Why do some people argue that violence against women in porn is rare?
Q. Why do some people argue that violence against women in porn is rare? Especially when recent research has shown that almost 90% of porn shows violence against women . Is it ignorance, because it serves their agenda to not acknowldged it or because ...
A. 2 June 2015: Porn can be addictive, just as -ANY- human behavior can become compulsive. You seem to insist that the porn itself is at fault.
Yours is the same logic that blames alcohol for drunks, and blames lotteries for gamblers going broke.
If you ... (read in full...)
Why do some people argue that violence against women in porn is rare?
Q. Why do some people argue that violence against women in porn is rare? Especially when recent research has shown that almost 90% of porn shows violence against women . Is it ignorance, because it serves their agenda to not acknowldged it or because ...
A. 2 June 2015: A snip from the other thread:
As a woman I reserve the right to control my own sexuality. I will not engage in sexual behavior I am not comfortable with. This includes expecting my partner to refrain from attempting to force the issue when I a... (read in full...)
Why do some people argue that violence against women in porn is rare?
Q. Why do some people argue that violence against women in porn is rare? Especially when recent research has shown that almost 90% of porn shows violence against women . Is it ignorance, because it serves their agenda to not acknowldged it or because ...
A. 2 June 2015: Wow you just can't give it up. Talk about selecting only the data that serves your agenda. You didn't come here to ask questions, you came here to grind your anti porn axe.
That's fine. Porn is evil and every woman acting in it is an abused s... (read in full...)
Why are women's emotional needs not considered as important as men's visual needs ?
Q. Why are women's emotional needs not considered as important as men's visual needs ? Men often say they need porn because they are visual and one woman can't meet their visual needs but women are emotional and men often don't meet our needs Is i...
A. 2 June 2015: You are patently incorrect. Women are spat on and called names in the huge MINORITY of porn. I am not sorry to say, I have consumed probably over a million minutes of porn, quite a lot of it, with my wife as willing co-consumer, and I can say with ... (read in full...)
Is his interest normal and does this make him more likely to cheat?
Q. I'm not sure if this behaivour is normal or not? I am 45 and my partner is 55. we have been together for two and a half years. We are passionately in love but recently cancelled our wedding. The first thing my partner does every morning is do...
A. 20 January 2014: Wow, just wow...
I am normally on the front lines defending availability of porn, and often tell people that they should learn to live with their partners porn viewing.
However, this goes way beyond someone looking at porn a few times a week... (read in full...)
How to win a mind game( push/pull game) at work place?
Q. Hi. I am wondering if someone could tell me how to win a mind game ( push/ pull game) a coworker guy is playing on me? Is there really any way to win this game as a girl. Thanks for all the help. ...
A. 12 July 2013: Thermonuclear war: Only winning move is to not play
Wouldn't you prefer a nice game of chess?... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting here? Or do men do this??
Q. Ok, my bf and I have been together for 3 years. He's 35 and I'm 31. We've hit a rough patch the past year, where we've had more fights and just can't seem to get along as much anymore. Sometimes when I ask him a question he won't give me a full ...
A. 2 July 2013: Him: "I'm going to walk to the store to get something to eat"
What he meant to say: "I'm going to walk. To the store. I am hungry an there is no good options where I am now. My dead beat brother in law is being lazy and won't give me a ride. No... (read in full...)
How can I support my wife to consider resuming sexual relations with me? My Wife will not have sex with me and it hurts :(
Q. It's like 3:30 in the morning right now, my wife is sleeping next to me and I need to get some advice and get this off my chest. Age is a good start I think, gives people an idea of what your looking at. I'm 28, I workout and I would say I'm a at...
A. 12 March 2013: This is, unfortunately VERY common at her stage in life. She is experiencing an identity crisis, and it runs much deeper, and is more subtle than she knows.
In her early thirties, the chance is pretty darned good he sex life is going to experien... (read in full...)
My girlfriend goes into "no contact" mode with me when she's angry...why is that?
Q. I've been seeing this girl for about a year and everything is good for the most part, except for when she gets angry or upset about something. We are both in our forties so it shouldn't be attributed to immaturity, but it sure seems that way. For ...
A. 12 March 2013: In her forties and still single. Wonder why? Not anymore.... (read in full...)
I love a married woman who wont leave her life to be with me
Q. I am in love with a married woman. I love her so much and she also. She is married about 9 year and have daughter of 8 year. But now i want to quit from this situation because i have got so much pain in this relation. She love me but not want to be w...
