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writes:Here's the story. There's this girl that works with me. Before last week I never talked to her before. I would catch her looking at me from time to time. Always staring at me when she thought I wasn't looking. Most of the times I didn't know what to make of her actions. I always thought she was beautiful and I knew if given half the chance, I would like to get to know her. Her lingering stares always made me confident that something could eventually happen between us. I just didn't know when. Well, last week while I was doing some work in my department, she popped up at me from around the corner. Before I could get a hold of myself, she was smiling and asking for my name. . .in spanish. I knew what the words she was saying meant so I answer. . .in my language. She seemed as disheartened as me when she realized we both were speaking different languages. I knew she was latina but most of the spanish people who worked here knew english. I also couldn't blame her for thinking that I knew spanish either. I'm mixed and I always give people the impression that I'm latino.Right then and there, I knew this wasn't going to go anywhere. The "conversation" ended abruptly and she returned to her department. Even after knowing there could be nothing between us, she has become more open with me in the last few days. She's always saying hello to me and she's very flirty with me as well. Even though we don't understand eachother verbally, the body language is unmistakeably flirtatious. I'm honestly very attracted to her. Physically, she's perfect. The way she smiles, the way she walks, the way her voice sounds, it's all so very pleasantly luring. It's just my luck that we can't understand eachother.I'm wondering if you would ever learn a different language to be with someone? I'm also sure that having a second language under my belt would aid me in other situations besides relationships.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (3 May 2012):
Learning a new language is an amazing, and highly fulfilling experience. You’ll get to make new friends, learn about other cultures and ways of life, plus the professional advantages are numerous. You feel a real sense of achievement: there’s nothing quite like making yourself understood in a new language. And if your desire to get to know this lady better gives you a bit of inspiration, go for it! Spanish is a major world language, one of the 6 official languages of the United Nations along with Russian, Arabic, English, French and Chinese. I believe it’s the most widely spoken, along with English, apart from Chinese which has over a billion speakers. What’s more, although learning any language is hard, Spanish has a lot in common with English, as a lot of English vocabulary comes from French, which, like Spanish, is based on Latin and Greek. You’ll immediately recognise a lot of Spanish words, therefore. So whatever motivates you, give it a try. And here’s a thought: why not ask the lady to let you practice with her and include her in your learning? Could you help her with English?Buena suerte (good luck).
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reader, Foot-In-My-Mouth  +, writes (3 May 2012):
 If you're asking us this question, then you probably don't like her as much as you think you do. For people move mountains for love! And you're wondering whether you should learn a language?!! Of course you should!!!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (3 May 2012):
 Sure,why not.Like you said : even if all this should not pan out.. at least you'll know another language , which is always an asset.
Be thankful that you only have to learn Spanish, which is a relatively easy language with your same alphabet too. It could have been worse. She could have been Russian or Chinese :).
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reader, Anonymous 123 +, writes (3 May 2012):
 I would most certainly do it! Not just to be with the other person but because its always nice to learn a new language, its handy and (a bit of trivia), Spanish is one of the official languages of the United Nations(UN)! It could even aid you in getting a job! How cool would that be!! :)
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (3 May 2012):
 I find Braille to be a pretty universal language....
It starts with handholding... but, after the lights go out, there is LOTS MORE that you can "communicate" to a woman by simple touch.... Study THAT, young man, and you will never "be at a loss for words...."
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOldbag, I do really like her and we did try the three way conversation at one point. She has a friend who knows spanish as well as english. We tried some basic question but let's just say things got embarrasing when I thought of the questions I really wanted to ask.Tula, it sounds as if you know exactly what I'm experiencing. How long did it take you to learn each language? I too think that spanish is a very romantic language right next to french. Or maybe I just watch way too many foreign romance flics, lol.Thank you, K c100. I do think it would be quite a statement to her if I showed up talking in her language. That has to be like on the top of the list of the most romantic things to do for a girl, lol. To be honest, if I were to learn a secondary language, japanese would have been my choice. I'm going to japan in a few months so that would have been useful. Battista, yes, it does sound like fun to teach eachother a bit. I can already see myself sitting with her for hours as we learn about the many way to express ourselves to eachother. I think I'll actually give those CDs a try.Thank you all for your great advises. I'll take it to heart. I've also rated all of the answers.
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reader, Battista +, writes (3 May 2012):
Yes do it!
You can teach each other a bit of your own languages and have a good time in the process.
Learning a new language is one of the best things you can do. It really broadens your horizons. If you want to make a start then get a CD or mp3 language course and get some basics down. You'll have a good incentive to make progress!
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (3 May 2012):
 I think it is sweet that you would consider doing this for her - I think you should go for it, she would be very impressed!
I personally have never come across this situation (apart from seeing it in the film Love Actually!) so I dont know whether I would try and learn a new language or not - but if you really like someone and feel a strong attraction then you might as well give it a try.
As you said, having a second language is always handy so there is no reason not to try learning, and if you get the girl even better!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2012): I did it a couple of times!! Now I speak French and Spanish thanks to that...(The Greek project didn't work out so it just evaporated from my head.) No regrets whatsoever and it's always fun to learn about a new culture; language looks good on your resume and recent studies show it's good for the brain cells to be bilingual. Spanish is such a beautiful language to learn especially when amor is in the air! She'll be impressed turst me :) mucha suerte
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reader, oldbag +, writes (3 May 2012):
 HI
If you really like her then start with a 3 way conversation, get one of your friends/colleagues who is bi-lingual to translate for you. If it comes to anything then you can BOTH learn/teach each other your own languages
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