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writes:Whats the best way to over come lust and temptation? Even though I have chosen the single life, it seems that temptation is always around the corner and I get the urge to want sex. Iam a virgin so it makes things 100 times worse and im not religious but I have morals and want to lose my virginity when im in a real loving relationship. I have hobbies and try to occupy my time with activities but when ever im not doing anything especially when im just lying in bed thinking is when I start thinking about all the women im missing out on and how I could be having sex instead of waiting. What is the best way to deal with my situation? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou actually hit the nail on the head synchrohobbit, iam waiting because I do think it will make me stand out. One of my guy friends told me the same but since he was a guy I thought he was just full of it. I really don't know why iam waiting anymore(Its more like a habbit). I just go with where my life is and it hasn't taken me to a bed room with a girl...yet. But iam afraid that my self- Concept has been ingrained into who iam, so I dont think I will have the guts to go through with it...EVER!
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reader, synchrohobbit +, writes (29 November 2011):
 Is there a reason you are so hell bent on waiting? I am not suggesting you go to a party tomorrow and pick out a drunken lay, but I think life would be much easier if you started sexual activity of some sort with a girl you are interested in. If you are doing this because you think it will make you stand out from the crowd (since most people are having sex) I can guarantee that its not going to impress any girlfriends down the line when you hit the sack. Sex makes life a lot more fun.
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reader, dougbcoll +, writes (27 November 2011):
 think of your goals ahead , don't lose sight of your goal of finding that special woman . making it all worth while in the future finding the love of your life, and not settling for anything less that you will have to look back on with regret. keeping your self busy , working, school , hobbies, church ect., and you may end up meeting her at any of those places . you have a good goal don't settle for fast food , hold out for the steak house.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTemptation will be the death of me and iam not putting sex on a pedestal. Iam only human and can't tell my body how to feel. The only thing I can do is control my urges the best I can. Porn is so boring and lost its edge when I was 17. I believe ive outgrown it if there is such a thing and I don't know what too do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2011): Firstly... don't put sex on a pedestal because then you will only be disappointed when you finally do have it.Outside of copious amounts of jacking off and porn... your only option is to have the will of a Buddhist monk or to actually just go and have sex with someone.A word of advice though, the longer you wait the more difficult it will be to find someone who isn't weirded out by you not having had sex and being so crappy at it.And be careful with the porn, you might find yourself into shit you never even thought existed once you combine the darkest realms of the internet with your sexual frustration and lack of sex altogether. And trust me, there are some places your mind will take you to that you may not like... well you will, but you'll still think of it as super f*cked up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2011): Keep yourself busy during the day, and masturbate at night before going to sleep. That's about all I got.
I was in your situation about 3 years ago, (before I met my husband). It seemed like I was the only woman in her early twenties who was still a virgin, and I felt like a loser. I even tried online dating for awhile but it seemed like every guy I met up with from the dating sites only wanted sex, and let me tell you it was very tempting to give in. But then I got a new job and that's where I met my husband, and now I don't regret my decision to wait for one second!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2011): not to think much on that topic and be busy it will be ok
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reader, Hugh.J  +, writes (25 November 2011):
 As Oscar Wilde famously said, "The best way to deal with temptation is to yield to it"!
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