A. 12 March 2013: What do you do? LEAVE!
If you were my brother I'd give you the beat down for messing with a married woman. NEVER is that sort of thing ok unless her husband KNOWS.
If her husband doesn't know, you should tell him. Then hand him a weapon.... (read in full...)
Help! I need some support and advice about the actions and behaviour my boyfriend's sister. Is something going on or am I too suspicious?
Q. I started dating my boyfriend (age 21) around 5 months ago. At this point, his sister (age 24), lived with his parents and he lived out of home. Within the first months of dating, his sister's behaviour was a litle questionable, and quite frankl...
A. 12 March 2013: Wow -
nevermind my first post here - definitely not normal. This is a conversation you and your boyfriend need to have. Soon.... (read in full...)
No sex, because he's disinterested? My husband regularly masturbates but our sex life is non existent. What are my options?
Q. My husband regularly masturbates and our sex life is non existent. His explanation is that he is not at all interested in sex, but masturbates when he has a bodily pain and can't concentrate anymore on anything else. We spoke several times ab...
A. 12 March 2013: His disinterest is not a reason you should have to hang your sex drive up. If he is unwilling to be intimate, and unwilling to work towards a solution, then perhaps you should let him know that you won't wait forever before looking elsewhere. By al... (read in full...)
Do I look for sexual pleasure elsewhere since my wife has no interest?
Q. We are both 60, very active and coming up to 30 years of marriage but we haven't had sex for three to four months. She has become very sore down below and despite visits to the doctor things are not getting better. Understandably perhaps her ...
A. 12 March 2013: The difference cerberus, is the permanency of the condition. Sure, there are -some- things that -might- help. Not reverse, just help a little. When my wife had our children, I was patient through the hormonal changes that come with bearing a child,... (read in full...)
Help! I need some support and advice about the actions and behaviour my boyfriend's sister. Is something going on or am I too suspicious?
Q. I started dating my boyfriend (age 21) around 5 months ago. At this point, his sister (age 24), lived with his parents and he lived out of home. Within the first months of dating, his sister's behaviour was a litle questionable, and quite frankl...
A. 12 March 2013: Families that are brought up to be shameless about their own bodies behave like this around one another. Any family that's vacationed to nude or topless beaches, naturist retreats, etc. will likely display some degree or another of comfort bearing ... (read in full...)
Do I look for sexual pleasure elsewhere since my wife has no interest?
Q. We are both 60, very active and coming up to 30 years of marriage but we haven't had sex for three to four months. She has become very sore down below and despite visits to the doctor things are not getting better. Understandably perhaps her ...
A. 12 March 2013: Absolutely Cindy. Normally, I agree with most of what you have to say, but this time, not only would I give similar advice, but I -HAVE- given pretty much the same advice to female friends. When we select a mate, sexual compatibility is... (read in full...)
Do I look for sexual pleasure elsewhere since my wife has no interest?
Q. We are both 60, very active and coming up to 30 years of marriage but we haven't had sex for three to four months. She has become very sore down below and despite visits to the doctor things are not getting better. Understandably perhaps her ...
A. 12 March 2013: I can't believe what I'm reading! Otherwise well respected agony aunts calling the OP names and telling him he's insensitive and selfish? Have a series of frank conversations with your wife. Do it while she's in a good mood and not in pain. ... (read in full...)
Are his jokes showing that he doesn't want me in the future?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 7 months..we are in our late twenties and still living with parents due to us trying to save individually for the future..he is looking to purchase a house within the next few years. It is by far t...
A. 12 March 2013: I am seeing something else, different than the other agony aunts. There's a twofold meaning behind his jokes. How do I know - I've been 'that guy'. It's not something I'm proud of, but when my wife and I were first dating, that was me. She managed ... (read in full...)
She masturbated... without me!
Q. Should I be upset about this? Basically, my girlfriend and I had not had sex for almost 5 days. While we had never really agreed to not masturbate before our next time in bed, we had talked about doing something like that before. (We have sex a ...
