and it must be very difficult for you when he goes through the attacks. If it is getting to you more now then it may help if you think about what you like about him and love about him ... (read in full...)
She wants to get back together, but not just yet, I thought things were well and truly over... should I wait ?
Q. My wife and I split over a year ago and it is has taken me a long time to get back on my feet. We both made mistakes in how we treated one another and decided that it wasn't working. I am now in a new job, have a beautiful girlfriend and g...
A. 3 September 2006: It would be interesting if she knows about the girlfriend. Otherwise, after all that time, she is not even wanting you back, she just wants to keep you in reserve. If you go back now she may have you on a string. If you are happy now, then it seems ... (read in full...)
My friend seems quite forgetful in an Alzheimers-like way
Q. I posted the other day about my male friend who has a condition which I think may be ADD. To recap: At the beginning of last week, he asked me to be his girlfriend and he respected the fact that I needed time to think about it. We really like a...
A. 3 September 2006: ADD is when people drift off even quite simple things like being asked a few questions and not being able to concentrate long enough to listen to the question tyoe of thing. I think it is easy though to adopt a label just because someone is a bit ... (read in full...)
I would like to make a move on my married boss
Q. Do you ever have that one true moment with someone that seems so right?? These feelings are something that you where put on this earth to feel? That's how I felt when I was with my boss when we were out of town together -we hardly worked-we were so ...
A. 3 September 2006: I agree with Ariel, you could be being taken in by a player. They can be very convincing and play on your feelings. No matter how much you are attracted, I would recommend you keep your distance. If it is not genuine he will realise and just move ... (read in full...)
My friend seems quite forgetful in an Alzheimers-like way
Q. I posted the other day about my male friend who has a condition which I think may be ADD. To recap: At the beginning of last week, he asked me to be his girlfriend and he respected the fact that I needed time to think about it. We really like a...
A. 3 September 2006: It would be interesting to know what his job is for a start or what clues there might be to his abilities where his memory is relied upon. He could just be in denial about the text and be too embarrassed to admit sending it. He does sound very ... (read in full...)
I'm chinese..my bf is caucasian and my parent's have finally accepted him but how do we tell them, my bf's also divorced with a 6 year old child! Help needed.
Q. I was raised in a very traditional chinese family. My parents are not like my friends. I always had to respect their advice and input with anything I do. By respect, I really mean forced to do they want. I want to remain in good terms with my ...
A. 2 September 2006: I disagree with Wild Thaing. Only you can know how you feel about this man of age 25 and 'living' is down to interpretation. That can be living with a well matched partner OR being single, whatever it is, YOU have to decide.
Baggage is a GOOD thi... (read in full...)
I love my friends husband!!
Q. I'm struggling with the same thing as before...My attraction to my friend's husband. I have tried to avoid him like the plague, but we still end up seeing each other coincidentally, our kids are very good friends,etc. I have no problem seeing him, ...
A. 1 September 2006: Your question shows all the pain you are going through and all the torment these unwelcome feelings are giving you. You know the answer but that does not help what you are trying to deal with, nor do sanctimonious idealist answers dictating what is ... (read in full...)
I dont want to scare him off, but want him to know I care, how should I act ?
Q. I have a very good male friend who i have known a few months and im falling in love with him, i see him twice a week speak to him everyday but he has been hurt and doesnt want a relationship. He knows I like him alot but I dont know how best to act ...
A. 29 August 2006: It seems you know how he feels because you say he doesn't want a relationship. A few months isn't long so perhaps you should be yourself and make sure when you are around he is at ease. This should, over time, make him have only pleasant connections ... (read in full...)
My fiancee has a gal pal and her parents hate me! They say I am spoiling their plans, for their daughter to marry my guy!
Q. Hi there, I need some advice on getting through to my fiance. He has known this girl since school and knows her family well, I started going out with my fiance 3 years ago, and met these people he is friends with. The father instantly didnt like me ...
A. 28 August 2006: He'll probably like the attention of two girls wanting and bickering over him. If he 'loved' you, would he put you through this?
Is it realistic to cool off and face him rationally with your side of things and ask him to reverse the situation. I'm ... (read in full...)
Scared that I wont find a man to have a relationship with, they never seem interested, what can I do ?
Q. Im a bit down at the moment and I think some people will think this isnt a real problem but its upsetting me quite a bit. Im 23 years old and have ben single for just over a year now. My last relationship ended in a bad way so for a while I wanted...
A. 28 August 2006: I think you need to give it more time. Perhaps you are going to the wrong places to find the 'right' guy. Perhaps your fears are founded that your had a 1 night stand and the guys in a small town know this. Just be yourself and friendly and not ... (read in full...)
She did the breaking up and now she "changed her mind"
Q. Hi, a girl I was seeing for a month recently broke up with me. She said that she had "changed her mind" about being with me. However, several days after the break up, she texted me a message in the middle of the night that read; "I feel so bad about ...
A. 28 August 2006: From my view, I think you should reply as she will no doubt construe no reply as you cannot be bothered to, or "I'm not speaking to you again", which is not what you meant is it?
I would contact her, if only to separate on better terms and talk... (read in full...)
I want to try anal sex with my gf but she's worried about the pain! What's the best lube to buy?
Q. my and my girlfriend have a strong sex life we have tried various things doggie style etc etc but now i am wanting to try anal sex she is curious about but what puts her off is the fact that peole have told her that it can be painful but she is ...
A. 28 August 2006: KY jelly and DO wear a condom. The anus is not designed for sex and is much more succeptable to damage than the vagina which is why gay men have more problems contracting AIDS as there is a greater chance of small blood vessel contamination, hence ... (read in full...)
How can I tell her I like her?
Q. im a shy guy, not very open to other people (had very bad,"very" bad expericences), could someone tell me how could i tell someone that i like, that i like her?, i dont no what to do since i also never had a gf before... :( !!! ...
A. 27 August 2006: Need to know more. What were you 'bad' experiences?
This helps to know your fears. Also is this person showing signs of liking you?
Best way of showing a person you like them is to be positive, smile, be interested in them but not that much th... (read in full...)
She wants me as a security blanket after dumping me
Q. my girlfriend of the past 2+ years just recently broke up with me because she says that she wants to be single for her last year of college. but since we've broken up, we still act like a couple and i don't know what to do or think about it. she ...
A. 26 August 2006: You can only talk with her and explain your confusion. She may be confused herself, but if she wants a break perhaps you should both agree no contact for a month then see how you both feel. It is not fair her behaving that that but she may not ... (read in full...)
All she goes on about is work work work.....
Q. I know this might sound a bit petty but when i see my partner she constantly talks about work its like i ask how was your day and then i get a full run down off her working day.But it dont stop there its almost the topic of conversation and when i ...
A. 25 August 2006: I have done this too and my husband complained ot me about it. I never mention work now and it had just become a habit. I was having problems at work at the time and felt sounding off to my husband was part of the deal. I was disappointed he ... (read in full...)
I really like her a lot but her horrible vaginal odor is putting me off! How do I tell her?
Q. For months i had lusted after this lady i ran into at a friend's party. She is tall, beautiful and a succesful professional. She lives in her own home with her son, so it was convenient to visit her. After weeks of heavy dating, she finally allowed ...
A. 25 August 2006: Does it smell of wet fish?
If so, it is because she is 'clean' and an infection women often get from washing too much!
It is called bacterial vaginosis and is a watery discharge, sometimes accompanied by a bit if irritation. It is easily cleare... (read in full...)
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