A. 11 March 2013: Wow, man... If the worst problem you can come up with in your relationship is that your girl knows how to satisfy her physical cravings, you're so far ahead of the game it's not even calculable. Browse some of the questions here, and get perspect... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a model and I'm worried he will eventually get tired of being with a normal girl, plus we have different religious backgrounds. Are these real issues or am I being silly?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles, I am in need of some advice on a few issues with the one guy. I will give you some background information to my situation. So I am 32 and a year ago I met a guy who is 31, he chatted me up when I was out for the day in a...
A. 11 January 2013: This is probably bad news. These folks live a fast and furious life. As you yourself has pointed out, he is constantly surrounded by beautiful people living fast and furious lives around him.
Who would say if he hooked up with a female (or male... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if first time sex felt right?
Q. So I had sex for the first time last night and I have some questions, I apologize if this is a little explicit... I didn't feel any pain when he entered me, thankfully- my hymen was already broken through fingering and he knew what he was doin...
A. 11 January 2013: good sex is a skill built together in a relationship. It takes practice. You need to have good communicative skills and be comfortable speaking frankly with one another. It helps immensely if you have some practice and experience in what you ... (read in full...)
He likes me. He likes me not! What's it to be? And how can I tell if he likes me?
Q. Okay. I like this guy and he doesn't know. I like him. I have tried to be flirty but I still don't know if he likes me. He is with me in most lessons and we see each other every day. He always turns around or calls me to turn. I am not sure ...
A. 11 January 2013: rejection hurts. No lie there. However, there is something that hurts worse than rejection - regretting what might have been.
you will be rejected. Many times. That's a guarantee. You will not be hired for a job, a boyfriend will dump you, a b... (read in full...)
I was laughing with guy1 at my tutorial. When guy2 saw that he looked hurt. Did that indicate that guy2 was jealous ?
Q. In my tutorial I sit on a table with a guy and a girl. Today the girl was absent. The guy and I get on okay and it ended up being so much fun anyway when we were laughing. A guy I like looked at me and the other guy laughing. His face dropped he ...
A. 11 January 2013: Yes, he's jealous.
No, that doesn't necessarily mean he likes you.
He knows you like him. Even if he doesn't like you, there's an ego boost there. He feels like he's got you on the hook, and could have you if he wanted to. However, when he... (read in full...)
How does one get over being cheated on and the insecurity that comes with it?
Q. How does one get over the pain of being cheated on, and the insecurity that you will be cheated on in a new relationship? I have been cheated on by 3 separate men, all of whom I was involved in serious relationships with at the time. The last ...
A. 11 January 2013: This will take time. And effort. And pain. And perseverance. Did I mention time?
My wife was unfaithful. I'll spare you all the nitty gritty's, but it's horrendously painful. Sometimes, though, knowing that others have hurt with this pain, an... (read in full...)
What I did destroyed my boyfriend. Now, how do I comfort my boyfriend?
Q. Hi! Well, this is going to be a long long story. I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years, we're both our firsts everything. We normally get along great, share the same hobbies, same college (but different careers), etc. Now I'm 19 and he's 21. ...
A. 11 January 2013: Well, you have two basic options. I'll get to them in a moment.
The part of being in a relationship that sucks is you (generally) have to do it with a human being. Human beings are notoriously flaky, unreasonable creatures that are prone to all m... (read in full...)
Is this a case of cultural differences? Is my wife blowing this out of proportion? Is there a right and a wrong in all this?
Q. When my wife and I fight, nine times out of ten it has to do with my parents. I feel like it usually comes down to a cultural issue. Im from SC and my wife is from Oregon. We currently live in my hometown in SC. My entire family lives within an ...
A. 11 January 2013: me and myself against my spouse
me and my spouse against my family
me and my family against my clan
me and my clan against my people
me and my people against my nation
me and my nation against the world
If your family is behaving poorly t... (read in full...)
Is change possible? What can I do to persuade my abusive husband to change?
Q. My husband is very controlling and abusive. I don't deserve to be treated this way. I left, thinking he would miss me and stop the abuse but he is just as bad if not worse. He still calls me names and degrades me. He accuses me of cheating on hi...
A. 11 January 2013: This man is not looking for an equal partner, and does not have any interest in an equal partner. Leave him if you need an equal relationship.
I hear tell that this sort of thing works for some women. Personally, I don't see it, but I suppose ... (read in full...)
My married lover has given his wife 6 months to give him more sex. What should I do?
Q. Im 35 and single and I met this 38 year old guy that has been married for 15years, we started off just being cool and each time we saw one another he would always talk about his wife saying things like how bad she treats him, how he let his wife ...
A. 10 January 2013: quote - "He started helping me out financially and we sleep together 4 times." Honey he's using you. You're essentially his prostitute. The whining and moaning about "Ohhhh, I have it so baaaaad at home... She yells and doesn't sleep with me,... (read in full...)
My ex won't get rid of his new gf that hates us still being friends.
Q. My ex and I split up over a year ago, but continued to spend time together as if we were still together. Then in August I moved back home from college and he stayed there. We both cried as I had to leave not know when we would see each other again ...
A. 10 January 2013: I agree with 12345.
You are being unfair to yourself, unfair to him, and you are both being GROSSLY unfair to her.
Either tell him you want him back, and make a real go of it, or get the heck out of their way!... (read in full...)
Dating -- When should I pose the question of exclusivity to him?
Q. I'm a 27 f currently dating this guy I met nearly a month and a half ago on an online dating site. Everything so far has been great. Although he's a couple of years younger than me (24), it feels as though we have a lot in common in terms of ...
A. 10 January 2013: Don't make a big deal of it!
Just out and ask him, casually. Do it during an afterglow. Just say "hey hot stuff... Are we, like, a unit, like, exclusive?"
Be prepared to receive a no answer. Also be prepared to receive a yes answer. Either w... (read in full...)
My brother died unexpectedly and I don't feel my g/f is supportive enough. Am I being angry and unfair to her?
Q. My brother died, suddenly, last week. I've gone through a range of emotions from total devastation when his life support was switched off and I saw him die to a numbness and now I just feel angry. Except I feel my anger may be mis-placed so I'...
A. 10 January 2013: Women aren't mind readers either mate!
If you want her to give you an ear you need to tell her "hey babe, I need some time to unload. Could you do me a solid and be an ear?"
If you need some quiet snuggle time to feel nurtured and loved tell h... (read in full...)
I'm married and received anal sex from a tranny. Am I gay?
Q. I am what I consider to be a straight man. 36 yo. I was molested by a man when I was 6. it went on for about a year. When I was 30 I let a tranny give me a bj outside of a bar. She wanted to take me home and perform anal sex on me. I didn't but it ...
A. 10 January 2013: The previous respondants have the right of the question as far as they go. Sexuality is a two axis spectrum - on one end of the first axis, you have 100% straight, would never consider same sex contact, not even when impaired. On the other end of ... (read in full...)
Please help me move past his cheating
Q. Please help me. My husband cheated on me 6 months ago, lets just say i saw it from a third person view. So i saw everything. He and I have been trying to build our marriage again to what is was like but better. I do love him but I do look at h...
A. 2 September 2012: This will take time. And effort. And pain. And perseverance. Did I mention time? My wife was unfaithful. I'll spare you all the nitty gritty's, but it's horrendously painful. Sometimes, though, knowing that others have hurt with this pain, and c... (read in full...)
I'm tired of waiting my turn! I want a boyfriend!
Q. So, my problem is, I just graduated from high school and this is my last summer before college. I had a fall out with my used-to-be closest friend, so I've been pretty lonely. I do have other friends to hang out with, but it's come to the point ...
A. 29 June 2012: Love is work
relationships are work
the fairy tail doesn't exist.
Happily ever after is a sales pitch.
The good news, however, is that love is worth the effort, and it CAN enhance your happiness.
... (read in full...)
Shattered that it could happen to me twice.
Q. I'm new here. I'm 51 and divorced. This is really for the more mature crowd. I would really like to figure out how this could have happened to me, twice now. My background is I married at 36 and my husband left me, for another woman after 16 y...
A. 29 June 2012: Wow, much ado about nothing. Yes, mamarosa, others have been through the wringer. Like you, some of us have been hurt, tossed aside, used, and tossed aside again. Some of us have ended up all alone when we really needed someone. Honey, I'm a lo... (read in full...)
We soon will be going to therapy but I am concerned he will never 'get me'.
Q. Been married 6 years. I am 30 and husband is 31. My emotional needs are not being met. I blamed myself of these feelings due to growing up in a dysfunctional and emotionally unavailable family, and not experience in relationship. During t...
A. 29 June 2012: Are you to blame? No. Are you responsible for a part of the problem? yes. The crux of the problem, it seems to me, is that when you and your husband first got together, the two of you fulfilled certain emotional needs of the other - thus, falli... (read in full...)
Is he checking me out?
Q. Hey there! So I have this really burning problem. I think some guy is checking me out. I have found him on many occasions staring at me. We normally meet at the cafeteria only as we come from different departments in the same institution. I ...
A. 3 June 2012: Ask him to meet for coffee after work. Coffee is about as innocent and innocuous as it gets, and it'll give you a chance to gauge his reaction. If he goes for it, then coffee will give you a chance to get to know one another in a very comfortable ... (read in full...)
He hurt me so much yet I still love him and want him back
Q. Hi there. I need some advice I have just ended a nine year relashionship and now five months on I feel it was the biggest mistake of my life, all I do is constantly think about him and realise just how much I love him, we finished because he had an ...
A. 3 June 2012: for the respondants (and OP if you didn't know) -
Sauna
Massage Parlor
oriental massage
sweedish health clubs
etc.
these are euphemisms for modern brothels. there was one about an hour from where I grew up, hit all the newspapers and local... (read in full...)
We split up but I really want him back
Q. He split up with me other week and said he was fed up of everything and wanted space, he said he loves me and always will, one minute he said were together then he said he doesn't want me back.. I have just been diagnosed with depression, and i am ...
A. 3 June 2012: He's scared. He's also an asshat. The ONLY shot you have is to give him plenty of time and space. Once he begins to realize that you respect his desire to be away, and can respect his wishes enough to leave him to it, he may start growing up... (read in full...)
No man wants to get married, they can't stay committed to one woman, and ogle my female friends! Thats what HE said!
Q. First off, this is a bit long so thanks to any for reading! Im not sure if I am overreacting or not. My boyfriend and I are approaching our 5 year anniversary and have lived together for over 4 and a half years. He swept me off my feet, convinc...
A. 16 November 2011: This guy is acting quite immaturely, and you're suffering for it. I am sorry to see that, not only because it gives us guys a bad rep all over, but also because it isn't necessary, and preventable pain sucks.
The real problem with him is that he'... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is in need of a confidence boost... might a sexy photoshoot do that or will it do the opposite?
Q. I want to give my girlfriend a boost to her confidence. I tell her regularly that she is beautiful and gorgeous, but she is still self-conscious of the size of her body. She isn't obese by any means, but she is admittedly a LITTLE on the big side. ...
A. 16 November 2011: I would avoid it.
Maybe it would help, but whether or not it will be a positive or a negative is really up to the individual woman. No way to tell in advance without asking her about it, and that would kinda ruin the surprise.
I really know... (read in full...)
Should I insist on a paternity test?
Q. I'm very angry at a friend for telling everyone her daughter is my child. This woman and her husband were close friends of my X wife and I years ago. The girl does resemble me, but I never had any kind of sex with this woman. Now half the town is ...
A. 17 September 2011: "What would you sue for? The only thing that is getting damaged is your reputation."
exactly - and since the damage is coming from a fictitious source, that's called libel. ... (read in full...)
How do I stop getting gossiped about and treated badly because I had an affair with a married man?
Q. I am in an awful situation right now. I had an affair with a married man. I am married myself. We both have children. It started out as harmless flirting but our feelings of attraction grew and we ended up crossing the line. We have the sam...
A. 16 September 2011: Great answers from your other respondents! I do, however, have to take umbridge with this statement: You can't demand respect from people, it has to be earned. Part of earning respect is tied up in demanding it. I'm not talking about stomping y... (read in full...)
Can you got STD from sleeping unprotected from 2 men?
Q. Hi, can I ask if a woman sleeps with 2 guys unprotected, can either of them or her get a STI/STD if they are all clean before sleeping with her. Thanks...
A. 16 September 2011: If all three individuals in question are VERIFIED to be clean before hand, and there are NO OTHER partners involved with ANY of them, then no. Diseases do not just pop up out of the blue because you had sex. They are transmitted, in one way or ... (read in full...)
How do I stop getting gossiped about and treated badly because I had an affair with a married man?
Q. I am in an awful situation right now. I had an affair with a married man. I am married myself. We both have children. It started out as harmless flirting but our feelings of attraction grew and we ended up crossing the line. We have the sam...
A. 16 September 2011: Bear with me through the harsh beginning of what I have to say - it does have a happy ending, but it's going to be hard to get there. "How do I hold my head up high again and deal with this mess?" You don't. Period. End of sentence. You beh... (read in full...)
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